Courtney needs some advice

So my boyfriend of a few months told me he needed some time apart and we broke up. He said he didn't know if we would get back together again or not but if we did it'd be awhile. When we first got together he had been with a woman for 5 years and she had dumped him. He was completely broken from it. He didnt take time to focus on himself but instead jumped into dating and a month later we ended up an item. Well I am totally head over heels for this man. He said sorry so many times for hurting me. He said I didnt do it because I didn't love you or want to be with you. I just want to be alone. I went there to talk face to face which ment driving 90 miles. He at first was very sheltered and mad I was there. He didnt want to talk at all. But as I kept talking he started to be more open. We eventually ended up cuddling, sleeping in the same bed, making love, and kissing. He said I still need my time and space. I knew it would be the case even after all that. He said he considered me his best friend and wanted me to stay in his life. He said we could talk every once in awhile. We broke up a week ago and I waited 4 days before trying to talk to him after our meeting which was the day after we broke up. He won't reply. He said it would probably be awhile if we did get back together. He said for me to go out and have fun. But a guy friend of mine asked me out for Valentine's Day and my ex proceeded to call the guy ugly and grabbed my phone to see what was being said. He also told me not to go to the dudes house and not to kiss him or have sexual relations. I don't even think he knows what's going on. He said he needed to work on himself. At first he tried to distance us by taking a weekend from seeing each other but it didn't happen. We had gone the weekend before because he had to work all weekend so I stayed at home. I just have no idea what to do or anything. I've read some sites that say no contact. But my heart is really set on this guy. We always talked about a future together marriage kids the works. We even have the same goals and dreams. I dont want him to be the one who got away. And his brokenness is getting between us. I think he's afraid I'll do the same thing. We had an instant connection between us and were instantly comfortable. He said he loves me more than he loved that ex but he can't give me his all cuz it's still hurting. What should I do? I dont want him to be gone forever.

Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't even know what he wants to do with himself and who seems to have some aggression issues. No one should be grabbing phones or anything out of your hand. No one has the right to tell you what to do or who to see when he pulled away from you. No one should wait for a man or relate to a man who has already said he needs space. You know what to do. Move on. Go out with someone else and live your life. No contact is excellent advice. If you are a smart person, you will follow that advice and get away from this man for your emotional and physical safety.

Courtsunset, this man needs space to sort his head from his broken marriage. He's done he wrong thing by you and you have basically done the same to damage yourself. Forget about the 'one that got away' because if you're sure in your heart and mind that he's the one, then you're going to have to wait for him so he comes to you completely healed and refreshed. He's no good now, his actions tell you that, and there are not only confusing you, but you are also getting hurt as a result of his anger and frustration. Instead of you going 'down' to where he is now, let him heal and then come 'up' to where you are. He is correct when he says he needs to do it himself. The only way you can assist him is to stay away from him.