Confused

30 yr old and have been in a relationship for 15 years. .yes high school sweethearts, not exactly sure what brought us together but I know we love each other very much. We don't have much in common some music is the same but that's about it...one thing we do have in common is smoking, but they are about to quit and are already starting to judge at the fact that I am not planning to quit anytime soon.they are also Turning their life around starting to go to the gym and now asking when I will start. I dont mind the advice or the genuine concern but is it coming from the right place? Also I have always loved to travel and am starting to think of moving out of state...they refuse the idea and feel that they won't want to travel til their senior yrs. I love this person and want to be with them forever just not sure what to do, think, or feel. If anyone can give me some advice I would really appreciate it..thanks in advance.

Well I guess thats my problem I dont know what to do....I do want to be with him til we get old but I dont know how to get him to be interested in the same things as me. we do laugh alot together and enjoy eachothers company when we agree to do things. But I think we just want different things at different times of our lives I guess. And to tell you the truth I feel like I am the same person I was 15 yrs ago and maybe thats the problem as well. I have talked to him about the traveling and how I said I want to move, I even went as far as telling him that when I want to move Im going and he'll have decide if he's coming with; he said he wasnt moving anytime soon if he did and that if I left I never really loved him anyway if I can leaving him over moving. Dont get me wrong I would be stupid to leave this man He is a nice guy, hard worker,etc. But I just wish I could talk him into be interested in the things that interesst me.

People change. They grow, they find out more about them selves, they decide they want their life to get better. It sounds like he has chosen to turn his life around and get healthy and keep his roots. I was married to my high school sweet heart for 10 years and then found that I wanted something else out of life. I wanted to change and he wanted to stagnate. So I divorced him and I feel is was the best thing I have ever done. You need to think about what is important to you and what you want out of life.