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I want to seek advise regarding my love life.I like a friend of mine from last 6-7 years. infact i love him.even though i never told my feelings to him but he cae to know some how.but i guess he too liked me and even used to say me so at that time. i dont know what it was but there was something which kept us attracted and attached to each other.Our attachment was so strong that we need not require to speak to each other for communication. He used to understand each and every thought of mine before i say. today also we talk to each other but now the things have changed. i just want to know whether he still have feelings for me?? or shall i forget him and move on?? I cant understand ...Recently some other guy proposed me but i neither accepted him nor just refused just because at that time i wanted to give myself a chance to move on.But i really dont like when this guy come close to me.i just dont feel happy or good and i think this guy is not at all serious for me.. he just want a time pass relation with me.I just cant understand what to do and whom to choose for

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Well obviously the second guy is out if he doesn't make you feel good. Re your friend. Sorry, but you're not both telepathic so you can't rely on that as your cop-out just because you're not brave enough to make your feelings crystal clear. That's the sort of communication that's too important to be left to mere vibes and body language. But clearly he's too loath to risk damaging the friendship as well. Well, relationships that stand any chance of getting anywhere require courage on both parts. Strictly speaking, though, it's HIS job to do the 'proposing' because the chase and woo periods are evolutionarily geared SPECIFICALLY for the male to impress upon the female his manly qualities including the biggie called [wait for it] BRAVERY. As a woman, however, you are 'allowed' to hint, by which I mean such things as: let him catch you looking at him; when he meets your gaze, hold it for an 'inappropriate' (for friendship) length. Then use the 3 second rule: look away, as in, turn only your head in the opposite direction, looking down at the floor, count to three ("one elephant, two elephant, three elephant") and look back again (he'll still be looking, thanks to the over-held gaze right beforehand) and deliberately smile as you look away again in the same manner. That ought to do it. And if it doesn't - who wants a chicken for a boyfriend? Also, who wants a man that has to be (cough!) made jealous before he'll dare make a move?

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