Emotional problems

Recently me wife and I found out we were expecting our first child (9weeks along). It was a long process using IVF etc and was very taxing on us but now that we found out that it worked relief temporarily set in. However, in the last two weeks we have had two fights like we have never had before lasting for days (the latest is currently ongoing). My wife has expressed many times over the course of our 4 year marriage that I do not express my feelings and this hurts her. I try to be sympathetic to this statement and I think I am making attempts to express my feelings better but ultimately we always end of having the same argument that I don't talk enough about my feelings. I typically give in, tell her she's right and then tell her I am going to change but inevitably we end up back to the same topic. If my wife upsets me I usually brush it under the rug and chalk it up to a bad day at work or something similar and don't dig into the issue at all. Our most recent fight started with a small topic that she felt I didn't address and then expanded into an up all night argument that remains unresolved. She was right in the fact that I tried to brush it aside but I also didn't think it was such a big issue. She states that shes disgusted that her own husband cant make her feel better and I just keep repeating the same things over that I am sorry and I shouldn't have said that. She says that I can make it better but when I asked how she said that I should know what to do to make her feel better. I am basically begging for forgiveness and it only makes her more mad. I'm questioning myself and how I behave because I don't understand how someone, especially my wife, could be this mad at me. We've never fought like this before. I also know that she is pregnant and hormones may be playing a part but I can't continue on like this. I have no idea what to say to her at this point but every minute that goes by I know that it makes her more upset but at the same time shes telling me that all I am doing is repeating myself when I try to apologize. I at such a loss I don't know what to do with myself. I've lost considerable weight from the stress of this entire thing and I just want to resolve this problem and not let it re-occur in the future.

I must say you are handling the issues with a lot of maturity and kudos to you for that! Pregnancy is a trying time for both the husband and wife. But just hang on there...as months progress things will get better!! See she must also be looking for reassuarance from you coz having a baby means your body is changing physically as well as small small issues like gas, acidity etc. makes one feel sick. This is the time she looks upon you to pamper her by ensuring she has her medications prescribed by her doc, ensuring she has the right food...ask her how she is feeling etc. If there is a gas, acidity or nausea complaint ask the doc and give her medication accordingly. Ask her if she wants cushions for support when she is sitting on the couch or bed. Ask her if she would like a light neck and shoulder massage if she is complaining of a headache. Ask her if she has any cravings for a particular food. May be read out pregnancy books together? You will be walking on egg shells but just keep in mind this phase is temporary. Like SUSIEDQ said if possible try to get an elderly experienced lady to help you out.