Gaming

hi all very new to all this and looking for some constructive comments,,,,,, i am 51 and my wife is 42 we lost her father back in december 2011 and my wife has only recentley started to greive propperly (3months ago) her coping mechanism is an online gaminging chat room which she plays all hours day and night which has caused several bad arguments as i work and she is at hone doing the house wife bit (sorry if that sounds chavanist) we also have a young son so school runs etc the lat argument spirralled out of control as i found her up till the very early hours of the morning so this got a comprimise of phones to be played at 9pm onwards so ok i take her phones to work to elivate the temptation and also my trust needed a shunt to get it working again today has come to a head when ive looked at the phones to find them full of sexual inuendos and my world seemed to becoming apart i have confronted her to which i always get the same answer its a bit of fun well im sorry i dont feel this way .... she has told me if i want to leave then go ahead as your not happy ..... no im not happy im disroate and i have no idea how to deal with this problem there are so many small things i could say but as im going to ask her to read this ive given the bestOUTLINE i can thanks for any advice sorry forgot to add these chat rooms are parlingo so its one to one chat aswell as groups but the inuendoes are in pms sorry for this but as i need to be straitgh and honest "hold my cock"or "send me a vey naked picture" from the male side of conversation does not bode well with me am i being OLD but no naked pictures were found