Relationship advice needed!!!!

Hello readers, I have been in a relationship for four years. I even relocated across the country to work and live with my boyfriend. You can say it is a pretty serious relationship. We get along great and do not have too many problems. Over the past 6 months I have been seeing someone behind my boyfriends back. Even though it may have started innocently, the interest of starting something with the new boy has grown greater than continuing my current relationship. This weekend I broke up with him.... Without mentioning the other guy. I explained that I do not see myself marrying him and feel ready to move on and explore other options. I'm not attracted to him anymore and feel like I'm stringing him along by being with him. He was shocked beyond belief and I feel bad bc it did come out of nowhere in his eyes. I was so confident in my decision that I even moved to a place in the city for the next six weeks. Now after talking with him he is making me feel confused and wants me back with him to work on things. I'm not sure what we would work on because I just feel like I'm not in love with him but it is now making me question my abrupt exit. It's so hard for me to put my feelings into words and explain to him and everyone but I just feel like for the last few months I have not been into our relationship anymore. How do I know what to do!!!! Any recommendations?

I'm sorry, but you have not been 'with' your BF or in a pretty serious relationship since the first time you went with the other guy 6 months ago. Your relationship was over then. If you don't know what to work on and don't know what to discuss then just move on. If you're no longer IN love with him then save him and yourself all the bullshit that comes with trying to get back together especially if your heart is not in it.

As much as it will hurt your ex bf tell him you have been unfaithful and have been seeing someone else !!! If he is wise enough then this will probably make him hate you and move on quicker. Although this will hurt him more I think the 'abrupt' ending has left him even more confused and looking for answers. Just get him out of his misery!!!.