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Is she worth pursuing?

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Hi guys, I've been on four dates with this girl, and on the last one we had a chat about how we thought things were going. She said she thought we got on well, there was banter and we got each other jokes, however she felt the spark wasn't there. She did say that if I wanted to carry on her seeing her and see if the spark could develop then she was happy to do so, but at the same time she didn't want to lead my on and was saying I could see other people if I wished to. I'm not surprised by this as in between dates, I've felt as though I was the one trying to make coversation via text most of the time. So, my question is, is it worth carrying on seeing this girl or to nip it in the bud now? She also came out of a relationship about six months ago, so I'm weary of being a rebound or becoming someone she just meets up with to help get over her ex.

Is she worth pursuing?

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So it has been four dates. She should be more interested then she is showing. Especially since you have noticed you initiating all the conversations. I'm not saying that is a bad thing for her to wait for the man to initiate but It is something that you noticed and there fore maybe something that may not work for you. I wouldn't waste any more time. You will be headed for the friend zone. She wouldn't even have said "no spark" if she had even the slightest spark. She was unafraid to burn her bridge so yeah I think she is not interested...at all.

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