Elderly Support Forum

Hi. I am new here but could really use some advice. I feel like I have a unique situation and don't know who to ask for an outside opinion or resources. I honestly don't know what category to list this as. My mom, who is in her late 50s, is unable to take care of herself following decades as an alcoholic. About 1.5 years ago my sibling and I were increasingly concerned for her health...

An elderly woman who lives by herself next to me, who has a mentally ill daughter (psych ward level). She likes to manipulate the people in our neighborhood and lie/gossip about the ones she doesn't like. Whenever I'm outside talking on the phone, she'll go out on her porch to shout out random bullshit. Yesterday when I was walking my dog I overheard her talking to her daughter over...

I live in the Midwest with in-laws in New York City. My husband was traumatized growing up in a dangerous neighborhood in NYC and feels he cannot return even for a visit. His mother is in NYC and is now dying in a care home in NYC after a brief illness at home. She is 94.My husband was used to calling her several times a week. She has been moved to a hospice section, and there's no phone i...

My partner of 7 years separated from his wife but is now caring for his elderly mother 96. They live a 6 hour drive from me and his mother will only allow a neighbour to look in on her for a few days in the week a few times à month. My partner is a very kind caring man we are both retired but I am mostly on my own. His health is suffering becoming depressed because of the situation ...

I have an elderly grandmother with dementia, she is currently in the custody of my aunt. My grandmother had done quite well for herself and was supposed to live the rest of her life in comfort, but when her health declined there was a legal battle over her and my aunt won. My mother (who I’m estranged from) wanted to have legal rights for money, so did my aunt. Since my mother lost the legal bat...

My mom has been a chain smoker my whole life. I’m 38. She was also an alcoholic. I have an older brother who is 41. My dad had a lot of issues with substance abuse and mental health and killed himself in 2006. My brother found him. My brother has rage and mental health issues. My mom and brother live in a trailer together. He doesn’t work, he uses her money. He is able to work. My mom is in an...

My Father who is approx 70 yr old has paralysis on entire left side and my mother is around 60 yr. I am lone kid having a wife and a sweet daughter. I love my mother and she has alone taken care of my education and upbringing. However my father is short tempered and has not fulfilled any responsibility for my mother as well as me. Now I stay in a metro city while my parents are in a tier 3 city. I...

I have an elder roommate and he is a sweet guy but has a tendency to think he is more capable than he actually is. He fell a few months ago and has been in the hospital since. Since he has no family and no friends he asked me to take on the responsibility of caregiving. I asked him what will that consist of. He said occasional hoyer lifting from bed to wheelchair.. I called his social worker t...

I'm really worried about my dad and I don't know how to approach this. He's in his 80's and he's gotten obsessed with a woman in her 50's (younger than me) and she's taking him for thousands a month. He is also blowing off family events and celebrations to spend time with this woman - even missing a family funeral! Whenever anyone tries to talk to him about her, ...

I have failed at everything I have tried and now have a falling down house, do not talk to others and those who went out of their way to destroy me have prospered. I have reached a point where I do not know what to do. There are good things too, but I am very depressed....

I need help understanding my large family. First, they all dislike me and talk about me to each other all the time. When I think I have had a good and mature conversation I later hear how upsetting I was. One of the most troubling moments for me right now is that an older sister does not allow anyone to see my father's bills or personal information. Every time I bring it up, she complains...

My mother in law is 90. My husband (her son) died and I have since re-married. We are close and I see her every week. She has one other son and a daughter. She has no relationship with the daughter who is a troublemaker. Her husband has also passed away. My problem is that the son lives an hour away (I live closer) but rarely visits his mother. She stayed for 2 nights over Christmas and I...

After my step mom died about 10 years ago my dad moved to Florida (me, my brother, his brother, and sisters are all in Wisconsin) and started dating immediately. He invited his new girlfriends over and they would get drunk and one time one of them passed out in his front yard. He started drinking and thinking it was cool to get drunk, and he still takes as many pain pills as he can get ahold of. I...

In 2010 my mom passed away from malignant cancer. I had gone into severe depression for the rest of that year. When she died my brothers and I each got 150K each and I had used some of it to buy a 2 Bedroom townhouse. My mom's older sister, my aunt, had decided to move in with me because I was really unable to take care of myself. I had originally wanted to live by myself but I thought sure,...

My husband became glutinous in his old age!!! I don't know what happened to him, he wasn't like this when he was young, but now he stuffs himself like crazy. It's like watching a junk yard dog eat and it's all day every day. He's eating enough for six men and weighs enough for three. It's very expensive feeding him. He's up to 360 pound and has broken fou...

I'm 15 and live wth my grandmother and my little sister who is 13 years old and I hate it. My sister gets treated so differently. When i was my sisters age I never even had a phone and was shopping at Walmart and my grandma always says I get more than her when she is 13 with a really nice android and her whole closet is Victoria secret and she complains about everything. I never complain but ...

My husband and I have been married 30 years. I love him very much. He makes me smile and laugh and I enjoy his conversation. He had a demanding, high paying professional job that required him to change locations every couple of years. I had to quit several good jobs to relocate with him, and eventually he said I shouldn't bother getting a new job, that it was more useful if I could take ...

Grandma has been rotating staying with different family members to look out for her. She can stay alone sometimes, but not all the time...so she comes to live with different family members so that we can all take turns taking care of her. Her own children cant deal with her for too long, before yelling at her and getting in big arguments. Now grandma is a good person deep down, and tried to li...

Okay!! so i literally just made this account because i neeeed to vent about something absolutely ridiculous and is driving me insane so here it goes. alright so quick background info I am currently 15 years old - 16 in january. So! just recently i broke my phone right so I went ahead and took it into radioshack to see if they could see whats wrong with it, the guy, lets call him B fixed it and sho...

I am facing a difficult situation with a boring aunt of mine over the past few years. She hasn't worked for the past few years and has plenty of time to talk. When she calls me, she wastes an entire hour talking about totally irrelevant things. Since she is a relative, I can't be too harsh to her. I have communicated my lack of interest in talking to her many times by telling I have to t...

Boy is dating new to me. I'm 56 years old. Been married twice. First marriage to my high school sweetheart ended in divorce because he cheated. My second husband, who I had know for years before dating him, passed away after a long illness. Both were over 17 year relationships. Boyfriend and I are both happy living alone. Not looking to move in together. Because he always tells and shows ...

I would like some advice. I am friendly and kind to most everyone, that being, affectionate too. I don't think over the top affectionate, but am a huggy type of woman. Many of my friends are married, and I am friendly with both parties of the couples. One of my married friends, C, when he greets me, asks me every time if I have a boyfriend yet. His hands linger longer than need be if we...

my topic: massive crush....<3 so i have this massive crush on this guy and i met him at this recovery program from being hospitalized for being suicidal. he is amazing like absolutely amazing... when we first met i mean like we flirted and he knew when i was in a bad mood and always sat next to me. well we talked after stepped down to the next program while he was on vacation. he went on vacat...

Hi, I'm looking for some insight regarding my relationship. I'm a 65-year-old male, separated less than a year ago, and started a relationship with a friend who just turned 80. We have a lot in common and she's a spry gal, with a joie-de-vivre that brightens up every room she enters. Our sex is, in spite of some 'senior' problems, quite spectacular, for both of us. My con...

Im going to try and make this as short as I possibly can: I'd been with my boyfriend for 2 years but before the summer of this year, things started changing. He became quite distant and I didn't feel he was putting much into the relationship anymore. It almost seemed he was having second thoughts, but every time I asked him about it, he would turn around and say everything was fine, that...

I met my girlfriend ten years ago, and she said she was 42. Well, I just looked at her birth card and see she was born in 1960 making her FIFTY-TWO! SO She lied LIED to me!!! But I love her so much and for 10 years and the only reason I didn't marry her yet that my sister is planning a wedding of her own and I don't want to be too much for my parents. Besides, we wouldn't be abl...

There's this guy I am kind of interested in, even though he's a year older. We met through a gathering event that happens 2 times a week. At first I didn't pay any attention to him since he was a year older, I never even noticed him. It all changed when he all of a sudden talked to me and we conversed shortly. After that he would say my name whenever I walked by, then I would ususua...

my dear dear male friend of 2 yrs became a fwb a year and a half ago before his horrible divorce was final. He flirted for a few months before truly advancing. WE had sex for a few months and decided it was wrong. He doesn't know what he wants. Now after months of no sex we did again a few days ago. I will be gone for out of state for the summer . I WANT to find a secure relationship. Should...

I am 21 and I'm in love with my 59 year old mentor, I know what love is as I have 2 children and I was with my previous partner for 5 years...I don't know what to do or say to my mentor...should I tell him how I feel? He has helped me out a lot and he understands me but I'm scared that if I tell him he might become distant...but should I keep this bottled up inside me? Or should I t...

Ok so my friend and I were outside in the park and Its like 11Pm, becuase we were heading home from the pool. So we saw monkey bars and I went ahead, wrapped my legs around 1 bar, and hung upside down. My skirt and shirt were falling, though. I had told her to hold them both for me. Instead, she ripped my shirt off! Now, Im a D cup, and I was wearing a B, because this one was from when I was young...

I'm 73 and my husband is 74. He worked for the civil service and so retired at 60. Since then, he hasn't worked at any other job. I also am retired and yet, although we have more time than ever, our lives haven't changed for the better. Since retirement, there have been several crises when I find his behaviour difficult. It's as though life literally stopped for him once he did...

i need to find lesley she has lovely soft hair & she work's in my local she know's as a forest fan i just need her e-mail address that's all. mark ...