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A guy I had a date (one date) with 10 years ago got in touch with me, out of the blue, via social media 8 months ago. I was the one on our date 10 years ago that thanked him for our date (just drinks) and said I didn't want to date him, he was accepting of that and we went our separate ways. He was the first date I'd had after my break up from my partner of several years. I realised on m...

Hello all, I've been in a relationship with the love of my life for nearly 2 years. They have my heart, complete me and are just the perfect person for me. However, I have developed a bizarre crush on someone else. I would never pursue anything, but I do fantasise and find myself thinking about this crush more than I should. I have never been in a committed relationship for as long as I h...

So, let me begin by saying that generally, our relationship seems (on my end) quite solid, we live together and have been married for almost a year. we have known each other for nearly 10 years. I work full time to support us both, she mostly stays at home but sometimes works for an hour or so a day in a cleaning role, we share the responsibility for cleaning and cooking at home. We are both...

So I have a friend and now a roommate who gave birth to a girl a couple years ago. Now my roommate is an alcoholic and boy crazy. She dates guys for a few weeks and then she gets drunk then ends up getting broken up with. When she’s drinking, she becomes the absolute worst person saying a bunch of crap about how the other person did something or something happened. Whenever she goes on binges, s...

I need advice. I have been married for two years now (we got married for health insurance benefits). I have been with him for 5 1/2 years since I was 19 and we have both helped each other through hard stuff. We have a 3 year old together and he is literally my best friend. I stay at home and watch our kid while he works. But lately I have been feeling like he loves me more than I love him. An...

I'm 40yo male and am coming up on 1 year of sobriety. I'm realizing when I left the drug scene I left more then just drugs behind. I had been using drugs full time for my entire adult life since I was 15 really. I was thrown out of the house I grew up in at 16 and left to fend for myself. I don't blame my parents for doing it they were at there breaking point. I had put them thro...

I have a wonderful boyfriend of many years and a wonderful  son whos 26 and has a 2 year old baby and a wife. My son was raised since the age of 5 with his dad on the other side of the country and the last few years he has been in the navy so he has now move d only about three hours from me. every other weekend I drive up to babysit my grandbaby while they are working. we have taken time off for...

so we have been together for over two months (roughly about two months and two weeks) and after the first month I started to notice strange things which didn't make any sense to me. since the relationship started (which i must point out she started it all off by asking for my number and also when i asked her "so what are we doing what are we" to her replying "i would like to th...

My husband had his prostrate removed 5 years ago. Sex as changed a lot as I no longer feel him in me. He as to use a pump device to get it ready for sex which can take about 10 minutes when he gets on me. I’m normally on top of him when he doesn’t use his device and I can only feel abit when he comes otherwise I feel nothing. I don’t get much pleasure at all. I can only get a orgasm when ...

I’m so unhappy in my relationship and have fell out of love, Iv felt this way for along time and I just can’t act on it. I hate confrontation Iv been close to speaking up but I always back down and think just keep trying it might come back but it’s really not what I want. Iv looked up advice online but I just can’t seem to follow through with it I’m so scared because I know it’s gon...

So like the title states , my husband and I have been married for 1.5 years and he is putting me thought it . He does rideshare for a living so he makes around 1000-1500 a week as a UBER driver . I work two jobs as a analyst and Help desk tech so I do make more money than him but I feel like I’m carrying on the financial burden of the marriage . I buy all the Groceries , toiletries , intern...

I am 30 m my wife 30 f had an affair 4 years a go we also have 3 kids together since 17. I have got over the thought of her cheating.My issue is now when we have sex I compare to the cheating was like. Examples Our sex life has always been rocky. She would complain it hurt or she was not into it for years. 4 years a go I read emails between my wife and her bf in the messages from my wife who told ...

Right now I am a single mom living on disability and working part time. I don't have my license and don't have help practicing to drive and I am not sure I can get my license on my own. I live in a small town in Saskatchewan with not many opportunities. I live in rent geared to income housing for now but when my daughter is older we will have to leave. My main fear is that I won'...

Hi. I have been dating the same lady for 5 years and before proposing to her but one little thing still exists in the back of my mind. A few years ago I had a colleague/friend who was a real womanizer and seemed to sleep with so many peoples wives. He had his own wife but openly cheated. He always managed to get everyone''s girlfriends/wives phone number and he was a total nigh...

Bit of a big story hopefully this will make sense Guy I’m talking about is my ex was with him for about a month originally went out with him as his mum and mine are good friends and met through them, I’m a shy person so can take a minute to warm up to someone, and having no friends and no social life I can be a bit awkward but once I get to know you I can be myself he expected me t...

Hi, I am a 47 year woman married for 27 years. My husband is a good man, but an extremely busy one. Im a reasonably good looking woman, people often mistake me for a woman in her thirties. I have a daughter who is abroad working. I am a professor myself but quit my job once I turned 45. Presently I teach kids for free from home. I stay in Chennia, India. My husband travels very frequently to J...

*PLEASE HELP ME* I’m halfway through high school and my main group of friends have become really different. They’ve started to gossip lots (which I end up getting roped into but I hate it) and they keep sharing all my secrets. Recently, I confided in one of my friends and told her that I liked this boy. I made it VERY clear that this was NOT to be shared. The next day at school, over ...

So lately all I've been thinking about in this 2 weeks is past issues especially involving my sister (twin). Years ago i regrettably was seeing this guy (only lasted 5 weeks). well my sister got involved she kept feeding this guy info about me sleeping with other guys,! which i really wasn't except once when we were taking a break, so my sister upon messaging him was suddenly making her ...

I used to talk to someone I used to work with over a year ago. I had actually matched with them through Facebook Dating. Ended up getting her number and we talked a bit more, to the point where we discovered at least some stuff we have in common. I stopped talking to her about a year ago out of fear of rejection (I have depression). I just felt like if things continued that something would go wron...

I have been with my partner 5 years we are expecting our first child together and we both have children from previous partners. At the moment we both are happy about the baby and we seem to be bonded because of that. But apart from that I sometimes wonder if he goes out of he actually seeing someone else We are hardly intimate anymore and worry he will do something. At the same time to escape...

Just been dumped by girlfriend, now she is saying I am irrational and never wants to see or speak to me again. She is the one who monkey branched back to her ex 3 days after we broke up yet it feels like I am in the wrong, is this just her way to make the break my fault ...

We were dating for 1 year and 4 months me (26M) my ex (23F), 1 month ago she broke up with me. I tried to find out why, she just stated that ist happy anymore and is uncertain of what shes feeling she said. I only regret the 4 mistakes that I’ve done in this time of relationship: 1. First mistake was I didnt introduce her to my friends. Which raised kinda a red flag for her. But there i...

I just need to let this out. So I've been hit the fourth time about a day ago. I really don't want to stay with him but I have to at the moment since we're both financially unstable and need a place to stay. I'm actively looking for something stable so I can be out ASAP. early this year I caught him sending his ex some cash so they could meet up. That didn't sit right...

Hello Everyone My boyfriend and I are together for 5 years. We had met through my mom, he was interested in me and approached my mom expressing his interest in me. At that time I was not interested in getting into a relationship due to college but I agreed to seeing him because my mom convinced me he is a good boy and serious. At the beginning he was very sweet, respectful and caring. Overtim...

Sorry for the wall of (con)text. A few years ago, I (25f) went to an overnight house party/campout with my best friend (27f) and her boyfriend (40m). We had been drinking heavily, and when I went to set up my own tent my best friend strongly insisted I just stay in theirs. She had me sleep between her and her boyfriend. I asked if she wanted to switch places, and she said no. So I'm trying ...

Before I begin,if you have read this, it's because I have posted this on another forum so I can get more feedback from it. Please be kind and think about the real people this is effecting. Thank you for taking the time to read this.  Background, my friend Tulip F24 and I F19 met this year in cosmetology (cos) school. Became friends, met her family and her boyfriend (John M24). Eventually,...

It frustrates me that men never ask me out on dates?...

Hello, I have a great boyfriend. Kind , loving , patient , caring the list goes on! He loves me dearly and would do anything for me and we get on well. However, I still chat regularly to my ex boyfriends friend who I was and still am attracted to! He messages me still and charms and I just can’t resist him. I want the thrill and excitement and there is such sexual chemistry but I feel he jus...

i have a twin sister, which we were quite close (not anymore), we are with each other 24/7, we used to argue alot, now we barely do as we not in each other's space, but when we arguing she always calls me fake or tells me what i enjoy watching or focusing on is not me (me being fake) especially as it's things we've done together and she loves assigning things onto me (like what i &q...

I wish my father was dead. I'd rather have a dead one than a fucking toxic one that makes me the one who wants to die. He is evil in every aspect and I do not care if it was because of his childhood wherein he was given away to his aunt while his siblings stayed with their family. That is his fucking problem and trauma to deal with. And why the fuck make your own family only to trauma dump to...

I've met a very important person when I was in 10th grade, back in 2012. I was 15 years old. I fell really hard and quickly for her, she was probably my first real love. We started as very good friends and we very much enjoyed each other's company. It was awesome, the quemistry was great and I knew I was feeling something really special for her, since I not only found her physically at...

Hello, I am in a bit of a struggle since 3 weeks ago. I am married and have two kids. My husband’s family has always been a problem in our relationship. They have never liked me and well his mom has done and said hurtful things. It has really affected me and I have become very resentful. Especially towards my husband who never defended me. Now after 8 years together and two kids he has kinda...

I began this day very happy. Then my female partner got out of bed. Her demeanour same as every day. Sour & Dull. I decide to chat. Telling why I'm happy after my bad day yesterday. Somehow? I honestly can't say how. She got angry very quickly. Was it something I said? No it is everything I say. An argument escalated at lightening speed. I'm sitting...

Hi, my boyfriend and i are on a break. We started dating officially at the end of May but we started experiencing issues. I noticed he started pulling away from me, i was barely getting messages or calls from him. I would barely see him maybe twice a month. There was no other women involved. It felt like he was taking me for granted. After giving him a couple chances to fix it, i just got tired an...

I have been in a relationship for 15 years, not married and had a child together pretty early. This is not a relationship I would had normally went for, I was on drugs pretty bad back then and making a lot of bad decisions. Never the less I always loved him, Even with addictions he did well taking care of us, he is a hard working man. Over the years I have gone to treatment and completely changed ...

Hi, I'm 65. I'm divorced but still spend time with my ex regularly because we have a son with health issues. I don't really feel much for him but we get along and are sometimes intimate. Recently, my first boyfriend, 67, from my late teens/early twenties contacted me on Facebook. He rang me a few times and we spent ages talking, as if we'd never been apart. He had loved m...

I was homeschooled my whole life. So I never got the chance to make connections in high school and college like most do. I literally have 0 friends. I can’t think of one person I could call to talk to or hang out with. When I try to make connections, I’m always putting forth all the effort and getting no indication I’m actually wanted around by anyone. Just a really crappy feeling and it’s...

I work for a large company , a man in his late 50’s who has absolutely no obligation to do so or management responsibility towards me has been acting as a mentor for around a year now.it started as a temporary thing but we have both agreed to continue it, to the point it just happens now. This started off innocently for me and over time I have developed some really deep feelings towards him. He ...

My Sister & I simply can't get along:( She is 57 & I'm 54 years & this will sound childish. Sorry. So much over the years I feel I've endured from her. Cheating on her husband with married men, promiscuity & flirting with strangers, AA, Lying/Exaggerating/Story telling. All men want her. Acting Holier than thou. Boho/Wild Spirit Woman/Love & Light/Retreats....

Myself and my fiance are getting married next year. We are paying for it all ourselves as my father passed away 20yrs ago and I don't speak to my mother. My partners family have already said they aren't putting any money towards it, they don't speak to me at all. We are doing it all on a very tight budget of less than £2000 but I know there are going to be members of hi...

Firstly please let me apologise for the length of this post. Sorry x.. I'm feeling really confused regarding a guy I'd been seeing.. We went on a date over several years ago and got on really well but we never went on a second date but friended one another on Facebook although never stayed in touch.. Fast forward to July this year and I received a message via Facebook from him sa...

On Monday, I'm going out with a girl I really like. We went out last year on a date, but nothing came of it because I was so smitten with her that I scared her off. Lesson learned. She has agreed to give me another chance. Any advice would be appreciated. And yes, I know I screwed up. What I'm looking for is encouragement....

I met here on FB. After 3 months I came to her to Kenya. We were dating for 3 months, she took me to the city where she raised, to introduce me to her family. Ive met her parents, grandma, siblinngs, cousins, aunts and uncles. We agreed to go to one place (mombasa) by a train and stay there for 5 days... So... We entered to train, I joined her little later, like 1-2 minutes coz Ive had bags. There...

Hi! My fiance and i broke up... Here comes the problem: We are have been engaged for a year and before that dated too and even before dating we are have been friends for 3 years. He always wanted to have kids and to build a family, so we are talked about having kids together, building our own little family. He is even bought baby shoes too. We are went abroad for a two week long work trip. S...

I've been married to my wife for 4 yours now. Things have always been near perfect before we got married, we never fought about anything, it was never necessary. After about 2 years we got married and things were still good. The problem started when we had our 1st child. My wife has asthma and hypertension so it was a high-risk pregnancy, but things went relatively smoothly. We were blesse...

When my friend from college met his wife, he became less available. I adapted, though it was difficult. I met a group of people from another town and got to know them well enough to stay over at theirs on nights out. I made individualised photo calendars for them over lockdown Christmas, they buy me birthday and Christmas presents and I buy them birthday and Christmas presents. Their Whatsapp grou...

My husband as been offered a sales job. The company is closer to home and he will still get paid the same amount of money. He as been looking for something that doesn’t involve long distance driving as he as done it for years. He is 56 years old. I’m worried he will meet someone new at his company and even thou we have been together 30 years married 26 and have 3 children together I feel i...

I'm married. Everything I do is wrong. Nothing I do for them is good enough. I have loved them beyond my personal self care or self love they can't see the sacrifices. I am always wrong. They never admit when they are wrong yet tell me they always admit when they are wrong. They say they are always blamed yet they are always blaming me. They go out of there way to make sure I go without ...

I've been with my partner for a year (F47 M50) I spend on average 3 nights a week at his. I'm spoilt rotten when I go there. When we're apart he messages and calls. Is constantly telling me he loves me, that I'm amazing, beautiful, sexy and clever, and that he's lucky to be with me. Sounds brilliant doesn't it? This is my problem. In the year we've been to...

My partner is the kindest man I've ever met, however, he shows all signs of having Autism and is on a waiting list. He is extrenely high functioning. He flips almost like he is bipolar from wanting a family and to grow together to not wanting anything at all. He gets upset and loses all feelings for me over the smallest thing as he said it causes him stress and he can't cope. He used to...

I haven’t cheated. I just flirt a lot. I’m trying to stop but should I tell him? I love him so much and I would never want to hurt him. Is telling him what I should do or should I just stop without telling him?...

So I've been friends with this man for a few years. We worked together, spent most of our time at work together, speak all day and night mostly everyday. The thing is he never invited me to spend time with him outside of work. He likes going out with his friends. He's not dating anyone but he won't offer to ever hang out and when I offer he has an excuse. I mentioned to a mu...

hi so umm, i want to preface this by saying i don't know much about relationships in general and absolutely nothing about age gap relationships. but essentially what has happened is that i met this guy (im too embarrassed to admit the means through which this occurred) and what started out as me asking for advice turned into staying up until 5am just talking. and he says things that he kn...

In 2020 my best friend got into a serious romantic relationship. I was surprised because I didn't know she was even looking for a partner, especially as we had been talking about moving in together. She knows that I'm not remotely interested in dating and had been planning to prioritize her as the main person in my life once we lived together, so to not even mention that she wanted a boy...

I've been dating a guy for almost a year. We are senior citizens and both of us have dated before. I am a widow almost 11 years and he's been divorced for 4 years after a 35 year marriage. We live 50 miles apart. Since meeting him, he has been encouraging me to move to his area. He loves his area and has a lot of nice friends (his grown kids live in the area too). While I really ...

please help. I am seperated from my wife for 3 years and she has a partner. our daughter is terminally Ill and we have been spending a lot of time together. I keep catching her looking at me and she always texts me at bedtime. What is going on? ...

Is this even a training issue? I know relationships take work and no one is a perfect partner because no one is a perfect human. However my partner misses the chance every time I present a bid for attention/love and it makes me feel like they genuinely don't care about anything I have going on in life. To top it off when roles are reversed his feelings are hurt if I don't catch his bids ...

I'm 26 years old female recently married 7 months ago. My problem is that my husband doesn't pay attention to me since we got married and he hardly wants sex. Before we were married, we had a good sex life and he would constantly be behind me for it and I would sometimes turn him down because we weren't married as yet. Ever since we got married I'm usually the initiator and Im ...

I have been with my girlfriend for less than a year. We are both in out early forties. We were recently having a discussion following something we saw on television about sexual partners. In answer to questions that i asked during the conversation she revealed two things that i am concerned about. The first thing is that one of her close male friends is also someone with whom she was "frie...

So this friend, I will use a made up name for them, for the sake of their privacy. We will name them Kate. Okay so Kate and I knew each other way back at high school, though we fall apart because I moved school. We reconnected through Facebook and messager, and our friendship started at a time when one of her parent's was slowly dying sadly. The friendship seem at the time for me wa...

Hello, this is my first time writing here it feels weird but I really need some counseling on how to deal with my situation with my friendgroup. I'm from a small town, so I have a friendgroup since school days. However recently many of them have some tension in between them because some arguments that happened. So now the group is not hanging out, making plans or talking by messages. I sti...

Hi guys, id like to have some of your opinions to my following problem: ive been with my boyfriend almost a year now and we moved in rather quickly after starting our relationship. and now, so for some weeks now, ive noticed emotional distance living in our flat with us, if i may say so. the past few months i have been under constant stress because of money. i have a gambling addiction...

A few years back I slept with my boss who got married during the duration. It carried on over a number of years which I regret. Sometimes I didn't want it but let it happen. Fast forward 3 and a half years after. I'm currently in a 2 year relationship, I opened up about my past to him. he has been finding it very hard to deal with despite not knowing me at the time. It has lead to m...

I started chatting to a co worker, he would text me every day, several times a day. It wasn’t just a ploy to get me into bed, it seemed genuine. He asked questions about me, asked my advice on decorating tips for his house. We met during a work event and later went to a restaurant. We ended up spending the night together. The text and calls continued. We met again, this time we spent the day...

How do I know when to just let go of a relationship or just wait things out. There is no physical or emotional abuse. In fact I caused the separation. I have apologized and told him how I really feel. What should I do? ...

Today, someone came into our workplace wearing a t-shirt that read, ...

Around five years ago I had a prostatectomy due to prostrate cancer, I have just ended a 25 year relation ship in which we have three children between us (plus one each fro a previuse relationship. I am now looking to finding another partner, but due to age (early sixties) and moving to a new location am finding it difficult to find some one, one solution is on line dating, the problem fo me is h...

I have been having mentail illness and boyfriend problems I came here to get advice...

To expand my question, my father were serving me raw chicken and they want me to eat it. It usually happens all the time. My father won't even allow me to go outside and made me stay in the house for 2 years. Even if I badly needed a haircut they won't even let me outside. They say demeaning words to me saying that I wouldn't be successful in the future. They even put something on m...

So I did go through my boyfriend's phone which I know is wrong but he was being fishy. I found out he was sending his ex fare to come see him and I confronted him. He said his ex claimed to be pregnant and he wanted to confirm this since she had refused to send proof. My problem is he lied. I asked why he sending fare and he lied saying that he loved me so much he didn't want to risk los...

I recently posted on the forum regarding my marriage. Things have changed dramatically since, I cancelled a holiday I booked for myself because my husband wasn't happy about me going alone. We've booked to visit Canada, now the truth has come out, he wants to go not gor a holiday, we'll be staying with his family and he'll be looking for a job and wants me to join him in mo...

So, I have/had this friend over the past 30 years. We have lived in the same town now for the first time since late last year. I am on long-term disability. He works a full-time job recruiting medical staff. Lately, he has been what I believe is very hostile towards me for no logical reason. He lashes out at me and I find it very abusive. He claims I am the abusive one. Here is what transpired tod...

Been an overall bad day. I wanted to BBQ spiedies (pronounced speedy's, it's chunks of marinated chicken on a skewer put on Italian bread with toppings, a dish I grew up with) for dinner. Asked my wife to pick up the stuff and I would make it. She bought some cheap pre-marinated (wrong flavors) chicken on skewers. Wasn't very good. And while this is a minor thing that I can certainl...

Please no judgement, I want to understand what is happening so that I can make the right choices. I met a man at work....we spoke a handful of times and he supported me on one occasion when I was having some difficulty with my employer. On my last day at work, I found him to tell him I was leaving that day, and he asked to keep in touch so we exchanged numbers. I thought nothing more about it, ...

A few months ago I had an argument with my mum. She basically implied that she didn’t like my daughter and questioned my parenting skills. In return I commented that I wouldn’t take parenting advice from her as 50% of her children have mental health problems. We apologised after calming down but I couldn’t shake what she had said. The next day she spoke to my sister (who I’m close to) and ...

Back in 2011, I added a guy on facebook and we talked for 4 years. I wanted to get into college. He was 4 years elder than me. We fell in love. It was the most amazing time of our life. However, I became suspicious. There were random girls on his account. He used to tell me I cant have my picture as a profile picture. Not even the picture of my hands. Nothing. He also told me that I cant add any m...

Hi there, this is my first time posting here and i hope you all can take some of your valuable time to answer me :) im F19 and he is m21, we've known eachother since 2016. We were friends then had a short dating period and had a fight and just drifted apart. We've recently started talking again and we are clear we are nothing more than friends. His birthday is coming next week and i...

My partner has asked for a divorce. We have been arguing for sometime now, the last time was when we was on a day out and I bumped into someone I knew, we was visiting a town together with his parents. He said that I planned this and wouldn't speak to me for 2 days, nor did he speak to his parents. I have a very difficult job and I work long hours and have had very little time off in 2...

Hey, I already made a post in another category about this problem last month, but I'm still kind of depressed because of it. My problem is that I'm a 17 years old male who is only 158 cm/ 5ft2 tall/short. I really hate being small, everytime I go to school every pupil of the younger years is a lot taller than me etc. My biggest problem is that I'm already insecure with girls, ...

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. Before this, we were friends for about 2.5 years. It’s been the healthiest relationship I’ve been in in a long time. For the past month, he’s been in another state for work. I flew out there for the last week of his month long stay so we could fly home together. He’d received some bad news, so I wanted to make sure he wasn’t...

I'm not sure what to do. My husband recently sold his business because he wanted to spend more time at home with the kids and to look after his sick elderly father (who lives in a flat on the ground floor of our home). I work from home full time, but it still feels like I do all the housework, child-raising, and act as the primary carer for his dad. He is trying to start an online business bu...

Hi, I'm hoping you can help me. I'm a Christian pastor, and there is a woman in my congregation who is my age, and single. I'm interested in her, and want to ask her out on a date. A couple of problems: 1. She's always busy with work, and 2., As a pastor, asking a member of my congregation out would be perceived as awkward and crossing a boundary. We connected nicely, but I&...

Hi Everyone, I am new here. I am having difficulty with adult friendships - namely fellow mums at school. I fell out with one of the mums early on and living in a small suburb with no other schools in the area means she is always at school and we have to see one another regularly. My issue is that I have made the effort to branch out and I have made other friends independently of her.....m...

PLEASE. I am 'Transmutation' previously. I need somebody to listen. Right now. Is anybody out there?...

I met this guy May 2021 and we started hanging out. He started pursuing me after a couple of months and I was upfront about my situation at the time but he never disclosed his side. We then started dating end of October 2021. I found out he had been talking to a girl he had fling with early 2021 which was okay with me until he started being shady about it. I later found out that a day before w...

Myself and my partner have put up with years of my sister in law doing ridiculous things that have cause us hurt or anger. She recently met a man and they've been going fast in sense of house babies etc. He seemed nice and we all got along fine. However in recent weeks they came to my partner (her brother) and demanded help with something in their personal life. They didn't listen to his...

Hello all, I would like some advice on how to go about dealing with and getting my power back as a result of having sex/relations with an older male when I was younger. (Being Taken advantage of) The story goes, when I was 16 I had the typical emotional problems that comes with being a teenager, I realized quickly I loved to drink to mask my problems from lack of affection from my father. I con...

Ive been in this marriage with my husband of 3 years. All was good in fact most days are good. But it's been months since our last time being intimate (I blame us for working 24/7) but it's because of this too I'm beginning to become less attracted to him sexually as a husband. He often assures me that he is still attracted to me but the hecticness & tiring life led us both t...

A friend of mine who I had always loved moved away to a different continent well over a decade ago. She got married had children and the only contact I had with her was through facebook. Her marriage broke down she ended up back in the UK. But she lives a long way away. But she got in touch and we started speaking a lot over a year and a lot of a lot in the final 4 months of lockdown. She was...

Hi everyone, Me and my husband met each other in 2015 and fell in love with . Met after a year and got married the next year. We both live in different countries and now we are finally together things are not working out. His parents were giving me hard time and I kept telling him. And now when he saw it himself he didn’t say a word. He didn’t support me at all. He even swore at me in front...

Hi, so I know what most are going to say "you don't deserve either" With that being said, I've been casually dating two guys the past few months and I've gotten to the point where I need to pick one or none. I know I can't keep stringing them both along. Let me start off by saying I am a 32 year old female. With that being said guy #1 is 8 years older than me...

Hi everyone, So I need advice… I have been in a on and off again relationship for the past two years. We have had our fair share of shit and always managed to work things out but we had a fight last night and now I’m questioning my own sanity and whether or not I am these things he said; Abusive Manipulative Narcissistic Crazy Bipolar Split personalty Victim mentality To...

My boyfriend has changed alot over the last few months - lots of new clothes, different shoes, very good mood all the time. We live apart but see each other on weekends, although in recent months he spends less time with me on those weekends. He sells alot of collectibles etc on Ebay and after viewing something on there he was talking about I checked his feedback as a buyer ( being nosey I s...

I’m curious to know if I have reacted far too sensitively. My colleague, who I work with every day, we have developed a close friendship over the last few years. He recently said he doesn’t message much outside of work anymore because his connection with me is always at work , therefore us messaging is like hearing from work. I thought and apparently meant more than that. He’s always said ...

I started out in this relationship for the wrong reasons, we were expecting a child. Then when everything in me told me not to stay, I staid, & to make it worse I married her out of guilt and a sense of responsibility. We were married even though I knew I wasn’t happy I couldn’t bring myself to leave that child & to have her grow up in a broken home from the start, or at least that...

I first wanted to start off with by saying that I have just turned 37 years old and it is starting to bother me that in my entire life I have had no friends. I was an introvert with social anxiety throughout schooling and college, so I kept to myself and never socialized with anyone and have always lived with my parents. My parents drilled in me that friends only cause trouble and they would never...

I, F(21) was dating this M(30), but he broke things off with me because he said he thought the age difference would cause problems in the future. We are currently fwb. I spent the night at his place Saturday and he dropped me off at home the following morning. As we were in the car he told me this “funny story” about a girl approaching him and telling him he was exactly the guy she was lo...

My wife has been chatting for about a year I think. She is 55 and although fairly prim and proper in public has a naughtyish side when she gets to know people. Chat rooms appear to have allowed her darker side full reign. I found her half dressed and with one of her toys on the desk with a much younger man on screen who was naked from the waist up. I said nothing and left the room only to hear he...

My wife of ten years has been battling depression for the last seven years or so and been taking meds and seeking medical advice for the last two and half  years. Recently, it has been exacerbated by work and she is really find it tough. She woke the other day and sobbed because she'd 'woken up'. I'm trying so hard to help her get better but I'm afraid it's starting ...

I like this person for more than 5 years already. We used to talk but suddenly we just acted like we didn't know each other. We would exchange glances or smile and that's it. For messages, we only message each other during birthdays and yes that's every year. We don't miss any birthdays. I sometimes think he's showing me mixed signals or motives that makes me think he like...

A decade ago my partner & I started writing a novella containing several characters. It was to be something we do together. Was supposed to be our very own entertainment, creation, fun & a secret pastime at home just for us. Over the years it has grown to quite the obsession. We role play into characters! However, the two main characters (Lovers Mirra & Pete with kids never married...

So, there is this common friend group that I have. I have met most people from it but due to the pandemic, we mostly meet in online video calls. The number of people on the call varies depending on everyone's schedule. There is this one girl in the group that was my senior and over the past few months, I started talking to her. We started talking about casual stuff like shows, work etc. but o...

Hello, I am reaching out here because my girlfriend is struggling with suicidal depression and I need advice on how to proceed in our relationship. Some background: this is my first relationship, we met in college, and have been together for five years. I found out early on that she suffers from this condition and it has continually persisted. Her depression comes in periodic waves. There ar...

This is my first time on here. I don't have anyone I can talk to about my husband. I find myself in a situation that I'm too ashamed to even confide in those I love and I just need some fresh eyes. My husband is cheating again. We've been together about 15 years and from day one he's had secret relationships with other women. How many of them he's actually slept with I do...

1st time here and discussing my issues because i just can't take it anymore. I am a 51 year old male. I am a 20+ year law enforcement officer, married with 2 children. My kids are doing great. I come from an educated middle-upper class family and live in a very nice neighborhood/home along with my 82 yr old mother. I love to golf, jog, fish, ride my bicycle, and watch baseball. My other i...

There's a girl who constantly stares at me all the time and when I look back she pretends like she was never looking. At first, it was kind of weird, and I started paying more attention to her. She turned out to be really nice, and I think I might in fact like her. She's not exceptionally pretty, but her personality and passions stand out. We share a common interest, but I don't...

Hello! Sorry if this is kind of long... I suffer from pretty bad anxiety, and recently a lot of it has been about me thinking of myself as a terrible person. Especially when I was younger, I feel like I was just really self-centred and only thought about myself. But the main thing that's really been bothering me is how I treated one person in particular when we were around 10-11. Basic...

Hi! I would really appreciate some advice on a situation I am facing at the moment regarding realtionships. I've always been a very mature person for my age, and that's why I've only pretty much been surrounded by friends older than me, cause they would match my level of maturity (if that makes sense). That being said, I met a boy 6 years older than me a few months ago. And I�...

Several years ago I started dating a woman with 3 children. We both had good paying jobs for great companies. Her ex basically provides child support and nothing else. 3 years ago she abruptly quit her job and asked if she could stay home for a year to which I told her we should be able to make it. Several disasters around the house occurred and she went into a spiral. We took care of that and tho...

I am looking for help in deciding on whether or not I should end my relationship. I have been dating a woman with 3 children for the last 4 years. When I met her things were great. I have a good job and she has a good job. Her ex husband is quite wealthy and does very little to help the children other than provide child support. 3 years ago she quit her job abruptly and asked if f she could take a...

My issue is I fell head over heels in love w somebody that didn’t love me.i gambled everything and it was and continues to be a loss.I spent 8 yrs trying to make it make sense.how can I feel so deeply for someone who never returned the love.I’ve been busy trying to rebuild but he’s on my lease in the apt he can’t pay for .I would be so happy to hear some advice.if you have stopped by to ag...

Hi everyone hope u all doing well... I am one to over analyze a lot and by nature pretty suspicious...Of late my girlfriend which I've been dating for almost a year now keeps asking me when she is gonna see me again..this never used to be the case so I don't know what to think if she wants to know exactly when I'm coming as we live 20 min drive away from each other which is not bad...

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 6 months, and he’s lovely. He’s everything I’ve ever dreamed of and more. We have beautiful times together and both feel it’s meant to be. He makes me feel like a princess, does really sweet things for me, makes me feel protected and loved and cared for. He makes me really happy and the last thing I want is to lose him. Unfortunately though, there are some...

—->TLDR: I lost myself due to mental health issues last year and selfishly took it out on those who meant the most to me. Completely ended our friendships. It’s been a year and I am still overwhelmed with guilt and regret, now that i have a better grasp on my mental health. Should i reach out simply to apologize? And if they’re willing should i try to rebuild that bond (even tho i know it...

I got married when I was 19years and my hubby was always good to me.He loved me so much that he promised not to ever cheat on me.when I was 3 months pregnant he lost his job and we decided to relocate in his upcountry. He opened his own pub and a butchery .He decided to employ a gal to work in the pub.He started coming home late and sometimes he would mot even pick my calls.By that time I was 8mo...

I’m going to start off by saying: I love this friend a lot, he means so much to me and I do not want to break off our friendship. What I am looking for here is an outsider’s perspective on our relationship, so I can correctly judge whether or not I should talk to him about it. Also, please let me know if i seem to be the one at fault here, so I can be a better friend to him. For the sake of...

I have two very good friends who have decided to end their marriage. I care about them both and they both know this. I enjoy their company but am finding it tricky living in the middle of their break up. I don't want to lose either of them from my life but recently found out the male is seeing another woman so soon after the break up and made the difficult decision to tell the female who ...

Just had another family gathering today. For my birthday. I turn 39 in a couple days. Amazingly, the shortest yet. I think we (wife and I) were only there 5 minutes. **A little history, to understand the dynamic. I'll keep it short. When I was young, my father had an affair. Causing my mother to go on a tyrannical warpath for years. Hated all men, and constantly punished all males for...

1.Solve problems without involving a third party No need to run for advice to parents, friends or anonymous people on the forum. You always know better what is happening in a relationship, since it is you who know all the circumstances of the conflict. Suppose you nevertheless turned to your mother for support and she agreed that your partner is wrong and generally a bad person. Only you and t...

So my ex (i guess)- and I were together from when I was 18 years old up until a few days before my 31st birthday. He dumped me. Yet still lives here with our kids and me. The oldest kid is only freshly 11 so it's not as if I'm fully against this living arrangement bc I would never forgive him if he went ghost on his kids, one of which didn't make it past her birth so she's in ...

So as the title suggests, my (M20) brother (M23) has been in a toxic relationship with his girlfriend (F21) for over 5 years now and they now want to move in together. I will start explaining the whole story from the beginning here. It's a lot to unpack, so my apologies for the (very) long read. 5 and a half years ago my brother came home with his girlfriend. She seemed nice, had some frie...

I need advice, as someone who isn't very good with words and also hates any form of confrontation, I need help in how to tell my partner something I know would 100% offend me if someone said it. Just to make it clear, my partners grandparents are absolutely incredible and I love them to bits, he classes them as his parents as his mother was not a nice lady and they took her to court to ge...

Hey, I'm just going to introduce myself first: I'm 16, female, I think I'm bi and am currently in the middle of a relationship crisis. So, a few months ago, I was desperate for a relationship, my mental health was really not great (thankfully it is now) so I decided to ask this girl who I know out. I didn't even have feelings for her and we had been friends for years. As soo...

This is going to be a really long post but I would appreciate if people would read it as I need a bit of advice and I do not know who to turn to about any of this because I feel embarrassed and stupid. I am finding it hard to trust my boyfriend and I don't know if I am the problem or if he is. Multiple times throughout our relationship we have had arguments about him texting his ex girlfr...

She’s very flirty in a joke way. We got on well from the moment we met and she’s been flirting with me non stop. Like, really. Pulling situations out of context, talking about how we got married today, and every one of our conversations has a sexual innuendo somewhere in there. But she’s like that with literally everyone. Her friends, my friends, our mutual friends. Everyone thinks she...

Hi everyone, apologies in advance as this is going to be a long one. Please stick with me I know parts of this are going to sound weird so I would really appreciate no judgement. So I am 29, I will have been married for 4 years this year, together for 9. We have a 1 year old child and a house that is bought in my husbands name. My husband is a kind, very hardworking man, who I know loves me ...

I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, in that time he has suffered a lot with his mental health (he has a diagnosis, takes meds and does therapy) The main issue is every few months he has such a low period that he doesn’t go to work. This has resulted in him losing jobs, having to do temporary work and once was a factor in a suicide attempt. I love him and want to support him but I am wor...

Going to make this as short as possible, so hopefully someone can give me insight. You can skip to the last paragraph for the minimum for the question. I have extreme anxiety and depression. I know my issues can only be fixed by putting in the work on myself. My question is how can I do this and still keep my boyfriend happy? A little background.I've put myself last and put his wants and n...

I have a friend who i’ve been friends with for nearly 2 years. We know each other in real life and play games with each other. We fell out last year as they were in a weird place mentally, and they would constantly trauma dump their problems onto me, and it seemed like they were trying to turn my friends against me by telling them i said i didn’t like my friends etc. But we became friends arou...

Hi Guys, So, I have a best friend whom I absolutely love. She has her positives and negatives. Let's call her Betty for the sake of this post. The issues started when I got to know that Betty cheated on each of her boyfriend. She would literally sleep with her ex while she went out with the new bf. It was just horrible to see what she did. I never said anything. Helped her in th...

I have this friend that I'm pretty sure sees me as just a friend, but I like her a lot romantically. I kind of half-confessed to her and I think she either thought it was pathetic or maybe thought it was a joke. As i was walking away I looked back and she was laughing at the note I had given her. We do joke-flirt a lot but I thought this was obviously something more serious. Now it's the...

When I was a teen, my dad used to hit me, and my mom believed I was not a good child. After years, I still can't forgive them, but I also feel guilty for that. I was always labelled as the worst child ever. The only good thing about me was my intelligence.My mom and sister told me every day that No one would ever like me because I'm just too strange. It still makes me cry thinking about ...

I don't think I've told this to anyone, not really used to wearing my heart on my sleeve, but getting it off my chest could maybe ease the pain and confusion a little... I know what I'm gonna say might cause anger in some.(You'll understand why as you read on) When I was 17 (I'm 24 now) I met a girl that would become my first actual serious girlfriend. We were both fin...

sucks to admit but ive found myself in yet another abusive relationshp..lately hes just been choking me really tightly & trying to put me to bed , thank god i havent passed out but i guess in a way you can say its my fault.. ive been doing dumb things & i know i need to run, its just im pregnant & i dont wanna do it alone .. you dont have to tell me to leave , trust me .. i will i just...

Anyway, I have a friend who is flaky and it's hit the point where I am just DONE with it. The last (of many) incidents came when he said he wanted to hang out over the weekend...then even after me texting multiple times about it, just ignored me. Then he completely "forgot" that we were going to the ballet together (I found another friend to go, luckily, so the tickets weren'...

I met my partner a year ago and was very explicit regarding what I want from a relationship/life. I want a true partnership, a family and monogamy is the only option for me, my mental health and self esteem couldn’t cope with anything else. He freely agreed to this and said all the right things, sick of the single life, wants a family etc. He had poly relationships in the past but said he didn�...

Married for 20 years and reasambly happy or so I thought as last 3 years my husband hardly shows any affection and last time we had sex was 3 years ago.i have asked him why and he just says I could live without it but it's really starting to affect me I feel like I'm in a loveless marriage. Am I been selfish? He has never flirted around women or anything which i have always found quite o...

I looked up an ex on Facebook after 13 years of breakup back in mid November and sent an email. She contacted me within 90 minutes and we real timed emailed back and forth for about 30 minutes catching up etc. By the end of November, we had emailed 2 more times, but not in real time. At the end of November, I emailed if she would like to talk on the phone instead and she emailed back to give he...

A good friend of mine in the UK has a bf of 18 months who can be very affectionate and loving, but when angry he tells her to shut up, grow up, F off, stop being a c**t. He won’t apologise for talking that way. He will give her the silent treatment too. I’ve tried to tell her it’s verbal abuse but she stays with him and accepts the treatment. I’d like to show her opinions from others that ...

I am a single mum since 2014. Have two children age 19 and 12. I’ve only had one relationship in this time since my marriage broke down which I recently ended. I really was smitten with him despite 19 year age gap. But there were problems from the start. My daughter (11) hated me dating as it was so foreign to her. My son wasn’t too happy either. My daughter was acting out a lot. The guy I was...

Hello, first of all English is not my first language so I’m sorry if I make mistakes. So I’m 20 yo, 3rd year of college and I’ve never dated before. Not only dated but even got into a close romantic relationship, never had a kiss before and never flirted… A lot of my friends with the same age already got into a relationship or even date at the moment, and that makes me feel kinda left ...

My wife and I have been married for over 7 years and have small children together. Since having kids, we've had lots of marital issues and stress. During a very rocky stretch a couple months ago during which she said she wanted a divorce, I learned from a recorded conversation that she was cheating last winter. It sounded like she cheated just for sex and broke it off when the guy stated he w...

Me and my boyfriend have been exclusively dating for about a month. We met on a dating app where we had both being dating around prior to each to meeting each other. I am absolutely crazy about him and have been invested in him since we went on our first date, there was an instant connection from the beginning. I was on two different dating apps before we met, and I deleted them both (or so I ...

OK. I have been in love with a certain celebrity (much older than I am) since I was 8 years old. I kind of met him recently, and we began cyber-flirting. It was a dream come true. But, then he became mean and dumped me and said that it would never work. I cry every day now. I grieve not only for the loss of him, but because I have wasted all my my life loving a man who doesn't want me and...

I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year, and I still haven’t met his friends or family (other than his flatmate). He’s met both mine and it makes me feel sad and excluded from a large part of his life. I told him a few months ago how it makes me feel and he promised I’d meet them soon, but so far nothing. His parents and the mother of his child don’t even know I exist. I appreciate h...

I've been with my partner for nearly 20 years. However a few years back curiosity got the better of me and I had sex with another man. Ultimately I decided that this wasn't what I was looking for and have not done it since. However it seems the past has come back to haunt me as I have tested positive chlamydia. I know that I must tell my partner about it. Of course I'm scared of the...

So I know I may get some hate for this but just to be clear I DID NOT KNOW HE WAS WITH HIS WIFE WHEN I MET HIM. for reference, I am a 26yo female and the man in question is 33. We met online in March 2021 and started seeing each other in person in early April. I am in a happy and committed open relationship with someone, and the person in question (who I will call Max from now on) and my par...

I (36M) have known this girl (31F) for over 6 years. We were roommates at first, had not met before. We hit off pretty quickly and became intimate at some point, about a few months after I moved in. We would grab a bite to eat or go to the movies, I really liked her but only as a friend, and sex was great so we kept that going for a few months. She then confessed she had feelings for me so I w...

Hi Guys I am trying to get my mind in gear would welcome honest advice and not judging me on what I say. I have started a New Job,in this pandemic World there are social policy's in place IE face mask to be worn at all time. staggered lunches most eat lunch in our cars. I have become friendly with a women in work,she is seeing someone,I am also living with someone. Attraction has grown...

Hey everyone! So I have some problems with me and my "gf" relationship. I really like this girl and she likes me (We both admitted to each other over snap), once I asked her if she sees me as her bf and she asked if I saw her as my gf and I said yes and I quote she said "Oh, then I see you as my bf". She's a very open and friendly girl and has a lot of friends. However one...

Hello. I'm 22 years old girl, living in a ordinary-modern society. 2 years ago I met my boyfriend. This is my first romantic relationship. We like each other very much. But when my parents met him, they didn't like him. They think he's weird and not for me. My family isn't best in the world. My parents were always overprotective. In the house, it was never quiet, al...

I apologize if this is quite long but I was rather confused about the state of my relationship. I met a guy off of an app 3 months ago who’s pretty much my gender bend. I was looking for friendship as to where he was looking for friendships and romance. We had started talking on the phone and were completely obsessed with each other. We would spend nights and mornings on the phone and FaceTi...

Hey everyone and thanks for reading. Hopefully this won’t be too long… Was seeing this guy for 7 months… gave me a ring after 1 month of dating… gave me $10,000 to pay off my car, planning a house to build with me. He bought a truck and camper and it was placed in my name. We went on plenty of trips , but then we break up 2 months ago. I start to miss him so I reach out to him to talk...

I'm early 60s and in a new couple month old relationship. My significant other has 2 children late 30s who are married and on their own. I have been told and shown that they will always come first. I dont need to always be first, but I would like to feel like I am not always 3rd place. Everything else about the relationship is good. Should I move on or wait it out hoping for it to get bette...

So my now ex girlfriend split up with me over a month ago, now I don’t know if this is because my previous relationships have been pushed and I’ve ended up disliking my other exes before her but I’m really confused as to how I’m feeling on it all. Basically the reasons she gave to me where our arguments that got quite bad over the last month or so- but I had believed it was just a phas...

I have an ex-coworker who wants to have a picnic with me in the park. She has chosen to not receive the Covid-19 vaccine. I don't feel safe being around her because of this. How can I decline the picnic invitation without offending her? ...

While I have dated divorced men in the last several years, I have never had the issues I'm having with my current partner. We've been seeing each other for about 4 months and while he seems very interested in me and makes efforts to see me regularly, I feel like he has one foot in his prior marriage. He has been divorced for 3 years after a 34 year marriage and has told me his ex asked...

When my ex ended things she wanted to remain friends but I choose not to.. she seemed a little taken back by this and an argument broke out lasting on and off for a week.. it ended up in her blocking my mobile number.. I felt a little bad knowing I had upset her threw things I had said during the argument and wanted to apologise.. I used Facebook to contact her and apologise, she thanked me...

Going to start again. I am in a relationship that I am planning to leave. I am in love with one of my partners friends. We have flirted for a year, even snuck in a couple of kisses. Eventually we had intense and fantastic sex, but now he has gone away for 5 weeks and won’t talk to me. I don’t know whether he is wanting to finish it? Whether I imagined we were both in the same space? Whether I ...

I was great frends with a guy who is married with kids and last summer it got a bit more where he started sending videos and photos and I started sending them back then as well. We were enjoying the flirting and he’d ring me a few times a day and we’d be constantly texting until early hrs of morning. At first we had no intentions of having sex but then started discussing it and I where it co...

I really want to move on. I have no idea what I can do to move on from this relationship in which I wasn't even loved. After breaking no contact we argued again i thought he wouldn't reply anymore so I typed in a last goodbye. He didn't reply and i lost all hope. Next day he sent a good bye message as well and he told me he only loved the idea of me. And at the end of the day he d...

There's this friend that I've known for a long time now and we'd hang out and message each other from time to time. We even went out once years ago but it didn't amount to anything. Recently, we reconnected and we had good conversations, fun and we'd message every day. One day, I decided to flirt a bit more obviously and "shoot my shot" and while he responded tha...

My ex Boyfriend ended things months ago. He has fought for us to be friends, even when I have wanted to run away. he would always txt me, every day. For the past 2 weeks he has suddenly become distant and cold. he still messages me, just not daily, and when he does its short conversations or yes, no answers. He will not tell me where I stand, and he knows I still have feelings for him. I'm co...

so basically been with someone for 5 months now, but there’s this 1 girl i met for one weekend a while back an i just can’t stop thinking about her and what she’s up too n etc, in very happy w my girl and i know she’s good for me. i just don’t know why i keep thinking about this certain one :/...

Hi. I'm a boy 23, I have a friend that we are so close to each other. since last year I had some feelings for her. I feel comfortable around her, she is cute and has a great personality. last year I asked her if we could be in a relationship or not and she told me that she don't want to talk about it. At that time we weren't close like today and she was broke up with her last rela...

Men don't ask me out or approach me....

Hi, I'm 16/F. I'm afraid I have to begin this post with a confession. Back during summer break, I was responsible for a car accident that severely injured two people in the other vehicle involved. I was lucky enough to walk away with some bruises, but they had to be taken to the hospital in an ambulance. The accident was a result of the fact that I'd been texting while driving and a...

There's this girl I like and she likes me too but I'm Unable to talk to her because I'm scared she might not want me to talk to her so I need help please...

My husband has decided that since last week, he doesn't want to go to my parents for xmas dinner. He said that myself and the kids can go without him. He has decided that he doesn't want to be around my family anymore. He thinks they don't like him which is completely untrue. The problem is that my parents and siblings are all looking forward to us all being together at xmas as ...

My husband and I have had the same issue for years. I have always felt like his family mistreated me. His mom would say we would t last, that I wasn’t enough for him, and that I was going to take advantage of him. This treatment has stopped since I gave birth to my first son, because my husband is afraid I will leave him and take his son away. IHe grew up without his dad so his relationships wit...

So before I get into great detail I am struggling with the end of a 4 year relationship and it's going on 10 months. I know time and no contact are big helpers but the no contact is almost impossible because we work very closely together. Any advice you have would be greatly appreciated or if you'd like more information I'm happy to supply it. Thank you!...

Im growing increasing frustrated with myself when it comes to relationships. I havent had many relationships and feel like I suck or settling for the wrong men. My first relationship was at the age of 23 met my sons dad and fell head over heels for him. Only for us not workout, we both had a play in this. But I remember not being happy or appreciated in this union. I decided to date opposite of hi...

I'm really missing her even though she manipulated me and broke my heart, I seem to miss her more as the days go on. We were firstly in a relationship about 6 years ago, we were together for around 8 months and things were going well until I found out she was engaged. One of my friends found out and when I confronted her she denied it but I found out it was true after seeing him on her socia...

I've been thinking about divorce a lot recently. I love my husband. We've been married for almost 9 years, together for 13, and friends for nearly 20. I'm 33 and he's 39. He's gorgeous, funny, and intelligent. We have an amazing daughter and he loves her unconditionally. The problem is he's changed. He's become lazy, but I think that's likely just a symp...

I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year, and we’ve been living together for 4 months. tonight I got to bed when he was already asleep and put my head on his shoulder. He god mad at me for waking him up and was rude to me. This isn’t the first time this happens. Recently he got mad at me when I adjusted our blanket at night because that also woke him up. I feel like I always have to be sc...

So since becoming single I’ve been dating a few women but one in particular i just have that connection with. We have such a buzz . Same sense of humour, banter , morals, outlook , and have the same huge sex drive. But thing is I’m 36 and she’s 58. Now I don’t care , my mates think I’m mad as I could quite easily date a younger girl but I’m not that shallow and her friends think she’...

I need an honest opinion from the outside. So my husband is a funny guy. Very quick witted. That's one of the things I love about him. But, sometimes he makes jokes that seem to be at my expense. Then when I tell him he hurt my feelings, he says he would never purposely hurt my feelings and is just trying to be funny. Tell me what you think...so we are on the phone with his brother to w...

As I type this, my mum just asked “who’s that?”, I asked “who’s what?”, she replied “who are you typing to?”… I’m 22. I work abroad for around 6 months of the year on super yachts, I’m an only child and my parents are divorced however my mum has had a partner for the past 15 years. To say the least, she is obsessive, highly sensitive and controlling. She will say “I don’t...

I am 28 and my child is 2. I've started dating someone (I'll call him "Joe".) Joe has spent a bit of time with my child and myself, but he has spent no time at all with my child and my mother at the same time. Recently, my mother babysat for free so I could go on a bike ride with Joe. When he and I got back, my mother was sitting in her parked car with my child while my chil...

So, my gf broke up with me about two months ago. For the first two weeks I begged and pleaded, and to no avail, nothing good happened. I stopped imitating contact, and the next week she came over for a “late night” saying that that’s all that it was and to think nothing more. So I went no contact. 3 weeks after no contact, she asked me on two separate occasions if I was dating someone new...

I've been working for a small company in an office building for the last two months. Soon after I began, I became friendly with a woman who works for a different company in the same building. It started out as friendly workplace banter, small talk kinds of things whenever we would run into each other around the building. For the last two weeks or so, I've noticed that her interactions...

Hi all, Maybe you all think I am crazy, too oldfashioned, too intolerant, but let me explain what my "problem" is. I am currently in a relationship with a woman that I really love. Due to Covid and other personal reasons in our lives, as of now we cannot live together - we come from cities about 100 kilometers apart - so it is basically a long distance relationship. As of now th...

I am on the mind set of breaking up with my boyfriend of 2yrs but I'm struggling to come up with the idea of how to do it. The many factors are because 1. we live together 2. i don't hate him in fact i love him very much 3.Due to health issues, he has been relying on me, which is not a problem for me at all. I don't wish him any harm. I just simply lost all trust in him over th...

When I went back to work after 5 straight days of being off and I said hey to this guy he fidget tell me that he missed me....

Ok I f30 dating a m54 for 3.5 years. He has been finding it more difficult to finish the last three months. Blamed tiredness, age etc. Found out today he’s watching porn 3-5 times a week. I’m not against porn. I’m also a filthy freak in bed, attractive, and willing. Am I being dramatic asking him to reduce it to get some of the intimacy back in our relationship? ...

I broke up with my partner of 16 year's 3 months ago,since then a family member has said she saw my partner chatting up a young girl in our local shopping centre,but she didn't say when this happened just that it was during the time we were together,when I asked the family member for more details she's not admitting she said anything about it,which now makes me look like a liar,my a...

Hi. I am having several issues in my relationship and would just like some insight, maybe advice, and just a place to vent a bit. Sorry for the really long post. So My fiancé and I have been together for 8 years now. We got together young at 19 and had our first child a year later. We now have two children together. Our relationship definitely hasn’t been the easiest and often times has be...

I’ve been married for 14 years. Is it working ? NO NO NO. Why ? Because I failed to “fully” understand how my wife life was between ages 2 yrs old until 19 yes old. My wife was raise by the foster care system. During her first 19 years she did receive the following (as building blocks for a successful life. - was never loved, seen love, felt loved, and no good role model th...

Hi all, this is a long thread so please bear with me. I was in a relationship with a girl about 6 years ago, we were only together for around 4 months and things were going well until I found out she was engaged. One of my friends found out and when I confronted her she denied it but I found out it was true after seeing him on her social media so I deleted her off everything even though she tried ...

Last week I created an entry under the above title. I explained that my wife of 25+ years wad headed to New Orleans for a three day business trip and she had very casually said she wanted a "Hall Pass" while away. Needless to say, I was floored and as the days passed, rather frigidly I might say, my wife realized I was not a happy guy and she became very attentive and over loving. Not...

I am growing increasingly infatuated with my boyfriends best friend (let’s call him Alex) and I don’t know what do! I don’t know if it’s a crush or if I’m just lusting after him, all I know is, it’s becoming way too much. I’m beginning to think about him all the time, especially before bed! I am finding myself spending hours concocting far fetched fantasies about him. My bo...

My boyfriend wants me to hike with him, but when I do, he always brings his dog. The rule of the trail is dogs must be leashed in the parking lot and can be off leash on the trail if they don't touch people or jump on them. His dog is not trained at all, and that is the way he likes his dog to be. He lets his dog touch people and jump on them, which embarrasses me very much. Yesterday...

My wife and I have been married for 25+ years. Two beautiful girls in college. Empty nesters. Our sex life has picked up considerably and we seem to be more in love than ever. My wife is going on a business trip in a week. Three nights in New Orleans.Last night she asked me if I'd consider giving her a Hall Pass for the trip.I am stunned, angry, humiliated, and depressed. What can I say. I ha...

A while ago, I dated this guy. Our relationship was great, everything was fine. Until, you know, he breaks up with me. I couldn't tell you for the life of me why he did, but it happened and it sent me to a dark place. I did slowly get out of the ditch I fell into, but it was a painstaking process. I recently got a girlfriend and we hit it off right away. Our relationship is going better than...

Help I need some advice on my ending relationship:( ...

I have this girlfriend who I’ve been going out with for a few months, she initially made the first move on me and wanted to make it official So I decided to give it a chance. Everything was all fine and good we used to talk on the phone every single day for hours and all of a sudden one day she said we shouldn’t talk on the phone every single day we should limit the amount of times we’re on...

I have been married for 25 years with a man that shows me much affection and tells me he loves me every day. On the other side of the coin he can become a beast when comfronted or asked for an explanation. This is how our arguments always escalate. Behind my back he portrays me as a crazy lunatic. He has 3 sons now 37, 35 and 32. We have one 26 yo daughter together. He has turned his kids against ...

Ok so I have been single since February and I’ve been doing some online dating through tinder since then. I met my ex (together for 3 years) on tinder so I’m hopeful that I will find something new on there. At the end of September, I matched with this guy and we’ve been talking since. We’ve gone on multiple dates and I’ve even stayed over for a night at his place. We have really good...

Hello, I'm in such desperate need of honest input, as the last few months I feel overwhelmed with suspicion and the fear I'm becoming delusional. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years all in all he's a good guy he works hard and is a pretty good provider. However lately something feels really off. He seems very detached as if our relationship is the furthest thing from...

Me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 3 years. We moved in together about 7 months ago. When we first got together she was a smoker. It didn't bother me too much despite never being a smoker myself. Without any influence from me she has made several attempts to quit but failed. Since we have moved in I've found that I'm struggling to deal with the smoking. I know it...

I was in a 4 year relationship with a guy I met online. We both wanted to marry each other but the circumstances didn't work in our favour. Now, I'm married to someone else. But I miss my ex. It's been 2 and half year's of our break up and 2 year's of my marriage. I feel like I rushed the marriage because I wanted to move on. My husband is a kind, gentle man but my...

A friend introduced me to her best friend and he seems to be closer with me. We hang out a lot and now she's often rude to me. She’s always busy, so him and I have been hanging out while she’s away. When she sees us she’s often cold to me or won’t speak to me unless I speak to her. She treats him the same though and tries to isolate me whenever she gets a chance to. I’m not really h...

My husband unexpectedly passed away from a heart attack 2 months ago. We had only been married for 9 months. We had only been together for less than 2 years. Prior to meeting him I had been a single mom if 3 kids for 7 years. One of the first guys I ever dated after my divorce and not dating for 6 years I really fell hard for but the timing was way off. He reached out to me after my husband�...

I have been seeing this guy for 2 months he just got out of a 20-year relationship because he cheated on her throughout their 20-year relationship. He said he changed that he will never cheat on anyone ever again. I believed him at first but it is hard to trust him when he is always making jokes about him being with other girls. He keeps saying we need to split up so that I could work on my jealou...

I have been married 20 years. I recently found out that my husband has secretly been chatting and flirting with women in internet chat rooms. He tells these women how beautiful they are, or how sexy they look. He evan told 1 girl that in his eyes, she was the perfect woman. Things he has never told me, evan before we were married. He has sent photos of himself to these women (fully clothed), and w...

He’s married but left his wife and 7-year-old for faraway job - says he just felt like it, for $/selfishness/ freedom, and his family cried for him to stay but he ignored. He’ll go back whenever vacation time allows, but it’s really far so that’s every few months. I said well something must have been wrong in your marriage, there was some reason you left, and he insists nothing at all. S...

Please I need advice on this matter. I have been in a relationship for 6months, it was wonderful. I got to experience love and I loved back whole heartedly. We talked about a future together. We were both in our finals in school and lockdown got us chatting and falling in love eventually. After final exams,my boyfriend went back home which was still in the same state. I was yet to go home becau...

Okay so the long and short of it is that I deleted my social media so that no one could get a hold of me unless they had my email. I have been having issues with drama in the community I was hanging out with and I just can't handle the stress and bullying because I don't believe everything they think. Also it's filled with three year old drama like picking sides. I hope one day ...

Please bear with me; this is going to be a long one... A bit of context: Hi, my name (for the purpose of this forum) is R. I am 22 years old and am feeling particularly conflicted at the moment. I am wondering if anybody could give me some advice on this situation and I am completely lost. When I was 9 years old, my mother took her own life. There was no one major cause of this; she was a...

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 8, we have. 3 year old son together. Our relationship was fantastic to begin but after the birth of our son I feel it went south, I gained around 80lbs that I have struggled to shed due to PCOS and my poor diet (not gunna lie) and our arguing increased. Around 5 years into our relationship he got a new phone and changed his password so I didn’t know it ...

My ex broke up with me 13 years ago. We drifted apart, and it was amicable. My long time girlfriend/life partner (10 years) passed away a few months ago. We were never ones to be on social media, but I have recently set up an account and saw that my ex has an account. Is it ok to send her a message just as a friend to see how things are going? I have no idea of her relationship status and I am ...

Today is day 5 without my partner by my side. I miss him, but I don't want to hurt anymore, and my 12 year old daughter is so over him. It also hurts because I feel like I'm torturing him. He wants to come home and be with his "family" (He's staying at an hotel right now), but there's so much tension still, everyone thinks it's best for us to just let it go, beca...

I broke up with my ex in may this year, we hadn’t been close in quite a while, I was very unhappy, he was unwilling to work with me to make things better. We were together 13 years. We have 3 children together ages 5, 3 and 9 months. I moved out temporarily to my mums until I can find suitable housing. I started chatting to an old friend whilst I was going through the separation and we have gott...

I am a teenage trans boy with ADHD and I've been falling behind on school. My parents are understandably upset but I think that they are taking it too far. My dad has gotten better with handling me over the past years, but it feels like my mom just doesn't care anymore. Every time I am trying to work on my current homework she gets mad at me for not working on the missing stuff, but when...

Recently I was really depressed due to a few different things. My mum passed away 3 months ago and even thou I never saw her for years it still hit me. I dont trust my husband and have issues in our marriage due to it and we recently returned from a holiday and the depression hit me so hard when I got home because all our holidays were over and there is nothing else to look forward to and because ...

Hey, dwellers of peoplesproblems. Hope you're all doing well. 16M, going on 17. Girlfriend is 16. Recently, I got into an argument with my father. This argument escalated into a more intense than usual situation. As I was driving with him trying to get some final hours in for my driver's test (which was supposed to be today), I did my best to respectfully point out that he was con...

Hi, I am driving myself mad here and need advice. After 20 years my marriage broke down and I've been on my own quiet happily for the last 9 months. I don't do dating websites or anything and although I felt it would be lovely to meet someone I wasn't going to go looking. 3 weeks ago a man messaged me, thinking I was someone else (probably clever line) anyway we got chatting and...

I need some advice for my best friends. They are both early 20's. They have found out that the girl in the relationship is pregnant. She is against abortion. The boy has expressed strongly that he thinks its best for her to have an abortion. He has been depressed since finding out because of not feeling ready and also feeling like having a child now will ruin his life. She is now stuck as to ...

Started seeing someone I’ve know through a friend. After going out to a restaurant a got word from some folks that I he has had a troubled past with money and relationships (taking money from his prior spouses). Also heard from a friend who was out with him and some other folks that he was bragging about his sexual conquests and talking about a woman’s breasts in the same room at the restauran...

so.. I was with someone for four and half years. I split up with her because I thought she would be better off with out me because i was so worried about hurting her. she was the most amazing person and I regret putting through what I did. Its been over a year since we split and all I've done is think about her and wonder how she was getting on. each day has been a fight within my head trying...

My boyfriend of 6 years wants to explore his possible bisexuality. He wants to do this with me. I have no desire to have a threesome as much as he feels this is important to him. Can I get advice and outcome stories from people in or behind similar situations? I don't want any ...

Years ago I fell in love with the perfect girl and she still is my "crush" today. Back then I WAS her crush too,but I was filled with anxiety, fear, insecurities (dont have a good impression i suck at studies+sports, dont have friends and i am ugly af) and i never really had the courage to ask her out or even start a conversation with her . She "moved on" and has had a few ...

Dating a good friend of one of my exes. My ex and I broke up a couple of years ago and he has been with somebody else ever since. However, I recently heard he still has feelings for me but I have no feelings for him whatsoever. The friend I’m dating decided to tell him that we’ve been going out so we didn’t hear from somebody else and leaders to say he was very unhappy. He also told the man ...

I am in a happy relationship and have a small circle of friends and life is overall thriving. A few years ago I was in a long term relationship with my now ex and through our social group met a girl same age as myself. I didn’t really like her at first impression but my partner at the time got on really well with her and they quickly became friends. After a couple of months and seeing her...

Ive been with my now ex boyfriend for a year, we had just celebrated our 1 year anniversary one month ago and both our birthdays 3 weeks ago which we went away for and had the best time ever. A week ago he asked to talk and told me over the last 2 weeks he didnt feel the same anymore and he doesnt know why but he cant lead me on so he wanted to end things. I was completely devastated especiall...

Been together 11 years, married for 5. Two kids together, plus one from him with a dysfunctional baby mama past. Never went on our honeymoon- or any vacation really other than tent camping. He works a lot…. I see him maybe two hours in the evenings before I fall asleep and on Sundays. I miss him all day and feel sad and loneliness, when he comes home I display resentfulness which cause a mou...

I have been with my husband for 4 years (married 2). He is the only person I have ever dated/kissed/had sex with. Recently I've been having feelings for a good friend of mine who I didn't meet until after I started dating my now husband. I don't think this friend has any idea about my feelings for him. I love my husband, I really do, we get along great, he makes me laugh, and...

My fiancé and I have been together for 11 years and our wedding is in 3 months from now. Almost 2 years ago, I got caught by my fiancé in a porn addiction, which led us to seek counseling and work out our relationship. All the counseling has made me learn how emotionally abusive she has been towards me in our years together, which is what led to the porn addiction. Lately, I have been strugg...

My partner and I are both female, in our 50s and live together. We've been in a relationship for about a year and a half. Last Friday night we had plans to go out for the evening and we got into an argument. She took off and wouldn't tell me where she was going or what time she would be home. I was really upset. I texted her a little while later and told her I'm going out and I ...

I’m scared of a phone call with a friend because he might find out I’m unfortunately a girl. So I (girl,16) met this guy (same age) online on a website to find friends and we’ve been texting for months. He always tells me he wants to call me and talk on the phone and that’s a good idea because it’s faster than texting and “really talking” will make the friendship stronger, won’t...

HI, Im 40 years old, lived a very successful life as i have dedicated my like to business so have sacrificed marriage and children for the good life which I have enjoyed every minute. I have always been attracted to the older man, 6 years ago i was in a relationship with a very attractive, very good honest man who was only 15 years my senior, everyone accepted him and it was the first time I sta...

My husband and I found out we lost what would have been our second baby when I was 3 months pregnant last October. It was a really hard time for both of us, a massive shock, and the saddest thing we’ve experienced. I struggled to accept it and spoke to a counsellor/therapist to try and find a way that I could come to terms with had happened, and help me deal with my grief. Nothing helped, and mo...

Last night I had dinner with my husband. There were six tables on an outdoor terrace, each table with a M/F couple. It was very windy and I noticed the wait staff offering several women a shawl towards the end of the evening. I was having a great night when I looked around and noticed that every woman at each of the other five tables was wearing a restaurant-provided shawl except me. At that momen...

I've been with my bf for about a year and a half and even in the beginning, I wasn't feeling too excited about him but I wasn't in a good place and I probably shouldn't have been dating but I was isolated and wanted some human interaction and this was right when the pandemic and the lockdowns hit. I always hoped that maybe I would get to know him better and change how I felt. ...

My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years. Two years ago he cheated on me, left and bane back 5 separate times for the same girl. Pretty quick after the final tube he went to jail for 6 months where he proceeded to tell me I was his everything and his wonderful things would be when he got out etc etc etc... He got out and things have changed some, I have access to all his accounts (at leas...

A few months ago, my wife and I invited a male friend and a female friend to our home for dinner and drink. After dinner, the 2 women were drinking wine and we were drinking beer. An hour later, the male friend offered THC gummies to my wife. She never did drugs but she took 3 gummies and 3 pieces of chocolate (no one else took it) 40mg in total. Another hour later my wife got high and horny. She ...

I could really use some help. Please don't hate instead. Pleae read till the end. I'm 21 and am in a relationship since 16. Everything was fine until 4 years ago when we suddenly realised my boyfriend's parents had run into debt. He was in his freshman year of college and had started looking for ways to earn money, giving up his plans to continue his education abroad. I joined...

Hi im new here and looking for advice or a extra pair of eyes to look in on why im feeling suffocated and feeling resentment towards in laws especially mil. Not married but have been with partner 8 years. We have a happy little life from the start his mother has never left us in peace. She used to turn up uninvited and we owuld be running around trying to tidy things up hiding stuff we didnt wa...

About a year ago my sister and I bought a house together yes we were thinking about fixing it up and selling it and maybe doing another one we are both retired so it’s not a problem for us to spend time doing that. So After we found a house in another state I went down to stay in the house while my sister sold her house and cleared out. She Call one day and told me that she had met someone and t...

My ex broke up with me last week, Iv fine the usual asking if but when how etc.. she’s just saying she didn’t see a future despite being engaged to be married.. Trouble is she keeps telling she loves me, misses me and think I’m wonderful followed by but it’s best we split up.. I think it’s a little cruel she keeps saying those things considering she knows I love her and want her...

My (former) best friend abruptly ended our decades long friendship after I invited her to my wedding. She never congratulated me. I had a feeling something was wrong but I didn’t want to assume so I waited for her response. Weeks later she sent a long message that blindsided me (there was a lot more said that is not on this list): - she was no longer going to talk to me - she couldn’...

I'm a 30 year old woman, and after several bad dating/relationship experiences, I've become thoroughly disillusioned with the idea of finding a decent partner or falling in love again. I would love to fall in love and settle down, but after so many false starts and toxic relationships/dating experience with the wrong people, I fear I won't ever find "that person" to settle...

So I have a friend I’ve known most of my life, but we start messaging and talking around 3 years ago when I split from my ex. This was purely on a friendship basis, as he was in a relationship, however we spoke most days, mainly just random chat. When he split from him ex about a year ago, the flirty banter, sexual innuendos started, just cheeky chat, again nothing serious. Recently that’s cha...

Looks because I don't have a boyfriend? Because I might be rated to be way below a 0 or rated to be a 1. ...

Hi Everyone, My husband and I have been married for 8 years. My husband is a wonderful man I've ever known and I am very thankful of having him as my husband. I really don't know how to start this but, In our early years of marriage, it doesn't matter if I wear sexy lingerie or not. But later in our marriage, this becomes mandatory before making love. He started to buy my s...

I want to preface that both of these people mean the world to me, and I have sat on this problem for months since it happened because I didn't want to act too rashly. Let's set the scene: after 7 months of deployment, my boyfriend finally came home. I was incredibly anxious and excited. Without my knowledge, he was coming home a month earlier than planned, and was planning a surprise ...

I have been with a guy for the past 3 years, and ever since he has always been very laid-back. I didn't mind it since I didn't want a boyfriend who hovered or was hard to get along with. Most of the time he's doing his own thing, gaming, sleeping, working out, etc. and I am drawing or sleeping. We tend to go hours a day without texting eachother, and occassionally can go a day w...

Hi All. I hate being so cliche and it’s also partially why I didn’t own my feelings about this, as well as legitimately love my mom. Long story short — I’ve had an interesting dynamic with my family where I was loved unconditionally, no intentional harm and also have felt disconnected due to being “the emotional one”. What’s “funny” is both my parents are more like me in that...

I want to start with this: I’ve always loved dogs and I’ve never hurt her. She’s a small Pomeranian mix and I hate her personality. She’s needy, dirty, and annoying. We also have a cat that I adore because she’s clean and not as needy. When my bf and I started dating over a year ago, she would pee on doggie pads and shit on the bedroom carpet and he would let her sleep all over...

Hello, I've been married to my husband for 16 years now. I love him so much but my upset is he never does anything special for me like roses,card NOTHING! Our anniversary was yesterday and I even gave hints but nada... I've told him several times that I would like more romance he always says he'll work on it and it never happens. He thinks paying bills shows enough love 🤷‍♀�...