Lost hope for life

There was a guy in my life,I had been in relationship with this guy for like around 2years, but in those 2 years he has dominated over me more than he has loved me. If I did a mistake, I had to pay back for it like a dozen of times.He belonged to a pure punjabi family.I have been to his house, even met his parents.I was always worried about how will I survive with him as a partner,because his anger is very torturing.I am an independent girl working in a good IT MNC.I am earning sufficient to feed myself and my family.I lost my father 11 years back.Since then, my mother is taking care of me.The only msitake I have done is, that I went for lunch with 2 guys n a girl, without letting him know, because I knew if he would know, he won't accept me, and sitting alone in cafetreia during lunch, seemed pathetic.Every body is open today, even my mother doesn't object then who the hell is he.He slapped me for this, beat me, he went abusive, did every possible thing to scare me and make me cry.All this went on for 15days, but today I couldnt resist.I have cried in office like anything, he made me cry.He made me go mad.But now I wont bear.I won't bear all this.I wanna be free.I even tried to commit suicide twice or thrice, but everytime I think of my mother, I can't make it.I can't make her alone.My dad passed away, she bore this pain, I dnt know whether she will be able to resist this pain again.

Kashi, I don't think you need help at all. All you need to do is muster enough courage and tell him to his face, "Go to Hell". What you have is not a relationship, but master slave bondage, without your consent. You are an intelligent girl and there are laws to protect you. It is high time you think about Jhansi Rani's and act like one. Taking your life for some one else's mistake is not an option. If it was legal to kill some one, because he is jerk, i would have advised it. Good luck

Sweet Kashi, I married a man from FB, an Egyptian Muslim, who I flew out to marry 2 years ago. We have had our ups and downs Online and Off, for I am back in the states again. Although when with him, he was not physically abusive, but Mentally so, and even his family, I learned, Could be as well, we have learned to make it through, talk things out, but Mostly because -----I ruled with an iron fist and showed him who was boss. It paid off for me. However, I see your situation is quite different, and unless you both go to therapy and get some help for this abusive relationship, that is even causing you to want to "end it all," nothing will change, but only get worse, sweetie. However, this is no guarantee. You can suggest this to him as an option at First, but if you just want to be rid of him and his family and all the redrick, then make a clean break, tell him over the phone that it is over, and keep him at arm's length. If he gives you a problem, and tries to harm you for this, get a restraining order on him, where this will enable you to get on with your life And---get it back once again. Good luck.xx