I am having trouble figuring out what this woman wants

I'm going to try and summarize our "relationship" as quickly as I can. -We met a year ago and became good friends. -She's the type of girl that has semi-traditional values; she wants a man who is a man, but wants to pay for her share on dates and stuff. -I found out she was interested in maybe being more than friends, so I asked her out. -First date was awkward and weird because I am an awkward guy; I missed some obvious signs like when we were watching a movie in the theatre and she put my hands on her breast/inner thigh. Alas, I did not nothing. We walked by the lake afterwards talking, and at the end she said she enjoyed it, but when I tried to show I was interested in a kiss, she just kinda avoided it and instead wanted to hug front/front or back/front -Before I asked her out we had agreed to go watch fireworks the next day as friends, but since I asked her out, this firework day turned into a date. -It was also kind of awkward. The night ended with me holding my arms around her from behind. She likes to stand like that it seems. A week later I ask her out, this time I force myself to stop being awkward. We had dinner and went bowling. She loves bowling. She seemed to have a good time, and at the end of the night we kissed. And again, and again. Madeout, sort of. First time we kissed she used tongue. Asked her if maybe she wanted to go to the bedroom, she kinda laughed and said "let's just go watch a movie" Okay. A few days have passed. We saw each other every day, not as dates, just casual hang outs. Anyway, some more information: -She doesn't seem to compliment me. When we were friends she did, but the only compliment I've received so far is "you are good at bowling." I compliment her enough to not be creepy, and to make her feel good. -She doesn't seem to want to initiate any intimate things. Like hand holding, cuddling, kissing. But if I initiate it, she is happy to go along with it. -She doesn't seem to be interested in asking me stuff. We do know each other pretty well, but she is mostly interested in talking about herself. When we do have conversations, we are able to talk comfortably, but it's never really about me unless I start talking about myself. -When we watch a movie at my house on the couch, she seems to like it when I put my arm around her. I even asked is she was comfortable and she said yes, but she doesn't seem to want to cuddle closer... What the heck do I do? I have no idea what this woman thinks about our... "relationship" or what she wants from me.

From what you have written, it did seem like she initiated at one point when she put your hands on her intimate areas. She may have felt rejected when you did "nothing" she may be worried about initiating anything more. It also seems like she may be a little selfish in her ways of thinking only of herself when talking and not complimenting you. Have you spoken to her about your concerns? Some times people get so involved in their own issues that they just don't even realize that they have been neglecting the other person in the relationship. What are your ages? You asked her to go to the bedroom but it seems like she may not be ready for that. You may want to just stick with the kissing and touching for a while.

I am 23 she is 25. I feel that talking about it might be a bit awkward since I sort of asked her about what she is expecting from this after our second date... Which in hindsight was a bit awkward of me. Back then she said "I can't say. We have to see where it goes." There is one thing I didn't mention: being good friends with her, I know that she had a thing with somebody else recently. It wasn't a relationship; it was just casual sex. She broke it off with him because she was felt it was a mistake. I was thinking that she doesn't want to rush into things because she doesn't want to ruin it... But that doesn't really explain her apparent disinterest in us. Then again, she is independent; very much so.... Still, I worry that it may be something that I am doing wrong. I am not sure how to proceed anymore

It may just have not been long enough for her to figure out how she feels about you then. if it has only been a few weeks you may want to just continue doing what you have been doing for a while. A relationship is for both parties to be happy though so if it goes on for too long you may need to just speak up. This is the trial part. She may find she doesn't want any thing more and you may find you don't want anything more with her either. It could get pretty old pretty fast having a partner who rarely sais anything nice about you. For now you should just carry on as you have been. Try to let yourself be comfortable around her.

Would it be weird if I asked her why she never initiates physical contact? We've only been going out two weeks... When I initiate it, like kissing, holding hands or hugging, she seems into it, but she never initiates it herself. Should I ask her why?