Controlling and sex

My boyfriend is a good few years younger than myself and we have split up a couple of times over his temper. I think he has childhood emotional problems that have made him become insecure and demanding. His latest angst is about me not giving him a blow job every night, saying that my lack of it is making him feel unloved and ugly, like I don't want him. He also wants me to be all over him when we're together.It's not like we don't have sex, we do, but I think sex and making love are a natural act of expressing love between two people, not because one person expects it. To do it like that makes me feel like I'm losing my self respect. What do others think?

It is an age issue, I would not put up with it , it is kind of disrespectful to you. I think it is childish and no body should guilt someone into doing any sexual act!!! If you give in he will not learn anything, he will think his behavior is correct and he was right all along. Never feed negative behavior with a reward. You are correct when you say that it is meant to be a natural act not an obligation!!!

Caddy, only you can decide if you want/need to be with a demanding and disrespectful BF. You need to look at your values and standards and ask yourself if he shares them. If he doesn't, then you need to find the reason for your attraction to him. Forget about his sexual demands, worry about his overall character and it's effect on you. Ask yourself just how does he and what does he contribute to your relationship together, then ask yourself what you expect from a relationship with a partner who respects you completely.