Work Forum: Career Advice, Job Challenges, and Professional Development Support

A few months ago I asked off for, and got approved for, the next two weeks off of work. This week (the week before my vacation), I got sick and had to miss Monday-Wednesday (today). I’m still kind of a mess mentally, and am doing better physically but not 100%. Would it look bad if I messaged my boss today and asked for tomorrow off (I don’t work Fridays), and then told her that I wi...

This is my first time being on this site. A little bit of background information might be of some help. I worked for child protective services for 2 and a half years before I left due to bullying and degradation in the work place by my supervisor. I know this happens everywhere but it became too much. So two coworkers had left and went to a group home we worked with. I trusted and loved these two....

I am new to the forums: Hello and thank you for having me. I'm going to jump right in here and say that I have an urgent request (not asking for financial assistance). I don't know how to talk about my situation without the urge to going into my long "sob story" but I'll try to make it brief. Haha. I live with a narcissist and addict. I've known him all ofy my adu...

For the last 5 years I’ve worked at a small business, it’s a great place with only 10 staff who all get on great with one another including our boss who’s a 55 yr old married man. Now a few months ago we all went out on a staff night out and I ended up in a deep conversation with my boss who decided in his very drunken condition to spill his deepest secrets to me. I was slightly shocked bu...

I started a new job around 8 months ago, it’s a small group of people who I work with, I was very apprehensive about discussing my personal life with these people when I first started working with them, in my previous job I had a really hard time with being judged about my relationship ( my partner is a lot older than me ) and I found that some people didn’t except this and made cruel comments...

Hello all, I am a current college student with aspirations to get a B.A. in Communication. I was hoping to get some advice on what career might be a good fit for me with this type of major, and if anyone had any advice or suggestions that could help me secure a job in the fields they describe. Thank You....

I'm a 26 year old male sitting jobless and gave no work experience. I have some weird mentall illness which I don't know. I have so many "ifs and buts" regarding my career and very unclear what I want to do. I have a bad habit of not taking action right away when I think of taking any action. I am just a BA graduate. I did nothing after graduation. I don't even know for...

Has anyone worked a to go specialist job that has experience on what the job is like. Do you wear uniform? What are the uniforms like I applied for a to go specialist at a restaurant. I have an interview coming up and I'm so nervous. I don't have any restaurant experience. Is there training And money is definitely not my strong point that's something I struggle with but work...

I work for a non-profit and we offer free day camps to kids in need thanks to various grants I apply for. Since it's free though, we often don't have nearly as many kids show up as who registered. This is a shame because it's a great program, and our team puts a lot of effort into planning and implementing everything. It also means our participant numbers are lower and this could af...

The beginning of November, I started to volunteer at a food pantry. I go in 4 days a week for 4 hours at a time. There are always different people volunteering on different days. On Mondays, there is a woman who comes in for 2 hours just on that day. The second Monday I came in, I was trying to help her and she says, does it look like I need your help and then she states that I will not stop her f...

I am a terribly mentally sick person. I am even ashamed of explaining my problem to others. I have only two options left - commit suicide or become a monk. I am a 26 year old unemployed loser who is yet to get a job. My dad is retired and it seems to shameful to rely on my 60 year old elderly dad. I have done so many terrible mistakes in the past related to my career that I cannot even rev...

Hi all, I am new to the forum, but I would really appreciate an outlet to discuss my inner turmoil. I have accepted a job with an employer with whom I have a big history (I used to volunteer for them) and personal connections. I applied for the job back in March but the job I was eventually offered was not what I had in mind and something completely different than anything I have done before...

During a work party while having a deep conversation me and another employee started kissing. We were both heavily intoxicated. There’s always been a little “tension” with us but never been acted on in anyway shape or form. The issue is they are a supervisor and I am a manager. They don’t directly report to me but I am still a level above. We spoke briefly the next day and it was a regret,...

Hello, I just joined this community as I am trying to find some guidance in life. I finished my degree, currently doing Erasmus internship and I feel so lost in life, work and the career. I know I am not suppose to know much as I am just starting but I feel severely unprepared even according to my current colleagues and when I look at others in similar situation after graduating, they are much ...

I'm rebuilding my life from ground zero - finances, the whole 9 yards. My clock is ticking on some things I've been confused about and repressed for a long time. One being, I want to move and go live somewhere I want to live. I want to save what I need to move and go as soon as possible, with a little cushion in the bank account. With the above criteria I don't want to hold...

so ive been at my job for two years and have been able to make some sort of friendly conversation with everyone except for one person and its so awkward. We both went to high school together and he was a huge douche to me and tried to make fun of me if i remember correctly. Now hes very respectful to me but we dont have anything to say to each other when its just us in the room. a few years ago...

In many respects, I should have enough. I co-own a successful small business, so money is never an issue. I have three kids in college and we are paying their tuitions. But we have sustained so much trauma along the way, for the mental health of a few members, I have come to the conclusion that we need a very large change. Briefly, over the past few years, two of my three kids have been di...

Hi ! I'm almost 21 and I'm studying theater (just so you know, I'm not american so excuse me if I make spelling mistakes...). I wish to become an actor since I'm young and I'm majoring theater at college while studying in a conservatory (theater school). Despite this, I never been in a real project once. I feel old. Maybe 21 is young in society but not in theater'...

for the past couple of years, i have been unemployed and i cant seem to get any help from family. I am also working with someone professionally and she isnt resolving the issue. She just suggest to keep working with the company she works at and to be more patient. This is not helping me get anywhere and im ready to give up. ive also got a sibling in the mix who doesnt want me doing anythning- work...

Nowadays, I am in difficult situation. My dad has retired from his job 3 months ago. That means our family isn't getting monthly income. Worst thing is that I'm still unemployed at the age of 26. I am causing a huge burden on my parents. If I don't earn, family will be in financial crisis. I have to take action as soon as possible. I can't rely on my dad's monthly inco...

I feel intensely insecure in whatever work I'm doing, even if I'm experienced or have qualifications, it cripples me. Imposter syndrome, seems to fit my symptoms in some ways, but it also seems to overarch into feeling this way about life. Like I'm not meant to be here. It plagues me, this feeling that I don't fit in within the world, like I am failing at being human or being a...

I had a staff member who voluntarily resigned from my place of business. However, this person made it seem like I had terminated their job prematurely. This person suspectedly had given my establishment a negative rating on Google reviews. I am not able to confirm whether that person who has reviewed was my ex staff member because they had used an unfamiliar user name. However that particular u...

I'm having a issue with my car. I need a battery I can't get to work . I have 3 kids and I'm a single dad. I have no friends or family to help me. Please I'm begging anyone to help...

This was a text I received from a coworker in a work group: But in all reality... teamwork makes the dream work.... if you aren't happy.... just LEAVE. It's as simple as that. .. but grown ass woman acting like their shit don't stink and saying everyone around them is the problem instead of looking at themselves in the mirror is very disturbing. Hi five to the Tracey and Regina in...

I have considered a job working in the same industry I am currently in. I have worked for the same small office for 9 years. The new job is offering more pay, more time off and already make me feel more valued. I have been unhappy with my current job for a while. Wearing many hats and getting whiplash between all the responsibilities placed on me. Multiple conversations expressing my concerns. I�...

Hey, obviously I can’t say my name but for all accounts & purposes let’s say it’s soleil. I’m Soleil, I’m 17 in high school graduating thing year in June. For the last few years I’ve had my heart set on a plan. Graduate, go into biology at UOFT & go into med school after my undergrad & go into a general surgery residency. Now though, I’m not too sure, I ended up going thr...

So basically I feel like I majorly screwed over everyone I work with (including my boss) and I need advice on how I can make it up to them or even if I should just leave so they can find better. My father in law passed away after a long stay in the hospital and because of this, I missed around 4 days of work in a row (when it happened) and I worked a few (under 5) half days leading up to it to...

Hello, I'm need some job advice. I'm a uni student working part time at a Jewelry shop in hk. After working for about 2 months, I realized that the job is not flexible enough to suit my daily schedule. They keep asking ne to put in more hours of work. They prefer for me to work from 1045 am to past 6pm, just like a full time job but I really can't. I need to make time shift chan...

I have recently been made manager of a preschool I work in but before even starting the role with kids back I regret my decision to take the job. It’s all I can think about and is making me very anxious and even sick with the thoughts of work. I don’t know whether to walk away now or give it a chance ...

So i have been in my job for just over a year now and have made the decision that i want to look for something else. My job role and the people i work with are great but the company itself has so many problems with it and i need more hours which i am never going to get here, so i have some strong valid reasons for wanting out, however my problem is there are only 2 of us at the moment working ther...

A few days ago I started a new job in a day care. The job is ok it comes with some hardships but it's expected. My dilemma is if I made the right decision to take the job because I have been a stayed at home mom for the last 3 years. My oldest is 3 and the smallest is 1. I miss them so much to the point that I have cried everyday since I started. The first day I cried all afternoon. They al...

My manager said that she was going to hire this girl that I knew from my previous job. I strongly advised my manager against hiring her because I knew how she was - especially when she was orienting new people. She was a bully. She would talk down on orientees and they would often leave before their orientation. I told my manager about this. However, she said unless HR was involved, she said she c...

I'm 25 year old dude here. I made such a horrible and mistake that it ruined my life. Criticize me for my foolish behaviour as much as you can. Actually, I did not gave my 4th semester MA exam (in June 2022) just because I have some horrible symptoms. I told my parents a lie that my 4th semester exams hadn't happened yet. They will be extremely shocked if they come to know the truth. ...

A couple of years ago, prior to Covid, I had a job that lasted for the better part of a decade. I got along well with most of my coworkers and was liked by my employer, and even had a reputation for being hard-working and reliable. I had a series of events happen where I became progressively depressed and destructive, and this poured over into my work towards the end, but it didn't really i...

Hey, there. I am currently 21 and in community college, soon transferring to a university. About a month ago I quit my part time job. I have been heavily into sustainable alternative products, such as bioplastics and recycled paper. I have been all over the internet looking for a product consultant that is not a complete scam and charging me so much for something as simple as a batch of disposa...

I am in an entry level position in a professional work environment and have been on my team for about 2 years since completing undergrad. Today my boss and I had a meeting with some external stakeholders who we have been partnering with on a project. We maintain professional relationships with them although many of our meetings are brainstorms which I consider to be less formal than a group that w...

Hello everyone. Made an account just to ask this question, please go easy on me. I'm currently attending high school in my senior years and due to some pretty bad money issues my family has been facing, I've been pretty rigorously jobseeking for a while now. Recently I managed to secure a job interview at a local fast food joint (wish me luck!) that seems to pay pretty well. Here is w...

Hello everyone. This is my first time posting here. It will be a bit long so thank you in advance for reading. I am a 25 years old IT engineer, living and working in a third world country. My uncle has an IT company that has offices in Dubai and Tokyo and my bully older brother who I rarely got along with since we were children is working there. Seeing him in that city when I was struggling in ...

Hi everyone, I feel like such a failure when it comes to being an adult. I'm quitting a pizza job as it is genuinely worsening my depression. But where do I go from here? I took cooking classes in college, and I did well in the food classes but I flunked out because of other factors. So, I got a pizza job but have only worked part time because of having no license and having to get a ride...

I’m a newly graduated private university student, just joined a company for a full time job. was offered for job role A, but now changed to B. I thought i could learn something, but soon realised it was giving a lot of stress, and i cry to sleep. i still don’t like it although my probation will be ending soon. if fully convert to a full time staff, will need to serve 2 months notice. I was thi...

My Story In Mid-2010s, I moved to US to study engineering, the first 2 years were okay, but after things took a dark turn and by the beginning of 2020 I thought I was gonna be okay but then the pandemic hit and my mental health took a turn for the worst. Summer 2020 my dad got really mad at me for taking long to graduate and unleashed some major news that he refused to tell me until it was too ...

I left a job after 3 months for what seemed like a good opportunity that I would regret not taking. Now I'm into my fourth month at this new job and i am miserable. I don't enjoy the work, the schedule has hours that mean I'm not able to be with my family as much, the training was minimal at best. I have stayed because i thought it was just new job anxiety and that I would find my...

I recently did a contract job helping with a dinner event at the company I used to work for. The company has a CEO I had never met before. After the event, the CEO called me into her office. I thought she was going to basically do a "debriefing" about the event. However, she didn't discuss the event at all but, instead, just asked me questions about the date I brought to the eve...

I don't know how to start my thread and also i apologize in advance for my bad english but hopefully someone can give me an advice. Here is my story. 2018. I'm a seafarer and our ship's route is at Sulu (one of the islands in the Philippines that is well known for terrorist groups). During my 1 and half month stay on Sulu , i was able to talk to some of the soldiers and learned a...

I started a new job a week ago and we’ve been in training before being sent off to the actual place to work. It seems like nothing I do is right in the training class. The trainer hates repetitive questions and yesterday he stood over my shoulder as I was trying to finish up for the day (everyone else had already left) and said “just log off, I really want to go home.” So now I know my stuff...

I need help. All my life I’ve been a creative person and in grade 7 I realized I didn’t want to go to university, I knew I wanted to be an actress. The problem? My parents couldn’t afford acting classes and didn’t take me seriously. A few years later I decided I wanted to become a lawyer since I realized that I’m good at school. I work hard in school and have done well, so I thought I wo...

Should I take this new job offer? I’ve been accepted for a new role but I’m scared of the change. My current role is working remotely as a 1st line tech support agent, but the job is pretty dull and can be quite confrontational with calls from angry customers! The only benefit is that it’s working from home and the salary is paid weekly. Also depending on the rota it can also be unsociabl...

I started a new job at a dog-boarding facility less than a month ago. It's been good so far and I like it, but I had a hiccup last week. Some things about me/my situation: -My shifts usually start at 6AM and I live about 20 miles away from work -I'm still new so the only employee phone number I have is the manager's -I have severe depression, anxiety, PTSD; I do not handle ...

In December 2019, I went to see my doctor as I was experiencing pain the back of neck and shoulders. My doctor advised me she will make a referral for physio. I noticed the monitor was not the right height for me and used a box to adjust the height, thinking this will resolve it as I know the company won’t provide me additional resources. I continued working in the office from January until Marc...

I was wondering if it is a great idea to move to England during the pandemic. I'm looking for better opportunities in film, art and culture. Unfortunately, I have not received the Covid vaccine yet and I heard it is a requirement in England to get one if one wants to enjoy recreational and social activities. Any advice would be appreciated....

For 30 years I bounced around to about 15 different jobs and each one made me more depressed. I eventually realized what I knew all along...I am a square peg surrounded by round holes, and no job is going to allow me to be happy. The entire concept of working is a joke, and we are born into a society that perpetuates this trap. You are forced to choose an activity that you have to do, trading ...

6 months ago I chose to transfer to another department. A colleague asked what happened to me was discrimination. Story: For a yr, was me director & secretary that started right after me. Director switches from overly friendly to yelling and critical, at that point mostly overly friendly. Dept. expanded, She hired 3 people all the same gender&race/ethnicity as her.I was in interviews &am...

My co-worker is a playboy. He would flirt to most of the girls in the office including me. But I don't like that my co-workers think that we have relationship just because we ride the same mode of transportation when going home because we live in the same city. It all started as a joke, but it feels like as the time goes by, i don't feel like it is a joke anymore. I am faithful with my b...

My co-worker is now considered senior citizen, (60yrs. old). Suddenly she tapped me and told me she bought a dress online that might fit my size. And she wanted me to check it out for the next day and that she will bring it. Well, i know that she wanted me to buy it, but that's not how I buy my dresses. What i usually do is go to the mall and do canvass until i get the perfect dress that i wa...

Anyway, probably about six months ago, I agreed to write the script for someone's game. The scope was about 100k words and I'd figured I could finish it in a month or three (since I write fairly quickly), maybe 5-6 with substantial edits. I am...nowhere near finished. This is mostly because the partner is often requiring 4-5 complete rewrites per section. (Often because she's jus...

Hello everyone. I am new here, literally signed up a few minutes ago. I was busy browsing other websites looking for solutions to my problem and reaching a dead-end. I am not sure if my problem is the usual kind or if it's even allowed. But it's a problem and I'm a person, so I guess it qualifies. As the title suggests, I am stuck in a space where I can not seem to move forward ...

Last night, I received a personal message on Instagram from a freelancer/model. In a tongue-in-cheek way, this person accused me of emailing her an application to participate in the television show "Naked Attraction" (basically a dating show). She also accused me of wanting to see her naked. I tried responding on Instagram but I didn't think my response reached her as she'...

Hi everyone! I need some perspective as I think the hell of a workplace I've been in for the last year warped my perception of normality. I will put everything here as objectively as possible. Last year in September I (26F) started my current job. The very first day, my colleague (48F) who I shared an office with gossipped about absolutely everyone, going as far as calling people's...

I am stuck out in the country because I had to move here for a job to survive and got laid off. I don't know anyone here and there are no groups or clubs. I spend every day blindly googling for help such as outreach services. I just want to move away and start over but can't find work. I don't even know what kind of work. I feel beyond able to help myself and do not know what to do....

I've been working at the same place for over 10 years and I've seen many people slack off and blame others when things go wrong with the cases we work on. I do forensic work and a lot of it is team work. We recently had evaluations and my higher ups ripped me apart based on employee feedback. Now I am one to take responsibility for my mistakes. But I'm also outspoken when others are...

Been unemployed for nearly 4 months now was technically let go in november but due to the way the job ended the benefits office say i voluntary made myself redundant and have been suspended from receiving benefits all my savings have been used up now i have applied for loads of jobs 30+ been for loads of interviews but all have been unsuccessful i am currently signed up to 4 recruitment agencie...

I’m 24 from CA, will be graduating soon, and am beginning the job search. I quickly received an offer from an amazing firm I used to intern for in an area I really love, however it’s all the way across the country in DC. I feel like this could be something really great for my career development, and I’m confident in my ability to be happy there, but I am a bit hesitant to follow through with...

I recently started a new job and was so happy, as I was at my former workplace for a long time and it was a rather toxic environment. My new job is a small team, of which I am a part of. There is a colleague, whom at first seemed welcoming. She was a bit of a loud character, but I took this as workplace banter and wasn't offended. Then there was a switch in her behaviour - suddenly she s...

I’m not sure if this is a first world problem and maybe I’m complaining over nothing but here goes! I’ve been in my job for about a year and a half now. The hierarchy is based on levels but really, unless you’re top level, the only difference in the way colleagues are treated and treat each other is through different levels of salary. We all treat and respect each other equally. Abou...

Hello, I had a confrontation today with a fellow worker who is also my supervisor and who has been bullying me for many years. Today she was very aggressive, yelling at me and she was so close to me as she yelled that I thought she was going to hit me. I kept my calm and helped her with what she needed with a calm voice. Her boss who is also my boss just looks the other way and says that I am bei...

After several years of working abroad, I decided it was time to quit. My employer offered me terrible conditions and there is supposedly almost zero unemployment in my country (3.something %); why not go back and look for work at home? Everyone who meets me, will tell me how brilliant I am. I worked successfully five years in Shanghai as a project manager, I am fluent in three languages (yeah, ...

I have an event coming up at work next month and I am being asked/expected to stay overnight in a bunk barn with other colleagues the night before. The thought of this gives me terrible anxiety. I really struggle with sleeping in a room with other people (except for my husband). I feel really self conscious and end up with terrible insomnia and the next day more often than not I get a cripplin...

At work I like to do things a certain way. I like things clean. I completely understand that other people are different. However I know that to a certain extent management want what I want. They want a clean work space. They want the washing kept up to date etc. At work I have always tried to keep things tidy and up to date. I have been working for a organisation for about 2 years now and to be...

My parents are moving across the country to live closer to me and my partner and everything was going well. My mum was offered a job at the hospital here doing the same clerical job as she has been doing for 11 years now. She handed in her notice for her old job last week and had two months notice to work. However, I rang her today and she told me that she has been dismissed for misconduct (it was...

I'm almost 25 years old and having just started my career in South Africa (hometown). I've spent a year travelling abroad and then came home to settle and begin my career. I've already hit the ceiling in my career and despise every day. I studied chemical engineering at university but now my day-to-day job is filling out excel sheets with minimal pay. I would say I depressed. I&#...

Hello everyone....I wanna start an online business . I don’t know how to start and even don’t know what people need ...masters say follow your interests but I don’t know what I am really interested in .... I think I have been lost in daily routine... also masters of startups say that for finding good field to start with is finding people’s problems .... I need the most potential solvable ...

Recently I started a new job, which I like. What I do is for the most part pretty easy tasks, but the work is a lot more physical and fast-paced that what I'm used to, and some days I find myself becoming hostile and stressed when I'm falling behind. Going into this position I was hoping it would be a step up from what I did before, and that my new employer might hire more reliable w...

Hey guys, I'm a 27 year old male that's been working in the oil and gas industry for 5-6 years now. I have had a great paying career, company vehicle, and housing. I just started a new job 4 months ago, pretty much the same job just another company. Recently I was pulled over and arrested for a DUI (I know, I'm an idiot). I hired a lawyer who managed to get it knocked down to a r...

I am in my 30s and discreetly gay at work (although not "in the closet" as my social media is clearly telling everyone I am gay, although nobody at work knows me on social media). I recently revealed privately to another gay work colleague that I was gay (no I wasn't chatting him up lol). Now, however, the whole workplace - maybe 100+ people who see me on a daily basis - knows...

Has anyone else made these terrible experiences like me? I hated being a flight attendant so much!! Its exhausting, they pay so bad, teamwork with different people is NOT possible. Shiftwork makes you tired, nightwork is literally the WORST!! people are mean and talk behind your back. Honestly you aint travelling, you accompany the flight and layovers are so short, you dont see anything. You canno...

My bf has been with a company for 3-3 1/2 years now. He works long hours and always comes home stressed and aggitated. A couple of months ago his bosses told him they wanted to raise his pay since he was doing so well and their was a promotion available in his division. He and a handful of his other coworkers got a cost of living raise of $1 a week after this and he thought he was getting the prom...

Hi everyone Recently my good friend of over 15 years has started working in the same office as me we have worked together in the same building for a long time but never in the same office, she is just providing cover as we have people on holiday or off sick, initially I was pleased that she was covering as she is a hard worker and very reliable One day last week my supervisor left written in...

I've been involved with a community organization for 6 years. When I got involved I realized it was corrupt and mismanaged. I demanded accountability and forced the organization to adhere to its by-laws. It was a fight but the organization is running smoothly now. The reason I stayed as long as I did was that I could work with its president. We butted heads but he was honest and came through ...

My partner and I run a business together and also recently purchased property together. I have been aware for awhile now that I am very unhappy in the relationship and have tried to leave in the past. He becomes extremely angry and we cannot talk through the splitting process. He has managed to convince me that my desire to leave is irrational and has absolutely refused to break up. It feels lik...

I need advice.Sorry for the long post, I would really appreciate it if you read it.I don't know how to get out of this situation?I'm writing this post because basically I'm lost.I don't know what to do?I invited my boss's sister to join my all female group with a specific focus.My boss is always complaining that her sister is socially awkward and lost in life so i decided ...

Looking for suggestions on how to ignore what appears to me to be an intentional effort to alienate me from group project team members. For example, executives do not make eye contact with me during group meetings - but they will other team members. Nor am I spoken to directly. In one recent example, after a small group meeting, one team executive leader thanked everyone for attending and c...

I'm a 37 yo professional female and have been at my current career 5 years. I think I am proficient to pretty good at my job. Based On my performance reviews this would be accurate. I recently left a really bad job situation where I was constantly given a terrible schedule only after I signed on. So I'm now 3 months into a new place. When I signed on I was told I'd work mostly at o...

So, almost 4 weeks ago to the date I attended an interview for a job I really, really wanted, around a week later I got a follow up email saying a decision was being made and I'd be informed shortly. Last Tuesday I got an email for the HR Dept which said good news - we want you on board BUT we are awaiting formal confirmation from management. I got an email yesterday saying this still had not...

I'm sorry for posting here, but I suffer from social anxiety and I'm really wavering in my resolve here. I'm not really sure what elese to say other than, here is my situation. Please tell me what you think. Firstly, I've been in Spain for the past nine months working as an English teacher. In fact, a week Saturday I'm leaving to study my Masters degree in the UK for a...

Hello all, It took a while for me to search and find a decent forum, but finally I found this and I will try to explain my situation. I feel I am a failure. Simple as that, I feel like I am not capable of doing something right in my entire life. I will try to start with the begining. First of all, I am 30 years old male. I finished school in 2011 and finally got a job one year later. I...

I have been given an offer for a new job in another company. As an IT Support helpdesk. It pays more than i get now, and theres option for training and progression. I would be mostly on the phones to begin with. I am currently in a school as an IT Technician. I do pretty much a bit of everything. Phone support, going to the classrooms to solve the issues. I also get the school holidays off, mo...

Hey guys. Thanks for your advice. I'm a young male doctor on a training scheme. As part of my training I have to rotate through various specialties to learn my trade. On a recent rotation I became good friends with two male docs, both of whom I eventually felt comfortable with sharing my sexuality as a gay guy with after they earned my trust. Both are married, one with four young kids, but on...

So I moved to New Zealand and bagged myself a bar job in a small little locals bar. It's great, I like the locals and the responsibility I've been given. Only problem is, my boss is disappointed in me. Not my ability to do the job. But me. My personality. It does not meet his expectations. I told him right from the beginning when he decided to hire me (which he did based on the fact I...

Hi, I have been unhappy at my job for a while but we are currently going through a big restructure and job security is non-existent so I have been considering other options. I have been wanting to teach for a while, friends and family say I'd be a great teacher but I'm not so sure (I tend to see the negatives in things rather than the positives), but to be a teacher I would have to go ...

I am a dentist with a masters degree working in the UAE. I have always been unhappy with my decision and being an introvert and afraid to voice my real feelings I led my self to believe that I can still be happy with my career choice. I've been practicing for almost 5 years and I now feel like I can't take it any more and literally think of leaving everything. But I don't have any o...

I am a happily married woman who is very physically attracted to a male co-worker who is also married. I subconciously started making eye contact with him. I am pretty sure the attraction is mutual, but not 100% sure. We only see each other a couple of times a day in passing, but it is very uncomfortable: awkward for both of us. I feel I am to blame for this awkward situation by starting the eye c...

Hello, I'm 16 years old. My old job was terrible. I worked for a big privately owned corporation, they were all mean and just terrible. I'm starting a new job at a smaller boardwalk candy shop this Friday, and I'm really nervous. They're having me work for 2 days, then they decide if they like me. I'm also really nervous they may not like me because I'm unsure how to ...

Hi everyone, I worked as an IT contractor for over 2 years at a major hospital. I did all of the iPhone deployments/troubleshooting as well as computer deployments. I did not do that much support so I'm not that proficient in troubleshooting. I was let go due to attendance a few months back. I missed time due to 2 herniated discs I have and could not even stand/walk. My manager was n...

Hi, I left the an employer on the best terms. However we agreed he will provide positive reference for any future application. Can someone help do a dummy reference check to see what he has to say about me? Busybee...

I have been offered a job which I really want but I'm required to wear a uniform like the other staff but it is a female uniform.I will be cleaning rooms in a hotel so will have to wear a housekeeing dress and apron.I need the job, should I just take it.I am a man and the manageress won't compromise on this...

We have a new woman at work to manage our branch location. It is only seasonal so she comes back to the main location after it closes. The issue I'm having is the woman is rather lazy, doesn't want to be a team player (except kissing up to the owners) and gets paid as much as I do!!! The owners let her "do her own thing" over at the branch location even though it she isn�...

I am 40. been trying to find a babysitter for my 2, 8 and 16 yr old I am only going to pay someone $250 a week. I need someone Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday from 8am until 10pm. I'm also a neat freak I have not allowed any of the old sitters we've had before do this either. I don't allow any sitter to bring breakfast/lunch/dinner for them that requires to be usin...

I offered a good deal with a top client to secure solid business for the next financial year. The offer was in regard to bonus incentives... if they spent a certain amount, I would give them bonus goods. But in hindsight, the bonuses were too generous and I'm not sure that my manager would approve it. Because I have already offered this to the client, I fear if I need to relinquish the off...

Six months ago while working late one night I overheard a telephone argument between my boss and his wife where my name was mentioned twice before he screamed, "I'm WORKING!" Since then, the wife (who also works with us) won't talk to me or acknowledge me in any way. Additionally, they began having fights in the office and are obviously going through something personally. Th...

I am 39. I recently joined a new band. I am the oldest member. The other 2 members are 17 and 20. Neither of them own their own car(siblings) they have to share a car with parents. When I first went to play music with them, I asked them. "Why not come to my place next time to practice?" They said "We will have to see." I said "See what? Ya'll are 17 and 20, when I was...