Nympho in love needs help

A little long but please help. Im really a good person in a bad situation =( So my amazing boyfriend who I love now lives with me rights in front of my school. We have a puppy and a cat so we raise our little family together. Due to the way I feel about this man I have become addicted to his touch his skin his hips and defiantly his physical side. Well recently I find that the harder I try the less I get from him. On the mornings I wake him up with ha mouthful of him I normally get rejected and he pulls his pants up and goes to steep. Between my school his work and a brOmance he has going with my friend Ej we hardly hang out as a coulPle. I've gained a little weight recently and because I'm short it shows a bit. And I'm afraid that this may be the cause of him not being interested. To fix this problem I thought I shouldn't touch him for if I did I wOuld wan it. But I love touching him. So I thought I would just fake getting turned on until I know I can be satisfied then actually get turned on and not just pretending. But he noticed that. Now I don't know what to do. Ej says its because weve been together a while and he's moving out of this honeymoon stage and I'm not. Please help

Firstly, I suggest you stop referring to yourself as a "nympho" - it's a meaningless and pejorative term that gives the impression that you are more interested in sex than the person you are having it with. Which probably isn't the case, but I wouldn't be surprised if your bf has started to feel like a sex machine with flat batteries. Your way of waking your bf up in the mornings might be what many guys dream about, but after a while it could easily become: "too much of a good thing", and if it seems like a "demand" for more sex, it could well have become a turn-off. Your post suggests that you want sex more frequently than your partner does, and that you have issues with climaxing, i.e. that you don't? Those two issues could be connected in that you are left feeling unsatisfied and so yearn for more sex in pursuit of orgasm and satisfaction, however, your lack of orgasm might be having the opposite effect on your bf because he feels he is unable to provide what you yearn for as an ultimate goal. The difference between having sex as a recreational activity and making love to someone is that the latter requires more attention to the needs of the other person. To be honest with you, I suspect you are not paying enough attention your your bf needs because you are so occupied with your own demand for sex. Possibly not through being selfish, but perhaps more through naively presuming that he wants the same things from sex as you do. You are questioning how attractive he finds you (re the extra pounds put on) but the implicit assumption seems to be that: "if he finds me attractive, then he should want to be 'at it' all the time with me!" The reality may be that having started off with copious amounts of sex (as many relationships do) things are cooling somewhat as you each settle into your more usual respective appetites for sex. However, I do think your mismatched demand for sex may have had a counterproductive effect, and might have caused him to back off more than he would if the sex between you was more mutually satisfying. If you are unable to achieve orgasm, then you might need some specialist help with that. If you are able to achieve orgasm through self-stimulation, perhaps with the help of a vibrator, then taking care of your own sexual needs more could be a way of taking pressure off your relationship. Using sex toys when with your bf could also be a way of reducing the time it takes to reach orgasm, e.g. with him taking over when you feel the time is near. As a general rule of motivation, people will usually want to repeat an activity if they have found it enjoyable and satisfying, both physically and psychologically - the psychological dimension being about self-image and self-esteem. If your bf feels that he's falling short on quality and quantity when it comes to sex, that will almost certainly act as demotivating, and may lead to being completely turned off. Just as you have questioned your ability to attract and arouse him into action, so he may experience similar doubts over his adequacy as a lover. I don't think branding yourself as a "nymphomaniac" is going to help either. Managing your own sexual needs should reduce pressure on your bf, and might even help you to climax earlier when making love with him. If you are unable to experience orgasm through any means, then I do think you need to seek some professional advice. Mismatched sex drives can sometimes be linked to mismatched energy levels, so maybe stepping up on other ways of using up energy could help - maybe: 'kill two birds with one stone' and lose those extra pounds while working off some energy at the gym? Physical exercise can also produce a sense of well-being due to chemical changes in the brain, so some time spent in the gym could yield benefits on a number of dimensions. Finally, people tend to have differing amounts of energy throughout the day, and while sex first thing in the morning might be good for some people, it can be a no-go time for others. Stress and tiredness are enemies of good sex, so choose times when your bf is wide awake and energised. Avoid treating your bf as if he should be ever-ready for sex, men can need foreplay too, and wakening up his urges slowly might be better than jumping on him. Massage is a very good way to de-stress someone and get them in the mood for making love. Good luck.