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Dissociative episodes during sex

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I've been a relationship with a girl for almost 2 years now. We've gotten along really well but for the past 4-5 months the relationship has been on pause for a reason I'll now outline: About 4 months ago, while we were having sex my girlfriend had what she called a dissociative episode. Sometimes, seemingly without warning, she will start to think that the person she's having sex with is actually raping her. This terrifies me greatly. I pushed her to get help and, knowing that it's probably hard for her to talk about it, didn't push to hard. So now, 4-5 months later, she's going to start seeing a councellor. My problem is that this 4-5 month long pause is really taking it's toll on me. We haven't had sex during this time and she's remarked that I seem withdrawn and distant. I notice this as well as I think I'm trying to hide feelings of extreme unhappiness (I've never been good at hiding my emotions). I'm worried that I'm not up for the long haul as this doesn't seem like something that is going to be cured overnight. Our talks have lead her to stop using birth control in the hope that this will help her sex drive but I'm not sure what else to do as mentioning the lack of sex makes her feel guilty. I'm curious for a fresh perspective as I have no one to talk to about this.

Dissociative episodes during sex

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Princebean..your GF needs professional help....but your only 'sin' is you didn't push her harder to get help sooner as you state. It's no use coming back now 4-5 months down the track worried that you may not be up for the long haul or admitting that you're extremely unhappy. If you're distant and withdrawn, your actions are telling you that you're already pulling away from it. The fact that you 'put it on paper' means you're half way there as to deciding which way to go. It's useless talking to your GF about the issue as she has a pretty serious problem which her associated guilt with the issue stems from. You need to see professional help as well, to assist you to stay and deal with the problem or decide to move on. Your instinct will guide you with this and not so much your lack of sex.

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