My partner is wearing my clothes

For quite a while I have been thinking that my partner was having an affair, we having been together for eight years and my sex drive is pretty much nill. Thinking that he is seeing someone, I thought I would run my camcorder to see if he was bringing anyone to my house. After the second or third run of the tapewhen he was on a afternoon shift, i checked the tape. To my complete horror I saw him putting on my clothes that I had left out to pack for our holiday. These clothes were new and I had not worn them yet, and I could hear him trying a set of bathers which had large buckles on them which were left on the dining table ready for the suitcase. I had already found internet sights just before christmas of cross dressers and how they began, and confronted him with this. He replyed with just looking and being nosy. I played complete hell over that. When I saw him dressing up, I confronted him again. He denyed all until I said what would his family think if this ever got out about him, he completely drained of blood through his body and went gray. This is when he admitted to be doing it for well over a year with my clothes. I did find a tag for an item of clothing that I know I havent bought, so think he is getting his own. He has not given me a proper explaination, just that its in him. So does this mean its always been in him. He was married for over twenty years before, does his ex wife know, these questions I have asked, but I get a no to every question. I no longer have any respect for him, I hate the thing he has become. To me he is no longer a man, and he digusts me. I cant look at him without seeing in my head what he has done. I would really like to get away from him, but cannot even afford to leave, and now I feel I am being made to live in pure torment, I did love the person I thought I lived with, but this other person I could very easily put a knife in. This is how bad I feel, all I want ias for this all to stop, and the only way for that to happen is to get away from him. One way or the other, I think one of us has to go, at the moment I dont care how, walking or in a box. I need help, so please anyone out there feel free to tell me what to do.

Hello, thank you for the advice you have given me and i will try my best. i feel really sorry for the situation you are in and you must find it very hard, being young i cant really offer you very much but if your partner keeps this ongoing and you are not happy with it i suggest you leave, maybe with family? but he cannot break your heart by doing this and if your sex drive is running low i think it is about time to try and move on, there will be many more people out there for you. good luck and all the best

Hi Brian, thank you for your answer. Being young some times does not always mean you are unwise, plus I did say other peoples probs seem to be easy to sort out. I would love to leave , but cannot afford to leave at the moment, even though I work full time. Thanks again