Stay strong or give in?

If you have ever read the book "The 5 Love Languages", or gone to couples counseling, we know that in a relationship your needs must be met. The problem is when you love someone so much and they refuse to meet your needs. Should you just accept it for what it is? Afterall you can't change a person, you can only change yourself. The both of us have been through couples counseling years ago. What am I asking of him? I just want to feel loved. I want to be told I'm pretty. I want to be important to him. (I have had these conversations with him) What is his response? I should know that he loves me. He is not going to tell me what I want to hear. I am to insecure. I am too emotional. Maybe these needs of mine are not that important. But without these needs being met, I am very depressed and unhappy. Do I fulfill his needs? I am not perfect, but I do try daily. But I am getting to the point where it gets harder and harder cause the way I am feeling right now. Any thoughts? Even if you have to hurt my feelings, I understand. I am just reaching out for help.

Advice: break up.

Thank u SUSIEDQ. I am a confident woman in all aspects of my life, with the exception of this relationship. This is just how I work. Please understand, if this was a new problem, I would agree with you. We dated for 10 years We split up for 2 years He knew what I needed from him, and agreed that he didn't fulfill my needs for the first 10 years. He said he knew my needs now, and understood them. Now months later, we are back to where I was years ago. I really do appreciate your thoughts, I just wanted to elaborate on my situation. I will keep your thoughts in my mind. Leave him- I can do that too, the problem is that I don't think I will ever love someone the way I love him. I got a lot to think about!

Hi LOVANDPEACE A relationship is about two people.not for you to change or him but both of you to accomadate each other,but l can relate to you and how unloved you feel,l posted UNLOVED l tried to fulfill his needs but it got so exhausting it wore me out,especially when he was not meeting my needs.it got to the point that l did not now who l was anymore,depressed and unhappy Mine did not change,and l believe if yours has not changed by now then l do not believe he ever will.so it is either carry on with all that emotion and insecuritys you have which is down to him,or you tell him although you love him you will leave him good luck