What should I do about my dropout boyfriend?

I'm sorry if this post ends up being a bit on the lengthy side, but i would really appreciate anyone willing to read through it and give me some advice... I've been dating this guy for over 2 and a half years; we started going out when I was a junior in high school and I'm now in the summer after my freshman year in college - he's 21 now. He dropped out of high school when he was a junior for various reasons and got his GED, but proceeded to spend the next 3 years doing pretty much nothing with his life because he's in a band and wanted to focus on his music. Last year, after much coaxing from me, he finally decided to take some classes at community college. He started out with 3 classes, then dropped one, and he did well in one of those two classes, but failed the other. It was partly my fault because I was in my senior year of high school and I just wanted to relax and spend a lot of time with him before going off to college 4 hours away, so I guess I was distracting him. I feel really really guilty about this because after that experience, he seems to have given up on college entirely. Right now, he teaches music lessons twice a week for a few hours, and occasionally does jobs for his dad's business, but it's nothing full-time. Most of the week, he's bumming around doing nothing. He sleeps in until like 2 in the afternoon and still lives in his childhood bedroom and isn't making an effort to get another job or become independent in any way. Last year, his little brother also dropped out of high school but at least he has a full-time job as a supervisor at a restaurant and he's not even 18 yet. Hell, most of my bf's friends, even the ones who were dropouts themselves, have picked themselves up off the ground and are now going in some direction. I really don't mean to compare my bf to other people; I know that's what I'm doing and it's really mean and unproductive. But he's such a sweet, funny, adorable guy and we care about each other a lot. Beyond just being some guy I'm dating, he's the best friend I've ever had and I just feel like he's screwing himself over. I've tried every way I can to convince him that he needs to either get a second job or go back to college, but every time I bring it up, he has an excuse about why he can't. He gets really upset and down on himself whenever we have these conversations, promising to get his life together. But once I stop bugging him about it, he stops trying altogether and it's just really frustrating. I don't know what to do anymore. Lately, when I try to bring it up, he just gets mad and tells me he doesn't want to talk about it. He says I don't get how hard it is for him. I really am trying to understand his situation, but it's really difficult for me because I've always been good at school and I push myself through the classes I don't like because I know I have to. Even still, I understand not everyone is like me and people have different skills and talents. But to me, it seems like he's doing NOTHING at all. I don't care if he isn't an intellectual or whatever, I just wish he'd put his time towards something productive. I completely respect his dream to make it as a musician but note, I'm a musician too - I'm balancing it with school work, a job, and everything else in my life whereas he feels that it's exhausting even though he only works a few hours a week. His band is pretty good but he doesn't put nearly enough effort into it as he should if he really wants it to get somewhere. What's more, we have tons of friends who are musicians too. Two of my friends who are doing the same thing, with focusing on their music by giving up everything else, have far more success because they're actually ambitious and work their butts off for it. Once again, I don't mean to be comparing him to other people, everyone's different, and the industry is cut-throat but I'm talking simply about the amount of commitment he has to this dream. It's appalling to me that his parents let him just lay around the house as much as he does, but it seems like they've just given up on him and it's really sad because they take his younger brother more seriously than they do him. I feel like I have to help him before this goes on any longer but I just don't know how anymore. No method I've tried has worked. I've tried talking to my mom about what I should do. I've tried talking to my friends. My mom thinks I should break up with him and my friends just don't understand the severity of the situation. Am I blowing this out of proportion? It's so disappointing, when everyone else I know, myself included, is trying their best to figure their life out to see him do this.

Hi it sounds like he does not believe in himself and is completely lost. I have to ask is he smoking dope? that can be a real De-motivator. Most of us get periods in life where we don't know where we are going or what path to take. He will come through. I suggest move on and do not let this take the focus off your own goals.