Looking back / forward

Ok so bare with this might be a bit of a long one! I have recently had to get in touch with an ex. It has been a very difficult time, i had to tell him about his daughter that he has never met or known existed, who is now about to turn eighteen. It turns out that he has looked for me over the years and has never married or had other children. He has been fantastic about everything and to say he is excited to have a daughter is an understatement!! We have discussed the past and it seems that there was a huge amount of misunderstanding on both sides, i had no idea but it seems he really did love me and has never forgotten me. I find myself in huge emotional turmoil, i am married and we have a young son, but things have been wrong in that relationship for some time and we have separated. I feel that everything is such a mess, and even though my daughters father says we have to look forward i am devastated that i/we made such a huge mistake back then. He currently lives abroad but is flying over to meet his daughter and myself in a few weeks. I don't know if a relationship could ever work between us, but we do seem to be skirting around that issue, i don't even know if he wants that!. All i know is that i never stopped loving him! Help

Completely agree, it has a romanticism to it the father of you daughter coming back in to your life.... he is idealized and will only be heightened when things are not rosy in present relationship, do not escape into that head space you will be hurt...stay grounded this is a big moment for you daughter. Let the relationship with his child be grounded first.....