Lies in a relationship

I have severaly found messages that my husband has written to different women either sex talk or praising them on there beauty and all.when i asked he denied but i showed him the evidence and he said that was nothing because those women are in foreign countries and he just wrote that when idle.Then i found other messages to his male friends praising his sexual encounters with his women. I asked about it and yet again he said that men talk.He said men talk like that and they mean nothing at all. MY husband and i have not been staying together for almost 3yrs.he was in US while i was in Africa.we have two boys and we have been married for 5yrs. When he came to US he stayed with a certain couple.At the moment he calls receives calls from the woman of that house even more than once in a day.He calls her too and they talk when he is out of the house or at work.I meet that couple they were kind. My husband says that they treated him like family.But y is he calling that woman all the time and why not the husband to be clise to mine. I feel confused .i have aked soo many questions with no answers.please help

If you have found evidence of sex talk etc on his phone, then how much more proof do you need that your marriage is in trouble. Your husband actions are betraying the trust of your marriage. No happily married man should have such texts on his phone whether he's idle or not. Unfortunately, your husband's absence from you is not an ideal arrangement and is contributing to his unacceptable behavior.

Yes I agree with Manalone. I am not too sure why you are having to ask all these questions yet are still feeling confused. The evidence is there, right in front of you, on texts. He has been cheating. These texts/infidelity are a major cause for concern but I think there are more serious issues in your relationship which you need to address. It seems like you are too influenced by your husband who seems to dictate everything you do, feel and think to the point where he has even convinced you that those messages are not what you think they are. This relationship seems very unhealthy. Start having your say. Start thinking for yourself. Start being your own person before it is too late. He will start to make you believe you are crazy.