Confused about my ex boyfriend

Hi everyone, This has been a bit of a complicated story but here goes I met my ex boyfriend last September there is a age gap im 39 hes 26, We met very intensely like a whirlwind for 3 weeks then it fell apart I had very strong feelings for him,We split up and tried to remain friends, We have had various arguments about 2 physical altercations which ended up with us not speaking for 3 weekes, We now see each other everyday spend a hell of alot of time together as friends, He says he dont love me, Always brings up his ex girlfriends, We argue, we dont have sex although we do hug and kiss, I am confused how to handle this situation for the best, He going home to america for 4 months as cant find work here, I am going to be gutted when he leaves, He got a bit drunk and was crying when we were talking about leaving, I know there are genuine feelings there but I am mortified of him being with someone else, I know we have not had a physical relationship for a while, Am I holding onto something I shouldnt?

Peoples definitions of love are very different. He must not feel like he has a strong enough emotion towards you. And there is no way to really fix that. As if you should hold onto your feelings for him is another story. If you feel it will effect you in a major way you cannot cope with, then yes by all means try and hold them away. However, if you change how you feel you may change how you act around him as well. Which I don't really know how that will effect anything as I don't know your relationship in that much detail. We all get hardships in life, this is just one of them. In my opinion this is a very cut and dry situation. Regardless best of luck with this situation!