WTF?

Ok so, a little while ago i posted a topic on some problems i was having with my husband, titled- "Do i have the 7 year itch" please read before replying... so today i we were working together, tag-teaming a printing job when he searched a file on his computer and once he was finished he asked me to finish a different file BUT WHEN I LOOKED! there were pictures of women's asses! called up skirts with all their bits showing! I was shocked and when i showed him, i decided to be calm and just point it out and he flipped out! Its been a few hours now and we are not settled with what happened and are consequently in separate rooms! He went through his computer and said there was nothing there that its no different to me keeping a diary? I REALLY DON'T KNOW HOW TO WORK THROUGH THIS, I would never have thought my husband was this kinda guy? Is this my fault for not seeing this side of him and wtf does my diary have to do with this, i have kept a diary all my life!

EXCUSES!!!, do not believe these lies. I am sorry but having had experience of married men lying and cheating and lying to their wives and the wives just swallowing it and believing them or keeping shtum to save the family. Its rubbish, you caught him out now give him an ultimatum and keep a close eye on other things. Men nowadays and computers and networking sites. They think its not cheating as its online. RUBBISH. And no it has nothing to do with your diary keeping, hes just trying to stick it all back on you!!!,dont fall for it!!.

Mans view... reality check... most men enjoy the menu , but rarely order. The reason they hide the pictures is not because they are cheaters but rather the society norms say its not okay to honor normal appreciation for the female body once your married. This is just nuts... Its like asking a woman to stop eating chocolate once she is married... There is a very good chance she will eat it here and if she thought she would be chastised for eating i...I guarantee you she would hide it.. but she would definitely eat it. What I am trying to say is, dont ruin a relationship over a man (who is constantly inundated with sexual gratuity on the tv and ads) to be abnormal by forcing him to lie... bring the normality out in the open and agree to honor your healthy sex life.. that doesnt mean bringing in or allowing others... it means communicating with this reality check in place. hope this offers you a balanced perspective. P.s. he responded with agressiveness because he was caught hiding the chocolate (how would you respond?) paul www.asoulhealer.com You want to think of the pictures as a mans way of releasing the