He's torturing me

Please help, I'm in emotional turmoil. So, long story short, me and this man have been talking for a little over two months and were seeing each other for about a month. We had great times and although we don't see eye to eye on too many things we enjoyed each other's time together. The greatest problem was that we are in two different places. He's 22 and I am 17, him never having much going onand my time heavily consumed by family and school and work. Two weeks ago it finally weighed him down and he said it would be the most responsible thing to do, that he couldn't see our lives coming together as one so he didn't want to go any further. We never had an official label, we went on dates and hung out. I completely grasp what he meant and even agree to a certain extent. But I was really falling for him. With that alone I was in a lot of pain. Now it's been two weeks and we still talk to each other. All day, everyday. Avoiding relationship or sex talk. It's torturing me. I miss him so much. With every ounce of myself. It's almost cruel, I want to be able to move on but... I don't want to not talk to him. And talking to him keeps him in my mind. Also, I asked him not to tell me when he started talking to other girls because it really isn't my business and out of respect for how I feel. He said that would be fine and he didn't plan on dating any time soon either. Last night I was on Facebook and he's allll over this girls stuff. And throwing in my face in our messages. I was so hurt and just...angry. I guess the point is, what should I do? What would be in my best interest? Do I keep my hopes up and continue holding on or do I give up and hate him? Do I tell him that I "stalked" his profile (I'm mature in some ways, not in others lol) and how upset I am? Do I just not reply any more? Do I not burn the bridge in case he changes his mind when I turn 18 and graduate? If you could help I would appreciate it.

Hi it sounds like you are very hurt and scared by the ending of this relationship. Change can be hard especially if you love someone, and value someone. I think you need some time to heal. Letting go of him is going to be hard. I think for you, you need to stop spending time with him. Put all the love and value back into yourself. Love is a hard thing to deal with when it is not returned. You will end up feeling anger and resentment and that's only hurting you. Do not discuss anything you saw on facebook it is not going to help matters. I know deep inside you want him to know how much you are hurting. Him knowing will not make him change how he feels. I understand you want his love and comfort and you believe right now that he is the only person who can make things better again. I sympathize. I know what that is like , its awful. I promise you will get through this, you choose who you are tomorrow. Fill tomorrow with a new plan, for you, without him in the day. Just focus on getting through it. Treat yourself to something nice. Do something you enjoy. Make the day all about you. You can only control you. Good luck . You will feel all those feelings again , and they will be returned someday with someone new. Allow yourself the opportunity .

I greatly appreciate your advice. Though, it's going to be very difficult. And I'm not too surr how to go about not talking to him anymore. Thank you so very much for your help.

When love is not given, it turns to bitterness and anger.. ^ good stuff. Mountain said it all, except this: if its meant to be, it will work out. If not, sorry.