Married too young

I've been married for a year now. I came to a new state to visit a family member and a few days before I was suppose to fly back home I met my current husband. We had only known each other for 3 weeks before he decided to court me. I ended up staying here in the same state as him. Leaving behind, work, school, clothes, family and friends for what I thought was love. I was 20 at the time going on 21. He's in the military. (Reserved)...I however did not know because he was on active duty orders. He never told me he was reserved until after we were married. I had doubts getting married so young but I was convinced I was in love. Then I turned 21 and was able to go to the bars here. I went out a met a guy who I really connected with. I had seen him before around on campus and in the gym. He and I mesh so well. We share same common goals in life, our personalities go together well. For the past 6 months my husband and I have been having hard issues. Before we got married we agreed that I would continue school as a full-time student and not work. Now, he has been unemployed for months. (He hasn't been looking) I am working a full time job and going to school full time...I feel like he manipulated me in a way. They say everyone comes into your life for a reason, I'd like to know why did that guy come into mines. (The guy from the bar)

Hello I'm Tiffany(: I'm 21 myself,I have a fiance and I know how things can get tough sometimes my fiance drives me insane...lol. But serious talk now...I think that you know in your heart what you really want and would like to happen I think its best if you and your husband get a divorce and go separate ways seems like you guys are not compatible at all and your not happy and plus its not fair to your husband that you developed feelings for some other man I think your husband deserves the truth and if you continue on to have feelings for another man sooner or later it will lead to infidelity and infidelity can really hurt a person I know because I have been cheated on 4 years ago(another man waaay before my fiance) and I ended up trying to commit suicide over it I was young and stupid myself but I have deep issues with trusting men any man I developed depression and im always paranoid my father also cheated on my mother and I was abused(off topic) but anyways point is Im trying to show you that it will affect you husband if you ever cheat on him so its better to end it now. Seems like your doing a great job with your life going to school full time and working he seems a little unmotivated he could be lazy? could be depressed? have you spoke to him about that? I dont like that he tells you what you can and cant do that is abusive behavior! if you want to work AND go to school who is he to say you cant? If he really LOVED you truly LOVED you he would want you to succeed in life...pssh let some man tell me that and watch his clothes and his rear a** be out the door so fast! grow a back bone girly! you do what YOU want to do..not what someone else wants you to do he is NOT I repeat NOT your father, You are not his property or dog. I think maybe you should take it SLOW with this new guy dont jump from being divorced to a relationship so fast get to know him MORE so you dont make the same mistake again...if you know him more there wont be any skeletons in the closet like "oh hes a ex convict went to jail for murder" lol....you get what im saying(: Plus its not a good look for you to jump from one guy to another I would wait 3-4 months before involving yourself with another man if the new guy really likes you possible loves you he will wait if he cant wait screw him move on.