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Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryEnding a friendship / relationship
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 4 2021 at 16:38 by SilviaGirl RESPONDENTS: lily31 / manalone LAST POST: Mar 5 2021 at 02:56

Anyhow, a few months ago, reconnected with an old friend/flame. For maybe a month, everything was great. But then I had a plan to go spend time with my family over the holidays (WFH is awesome!), so I would be out of the area for about a month. (This includes time before/after to quarantine because I'm trying to be semi-responsible.) I spent the evening before I began quarantine with friend. Bu...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI don't want to play this game
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 3 2021 at 09:50 by RavenNinja RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / manalone LAST POST: Mar 4 2021 at 00:28

I have been in a relationship for 2 years now with my partner, we live together. this is after both of us ended our respective marriages. My divorce was sorted quickly, we have not kids, my ex and I are still friends and get along well. My partner's divorce on the other hand has been a nightmare. There are children involved and his ex is, well... a narcissistic sociopath, she tried to take the...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI have no friends
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 2 2021 at 17:54 by superstar6318 RESPONDENTS: lily31 / SilviaGirl LAST POST: Mar 4 2021 at 16:42

I have no friends. I am a 28 year old female and I can speak to people easily ;I'm not shy. Currently I study an online degree and to earn money, I pick up ad-hoc work as and when I can. I've befriended people in the past quickly and hung out with them (prior to lockdown), only then to discover that they are not for me due to several reasons (one friend would act immature and childish) and the oth...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI don't get my in laws!
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 1 2021 at 23:46 by HereComesTheSun21 RESPONDENTS: Aka / lily31 LAST POST: Mar 3 2021 at 18:52

So, ive been with my husband since we was 16/17 years old which during that time, he hasn't had a very close relationship with his mom due to his childhood with his step dad. He has a younger half sister who he isn't really close with either. Now, since being pregnant, all of a sudden they want to be involved and I just don't understand why. Since we have been living together (9 years), they rarel...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryCrazy mom
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 25 2021 at 19:25 by Crazyloon RESPONDENTS: Aka / lily31 / susiedqq LAST POST: Feb 26 2021 at 18:25

My mom went off on me this morning, she was absolutely fine, absolutely fine, she was laying with me and we were talking. Then my grandma called asking if I wanted to go get lunch. So I said yes, all of a sudden my mom is like "Get up now you need to get ready" Over and over and She is not taking me for 2 hours!! I do have a class between then but all I have to do is put on a shirt and shorts.... ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow can I help more? Wife x work x kids
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 22 2021 at 20:59 by Tunafish RESPONDENTS: manalone / 8Twenty8 / Aka LAST POST: Feb 26 2021 at 03:50

Hi, the problem I want to talk about seems simple: I have a feeling I shouldn´t have married my wife. We have a lovely son and we are expecting a second baby. A year ago, when the first lockdown in my country was imposed, we separated for a month or so. However, I couldn´t handle not being with my son, so I moved back and tried to make everything up. I´m a teacher, I´ve been teaching online...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I overreacting?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 21 2021 at 03:06 by fadden RESPONDENTS: lily31 / Aka LAST POST: Feb 22 2021 at 05:21

Would you allow your partner to take a 2 week break from you and the relationship with no communication between you two? I feel slighted, sad, angry, and hurt that they told me they want a break because they have alot going on in their lives. Well I do too, and I should be included. I'm not running away because my life is chaotic and messy , I feel like they shouldn't either. am I overreacting? Sh...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryRegretting opening my relationship
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 19 2021 at 06:28 by PuppyBerry RESPONDENTS: Aka / Bluebird11 LAST POST: Feb 19 2021 at 19:19

TL/DR: We opened our relationship, my partner has fallen for someone, im overcome with jealousy and wish I never did this in the first place My partner and I are 21 and have been together for about 7 years. I would say we’re in an extremely emotionally close and loving relationship, but since we moved in together our sex life diminished dramatically. I guess because I was getting bored and w...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs it me or the ex wife
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 18 2021 at 22:51 by Greyhusky RESPONDENTS: Aka / susiedqq LAST POST: Feb 19 2021 at 02:01

My husband and I coparent with his ex wife. I find myself constantly comparing myself to her. My first marriage was horrible and ruined my self esteem so I know this is partially the reason. My current husband told me from the get go that he will always love his ex bc she is the mother of his children. I feel like that is another reason for my self esteem issues as I have absolutely no love fo...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryPlease help. My fiancé thinks I ruined VDay I feel she’s wrong
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 17 2021 at 00:05 by C-gar RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Aka LAST POST: Feb 17 2021 at 15:40

Here’s the scenario. VDay was (from start to almost finish) verging on the best day ever. We woke up early, made breakfast, watched some Netflix and had an Afternoon Nap. When I woke up it was only 1:30pm. The room was dark and AC was blowing, perfect vibe for awesome afternoon sex! The day couldn’t get better i thought, but it did. She told me I had an hour to get ready for a place she...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDo I question him or not?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 15 2021 at 16:36 by Tjb70 RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Feb 17 2021 at 23:59

I know I shouldn't have but I checked partners phone this morning and found that he had yet again taken a semi hard dick pic which he hasn't sent to me. This isn't the first time he has done this. I questioned him the last time and he said he was going to send to me, but felt that as things weren't great between us, that he shouldn't do it. I'm going through a tough time, emotionally and mentall...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFalling out of love
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 14 2021 at 20:15 by Someone02 RESPONDENTS: AJM248 / manalone LAST POST: Feb 14 2021 at 22:50

Hello there, I recently found this forum so I decided to ask for some advice here. I am a girl, 18 years old and currently I am in a relationship with a really sweet guy. To mention, I’ve never had a boyfriend before so he is my first one. He is a really nice person, he is sweet, caring, he keeps showing me the perfect amount of love and everything else is just perfect. The problem is that I ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFamily problem relationship
[1 POST] CREATED: Feb 10 2021 at 20:59 by lara01 RESPONDENTS: Jennifer01 LAST POST: Feb 11 2021 at 00:43

i don't have a good relationship with my parents , they are too strict,controlling and always make me insecure and feel bad about myself , i ve been going through anxiety since i was a child , always bad memories come to my mind and a lot shit is happening in the present moment , they make me feel as i m not enough . but how could i live with them in peace ? i ve hated my life with them since i w...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI am in love with two and don't know who to marry
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 8 2021 at 16:13 by chiamaka1 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Jennifer01 LAST POST: Feb 8 2021 at 22:57

I have a baby out of wedlock.but the man am with is not the father to the baby. but he does not know about that, so and he is not married to me yet. and there is this other guy that I love so much each time sleep or in my leisure time I think about him but he does not want the baby boy. he said I should give the baby to his father and also the man that is standing has his father I have been havin...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryProblem with a manager
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 7 2021 at 17:10 by Chloests RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Jennifer01 / 8Twenty8 LAST POST: Feb 10 2021 at 16:46

Hi everyone, it's my first post here and I can't believe I am resorting to seeking advice for my manager. I guess I should put my entire life on the line and let ransom strangers all over the internet decide my fate but here it goes. There is a manager at my work and he's really hot and appears to be a complete sweet heart. I was going through a lot of problems and did not treat him very kindl...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryNo marriage proposal, what would you do?
[8 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 7 2021 at 16:07 by Jennifer01 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Shellz LAST POST: Feb 12 2021 at 12:55

We have been together for 4yrs we have a 1yr old I wanted to talk about marriage and he doesn't want to. I am hurt and broken and he says its not me that its him. He cant promise that commitment to me ever pretty much. I am currently packing my stuff😥 its awful that whatever it is it is stronger than him caring about us his family. He says it means total control of the other person when you m...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFriend or more
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 5 2021 at 13:06 by tilaxxx RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Jennifer01 LAST POST: Feb 7 2021 at 15:37

Can you be friends with the opposite sex without anything going on between you. I met my husband through a dating site he was friends with a older woman before he met me who he had known since he was young and living at home. his parents were friendly with her and her husband and they used to get together for meals and the woman ended up working with my husband years later. he did not recognize he...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDid he cheat
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 5 2021 at 12:37 by moramay RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Jennifer01 LAST POST: Feb 7 2021 at 15:45

My husband as worked for a company for 7 years as a sales rep out on the road. The first time he went for the interview I was with him and I remember a woman coming out from the office and saying, goodbye and said my husbands name. I thought it was odd that she walked out with him and Im sure he told me that she asked what he was going to be doing after the interview. he had been interviewed by he...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryConfused dating advice
[1 POST] CREATED: Feb 4 2021 at 19:11 by Breezeca RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Feb 5 2021 at 01:00

I have been dating this guy I met 5 months ago online. We really hit it off and got along so well in person. Our sexual, physical and emotional chemistry is unlike any other guy I have dated before. There is a few set backs that I have with him first he has a kid that he never mentioned until I saw a picture on his phone. His kid is in another state and he only visits him every month or two. ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhy now after 9 years
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 4 2021 at 11:30 by let9222 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Jennifer01 LAST POST: Feb 8 2021 at 23:04

My ex fiancé of 8 months cheated on me with his toxic ex than dumped me in October 2020. He got engaged to his ex in January 2021 and got married a few days ago. What I don’t understand is why now they were off and on again for 9 years why now get married when I was in the picture. He had 9 years to ask her to be his wife.Me and him were supposed to be married in December 22 2020. It’s like a...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categorySo confused...
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 3 2021 at 12:27 by Yoshi RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / 8Twenty8 LAST POST: Feb 8 2021 at 00:54

Long story short, my husband and i have been together 21 years, most were good. The last five have been bad, at times very bad, and we've def lost trust and communication, but we claim to love each other and want to make it work. That being said, i still catch my husband withholding things from me, telling little white lies about small things, just generally not trying like he said. He's also bec...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDo I break up with someone I love due to an impasse about the future?
[10 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 1 2021 at 21:51 by Anxiousornot RESPONDENTS: manalone / MamaBear / Jennifer01 / susiedqq LAST POST: Feb 12 2021 at 18:56

My bf and I do love each other and he’s really pushing to marry me after our 19 month courtship. Actually he was pushing to marry me well before but I told him I needed time. So now fast forward several months of spending time together. We are generally compatible including our interests and sex life. But over this time he has shown certain personality issues and I don’t know if they will get ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHusband won’t seek help for his mental health
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 29 2021 at 00:19 by Laukw RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / 8Twenty8 / January LAST POST: Feb 3 2021 at 10:47

My husband and I have been together for 8 years, married for 3 and have a gorgeous almost 2 year old son together. He confided in me early on that he suffered with bulimia from the age of around 15 due to being very overweight as a child and being bullied mercilessly for it at school. He’s always had issues with his self image and pride. Shortly after we got together, when he was about 2...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDo I like my best friend?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 25 2021 at 05:09 by A19yo RESPONDENTS: Aka / Checkmate15282 LAST POST: Jan 26 2021 at 12:40

(English is not my first language so if my grammar sucks I’m sorry :) ) First some background information: I have been friends with this guy A for about 8 years and we’ve become best friends about 1,5 years ago. I’m also really good friends with another guy B for about a year. The problem is when we are both (very) drunk, we have a habit of “touching” each other. It started with just...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHelp my boyfriend spends all his spare time playing video games!!
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 24 2021 at 16:56 by HL0010 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / manalone / barnettnce / Jennifer01 LAST POST: Jan 27 2021 at 23:21

(Edited) My boyfriend and I have been together for a few years now and he spends most of his spare time playing on the PlayStation! We both work busy jobs throughout the days/weekends, he gets home late evening and goes straight to play on the PlayStation! We only really get to see each other when we are having dinner. We are currently living with Family so ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryGuy needs a relationship advice, please help!
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 24 2021 at 10:09 by Ank93 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / MamaBear / Caroline Kjeldgard LAST POST: Feb 9 2021 at 13:53

Hi, I met this girl 7 years ago in college I fell for her and expressed my feelings for her.. soon we were in a relationship, she is kind of an extrovert open minded and fun loving person and gets along pretty well with most people! I am an introvert and i would like to call myself focused person. Our relationship was pretty fine we both loved each other, she loves to eat out, have fun and ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryPreparing for boyfriends release
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 24 2021 at 08:53 by mjsm RESPONDENTS: manalone / AJM248 LAST POST: Jan 28 2021 at 03:39

Hello. My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months and he gets out in 4. We met while he was inside and the closer it gets the more anxious i feel. We talk about it but i think its a risk. I dont really know what to do. He seems kind of reassuring but idk. I use to say if he gets out and ghosts me I will deal with it but now being in it if he did that I'd lose it. I have done alot for him....

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryPartner secretly watches porn
[8 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 24 2021 at 05:09 by Allena222 RESPONDENTS: moon-and-stars / Aka / HL0010 / susiedqq LAST POST: Feb 1 2021 at 06:57

Hi I have been with my partner 7 months. I see he has watched porn and I don't want that in my relationship. I think it best to separate which is a shame. We have talked about it and he said its no big deal he can't see why it should be. He dies not do it much. But I don't like it as it najes me see images if him in my head enjoying that and I kniw we are fine in our relationship but it's what he'...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAre we being selfish and immature?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 24 2021 at 04:53 by moon-and-stars RESPONDENTS: Aka / susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 27 2021 at 16:18

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years, but my parents dont know. I'm already in my third year of college and my parents are pretty anal abt me dating and they want me focused on my grades. BTW i go to school in another country and my parents stay in the US. I'm also an honor student, since like high school so I've never really had issues regarding my grades. my boyfriend, on the...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhat should I do? Relationship advice please
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 23 2021 at 20:51 by khushi1 RESPONDENTS: AJM248 / manalone LAST POST: Jan 24 2021 at 00:52

Hi, I'm in a relationship of more than 7 years. My boyfriend is kind of controlling. He's not a bad person but sometimes he wants to control everything. I mean he wants me to change myself according to him. So I was in college when i first met him and it was my first relationship. I didn't have much friends in graduation and he was my priority. I used to spend all the time with him in graduation....

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow do I get people to take me seriously...
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 23 2021 at 17:26 by justanonpan RESPONDENTS: khushi1 / AJM248 LAST POST: Jan 24 2021 at 01:10

i don't think anyone takes me seriously. i act a bit mature for my age but that's because i haven't gotten to live a "real" childhood. i'm pretty sure everyone think i'm always lying or that i'm just a little kid in a teenager's body and i just hate it so much. how do i get my friends, bf, and family to stop thinking of me like this?...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryPregnant with the possibility he wants out
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 23 2021 at 11:57 by JaneD0E RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Bluebird11 LAST POST: Feb 1 2021 at 06:59

Dear Readers, Thank you for clicking on this thread, I hope everyone is staying safe. My boyfriend (28 yrs) and I (27 yrs) have known each other over 5 years, but been in a relationship for 15 months only. We've been a bit rocky, where trust issues has made us fight even broke up one time during the 15 months. Nobody ever cheated though, as far as I know. During the time we got back tog...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum category19 Years - Time to Leave?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 23 2021 at 02:53 by randyguy216 RESPONDENTS: Aka / Bluebird11 / susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 23 2021 at 12:00

My wife and I have been married for 19 years. I am 46, and she is 40. We have two kids, a 16 year old son and a 13 year old daughter. Our son is graduating high school this year and has already completed 2 years of college completed. He will go to college next year away from home. Daughter will start high school next year. Wife had an affair 13 years ago, and we worked things out...but we never...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryGirlfriend wants space but not broken up
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 21 2021 at 17:44 by Cbass RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 21 2021 at 20:22

My girlfriend deals with anxiety and now recent depression because of stresses in her life. She got overwhelmed with stress in life and from affection from me and asked for space and to go slow and pull back from the relationship. She sees us as still dating and not talking to anyone else. We spent the holidays together and went through having COVID together so we spent a lot of time and only been...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryNeed advice about valentines gift
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 21 2021 at 07:01 by estelle41 RESPONDENTS: Brunettegirl / barnettnce LAST POST: Jan 25 2021 at 04:41

Actually, I met a girl for about 6 months now. All I can say is we both realized that we love each other. I’m looking for some ideas of gifts I can buy on the online store that can be shipped to her on Valentine’s day. Do you guys have any ideas of shops or gifts for this occasion?...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryTeacher-student feelings
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 20 2021 at 19:02 by Raju RESPONDENTS: Aka / susiedqq / 8Twenty8 / JoeBlack LAST POST: Feb 10 2021 at 14:19

I am a college teacher of 45 years of age and am married with two kids. Recently, it came to my notice that a student of mine of age approximately 21 years has developed a feeling about me. In return, I have also developed the same feeling about her. But, my sense does not allow me to go ahead with this as I have a nice family and am a teacher of her. Nowadays, I realize that she i...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIntimacy issues in marriage
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 18 2021 at 10:38 by Frankie99988 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / JoeBlack LAST POST: Feb 10 2021 at 14:27

Me and my husband had a massive argument before Christmas which ended up being a blessing in disguise, for the past 5 years there has been physical affection in our marriage inc sex. We both acknowledged we are more like parents living together. Over Christmas I tried to offer my husband affection, however it was just very awkward for both of us. I think working alternative shifts and having a you...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDistrust in a relationship
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 18 2021 at 05:31 by LiveLoveLaugh RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / manalone LAST POST: Jan 20 2021 at 00:37

Hi there, I am seeking a perspective that might help me to understand my cause of distrust and be free from it. I am in a newish relationship about 6 month. It is going very well, and my partner invests a lot of time and effort into our relationship. He makes an effort with my family, he has been vulnerable and opened up to me about past hurts. Everything is going very well... and then... there i...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIn laws
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 17 2021 at 23:41 by Ivy141 RESPONDENTS: manalone / susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 18 2021 at 18:31

In laws throwing a fit about the idea of my family moving. Was told that I may as well have another kid and leave the other with them because they are not going to allow us to move with their grandchild. Mind you that this is a retirement community and we cannot afford to own a house here. There is nothing here for young families. They don't understand because they dont have to rent and never boug...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryReally need relationship advice please
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 17 2021 at 03:24 by Cbass RESPONDENTS: Bluebird11 LAST POST: Jan 21 2021 at 17:50

My girlfriend has been trying to communicate for a few weeks of me being overwhelming with affection and not enough random conversations outside of our relationship. At the same time she's going through many other stresses in life but the whole time has wanted me there with her to help, comfort, and hangout. She has brought up all the serious talks for relationship first and has said many times ho...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryEarly relationship issues space, affection, and conversation
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 16 2021 at 17:14 by Cbass RESPONDENTS: Aka / susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 17 2021 at 04:27

Hi, Thank you for taking time to help me if you are ready this. Backstory - My girlfriend and I met 7 years ago in college but just started dating 2 months ago and been official for almost a month. We didn't stay in contact over the years hardly even at all just because it happened that way. But we both always had a crush on each other since we met and talked a lot when we met. Now we are t...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI have feelings for someone else. What am I supposed to do
[9 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 15 2021 at 21:46 by SThomas RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Bluebird11 / HL0010 LAST POST: Jan 24 2021 at 18:06

I’m driving myself crazy. I feel so guilty. I want to be with someone else, but can’t find the courage to admit it. I don’t have enough reason to leave my relationship aside from this. Except for feeling for years like my partner doesn’t really know me and that he’s perfect, but not perfect for me. I feel like it’s too late, I should be happy now. Until a guy came into my life who I fe...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI need help with my relationship
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 15 2021 at 16:38 by Kenzo22 RESPONDENTS: Aka / susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 16 2021 at 13:20

I need some help with my relationship. I’m 22 years old and I have 1 kid and 1 on the way with someone. I would like to think I love this man but I’m not sure I ever have really. He earns well and therefore I am lucky enough to not need to work, but as I haven’t worked for some time I feel as if I would not be capable to provide on my own. From an outside point of view I have everything, nic...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI was a toxic girlfriend
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 14 2021 at 18:27 by yoxkaii RESPONDENTS: Aka / manalone / 8Twenty8 / JoeBlack LAST POST: Feb 10 2021 at 14:27

TW: suicide I was in a relationship with this guy for nearly 2 years. We've been through thick and thin, I've struggled a lot with my mental health, attempted many times, and had 4 psych ward visits as well as being kicked out of my home twice. Despite that, he stayed strong for me and continued to support me. I've always been moody and hard to handle at times, but so loving and caring, and a g...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIn love with a woman who can't choose
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 14 2021 at 02:58 by twaf0809 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Feb 1 2021 at 06:59

Hello all, I hope to get some constructive advice here as I have encountered what has become a frustrating situation. This past year (going back to about May of 2020), I began flirting with a woman I worked with and she was flirting with me as well. We knew each other for about 8 months prior to this. It started out playfully but I quickly became smitten with her and after a couple of mont...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHelp un predictable partner. Who I can't understand well at times.
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 14 2021 at 00:51 by Nam.82 RESPONDENTS: Bluebird11 / susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 14 2021 at 21:08

So we have been together for almost 4 years. The issues I have are that he says he adores me wants to move in with me in the next 2 months and I'm unsure. He keeps leaving in the night with no explanation. Doesn't call and expects me to chase all the time. Uses excuses such as I just come when I'm feeling upset or I just want a good night's sleep. I have fibromyalgia and other long term health iss...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy girlfriend's friends
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 13 2021 at 00:37 by Pyro Travis RESPONDENTS: Aka / manalone / Nam.82 / susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 14 2021 at 12:32

I think my girlfriend's friends are a bad influence to her that might lead to her cheating on me or being endangered. What can I do to encourage her to get better friends or encourage them to me safer....

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryScared beyond belief
[7 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 12 2021 at 21:31 by 1505 RESPONDENTS: Aka / susiedqq / AJM248 LAST POST: Jan 22 2021 at 22:57

I have recently reconnected with an old schoolfriend via social media after a long period of time, which although is great, it has stirred up some very old emotions. At school I suppose I was 'in love ' with her but never had the courage to do anything about it. It probably sounds ridiculous but after 30+ years, all of the feelings and emotions have returned. I am currently in a relationsh...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryVery complicated situation with marriage - need advice
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 11 2021 at 19:50 by Tsa123 RESPONDENTS: Aka / luckbyanonymous / Nam.82 / susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 14 2021 at 12:17

I really need some advice and can’t go to anyone I know in “real life”. I don’t even know where to begin. This is going to be long, I will give as much detail as I can to help anyone understand my situation. I feel like I’m going crazy and need to let this off my chest. It is in regards to my marriage and personal life. To give some background information, I have been with my husband for...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI just keep finding men who use me
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 11 2021 at 19:47 by Just a Kitty RESPONDENTS: manalone / Aka LAST POST: Jan 12 2021 at 23:44

I dated a man 3 years ago and the relationship lasted 1.5 years. He had a breakup a few months before we met and all I heard about the whole time was how this woman used him, how he gave her lots of his time and how she would mistreat him and her heroin addiction. He would keep me at arms distance even though I was trying to get closer and would often leave upset that he didn't consider ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryLong distance relationship breakup
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 10 2021 at 23:35 by GOATENG1106 RESPONDENTS: Aka / manalone / susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 12 2021 at 17:58

My gf had to move to a different city for work. We wanted to end things before they moved because they thought they couldn't handle long distance but once they moved we actually decided to stay together. We've only seen each other twice since they moved due to the pandemic so things have been strained between us and decided to go on a break and just be friends for a while. After seeing each other ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryNervous wreck
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 10 2021 at 14:12 by FruityDrink60 RESPONDENTS: Chloests / Aka / susiedqq / 8Twenty8 LAST POST: Jan 11 2021 at 20:53

After 2 months I am finally taking the initiative and going to my get my stuff from my ex. He has been saying he would send it for months and never did. It's a all day across country drive and he has offered for me to stay at his house to save $1000+ in hotel costs which I don't have anyway. We havent talked about the separation there was no big fight or anything. I'm really nervous because I want...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryRelationship advice
[8 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 10 2021 at 09:07 by Mattdowd91 RESPONDENTS: Aka / Chloests / manalone / susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 10 2021 at 19:41

Hi , Me and my girlfriend had a big argument and I would like to sort things out with her.She said she isn't speaking with me until I speak to someone and get help. It's all because I told her I would never lie to her but I have. It wasn't a big lie but still I lied. I was drinking energy drinks and unhealthy fizzy drinks and she said I should stop. Yesterday I promised to her that I w...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categorySexless newlyweds - HELP
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 9 2021 at 18:54 by Newlywedhelp RESPONDENTS: Aka / bubblegumgirl LAST POST: Jan 10 2021 at 17:26

My husband and I have been together for 3 years and married for 1/2 year. Let me first start off by saying that before my husband and I moved in together we were having sex 4x a week (that went on for about a year and a half). I moved in after a year and a half and sex dwindled significantly. He is VERY type "A" , mid 30s and never lived with anyone before, never had a serious relationship, so...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryInappropriate crush?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 6 2021 at 05:45 by Moonlit Wolf RESPONDENTS: Aka / manalone LAST POST: Jan 6 2021 at 20:22

I met someone in an online server and developed feelings for them. I even think that they might feel the same way. We talk every day and support each other and they make me happy in ways Ive never felt before. I thought for a while wed make a really nice long distance couple. The problem comes in that sometime after I realized I fell for them I found out theyre only 17. Im 22. I know its only a ye...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryLies, deceit, betrayed, husband is the devil help!!
[1 POST] CREATED: Jan 4 2021 at 09:10 by Love bug RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 4 2021 at 12:10

Iv caught my husband exploring anal masturbation . He won't admit it at all calls me crazy he makes theses really loud moans and acts as if I'm losing my mind.i swear he has a vibrator in his butt cause I hear the buzzing and the vibration while in bed. He does this all the time sitting in the couch watching TV I look over and he's rolling his hips. He blamshiffts very bad while trying to ask abou...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWas friendship the right thing to offer?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 3 2021 at 21:16 by Sunnyclimes RESPONDENTS: manalone / susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 5 2021 at 20:04

Hi there. I'm Sarah, single mum to my two teenage sons one of which has autism, OCD, anxiety and sensory difficulties and who I care for and home educate. I have no respite but my parents visit each week to support where they can although they do find it difficult at times. I'm seeking a listening ear and hopefully another point of view on my situation. I've been seeing a guy who I've been me...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum category20 year relationship
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 3 2021 at 00:13 by Tinkyspy RESPONDENTS: manalone / susiedqq / Aka LAST POST: Jan 5 2021 at 22:37

I was married for 20 years, we have been unhappy for the last 5. I made a friendship with a old boyfriend in February. We have always been in touch but only as friends. However we have both separated but we’re still Living with our spouses when we started talking. My situation was my husband didn’t want the divorce and made it so difficult/ he has since been arrested and cannot come near...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryGirlfriend problem
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 2 2021 at 22:12 by niknax71 RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Jan 3 2021 at 16:51

I was with my girlfriend for 3 years,back in may last year and after talking to her ex girlfriend she walked out. 4 weeks later she came back and we were working out our problems. I had issues with nagging and moaning. We were back together for 5 months,still i was trying to work on my issues. I was a lot better than i was but not perfect. My girlfriends dog died and she told her ex because they o...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryCareer choice causing conflict
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 1 2021 at 21:50 by Tony07 RESPONDENTS: manalone / susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 4 2021 at 01:43

Im a 26 year old guy, with no tertiary qualifications, who owns my own transport business in the private sector. I started it at the age of 19, i now employ 3 other people but im still very hands on so it involves me being a driver or mechanic at times. My business gives me an annual salary of R240 000($16000), plus the profits of the business put back in as capital and held in the value of assets...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDoes he care about me like I think he does
[1 POST] CREATED: Jan 1 2021 at 07:42 by Anjie082389 RESPONDENTS: lily31 LAST POST: Jan 1 2021 at 16:31

I’ve known my best friend for almost 20years and I love him. We’ve lived in different continents for about 16 years but have stayed in close contact throughout since I moved away. We’ve never dated. I’d casually told him a few years ago that I liked him and he said “it was complicated”. I wasn’t bothered too much at the time as I don’t really want a long distance relationship myse...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryNo contact / space
[1 POST] CREATED: Dec 31 2020 at 16:57 by V129863 RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Dec 31 2020 at 22:12

Ive been with someone for 4 months. Weve shared some amazing experiences and I felt we had something very special despite us being very different and being long distance (2 hours but we saw each other twice a week) and having the restrictions of the pandemic to contend with. We had talked about the future and i was going to start spending more time at his home qhich i was happy about. We started t...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow much should I compromise?
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 31 2020 at 09:17 by romanticbigman RESPONDENTS: manalone / susiedqq / Dating Diva / Aka LAST POST: Jan 5 2021 at 22:44

I want to settle in my hometown to be close to my family and friends – I have slept with a few girls a long time ago that are still in circles of friends. They are mainly in my secondary circle of friends in my hometown, although things can change quickly in a small town – my best friend’s brother and another guy in the main circle seem to be in contact with one of the girls. My girlfrien...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryControlling partner
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 29 2020 at 17:33 by Madball RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / manalone LAST POST: Dec 31 2020 at 09:39

Hello, This is my first post on this forums and I am feeling rather ashamed and guilty doing this but I feel I would like an outsiders opinion on the situation I have managed to get myself into. ABOUT ME ******** I am a 38-year-old male, that seems to have a terrible time picking the right partner. I am a typical nice guy that just wants an easy life and tends to give in to my partner's pr...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWe both cheated at the same time.. can't get my head straight
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 29 2020 at 13:09 by abacus6264 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / manalone / V129863 / relationship-coach LAST POST: Jan 1 2021 at 09:56

I'm a bit lost.. In short we met some new friends who we spent a lot of time with and we both developed feelings for one another partners which ended up in us all having affairs, concurrently. The affairs lasted for approximately three months, and is your stereotypical 'exciting to meet someone else' affair. My wife developed feelings for him, as I wasn't showing any interest, and we both just ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI'm in love with someone I can't have... but I can't get over him
[1 POST] CREATED: Dec 29 2020 at 00:34 by lonelyrose4 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 29 2020 at 13:14

This is a long story so brace yourselves... About a year ago, I began working on a show as Assistant Director (I'm a theatre major). I started to get to know one of the actors more and more; we spent almost every break during rehearsals chatting and I ended up catching some serious feelings for him. I learned soon, though, that he had recently started dating this girl and after my initial shock...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHusband hates my country and hates to live here
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 26 2020 at 23:05 by Strawberry1984 RESPONDENTS: Aka / susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 28 2020 at 00:02

Hi everyone Firstly, I’m from Scandinavia, so English is not my mother tongue..therefore I apologize for all my mistakes🙃 Husband and I have been together for 6 years. He's 33 y/I and I’m 36. We met in his country as I was on vacation. We visited each other pretty much every month (both students at that time, so it allowed us to live like that/to do so. Anyway, around 1.5 years afte...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFeel so lost in this relationship
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 26 2020 at 12:09 by Bluebird23 RESPONDENTS: lily31 / manalone LAST POST: Dec 31 2020 at 13:20

I’m sorry if this seems like a ramble but I feel like I need someone to talk to as I feel I can’t talk to anyone about this . Me and my partner have been together for 2 years but was friends for well over a decade before we got together. Recently it has become very tough to live with him. Everything has to revolve around him and his emotional well-being but yet if my mental health is low...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow to resurrect a platonic friendship
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 24 2020 at 17:50 by ravi RESPONDENTS: Aka / manalone / susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 27 2020 at 07:39

Hello I am writing to get your help to resurrect my friendship with a work colleague who works for me. Basically we got to know each other since she had some problems at work and I helped her resolve it. She also had some issues with her present neighbour. Hence she decided to look for a new house. I gave some practical and first-hand advice based on my recent move. We were fine talking in per...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryLost. No real friends and very lonely at the moment
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 22 2020 at 00:04 by Turtle13 RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Jan 11 2021 at 14:16

Hi, Firstly, I’m 21 just graduated from university working a part time job living at home with my parents. Not really sure how else to start this but here goes. For the last year or so, I’ve been really lonely, very few interactions with others outside my small family. Spend near enough most evenings on my own. I have had times with my friends but for the most part we don’t talk outside o...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy boyfriend won’t find a job
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 20 2020 at 17:22 by Sparkle124 RESPONDENTS: manalone / lily31 LAST POST: Dec 22 2020 at 12:40

Hello guys I’m hoping you can help me. I’m 22 and my boyfriend is 27 we have been together for nearly 2 years. I lived on my own before meeting him and he lived with his parents (which is not a problem for me) he then moved in with me and we agreed to go 5050. A couple of months with living with each other he lost his Job. It took him 2/3 months for him to find another job with A lot of pr...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryNeed help making a life changing choice
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 19 2020 at 00:47 by Angelhasfallen RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Dec 19 2020 at 11:40

Need Advice in a difficult choice So I have a decision to make in the next couple of months. I have been in a common law marriage for 9 years. 8 of those nine years my husband was not nice (emotionally abusive) and didn’t give me and my kids what we needed. We have been financially unstable and moved constantly. He has also been arrested numerous times and now has 2 felony charges (drug relat...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryChristmas presents for ex children
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 18 2020 at 23:07 by FruityDrink60 RESPONDENTS: Aka / manalone LAST POST: Dec 20 2020 at 22:20

I brought Christmas presents for my exs children before he broke up with me a month ago. He is no longer talking to me but when he was he said he had Christmas presents for my children too. I haven't sent the presents to him yet because everyone is telling me not to because he broke up with me and it will kinda be like playing mind games trying to get him to talk to me. I still want to send them b...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryRegret
[1 POST] CREATED: Dec 18 2020 at 01:24 by Pais19 RESPONDENTS: relationship-coach LAST POST: Dec 18 2020 at 07:34

I am feeling so much regret lately for leaving my ex. I broke up with him around 2 years ago and honestly, that first year I was in a haze. I ran from the issues and did not want to face it. I basically let my emotions end the relationship and my anger continue to stay away from him. I pushed the emotions, the memories, the thought, everything down to the bottom of my head and just ran. That is wh...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I out of love or just patience?
[6 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 18 2020 at 00:05 by Anxiousornot RESPONDENTS: MamaBear / Aka / susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 5 2021 at 20:50

My boyfriend has a habit of sometimes telling me what to do. Example is I’ll start to drink diet ice tea and he’ll say do you know how many chemicals are in that drink and I’ll say yea but I don’t drink too much and he’ll say don’t drink it because it’s really bad for you look at the ingredients. Another recent time as I was getting in the bed he asked did you brush your teeth and wa...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDoes an affair justify asking for a sexless marriage?
[7 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 16 2020 at 19:49 by hg8 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Aka / relationship-coach / Richard B LAST POST: Dec 18 2020 at 07:39

I discovered my husband had been having an affair 3 years ago. He has always maintained that the reason it happened was because I hadn’t “been a dutiful wife in the bedroom”, although we were still having regular, if predictable, sex. I saw a Counsellor (he didn’t want to) and he worried at each session I might want a divorce. I didn’t. And still don’t. After a lot of counselling,...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMum doesn’t approve of older boyfriend
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 15 2020 at 19:49 by nat8238838392 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Aka LAST POST: Dec 16 2020 at 04:30

I am 18 and about a month ago I got into a relationship with someone from work. He is amazing and we love each other however he is much older than me. (almost 20 years...) I have tried to introduce the idea of him to my mum but before even mentioning that he is my boyfriend she said to get the idea of him out of my head as he is too old for me. Will this mean that the relationship will not work? A...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIf you have such boyfriend, will you ok with it?
[1 POST] CREATED: Dec 15 2020 at 18:54 by Confuse RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Dec 16 2020 at 04:33

I have a boyfriend who hardly ask people how you doing. Whenever he step out of his room to join us dinner, he will talk like a comedian or act like a clown to get everyone's attention. When he talk to you, he will look at you still, blink his eye, pause for a while, give a funny look. It is exactly like I am watching a comedy show. After he sit down he will start tell you things about himself, w...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryGaslighting
[1 POST] CREATED: Dec 14 2020 at 10:34 by MadamLisa RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 14 2020 at 19:41

If your partner is texting you like normal. And you know you’ve been friendly over text all day sending and initiating texts every couple of hours like norm. (He gets mad when I don’t text him first) And an hour goes past. And he tells you that ‘You’ve been so very very quiet tonight and that he hopes I’m okay because he’s worried and that he’s going to bed. With no goodnight ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy fiance doesn't listen and doesn't retain advice
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 14 2020 at 04:35 by mab77 RESPONDENTS: Aka / susiedqq / luvbirdsoldier LAST POST: Dec 14 2020 at 17:14

My fiance and I have been together for about 3 years, friends for 10 years. When we first started dating I was living on my own in a large city and him back in our home town with his parents. I was 25 he was 27. Throughout our relationship I decided to move home to continue our relationship and then we became engaged. Until I moved back to our hometown I had lived on my own since I was 20. We live...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I sabotaging my relationships before they even begin?
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 13 2020 at 19:09 by MamaBear RESPONDENTS: manalone / Aka / susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 15 2020 at 01:50

First of all - I've (52f) been in intensive therapy for a few years to help process an extremely abusive childhood and traumatic adulthood. It's been a rough go but I'm much happier and I've come a long way in how I deal with relationships of every sort. I haven't yet addressed this particular issue with my therapist and would appreciate some feedback before deciding if it's a valid thread to pull...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs her reaction justified?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 13 2020 at 17:48 by Yofese RESPONDENTS: MamaBear / luvbirdsoldier / susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 14 2020 at 13:36

Last week me (24f) and my boyfriend (24m) got engaged. We don't currently live together but he has been 'bubbled' with me and my parents (I live at home with them). On the proposal day he took me for a walk, we did some Christmas shopping and went to a place we hung out when we were kids. We got food to take home and once we'd eaten he popped the question. It was a total surprise and absolutel...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryCan’t read this new girlfriends head
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 12 2020 at 20:08 by Nerrad196510 RESPONDENTS: Aka / luvbirdsoldier / susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 14 2020 at 13:14

Hi I have seen this new date 3 times in 1 month , firstly I really like her , she seems sincere genuine kind etc softly spoken , she’s very likeable by friends family . She’s going threw upsetting time with her brother in hospital, so I’m taking a step back but I’m there for her if she needs to chat , she felt down and had two really dreary days so I took her bunch of flowers and chocolate...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryJust need some help
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 12 2020 at 03:51 by Tryingtomakeit RESPONDENTS: Bluebird11 / susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 12 2020 at 13:38

Ok, so from the beginning. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year, it has been a rough year. In the beginning of our relationship, I was also flirting with a couple of other people and went to hang out with one of them. Nothing happened. There were many things I hid from my partner for the first 5 months we were together until he caught me in one lie and then we have been g...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryChoosing who you love more...?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 9 2020 at 19:28 by LoggedRunner RESPONDENTS: manalone / Aka / susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 10 2020 at 12:38

This is not something I'm proud of, but I need advice and hope to get some on here please. I have been in a 10 year relationship with my fiance. He is a very loving person, wonderful husband material, kind - never had any qualms about our relationship throughout these 10 years and were planning to get married. We get along very well together, but at some point the relationship starting feeling l...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryRelationship over
[1 POST] CREATED: Dec 8 2020 at 21:28 by Sunset1111 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 9 2020 at 00:41

I have finished a 8 year relationship, I knew deep down long ago I wasn’t happy, Over the years i tried over and over to talk about my feelings, relationship I’m an open person, he wasn’t, not everyone is, but he literally wouldn’t acknowledge what I had said or say a word literally just be silent. Over the years I thought it will change but it hasn’t so i finished it. We haven’t arg...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs he using me?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 7 2020 at 21:56 by MadamLisa RESPONDENTS: manalone / Aka / luvbirdsoldier LAST POST: Dec 8 2020 at 14:31

I’ve been with my partner for a year and a half. He has 2 children I have 3. We live 20 minutes from each other and work together. We’ve broken up a few times. Mainly me because we don’t see each other. It’s one night every 2 weeks. He’s always hid his phone. Barley plans anything and there have been numerous women he’s spoken to behind my back. Including one woman who jumped his fen...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy boyfriend is not meeting my expectations
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 7 2020 at 10:26 by celia RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / luvbirdsoldier LAST POST: Dec 7 2020 at 18:34

My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for two years now. We have been friends for a long time before that. Recently, he has not been spending as much time with me as I want him to. Because of this, we previously had a minor breakup in January, but then got back together again. I love him and he's absolutely in love with me, and after our mini breakup he changed his ways and gave me the ti...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhat would you do?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 6 2020 at 11:36 by BigDilemma RESPONDENTS: Aka / susiedqq / luvbirdsoldier LAST POST: Dec 13 2020 at 19:05

I'm a 27 year old gay male. In mid-2019, a 1 year 7 month relationship with a guy I really loved ended. It was a mutual decision to end the relationship. There was no fighting. In fact, we both still consider us to be really good friends. It sounds weird, but I still cannot get over him. I have tried to move on, but I simply cannot make it happen. I know the fact that we've maintained contact has...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryNarcissist? Or please help me understand what is going on
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 6 2020 at 02:51 by Mati Horacio Ramon RESPONDENTS: Aka / luvbirdsoldier LAST POST: Dec 7 2020 at 20:11

There is this couple that started their relationship as an affair when they were both married to two different people. The marriage of her ended two months after not only because of this affair but also due to previous problems in the relationship. Everything started as just having fun but little by little, they both started falling in love for each other, feelings were very strong and they both r...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMarriage proposal
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 5 2020 at 14:36 by Carla2 RESPONDENTS: Aka / luvbirdsoldier / susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 7 2020 at 11:57

Hi this morning my partner popped out with my 3 year old on what he said was a secret mission. We have been together for 18 years. I was at home looking after our newborn. On return my 3 year old came in and said that they had a ring. My partner said well now he has ruined the surprise you may as well have it. They had been shopping for an engagement ring. My partner presented me with the ring b...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryGuy I’ve alway liked tried to kiss me but I have a bf now
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 1 2020 at 20:51 by Faye RESPONDENTS: Aka / Checkmate15282 / susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 3 2020 at 04:50

The guy I totally fancied years ago ended up trying to kiss me even though he knows I have a boyfriend now. We were together for the first time in months because he is now best friends with my friends boyfriend so we sometimes bump into each other at their house. I thought we were all just having a good laugh together and enjoyed the fact we were like good friends. I wasn’t expecting it at a...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryShould I, A; say something or B; be afraid of more to come?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 1 2020 at 18:39 by Kitjay2020 RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Dec 2 2020 at 17:00

Hi, I’ve been struggling with this for some time, I have a 14 year old son from a previous relationship. I met my husband 7 years ago and we recently go married and have a daughter. There have been various displays of behaviour from my ex that I imagine many separated couples go through, basically him trying to make me jealous, overly spoiling son on what felt like an attempt to buy his affectio...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I wrong for being upset?
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 1 2020 at 17:35 by Jessy RESPONDENTS: Aka / manalone / susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 3 2020 at 13:17

I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. We have both been previously married and we both have 2 grown children. I really care for him and want to share our lives together. We moved in together after a year of being together. He has met my kids and my family now over a year ago but I have not met his. This is were my issue is. His kids who are 23 and 19 as well as his mom do not no I even...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I really a bad person?
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 29 2020 at 13:57 by problemhelp203 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Aka / manalone LAST POST: Nov 29 2020 at 23:33

Long story but i need someone elses view on my situation. I struggle to deal with issues and confrontation and its causing more arguements than needed. I was in a long term relationship of 8 years which majority of this was mentally torturing but i felt trapped. Despite everyones plea that shes was changing who i was. effecting me as a person. I stayed because i thought she was the one! Fast fo...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryInfidelity
[17 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 28 2020 at 14:15 by Sham RESPONDENTS: Aka / Zuri / susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 1 2020 at 19:08

Earlier this year I found out my wife had been sexting an old flame in Wyoming. The things they said to each other made me physically sick to my stomach. I told her I could forgive her but the words I saw keep coming back to haunt me. M desperate to talk to someone about this. Do I continue to live with it or seek professional help thanks Sham....

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHelp with people i like
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 28 2020 at 06:23 by lexy19976 RESPONDENTS: Aka / susiedqq / Zuri LAST POST: Nov 28 2020 at 23:42

currently i have a fwb who i dated for three years in high school but broke up with. but i’m in love with a guy i worked with two years ago who now has a girlfriend but texts me every day. another guy who i like asked me on a trip a tropical country and i am going with him. i don’t know what do or who to talk to or if i should just not talk to any of them. ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDoes this look like a long term relationship at the end?
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 27 2020 at 13:34 by Charl RESPONDENTS: Aka / manalone / susiedqq / Zuri LAST POST: Nov 30 2020 at 15:06

Throughout my 6 year relationship, me and my partner have grown and achieved so much together, often with the help of the on another. He is very stable whereas I can be very unstable, he is anxious where I am confident, he can stay calm where I would become annoyed. On paper, there are many positives about him and the relationship as far as future prospects go. There has been, however, many recurr...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow do I cope with with this nightmare?
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 26 2020 at 14:32 by Defeatedandalone RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Dec 2 2020 at 15:36

The last few weeks have been a nightmare. A few members of my immediate family have contracted the Covid virus and one of them has been hospitalized. In addition, my cat of 17 years almost died the other night from congestive heart failure. First, the vet told me that he has cardiomyopathy and a very damaged heart so he may not survive long and now they called tonight to tell me the x-rays also re...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryJealous of his ex?
[1 POST] CREATED: Nov 26 2020 at 06:37 by Inlove2020 RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Nov 26 2020 at 18:50

My husband is a wonderful person who has always treated me well. This is my major insecurity causing me to feel down. Several years ago (before we were married), one of his ex's came up. We were with his friend and they were discussing hot celebrities. His friend mentioned that one celebrity reminded him of my then bf's 1st ex, how attractive she was. My bf agreed with him and I was a litt...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryShould I pull my child out of school and quit my job to move back home
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 26 2020 at 04:28 by Cshah23 RESPONDENTS: Aka / broost LAST POST: Nov 28 2020 at 23:14

I am 28 (almost 29) and I have the most beautiful 5 year old girl. I have been with the man I thought I loved for about 4 years now. It was so great at first, we gradually got to know each other and eventually around almost 2 years moved in together (with my daughter). As we pretty much lived together, he stayed with me in an apartment and I paid all of the bills. He would ask me for $50 here and ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryCan it be narcissism, obsession or something else going on here?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 25 2020 at 16:43 by Bettyxo RESPONDENTS: Zaff / Aka LAST POST: Nov 26 2020 at 19:50

Hi everybody, so my boyfriend and I had already talked about this and we kind of sorted things out, he said he felt comfortable speaking with me about it and so on, so I decided to give him a chance and start from there but recently I found out some things I didn’t know of which I don’t know what to think of. Below these lines I will give a brief explanation of my general situation, p...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI want to give my BF gifts, but it makes him feel guilty?
[1 POST] CREATED: Nov 25 2020 at 04:38 by vkot RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Nov 25 2020 at 10:11

I love buying things for my boyfriend, and he clearly loves receiving them. He tends to like one thing in particular for a month or so, and sometimes I will get it for him. He's always excited to get it. The problem is that if I tell him I'm buying it before I actually do, he tries to talk me out of it. It starts out light-hearted. He says how he really doesn't need it and I should spend my mon...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFinally moving on... any advice?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 24 2020 at 20:56 by KusouSaiki12 RESPONDENTS: SilviaGirl LAST POST: Nov 25 2020 at 00:58

So back in school way before covid I started talking to this guy I had a crush on. Eventually we both had a crush on eachother and would text on snapchat or call almost everyday after school. We didn't ever end up officially dating because it was still too early for all of that. But when school shut down in March and everything was online he stopped talking to me completely. I still tried talki...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs my marriage failing?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 23 2020 at 14:20 by Aka RESPONDENTS: SilviaGirl LAST POST: Nov 25 2020 at 10:48

I've been married (I'm 37M, she's 36F) for almost 15 years. Our marriage has certainly had it's share of ups and downs. Shortly after we were engaged I left my career in law enforcement with a diagnosis of PTSD. She was very supportive of my issues, and I was devoted to her entirely for staying with me. I believe in loyalty to a severe degree, and the fact that she never waivered was the most I co...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDo I give the support or leave
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 23 2020 at 00:30 by Smiling lady RESPONDENTS: sendhelp / Aka / Zaff LAST POST: Nov 26 2020 at 11:07

Hi I've posted a cpl of times before..honestly because I have no one to talk. My bf and I have had a bad sex life the last year not me him he's too tired not in the mood etc then September I caught him masturbating I didn't say at time then asked told me it was only a cpl times since been together tried to move on the happened again so I went away for a break without him so we could see if we ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryShould I stay In the relationship?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 22 2020 at 12:17 by bubblegumgirl RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Aka LAST POST: Nov 24 2020 at 10:16

Hey all, I started dating this guy I met in college; we’ve been going out for 7 months now. At first, things were going well; but as time passes, I have real doubts about this relationship. 1-he told me he ‘couldn’t feel my vagina’, immediately assuming the problem was me. Granted, I get very wet when we have sex, but I’ve never had that problem with my previous partners; and I do f...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryTo all the straight men: Do you like it when women play hard to get?
[6 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 22 2020 at 07:50 by new girl RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Aka LAST POST: Nov 26 2020 at 05:46

I hear some men say they prefer a woman not to play hard to get. But I hear some say they like it. Here is my story: So I am not the kind of girl who likes to play hard to get. If anything, I'm the opposite - I play easy to get. I am so weak for my crushes and cannot resist, so it is so hard to do so. BUT that does not mean I am clingy. I could so easily avoid that as I am so shy and careful arou...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categorySuggestions please
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 21 2020 at 06:59 by Bella bear RESPONDENTS: new girl LAST POST: Nov 22 2020 at 12:45

Hi Alll Been with my hubby 20yrs now and all was fantastic until 7 years ago he was a naughty boy (let’s say) I was devastated to say the least!!! A lot of unhappiness was about for some months and thought as I loved him I would forgive him! If I’m honest since that time I have never trusted my husband but tried my best to get on lives together as this is and was I believe totally out of cha...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs he using me?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 20 2020 at 14:48 by Mcc04 RESPONDENTS: manalone / SilviaGirl LAST POST: Nov 24 2020 at 19:04

I have been hooking up with a boy since I was 15 (I'm now 26). I'm now just really confused with the our relationship it is basically "friends with benefits". Recently he's started talking about having a future partner and it's really hurt me because I feel like I'm good enough for him to hook up with but not be his girlfriend. I've met his parents and sibling but he wants our hook ups now to b...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDoes he love me or hate me?
[7 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 20 2020 at 06:29 by Lakizmet RESPONDENTS: new girl / Aka / luvbirdsoldier / susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 9 2020 at 14:56

Sorry this is long, I'm a writer and don't know how to shorten anything up. There's a ton of backstory, but I met "Robert". He was a customer I'd never seen before. It was instant attraction. He never talked, but he started coming in more and more. He asked me out, we went out a few times, but I was basically living with a guy (John) at the point in time to just not be homeless, because I had been...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI need help understanding what happened!
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 19 2020 at 19:17 by Papaya RESPONDENTS: SilviaGirl / bubblegumgirl / Inlove2020 LAST POST: Nov 25 2020 at 04:59

I have been dating a guy consistently for three months and to be honest it felt perfect. We were getting along, we had similar values, and great conversation everyday and our dates were always nice. Two days ago he was telling me he missed me and he can't wait till I cook for him some day (He's attracted to girls who cook and we always talked about him trying my cooking) and then the next day, he ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryInsecurities suck
[1 POST] CREATED: Nov 19 2020 at 09:02 by Sooperman12 RESPONDENTS: BOLDCHOICE1655 LAST POST: Nov 19 2020 at 15:41

My girlfriend and I have been dating 10 months. We have a great relationship most of the time. She has been hurt a lot so sometimes she gets butt hurt(her words not mine) She has 2 younger children which I adore and they adore me. We get to spend every weekend with eachother and we usually just hang out at her place or mine. She likes to get butt hurt about things that are just silly. One morning ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum category25 year in relationship and feeling more betrayed than EVER!!
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 18 2020 at 05:00 by Missalwayssecondgu RESPONDENTS: SilviaGirl / susiedqq LAST POST: Nov 20 2020 at 00:54

So tonight I discovered my partner has been secretly watching porn. This shouldn't be a problem i am no prude,our sex life is good. Could be better but sharing a house with paper thin walls with our 17 and 21 year old kids and working full time we never get a minute's peace. But we try make up for it where possible. We've always had a great relationship. 3 kids 2 grandkids we don't have alot but...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryJust need some opinions please
[1 POST] CREATED: Nov 18 2020 at 03:23 by Kaymen RESPONDENTS: SilviaGirl LAST POST: Nov 19 2020 at 21:19

Over the last year my husband has started drinking more, and at a local strip club. I do not normally have an issue with strip clubs, but do not want my husband to be a regular. I have asked him repeatedly not to go there, but he continues, claiming it is "just another bar" to him and I have no reason to worry. Is it wrong for me to make a deal out of this? I am considering giving him a...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDo I have a boyfriend who can't give me some space or pouts?
[1 POST] CREATED: Nov 16 2020 at 15:26 by Defeatedandalone RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Nov 17 2020 at 02:53

I admit I'm a person who always likes to please and avoid any type of controversy. My bf of 15 months is very loving but can be very intrusive too and has a tendency not to be sensitive to the needs of others sometimes (including how and what he says). Now to the issue: I told him I needed this past weekend alone with my child visiting from far away for only a week. Since I told him, he has been a...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWife choosing family over my 40th
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 16 2020 at 12:16 by Golf2020 RESPONDENTS: manalone / BOLDCHOICE1655 LAST POST: Nov 22 2020 at 12:50

Hi, this is my first time on a forum . I’m looking for impartial anonymous advice . It’s my 40th birthday in a months time which has been difficult to plan due to covid but I’m still hoping to get away and do something as usually I don’t do much but 40 is a big milestone. My wife is from the Philippines and has a mother with mental health issues , her mum is been forced into moving hou...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIn need of truthful advice (red pills welcome)
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 14 2020 at 19:04 by Confused30Somethin RESPONDENTS: manalone / SilviaGirl LAST POST: Nov 19 2020 at 21:28

(Here goes...) - I'm 31, I'll be 32 next March. I grew up in Los Angeles, where my aspirations were akin to today's youth who aspire to YouTube Fame. My dream of being an entertainer failed at age 25/26, after experiencing a traumatic event in the industry that left me confused and lost. Luckily, I managed to obtain a Bachelor's Degree while I was in Hollywood. In survival mode, I sought a job...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryGo back to ex or not
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 13 2020 at 15:19 by Rick2020 RESPONDENTS: manalone / SilviaGirl LAST POST: Nov 21 2020 at 00:05

I was divorced over 16 years ago with no kids after being married for almost 7 years. Since then, I have an ex-girlfriend I've known over 15 years, call her Woman A. Woman A and I have seen each other on and off since and have both had other relationships. One of those relationships, call her Woman B, went on for around three years on and off, and broke off around 2 years ago. Woman B had contacte...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy wife finds me unattractive because I’m a loner. Should I dump her?
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 12 2020 at 03:41 by Rabelado00 RESPONDENTS: manalone / BOLDCHOICE1655 / luvbirdsoldier LAST POST: Dec 12 2020 at 20:30

I always been a bit of a loner and I always been the type to have only a few trustworthy friends around me. Over the years I either fell out with some of this friends because they let me down and disappointed me for various reasons or just because we have less contact with each other because we spent a lot of time with family and work. My wife recently told me that she finds loners like myself ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryLife Insurance
[1 POST] CREATED: Nov 11 2020 at 12:54 by gelam RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Nov 16 2020 at 23:42

I was recently talking to my husband about our joint life insurance and he said, 3 years ago he was thinking of changing it so I would only get £1. he said at the time I had really been going on at him and it crossed his mind for a few seconds then went out of his mind. he said he would wonder what the look on my face would be like. he said I would only give our children £25 each and i would kee...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryLove, that's not meant to be
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 10 2020 at 04:46 by DisturbedOne35 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / luvbirdsoldier / Anthonyxy LAST POST: Dec 15 2020 at 00:55

I fell in love with my brother's girlfriend after trying to save her from the toxic atmosphere that he has trapped her in. They are constantly fighting, to the point it get violent, and she has become suicidal on more than one occasion and I've done my absolute best to just be a friend. I don't want to ruin my relationship with him or my friendship with her and I would appreciate any advice I can ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryShould I stay or should I go? He cannot seem to get his life together
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 9 2020 at 19:22 by Pizza12 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / SilviaGirl LAST POST: Nov 19 2020 at 21:29

Hi everyone! I am new on here and I'm looking for some advice on my relationship predicament. I apologize it is somewhat complicated/lengthy. I have been with this guy for 4 years. Our personalities are basically the same and we like all of the same stuff. But, lately we have been drifting apart and he doesn't communicate well at all. His major downfalls are that he cannot seem to get his life...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDo I tell him to cut his ex or do I leave?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 8 2020 at 20:37 by lexii RESPONDENTS: manalone / luvbirdsoldier LAST POST: Dec 8 2020 at 18:14

I got into a relationship with someone for almost 3 months. He is very close with his ex that was with him for 9 years. They constantly are messaging each other. I am uncomfortable when I am around them so I chose to not be around her. What do I do? My mind I wanna stay with him but I can’t be comfortable with her around....

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAre we wasting our time?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 8 2020 at 13:19 by Prettyred47 RESPONDENTS: manalone / BOLDCHOICE1655 LAST POST: Nov 19 2020 at 19:14

Hi, I was hoping you could help me with some advise. My husband and i have been married for 22 yrs, not all of them have been happy. We've had alot of struggles with him showing me real affection and showing emotion. He expected me to just know he loved me. Long story short , i moved out and decided that was it. I was tired of begging for attention and affection. I did the worst thing i can do. I ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs it a form of cheating or not?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 8 2020 at 08:43 by IsabellaYork646 RESPONDENTS: manalone / luvbirdsoldier LAST POST: Dec 8 2020 at 14:47

Would you consider it emotional or a form of cheating when a man starts a relationship with you while still having feelings for his ex-girlfriend? In addition, he comments with hearts and flames on his female friends Instagram pictures which are very sexual, meaning showing their naked butts and naked breasts. He would never leave a comment under his girlfriends pictures which are non-sexual. He...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryThis is so annoying
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 8 2020 at 04:21 by skrt.lolz RESPONDENTS: Bluebird11 / BOLDCHOICE1655 LAST POST: Nov 19 2020 at 17:13

I dated this guy off and on a year ago. We were very toxic and long story short it never worked because A-he took my best friend's virginity prior to us dating but he loved her B-he said I assume the worst or C-he pressured me into things and my parents hate him. Now it's been a while and I saw him. We spent a few hours together one night, but nothing happened really. He acted as he loved me. Well...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHelp! Is it him or me?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 7 2020 at 14:15 by Pink Roses RESPONDENTS: Bluebird11 / luvbirdsoldier / susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 9 2020 at 14:14

Looking for help and advice! I’ve never posted on anything like this before but I feel like I’m beginning to exhaust all options so I suppose that I’m hoping that someone who has maybe been in a similar situation before can help. I have been with my partner for 15 years now. I fell pregnant at the age of 20 with our now 14 year old daughter and although it wasn’t planned and we strug...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryExpanding family
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 6 2020 at 11:54 by Hac RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / SilviaGirl LAST POST: Nov 19 2020 at 23:57

I am wanting advice, my husband and I have 2 beautiful kids when we first discussed having children we agreed that 3 kids no more so all along that has been the plan we have been through a rough couple of years and it hasn't been the right time for another child we now have our life back on track and when I bought up the subject of possibly having another kids in maybe a year year and a half he sa...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryBad friend behavior?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 4 2020 at 04:50 by flippity RESPONDENTS: lily31 LAST POST: Nov 5 2020 at 03:23

Please feel free to tell me that I’m being unreasonable or overly paranoid. I’ve got a girlfriend who seems to relish being the other woman, has no qualms whatsoever about being with married men or men in committed long term relationships. She also has a real love for being a martyr, and letting men treat her terribly. The other day, she was supposedly having a Halloween party. I show up wi...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryLove
[1 POST] CREATED: Nov 3 2020 at 20:26 by Amos RESPONDENTS: Richard B LAST POST: Nov 3 2020 at 20:40

I am here to find the best woman in my life the person can love me with all of heard also the woman that i will cherish forever thanks....

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs my boyfriends bad behavior towards my daughter a deal killer?
[1 POST] CREATED: Nov 3 2020 at 12:19 by Pressuring RESPONDENTS: lily31 LAST POST: Nov 3 2020 at 17:04

My bf and I are in our 60s and have been together more than a year. While I'm aware he can be somewhat bossy and too harsh with words, he generally is very loving and kind. However, my adult daughter met him once last year and he came off as brash and bossy to the point where she cried. He was picking on our family cat, who has been a source of comfort for me and my kids since my husband (their d...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryRelationship help
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 1 2020 at 15:13 by Chunky RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Nov 3 2020 at 09:30

Where do I start? Here goes. I find myself very destructive in relationships, this is on going and really hurts the other party. I have underlying trust issues, I'm the first person to admit that. I feel these stem from 2009 ish when my cousin apparently got close to my wife, who was then my girlfriend. He died in 2016 and 3 months later I was kicked out of the martial home. We had...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhy do I still love him?
[1 POST] CREATED: Nov 1 2020 at 13:14 by Sula998 RESPONDENTS: lily31 LAST POST: Nov 1 2020 at 18:51

I’m going to start of by saying I know this will come across pathetic and desperate but I can’t help it... My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years and about 4 years ago he admitted to cheating on me. We worked through it and stayed together. I found out about a month ago that he has done it again. He has been seeing a random 20 year old behind my back. It went on for about a month...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFound naked pics of girl on boyfriends phone... TWICE!
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 1 2020 at 03:40 by Md97 RESPONDENTS: Texas chick / lily31 / susiedqq LAST POST: Nov 5 2020 at 20:00

Hi Long story I'll try to keep it brief. Earlier this year I found naked pictures of a woman on my boyfriends phone. These were very explicit and this was such a shock. When I looked at the girls Instagram account I seen that she works in the 'porn industry' she wasn't a normal girl like me. He followed her account also. So I confronted him. He completely blows up and is angry that I had looked...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow do I stop my overly controlling daughter?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Oct 29 2020 at 18:35 by Defeatedandalone RESPONDENTS: manalone / 8Twenty8 / susiedqq LAST POST: Nov 5 2020 at 21:25

My adult daughter tries to control my life and has been doing so since my husband (her father) passed away 9 years ago. I did go through a temporary rough patch after he passed but never lost control of my life except I lost a lot of weight and became dehydrated leaving me in the hospital a few times. She freaked out which I understand b/c I am her sole parent now. Once I started dating a few yea...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhere do you draw the line with your in-laws?
[1 POST] CREATED: Oct 29 2020 at 18:11 by Advice needed 1234 RESPONDENTS: Bluebird11 LAST POST: Oct 30 2020 at 11:28

I (32 yr old female) have been married to my husband (36 year old male) for ten years. During that time (and when I first met him, dated him etc.) I was aware that he sends half of his salary to his parents, who refuse to work (they had their children as teenagers and have since qualified themselves in different fields, so they are not yet of a retirement age) but they prefer to stay at home. My h...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryBF and I had to break up because of family
[9 POSTS] CREATED: Oct 29 2020 at 02:35 by sadmelon RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / lily31 / Bluebird11 / 8Twenty8 / bubblegumgirl LAST POST: Nov 22 2020 at 21:11

Just wanted to share my story and get some insight from people here. My bf and I had to break up because of his family's disapproval. Unlike most other stories, the disapproval was not personal to me. We had been dating many months now, and he's honestly the most compatible partner I have ever met in my life. We align in almost every single way, and in just the first few months, we had reached ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHiding a relationship from parents who disapprove of him. Help.
[1 POST] CREATED: Oct 27 2020 at 23:45 by aliceinwonderland RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Oct 28 2020 at 02:53

TD;DR my parents don’t approve of my guy. I’m still seeing him behind their backs. I’m worried they’ll disown me. Apologies in advance if my grammar is a little f-ed at times and that this is super long Hi, I am F24, Australian born-Chinese. I have been close friends with a guy (M23, Australian born-Sri Lankan) for about a year. He is truly my best friend. We have the same values, get ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryComplicated relationships
[1 POST] CREATED: Oct 27 2020 at 15:50 by doctor2020 RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Oct 27 2020 at 21:20

I met this man in my class 2 years ago and we became good friends. As we opened up to one another, he began to flirt and showed more of his emotions with me. Last year, I found out that he had been dating a girl for the past 5 years, while he was talking to me. Although we were still friends at the time, I had developed feelings for him and he also showed me that he had feelings for me. I recall, ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI'd like to start over with you
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Oct 27 2020 at 15:08 by Crimson RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / altihhaddd LAST POST: Oct 31 2020 at 19:20

This guy I really fell for and I had a bad fall out. It resulted in him filling a restraining order against me. I don't think I deserved that because I could tell he did it to diss me and make me feel less than. I cyber stalked him thinking it would bring us closer. I was hurt mot only by the rejection but the fact that he was ok with lying to people about us and not taking the opportunity to talk...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhy does my boyfriend act like this?
[1 POST] CREATED: Oct 27 2020 at 07:28 by RedBomb RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Oct 28 2020 at 21:53

My boyfriend didn't want to put on his social media that he's in a relationship. He came up with two different reasons why he didn't want to. He says he doesn't care about social media but I see that he's on it sometimes. Why wouldn't he want to change his status from single to in a relationship?...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I getting abused or am I just sensitive
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Oct 26 2020 at 00:53 by depressedafsrsly RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / lily31 LAST POST: Oct 27 2020 at 09:50

My mom just hit me today with a bucket an broke it on me called me a bastard and other stuff. She also smashed my phone and while she was washing my hair I had a panic attack because of what she said to me and she just told me to shut up. Then she apologized to me afterwards and I feel like I'm being dramatic, I've forgiven her so much before but I don't think I can this time. It is partly my faul...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I crazy for how I feel?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Oct 22 2020 at 13:12 by calidanger1 RESPONDENTS: MISSSY2 / RollandV LAST POST: Oct 22 2020 at 16:01

Am I wrong for not being ok with my partner spending time with or making me obligated to be around them to see that nothing is going on, a person that they were in a relationship during a period while we were broken up? Please help me with this because I am told im just jealous and crazy for feeling that I dont have to be ok With this?...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryRelationship
[1 POST] CREATED: Oct 21 2020 at 16:55 by Mj89 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Oct 25 2020 at 13:31

Would you say a week of push pull dynamic me not wanting the relationship to be over and basically trying to persuade him and him still saying no to much? He has said he truly believes if we are meant to be together then we will be. Now I have stopped contact to respect him and give him what he wants. The last thing he said to me was that he loved me....

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryRelationship advice - Does he like me?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Oct 21 2020 at 02:01 by JuneP18 RESPONDENTS: luvbirdsoldier / Sunrisecool17 / susiedqq LAST POST: Oct 23 2020 at 12:34

This is going to seem really trivial, but I need advice. I'm not very good with dating/romantic stuff as I'm not very good at reading social queue's and I have never had any experience. There is this guy I like, and I don't think he likes me back but other people say that they can feel a connection. I'll give a bit more detail. So, I met this guy 2 years ago, and we get on really well and I con...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryShould I wait or should I forget?
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Oct 20 2020 at 19:44 by deadeyes RESPONDENTS: manalone / luvbirdsoldier LAST POST: Oct 21 2020 at 15:56

So I confessed to my bestfriend after 5 years, as I couldn't keep my feelings in anymore. And to my surprise, she felt the same way. We started talking a lot more, but after 2 weeks or so, I found out my other friend likes me too. This was hard because these two girls were bestfriends. We eventually talked to her about us having feelings for each other and things started to go smoother once again,...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs my boyfriend a control freak?
[1 POST] CREATED: Oct 20 2020 at 12:51 by soconfused12345 RESPONDENTS: luvbirdsoldier LAST POST: Oct 20 2020 at 18:45

My boyfriend and I have been together for more than a year and we deeply care for each other. However there’s one thing that’s really consistent and that is from time to time he could be controlling and states his opinion even if sometimes that opinion comes off as being hurtful and or insensitive. I can go to a lot of examples but I suppose what just happened the other day is a good one. He r...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs he losing interest or scared?
[1 POST] CREATED: Oct 20 2020 at 04:28 by Fancysuz RESPONDENTS: luvbirdsoldier LAST POST: Oct 20 2020 at 18:59

Ignore any grammar errors as I use voice to text: I met this amazing guy on Facebook dating literally my dream guy. I think I’m seriously falling for him it’s been three months since we started talking and have been seeing each other exclusively for two and a half months. We talked for a week via text before we had our first phone conversation on a Friday which was 3 hours. He had said he hat...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFalling for him but it's complicated
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Oct 18 2020 at 04:11 by parisiangurl RESPONDENTS: luvbirdsoldier / susiedqq LAST POST: Oct 18 2020 at 22:01

Hi I meant this guy last month and we went out to eat. We were just hanging out and having conversation. I am 49 yrs old woman and he is 33yrs old. We had a good time. Anyway I had sex with him after we went out that day to eat. We have had sex a few times now. I have started to get feelings for him. He has made comments lately about that he is happy that I am into him. He doesn't want me having s...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum category36 years and not his "soulmate"?
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Oct 17 2020 at 07:37 by marielus RESPONDENTS: luvbirdsoldier / Riz / susiedqq LAST POST: Oct 18 2020 at 22:08

So I'm reaching out as I don't know where else to go. I've never even been part of a chatroom before! My husband & I met in 8th grade, dated all through HS and were married at 17 & 18 years. But we've stuck it out - or at least I thought so. However, when we were only a year married, with a child, and he told me he "wasn't sure" and "still loved" a girl he had dated a couple of months behind my...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryNeed opinions what do u think?
[1 POST] CREATED: Oct 15 2020 at 22:31 by Smiling lady RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Oct 21 2020 at 02:33

Hi all I posted a couple of weeks ago about my boyfriend and how I felt caught him popping one off and then had words told me only did it a couple of times and wouldn't as we didn't have sex not through but he had lost the mojo tired or not in the mood...well anyway porn sites been on his phone saw them when he was closing his browsers. Tuesday I told him again how I felt that no affection I do ev...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWorried about my friend
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Oct 14 2020 at 10:48 by WorriedFriend RESPONDENTS: manalone / MISSSY2 / January LAST POST: Oct 30 2020 at 08:57

Hello, well i wont take up too much of your time im just worried about one of my close friends. Shes gotten herself involved with a married man, he is clearly using her for sex, he gives her money and she says the arrangement works. However i know who this bloke is and his wife and it would cause a huge uproar in the local town if she found out about it. She has 2 young children and im worried ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMeeting guys
[1 POST] CREATED: Oct 13 2020 at 20:29 by Surfergirl12 RESPONDENTS: luvbirdsoldier LAST POST: Oct 20 2020 at 19:18

Hi everyone, I hope you are doing well. I have a weird question to ask. One of my very good friends (we call each other sisters) has no trouble meeting guys as friends or dating (especially dating) and it always seems like this is true because she just seems to hang out where there are lots of guys. There never seem to be many guys when I go places and I always wonder why when I go places I ne...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhat am I doing wrong? How should I fix this?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Oct 13 2020 at 17:38 by Shouldn'tTell1234 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / lily31 LAST POST: Oct 21 2020 at 08:27

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now. So I'm 19 years old but my parents are a bit conservative about me going out ever since COVID. Since I have grandparents in my house, the amount of times i go out has reduced. My boyfriend lives about 13km away from me. Ever since it started, Ive been going to his house and off late, ive been going twice a week atleast unless im sick or have a ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI want to get back with my ex
[1 POST] CREATED: Oct 13 2020 at 15:35 by Unknownbasis123 RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Oct 14 2020 at 22:55

So me and my ex (37) broke up nearly a year ago last November. I recently got back in contact after my birthday in august and my break up with my recent ex (26) of 4 months who I started seeing in April. Me and my ex (37) were together for two years but broke up briefly for 3 months where I started seeing another guy (39) before getting back together for 2 months when I told him to go back with hi...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I wrong
[1 POST] CREATED: Oct 12 2020 at 16:10 by perax RESPONDENTS: KLF LAST POST: Oct 13 2020 at 12:19

It was my 5oth birthday a few days ago and my husband had asked our kids to come as it would be nice for my birthday. I didn't want any fuss at all and if they weren't going to be able to make it I was not bothered because they have jobs and there own lives and a phone call would of been alright to me. my husband took 2 days off work for my birthday. at first our daughter was only going to come fo...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHe broke my heart it hurts so much
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Oct 11 2020 at 12:14 by let9222 RESPONDENTS: manalone / KLF / luvbirdsoldier / January LAST POST: Oct 30 2020 at 09:06

I was with my fiance for 8 months, we were going to be married on December 22, 2020. So I thought. Then my fiance all of a sudden said he needed space, we did have a few issues but they were not that bad it turns out while we were on this break he slept with his kids mom. Which they were together for 9 years off and on. He vowed to me that he would never be with her. That she cheated on him a lot ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryTime to walk?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Oct 11 2020 at 07:41 by Kat82 RESPONDENTS: manalone / luvbirdsoldier / MISSSY2 LAST POST: Oct 13 2020 at 02:28

Help. Divorced with two kids, moved on and in with the guy I thought was my forever. Turns out I’m a backseat to everything in his life. As a farmer we moved to him- his mom died, and his dad depends deeply on him. I’m finding myself desperate for any affection and even his acknowledgement that I deserve that and physical interaction. He is always tired and sore from his day (legitimiat...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryClassic martyr complex?
[1 POST] CREATED: Oct 7 2020 at 10:34 by MajorTom RESPONDENTS: refined_silver LAST POST: Oct 8 2020 at 16:01

Hi Guys, My first post here and trying to find some answers. I have recently broken up with my Fiance that I had been with for 3 years. I have been noting down some observations and would apprieciate if someone can tell me if this sounds like Martyr Complex? Kerry: Previous relationships – Was in an abusive relationship with someone called Dan. Would completely control her life, p...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryNot having enough economic stability to get married late 20's
[1 POST] CREATED: Oct 6 2020 at 22:45 by Woman14 RESPONDENTS: MISSSY2 LAST POST: Oct 10 2020 at 13:44

I'm 28 and my boyfriend 35, we've been for 6 years now. I'd like to settle down and he too, but he isn't earning enough money and me neither, Shouldn't I worry so much for this 'cause as I read and see for you as men the economic stability improves with the years? I want to read you from a man or woman perspective...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs he just being petty?
[1 POST] CREATED: Oct 5 2020 at 22:09 by derrims (alias modified to protect identity) RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Oct 6 2020 at 00:22

My husband is highly pissed with me right now because of what happened yesterday. My biological daughter is having my first grandchild, the family's first biological great-grandchild. This is my only child. My sister, and my daughter's best friend have been planning a gender reveal party and Sunday my sister called me to ask if they could have it at our house. I didn't have a problem with it. The ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWould love your opinion regarding a Covid fear - Top Golf
[1 POST] CREATED: Oct 5 2020 at 13:20 by mason42 RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Oct 9 2020 at 00:38

6 of my close family members attended a Top Golf outing. Top Golf is similar to a bowling alley, every group gets their own section (called a bay), chairs, table and a place to hit golf balls. Top Golf put a sheet of plastic between groups that hangs from the ceiling. Top Golf cleans the golf clubs and the computer screen but they did not clean the seat where everyone lounges on. The place was...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy husband and I are at an impasse. I don't know how to get past it
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Oct 5 2020 at 06:57 by Nope7759 RESPONDENTS: mason42 / KLF LAST POST: Oct 13 2020 at 12:39

We've been together for 7 years, 3 married. My husband brought home a gun 4 years ago, there was no indication before that he was interested in them. I'm pretty anti-gun, he knew this. I'm going to try to make this short. He bought 2 guns and brought them home, we had been dating for a few years at this point. I was upset, we had a fight and in the end I agreed that he could keep them as long ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI should just leave him...right?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Oct 3 2020 at 07:45 by Gee2416 RESPONDENTS: ltr LAST POST: Oct 3 2020 at 18:31

His name's Eric he ignores me unless I'm with him even then he's on his phone. He's said/says mean and ugly things to me. He's always accusing me of lying and hiding things. I can't even go to my mom's without him tripping on me. I love him been with him for 4 years but it seems and feels like I don't matter to him at all anymore. I think I should leave him but then we end up together again. ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI need help, I don’t know what to do with my relationship?
[1 POST] CREATED: Oct 2 2020 at 23:10 by FabDisaster RESPONDENTS: MISSSY2 LAST POST: Oct 10 2020 at 13:55

First I want to apologize for making this so long, you will probably spend 3-4 minutes reading my thread, this is a very long story I tried my best to brief and provide all the details so you could understand the story. “Sigh” I don’t even know where to start.. I met my fiancé 11 years ago. I was 15 and he was 17. We met in high school. The only reason why I decided to date my fianc...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy partner wants to explore his bi side
[1 POST] CREATED: Oct 2 2020 at 15:22 by periwinkle RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Oct 5 2020 at 00:57

my partner is interested in gay sex I havent much of a problem with this but I dont want him to do it alone It intrigues me to join him and we have agreed, but he aint happy with the guys I choose and we have both decided that no one is touching me only him He has no patience, when he's horny he wants it there and now But he also says things during our sex sessions that hurt me We have br...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categorySelfish husband
[1 POST] CREATED: Oct 1 2020 at 22:44 by Bugg RESPONDENTS: mason42 LAST POST: Oct 5 2020 at 13:42

My husband and I have been together for almost 10 years. We have always been honest and open with each other about our feelings, even when it entails the other persons behavior. A big point of contention in our relationship has been selfishness. I have always felt that he takes more than he gives and is constantly asking for more than is being offered in the context of our relationship. We’ve s...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryGirls: Would you date a best friend?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Oct 1 2020 at 13:31 by KLFSFR RESPONDENTS: MISSSY2 / luvbirdsoldier / susiedqq LAST POST: Oct 18 2020 at 22:31

Hey girls. Please give my your honest opinion on what you'd like a guy to do. Thank you so much. :) I've known her since Jan of 2016. We were always good friends, but not SUPER close (This is all during High School, we're currently both 18) Jan 2019, I joined her friend group (all girls, but I typically get on better with girls). Her and I grew very close now. But then I got feelings for her...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categorySo many problems in my relationship
[1 POST] CREATED: Sep 30 2020 at 19:34 by Iam_me RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Sep 30 2020 at 22:43

When our relationship is good... Well it's just that, good. There are so many issues that I've got to a point where I'm not even sure it's worth it anymore. Don't get me wrong I haven't made it easy myself. It's so dysfunctional and unhealthy partly because of me, that I feel like I may as well just end it. But then there's another part of me that is fighting to hold in a power thro...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI want my partner to cut communication with an ex friend
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 29 2020 at 23:02 by croquetteaway RESPONDENTS: MISSSY2 LAST POST: Oct 1 2020 at 15:03

TW// Su*c*de For context, my partner and I are relatively young adults so like early 20s and we've been dating for a little over 2 years. The ex friend in question is in their mid 20s and came in contact with us through internet communities. So for context, I have depression and anxiety and it gets really bad sometimes because of lack of access to medication/therapy and I live in an abusive hou...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI slept with my best friend
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 29 2020 at 18:44 by Kates of hillside RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / MISSSY2 LAST POST: Sep 29 2020 at 22:23

We were bestfriends for 5 years now. After being bestfriend for that long we decided to drink, only the two of us. we literally drank until were wasted. We are drinking at his yard and decides to come in for i am wasted and i can't even walk straight. We are very close that cuddling is just normal. So we cuddle and ended up having sex after 5 years. Now the problem is, no one wants to open it up. ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryConfused this one
[7 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 28 2020 at 11:54 by Kris RESPONDENTS: Bluebird11 / MISSSY2 / susiedqq LAST POST: Sep 29 2020 at 12:36

"I don't see why we can't just relax and continue No big deal" This is his answer, I'm confused, what does it mean?...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhat should I do between my two friends who no longer talk each other?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 25 2020 at 20:50 by sisi RESPONDENTS: MISSSY2 / luvbirdsoldier / susiedqq LAST POST: Oct 25 2020 at 15:14

Basically, there are two friends of mine a guy and a girl, who were* very close to each other than me last year. However, when we get back together after summer holiday for a few months, I notice that something has happened between them and they keep ignoring each other. I'm feeling really awkward whenever I meet a guy friend while I'm together with a girl friend. The situation is harder for me no...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhat have I done wrong
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 25 2020 at 18:07 by Misty9150 RESPONDENTS: MISSSY2 / luvbirdsoldier LAST POST: Oct 24 2020 at 15:01

There are two guys, one’s name is Emmanuel and one is Evan. I did a yolo on snapchat where I got a lot of messages and it turns out theres a lot of guys out there that like me, which is strange. I got out of my comfort zone and started opening up as a flirty person, that no one thought of me as before. Well, both Emmanuel and Evan hmu after wards. I knew Emmanuel for 2 years ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI'm torn in what to do..am I being stupid?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 24 2020 at 23:28 by Smiling lady RESPONDENTS: manalone / MISSSY2 LAST POST: Sep 27 2020 at 12:38

I met my bf at work we got on well and spoke laughed there's 6 yrs difference im older everything was fine and I could see a future with him roll on 6 months later and we started dating...3 months later he moved in with me,we have lived together for 17 months. i just don't know if this is really worth it and have no one to talk too so opinions really would help Our first so called magical Xmas...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDon't know how to end my relationship...
[1 POST] CREATED: Sep 23 2020 at 17:19 by WinterGarden001 RESPONDENTS: MISSSY2 LAST POST: Sep 27 2020 at 04:56

Okay so I'll try not to ramble but I've been in a 5 year relationship with a man whom I think I love but I cant stand to be touched, kissed nor be around him. It sounds awful, but the thought of having sex with him makes me cringe also. Why do I feel this way? I feel like I love him but is it more the thought of losing him? I suppose when you've been with someone so long it's like losing a best...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhy does my girlfriend make me sit on the ground in front of her?
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 22 2020 at 23:39 by SirJoseph RESPONDENTS: MISSSY2 / luvbirdsoldier LAST POST: Oct 13 2020 at 16:22

First off, I'd like to give some context. I am 19 and about 6'1 while my girlfriend is 18 and 5'7. I'm not submissive, and I've had multiple girlfriends in the past meaning that I'm not desperate. However, recently I've begun dating this relatively quiet girl who was pretty hot. At first things started really slow but she soon started opening up to me and our relationship reached a personal level...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy friend whom has a girlfriend showing jealousy signs?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 22 2020 at 23:21 by nicholex6219 RESPONDENTS: MISSSY2 / 8Twenty8 LAST POST: Sep 30 2020 at 21:53

So my issue is with my friend who i’ll call Carl for privacy purposes. But I’ve been friends with Carl for a while now and last year he had broken up with his girlfriend so we became close & started on the low seeing eachother. Well due to circumstances with petty ex friends he ended stuff with us but we still remained close friends/ friends with benefits. Carl got back with his girlfriend...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryLost, confused and hurt
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 21 2020 at 04:38 by FrankNBeans RESPONDENTS: manalone / MISSSY2 LAST POST: Sep 21 2020 at 21:00

Recently my husband and I have been going through a rough patch. I earlier this summer found him messaging other women non-explicitly; saying things such as I could kiss you , or how he could ride his Harley over to see this other woman. Both of these messages were to two different women. I’ve confronted him and asked him how he’d feel if the roles were reversed. He was remorseful and begging ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhat would you do in this situation?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 20 2020 at 02:58 by Lilypad16 RESPONDENTS: MISSSY2 / susiedqq LAST POST: Sep 20 2020 at 14:07

I've (23F) been with this guy (28) for about 1.5 months. There have been little things that he has been saying casually or in a joking manner which sort of worried me but I'm not sure if they are "red flags". 1) He asked about my income and savings a few of times and each time I refused to tell him the details because it's irrelevant to me. He also (in a joking manner) asked me to cover more th...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryBoyfriend refuses to have sex when I want to, but I jump when he asks
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 20 2020 at 02:05 by Kaguya RESPONDENTS: MISSSY2 / KLF / luvbirdsoldier LAST POST: Oct 13 2020 at 14:10

My boyfriend doesn’t really want to have sex with me anymore. We are a BDSM couple as well, so spicing it up even more would mean killing each other in bed. I have sex with him whenever he wants. But when I ask him when IM horny he always makes up an excuse. What do I do?...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI can't take criticism
[7 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 19 2020 at 05:17 by Dale&Fields RESPONDENTS: manalone / MISSSY2 / susiedqq / 8Twenty8 / luvbirdsoldier LAST POST: Oct 24 2020 at 20:30

My Fiancè and I have quarreled this many times. I do something for him like make his breakfast or lunch in the morning. Or dinner in the evening. Doing his laundry. And a lot of the times it's far from perfect. Most of the time I get a thank you. But occasionally I get a "thank you, but..." To which I've done something that needs improving. The kicker is while my Fiancè and I were dating he ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI can't believe he has gone this far and blocked me
[7 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 17 2020 at 19:36 by Ellieb56 RESPONDENTS: MISSSY2 LAST POST: Sep 27 2020 at 12:43

We got together in 1992 for 3 years but split up and he married and I was in a relationship with someone when those were done we got back together and he moved in after a year he cheated with someone younger so we split again and when that ended we got back together again but I couldn't forgive him so he finished it for good last year but we remained friends and got on well talking every day all d...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryCheating
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 17 2020 at 12:02 by Sam111 RESPONDENTS: MISSSY2 / susiedqq LAST POST: Sep 20 2020 at 14:26

My husband keeps online cheating this has been going on for years on and off he keeps deleting the apps promising never again Last year I had enough i felt worthless so I did the wrong thing and wrongly had a affair we sorted it out promised never again we got passed it thought all was good But I found out again last week he is at it again 😥 his excuse he gets bored when I work ok I work da...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryGreen eyed monster
[1 POST] CREATED: Sep 14 2020 at 07:44 by Chompas RESPONDENTS: MISSSY2 LAST POST: Sep 14 2020 at 14:16

I am currently dating a paranoid schizophrenic, it has I have to say been an arduous journey My problem is my horrendous jealousy I thought as I matured that I was managing my emotions quite well but recently my partner has started to look at other women when we are together He constantly and quite obviously checks them out He also frequently has and shares amongst his friends porn a graphic m...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy best friend is not father of his oldest
[12 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 13 2020 at 20:31 by Nick king RESPONDENTS: MISSSY2 / susiedqq / Chompas LAST POST: Sep 18 2020 at 02:07

I've known for 18 months and I am finding it hard be his friend knowing this.hes separated two years and there are 3 kids. First isn't his and is now 14. He doesn't s on terrible terms with his ex as he found out she had a few affairs.to make it worse his cousin is the father of his oldest I know its none of my business but he's my best friend ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDazed and confused with dating need advice
[1 POST] CREATED: Sep 13 2020 at 03:17 by justaguy2020 RESPONDENTS: MISSSY2 LAST POST: Sep 13 2020 at 13:28

I have be single for about 1 year previous to that I was involved with a women for 4 yrs it was mutual breakup. I learned a lot about myself and what I wanted. I joined match and have been seeing a wonderful women for 2 months. She is a single mom of 2 kids, she has been separated from her husband for a yr and half and working though a divorce he was very mentally abusive and controlling, she has ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI think I fell in love
[1 POST] CREATED: Sep 12 2020 at 00:08 by AlexJuniper RESPONDENTS: MISSSY2 LAST POST: Sep 12 2020 at 04:21

I shouldn't feel this way, and I don't understand it. I am only a teenager, but out of all of the trivial crushes I've had in the past, I have never felt like this. I think I fell in love with him. It's been over a year since I met him, but as soon as I got to know him I had the urge to get closer. To be honest, he isn't the handsomest, nor is he the tallest, but I don't care. He has a reputati...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow long to wait for this girl?
[16 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 10 2020 at 05:47 by Broncobuster RESPONDENTS: MISSSY2 / susiedqq / Cayetana LAST POST: Oct 26 2020 at 03:00

Hello folks, looking forward to getting some advice on my issue here. To make a long story as short as possible, I have fallen completely in love with a woman I work with. I was the first to reveal my feelings and though she didn't immediately reciprocate them, she has come around and we get along as well as two people can. Until now, I had never understood when people talk about how they just...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy future Mother-in-law has cancer...
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 10 2020 at 00:06 by Dale&Fields RESPONDENTS: MISSSY2 / manalone LAST POST: Sep 10 2020 at 22:10

Hey everyone, I'm having kind of a dilemma. I got engaged back in November and have been planning a wedding for this November. Yes even COVID wasn't going to stop us from getting married. It wasn't about the number of attendees anyways. However, within the past few weeks my mother-in-law to be has been diagnosed with lymphoma and will be starting an 18 week 6 cycle chemotherapy treatment. ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow to find out if he's married
[1 POST] CREATED: Sep 8 2020 at 08:49 by EmilyG RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Sep 8 2020 at 23:46

I have been with a guy for 3 years and wanted a baby and marriage. I was 39 when we met and it was probably my last chance. We really connect but he has made constant excuses about why we can't be together. The main one was that commitment freaked him out and he didn't understand why but he just needed to pull away from me from time to time. At the same time he talks constantly about us getting ma...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMom Stuff
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 6 2020 at 03:06 by Pais19 RESPONDENTS: MISSSY2 LAST POST: Sep 8 2020 at 02:48

Hey Everyone, I just need some Mother advice. It is eating at my head all day. I will just start from this year only or else if I do more, it'll be a novel. lol. So I live 4.5 hours from my mom and step dad. I moved to a city to have better career opportunities and just to start a new chapter in life. I had some issues with my new move and my dog. So in Jan, I took my dog to my parents...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categorySuffocated by her marriage, falls for another guy but can’t leave
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 5 2020 at 16:18 by Jane RESPONDENTS: MISSSY2 / Cayetana LAST POST: Sep 14 2020 at 20:09

Jane was physically and sexually abused by her mothers abusive partners as a child, at aged 12 the abuse stopped and Jane began spending more and more time at her friend‘s house. Over a couple of years she fell for her friend’s older brother; she pursued him, sneaking into his room when everybody else was asleep. They began a physical relationship when she was 13 and he was 18. No interco...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy fiancé needs space!
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 5 2020 at 07:08 by let9222 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / MISSSY2 LAST POST: Sep 6 2020 at 04:08

was with my fiance for 8 months and all of a sudden he said he needed space ,he said I was to clingy and smothering him .I was in shock ,we had an amazing weekend together a few days before he dropped this bomb I have called him and texed him asking him why he is doing this to me ,we were supposed to be married in December, he is the one that set a date for us to be married. When I call or text h...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs he sick of taking care of me?
[1 POST] CREATED: Sep 4 2020 at 00:55 by chezza RESPONDENTS: MISSSY2 LAST POST: Sep 6 2020 at 04:38

I've been with my boyfriend for 18 months, im 40 and he's 43. We've had a really tough time so far and I'm worried he's going to realise I'm not worth all the aggro. When we first got together I was a nightmare when I'd had a drink, I was diagnosed with anxiety and put on medication. We then realised I was bleeding during and after sex. After numerous trips to the doctors I was referred to the hos...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy boyfriend needs to lose weight and it's not working, how do help?
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 3 2020 at 14:31 by Kroepoek RESPONDENTS: manalone / MISSSY2 LAST POST: Sep 8 2020 at 02:53

My boyfriend and myself both have always had issues with weight. Him more than me, but we both lost a pretty big amount of weight not too long ago. At some point he started binge eating again though and that makes me and him both unhappy. To me his health is the number one priotity and it scares me to see him lose control when it comes to eating. He always askes me for help but at some point he ne...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy mom's siblings are so mean to her and my grandparents
[1 POST] CREATED: Sep 3 2020 at 06:28 by mochimochi RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Sep 6 2020 at 20:25

My mom has 2 brothers who I feel have been jealous of her ever since our family became more financially well-off. My mom is always thoughtful of them, always goes out of her way to buy them food, take their kids out to have fun, and every time we go on vacation she always gets them souvenirs-I know that my mom has good intentions, but all of this I think has only ever been seen by them as my mom...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFound inappropriate texts on boyfriends phone
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 3 2020 at 03:38 by Fooledagain RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / MISSSY2 / Riz LAST POST: Sep 16 2020 at 06:24

Last night I found lots of photos of a woman on holiday on my boyfriends phone. This woman is a customer of his and he had requested the photos. To top it all of he texted her back “you look very hot” I have an issue with this. It is obviously inappropriate as she is his customer. He however is saying that I’m completely over reacting as it was just a complement. Please could y...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryLacking closure from a toxic relationship
[8 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 2 2020 at 11:08 by Gilmoregirl123 RESPONDENTS: manalone / susiedqq / MISSSY2 / Pais19 / 8Twenty8 / Cayetana LAST POST: Sep 15 2020 at 01:19

So during lockdown my partner of 3 years ended our relationship. Whilst upsetting, I knew that this was the right decision as it was no longer healthy or salvageable. Prior to this we had been arguing for some time, as I felt that he had lost interest in me from as early as last November. We had been doing long distance for just over a year when he began to contact me less often, and seem much les...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHe keeps making excuses
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 31 2020 at 22:02 by MissChris RESPONDENTS: manalone / susiedqq LAST POST: Sep 1 2020 at 00:53

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 1/2 years now. I have lived on my own since I was 18, I am 26 now. He still lives with his parents, he is 24. I understand with him being younger he might not “be there” but he is the main one that continues to say that he “can’t wait to have kids” “can’t wait to get married” “can’t wait to live together”. Now any time I bring up mo...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs he cheating or am I over thinking it all?
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 31 2020 at 04:27 by sweetgal50 RESPONDENTS: Dost / January / MISSSY2 LAST POST: Sep 6 2020 at 03:57

Hello to all of you! I have a question. I’ve been seeing a guy for about a year. We see each other about every other weekend. We both work and every other weekend just works for us. He and usually text a lot!!! Well lately (past two months)I have noticed he doesn’t always reply back to my messages right away. Sometimes I text on Saturday morning and he doesn’t reply until Monday. A c...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryUncomfortable with conflict
[6 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 31 2020 at 03:12 by Levelzero RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / nerdbrain / mfb LAST POST: Sep 4 2020 at 19:58

Hello! Just a warning, ya'll-- this might be a long story but I promise I'll make it as short and sweet as I can so bare with me. Please and thank you! Okay so, for the past 2 years I've been living with my fiance and his mom, who is widowed. He also has an older brother and sister but they've been moved out since before I got here. The relationship between my fiance and I is pretty great a...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryNew relationship for seniors
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 27 2020 at 23:29 by old timer.1 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / MISSSY2 / 8Twenty8 / Cayetana LAST POST: Sep 14 2020 at 19:33

So I met a wonderful man online, and I think it is someone who is a great match for me. We are both retired from successful careers. We have moved in together, and although he had been separated from his wife for over ten years, they had never finalized a divorce. He agreed to go forward and complete the divorce, and she had always told him, "No problem. Whenever you decide to complete the ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhere do I stand?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 27 2020 at 12:09 by kewldude RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / MISSSY2 LAST POST: Sep 6 2020 at 04:26

i am 45, married and have 2 kids. i have fallen in love with a woman who is 33 and also has 2 kids. She prefers tall men of her age who have a deep voice. I am not any of these. There is a third person of her age who is tall and has a deep voice. He is also in love with her. He is also a guitarist and a good artist. She says she has a soft corner for him and really likes him. On the other han...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWill ever he forgive me and take me back?
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 27 2020 at 07:23 by Shouldn'tTell1234 RESPONDENTS: manalone / susiedqq LAST POST: Sep 5 2020 at 14:04

Corona virus really did ruin things for me and my boyfriend. We've been together 10 months now and its safe to say that we havent felt this way about anyone else. We love each other very dearly. Few months ago, around May, I heard word from a family friend that my boyfriends' best friend(who is also close to me because his family and mine know each other), was having feelings for me. I had to info...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryCrush on someone with a partner
[6 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 23 2020 at 22:47 by Laurabell1992 RESPONDENTS: manalone / susiedqq / 8Twenty8 LAST POST: Aug 30 2020 at 13:24

Hi guys I have a bit of a dilemma. My older sister has been with her boyfriend around 5 years now. He has a brother who I have a major crush on, and have done for a couple of years now. The problem is he has a girlfriend, who is not a great character. She lies, takes drugs and has has a history of dodgy lifestyles and behaviours. He on the other hand is very soft natured, nice looking and quit...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIt feels like my boyfriend hates me?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 23 2020 at 21:21 by Imrubbishatnames20 RESPONDENTS: Iloveit2020! / manalone LAST POST: Aug 24 2020 at 23:19

Okay so where to begin... We got together in February (valentines day to be exact). He was recently released from jail (after serving 2 years) he was on electronic tag. I gave him the Benefit of the doubt as he commited the crime whilst he was 19. He ended up back in jail after the first two times of us meeting. As he breached his tag. I had the choice to stay with him as I was only having to wai...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy girlfriend of 8 months cheated on me, should I give her a chance?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 21 2020 at 12:17 by W1LLB55 RESPONDENTS: AmethystBlack / AnnonymousGirl LAST POST: Aug 25 2020 at 04:06

My girlfriend went to a concert last night with one of her best friends and then a friend of hers who she used to be in a relationship with. The best friend got tired and decided to go home, but my girlfriend stayed with the other friend and went back to his house. She told me she was doing this, and that the atmosphere was very relaxed and she felt like she was with one of her best friends. Af...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMarriage break up
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 18 2020 at 15:23 by jbb RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Soulmate LAST POST: Aug 21 2020 at 03:56

my wife walked out on myself and our 14 year old daughter 4 months ago. She stated that she didn't love me anymore. We started to talk and spoke about how we could fix the issues we have but it was all one way traffic on my half. She told me last week that she was not coming back and I'm devastated, it should of been our 11 year wedding anniversary the other day. I feel so lost....

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI don’t get hardly any alone time and I need advice on what to do
[6 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 16 2020 at 21:40 by guyguy803 RESPONDENTS: manalone / mfb / Soulmate / AmethystBlack LAST POST: Aug 21 2020 at 13:06

I’ve never submitted anything to a forum before but I’m not sure who to ask for advice. This is the first really serious relationship I’ve been in so I’m not sure how to approach this topic without hurting her feelings. So some background for anonymity’s sake I’m going to refer to my girlfriend as Sally. I’m not sure if it’s relevant but I’m 23 years old and she is 20. So me a...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryGetting over cheating
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 14 2020 at 15:40 by Jillybean RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Aug 18 2020 at 19:21

When I first met my boyfriend, I told him about my many escapades with couples and other woman. At the time I had no problem with having sex with multiple partners and we even discussed having an open relationship. At the time, he said no to an open relationship and that he didn't want me having sex with other people without him and especially not other men. I was ok with that and kept having s...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDoes respect = love
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 14 2020 at 13:28 by Care Alot RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Soulmate LAST POST: Aug 21 2020 at 00:33

Is it disrespectful for a man that's in a relationship to sit at another womans house alone with her in her bedroom for atleast 2hrs and tell the other woman" my wife would not like me here alone with you" also does him doing that mean he doesn't love his wife? ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDo I tell my boyfriend about a meaningless kiss?
[1 POST] CREATED: Aug 13 2020 at 11:19 by sowellawhite RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Aug 13 2020 at 23:06

I was on a night out with a few of my friends. After a few drinks, me and a close guy friend started having a heartfelt conversation. In the middle the conversation, he leant in and kissed me. I was taken aback and confused. But I briefly kissed back. The kiss was for no more than a few seconds as, once I comprehended what was happening, I immediately pulled away. It did not mean anything and I fe...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHurt me with words
[1 POST] CREATED: Aug 12 2020 at 13:01 by Hela RESPONDENTS: Jillybean LAST POST: Aug 14 2020 at 15:10

Been married 24 years together 28. Husband had prostrate taken out 4 years ago so as to use a pump. We recently had sex without the pump and I gave him oral, I sat on him and he came and thanked me for it. I felt so hurt and angry. I said it made me feel like a prostitute or one night stand and he said what's wrong with thanking me for sex because he enjoyed it. I have cheated on my husband quite ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryBoyfriends parents making it impossible
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 10 2020 at 19:40 by kittykatkit1 RESPONDENTS: Shay / Soulmate LAST POST: Aug 21 2020 at 02:57

So, basically i’ve come on here for peoples advice. Simply because i don’t know if i’m over reacting or not? Me and my partner have had a rocky two years. Arguing a lot and it did draw attention. I used to discuss our issues with his mum as she knows he has an anger problem, and she helped me to get him a counsellor/ anger management. But one day she decided she’s done helping with our...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow to have a healthy argument
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 10 2020 at 05:17 by Maree RESPONDENTS: lily31 / 8Twenty8 LAST POST: Aug 21 2020 at 17:12

Hi I am a middle aged widow with two grown children. 2 years ago I began a relationship with a lovely man who was coming off a fairly recent separation. His former partner was emotionally and financially abusive to him during the course of their marriage and he has endured a long and expensive fight to have regular access to his children and settle their property. Through it all I have witnessed ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryStupid relationship problems
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 5 2020 at 08:37 by msocee RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Aug 10 2020 at 18:59

So long story short my boyfriend of 7 years and I broke up back in December and just reconnected again finally in June. It was devastating to say the least for me without going into super personal details ill just say its always been a lot of nonsense and games hes not been the greatest guy he's cheated numerous times done horrible things behind my back kept plenty of secrets and he's been abusiv...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMiddle aged 30 year old figuring out dating
[1 POST] CREATED: Aug 4 2020 at 03:07 by JohnnyDanze RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Aug 4 2020 at 03:53

Desperate in need of advice, I recently have been dating a girl who’s been pursuing me for almost a year. Very nice girl, a family girl, and very old school, loves to cook and take care of home, she also has a 3 year old son who’s dad is not in the picture, but she is young, she is a very mature 20 year old and she also lives in TJ. Mexico. While I’m a 35 year old. The age difference scares ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryComfortably uncomfortable
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 3 2020 at 18:11 by Deadflowers411 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Soulmate LAST POST: Aug 5 2020 at 23:10

My high school sweetheart and I have been on and off for 10 years. Our relationship was super unhealthy, both insecure teenagers with broken homes that craved just the slightest bit of acceptance. We just needed somewhere to escape to, somehow the problems we made were better than the ones at home. Although we had problems we managed to get better we fix things by the time we left highschool. At ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMid life crisis or effects of drug use....
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 2 2020 at 00:03 by Flamingo80 RESPONDENTS: manalone / 8Twenty8 / susiedqq / MISSSY2 LAST POST: Sep 6 2020 at 03:52

Hi there Have been looking for a place to chat to people as I’m stuck in such a horrid complicated place atm. I’ve been with my OH for 20 years this month and married for 7. He got into cocaine just after we got married. He started his own business.... Over the last 7 years I’ve seen such a change in him. I have tried all I can to get him to stop but always an excuse. It’s stressed ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy boyfriend refuses to unfriend his ex even after she blocked him
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 31 2020 at 15:45 by Strong soul RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Aug 10 2020 at 07:32

My boyfriend was dating a girl for 4 years before he met me. When they broke up, they didn't part amicably. They both beared a lot of resentment towards each other. Now in the 2 years that we have been together he's tried to help her on multiple occasions just as a friend. But every time he's tried to reach out to her she's just blocked him. 1) He tried to let go of all the resentment and just mov...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFeel hurt
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 30 2020 at 12:48 by Wilka RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Jul 31 2020 at 18:43

My husband works as a sales rep. I have always supported him and been there for him when he as talked about his work or going after new jobs. I've felt I have never had any support from him at all in anything I do. Recently he went out at 730am and got home 7pm at night. I knew he had to go and fix a water pump and he said the night before he would be home early in the day he was fixing it. I was ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryGetting older and very indescisive in love life
[1 POST] CREATED: Jul 29 2020 at 02:17 by ElizabethK RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Jul 31 2020 at 12:05

I’ve just turned 33 and I haven’t brought anyone home to meet my parents or family ever. I date pretty consistently. Things last about 3-6 months typically and then when things are about to get more serious I bolt....every time. I am seeing someone currently and am trying to give it some more time (try a little harder to make it work) but it just doesn’t feel right. Thoughts? I’m clearly a...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryConfused about the relationship between my Ex and I
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 28 2020 at 14:56 by PPFkuro RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Jul 31 2020 at 17:59

Hi all. Maybe someone can offer some help or advice - any input is much appreciated. TO MAKE IT CLEAR... I WANT TO BE OVER HER... I HAVE A FEELING THAT SHE'S STILL CONSIDERING US TO BE A POSSIBILITY BUT... I JUST CAN'T HANDLE THE CONSTANT EMOTIONAL GAME OF CAT & MOUSE... YES, IT WILL SOUND LIKE I'M STILL HEAD OVER HEELS FOR HER... AND I MIGHT BE... BUT I'D RATHER NOT BE... Essentially, I was...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryCrush getting jealous, why?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 27 2020 at 10:09 by Kate RESPONDENTS: AngelPaige LAST POST: Aug 21 2020 at 03:57

i proposed my crush he rejected my marriag proposal then i started dating his friend he was ok with us dating but when he came to know we are getting married he got shocked and depressed and trying to pursue me for sex/date...do u think he will propose me for marriage or can this be called love??...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy girlfriend made anti-men comments and I don't know how to feel
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 25 2020 at 22:01 by TakGeo174 RESPONDENTS: manalone / susiedqq LAST POST: Jul 26 2020 at 03:05

It started with her growling "men" whenever a man would ever so slightly inconvenience her, then it would move on to her making generalizing comments. One night, her friends decided to make anti-men comments and she encouraged them. This incident was the camel that broke the straw's back. When I confronted her about her behavior, she said "oh", and then proceeded to ignore the fact that I was ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHonest advice wanted
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 25 2020 at 18:28 by Keawyed123 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Jul 31 2020 at 18:14

I have been with my partner for Six years, we have been engaged for 3 years and living together for two. We are both divorcees and both have two kids. Mine are now both adults and my partners boys are 18 and 15 I have had a great relationship with both her children and she has with mine. When we moved in together we had to rent as we couldn’t get a mortgage together as she is stuck on her old ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryInfidelity solution: penalties or trust
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 24 2020 at 17:29 by Danielle000 RESPONDENTS: manalone / susiedqq LAST POST: Jul 25 2020 at 14:32

My boyfriend is worried that i could be unfaithful to him in the future since i had cheated in a past relationship. I told him i realized i made a terrible mistake in the past and that I have no intention of cheating ever again. I never cheated on him. He asked me whether i would be willing to make a solemn oath of fidelity before God. In the oath, i would say that if i ever cheated on him, i a...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryPlagued by constant thoughts that I need to break up
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 24 2020 at 07:01 by Jinseng RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / mfb LAST POST: Jul 30 2020 at 20:55

My girlfriend and I have been together for about 3 years. We have loved together for a little over a year. I would say for probably the last 8 months I have been constantly preoccupied with the idea of breaking up with her. I constantly think about the freedom to be alone in the house, do things my way, have great sex that I really enjoy with a variety of people. It has gotten to the point that I ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs my boyfriend and I at a bridge too far to close the gap?
[1 POST] CREATED: Jul 23 2020 at 01:07 by Defeatedandalone RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Jul 23 2020 at 23:24

My bf and I have a great relationship and we've been together for a year. We live 2 hours apart and both still work (but retirement is only a few years away). The issue we have is as follows: He wants to marry me now (or soon) and not live together first (which involves him moving and selling his house). I want (and need) to live with him first; even for 6 months and then I can move forwar...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy parents do not approve of my relationship choice
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 22 2020 at 01:26 by Disheartened RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / 8Twenty8 LAST POST: Aug 21 2020 at 20:10

I recently began a relationship with a man who is 11 years older than me. I'm in my early twenties and still live at home while attending graduate school. Over the past few months, I have developed what I feel is a serious, committed relationship with this man. My parents like this man as a person, but feel that the 11 year age difference is creepy, and don't think our values line up well enough (...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryBreak up with her?
[6 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 21 2020 at 17:57 by Jamie0705 RESPONDENTS: manalone / susiedqq / Soulmate LAST POST: Aug 5 2020 at 23:02

So I’ve been dating this girl for a month and a half. First date, we had sex in her car on the side of the road at 4 am. As the days go by we spend time with each other talking about our lives and experiences. She revealed that she once went to a strip club with her friends and got drunk, got on the pole, and stripped for tips. As the weeks move along she tells me she loves me and that she...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs this considered abuse
[1 POST] CREATED: Jul 20 2020 at 01:38 by Hopeful 1975 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Aug 7 2020 at 23:01

The man i have been dating off and on for 11 yars in a toxic relationship is doing something im finding disturbing. I want to know if in anyones oponion is this abuse. I own my own home and car work a full time job.Lately, he has been jokingly referring to himself as the taliban man.He says hes joking but its affecting me as a woman.He now comes to my house calls my dog a taliban dog and says keep...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhat am I doing wrong?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 19 2020 at 15:56 by Elderflower RESPONDENTS: lily31 LAST POST: Aug 18 2020 at 18:18

Hello. To sum up - I'm a 31 years old woman. I stepped up 2 years ago and started to transform my body as I was heavily overweight. I lost almost 40kg,eat clean now and exercise 4x/week. I've never had confidence before, fat and ugly and probably that's why I have never been in a relationship. I was sure that when I'll look better, everything will be nice and shiny, men will be attracted to me ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryInitiating a conversation
[1 POST] CREATED: Jul 18 2020 at 18:03 by Tora RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Jul 19 2020 at 00:01

I know this question may sound silly. Trust me, I am a working professional and not a high school girl. Just that I have these crazy endless thoughts. If a guy likes a girl, would he ever not initiate a conversation with her? The thing is we don't have any mutual friends. And we have never spoken to each other. If he was into me, he would definitely try to inbox me in social media or something,...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryBoyfriend thinks it’s weird my friends have my location
[1 POST] CREATED: Jul 17 2020 at 03:30 by Morganthou RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Jul 18 2020 at 23:50

Basically what the title says. My boyfriend finds it weird and concerning that several of my friends and I share our locations with each other. He made me remove one of my male friends but I refused to remove my female friends as well as family members. Am I off base in thinking he has no reason to request getting rid of my friends and I’s shared locations? Why does it matter to him beyond sheer...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI really need help with this guys please help
[1 POST] CREATED: Jul 15 2020 at 23:11 by Mary101 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Aug 7 2020 at 23:10

am new to all this and I am not sure if I am posting in the right place. Just want some advice and what people’s thoughts are. I hope I can make sense here goes: I have been separated from my Husband for well over 2 years. We have got on well for the sake of our children, there is no way we would or will get back together. He has started to date again and I have been looking at online datin...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy husband has a secret life
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 15 2020 at 14:36 by Hopelessly Lost RESPONDENTS: Iloveit2020! / susiedqq LAST POST: Jul 17 2020 at 12:01

This is very very hard for me to do. I am going to try my best to explain what I need help with and hopefully I won’t be judged for it. My husband and I have a very open relationship and I mean that in all aspects of the word. But twice now I have caught my husband with pictures of other women on his phone. We spoke about it and I guess it was sort of swept under the rug so to speak. I get it....

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI am in love with two men and need help making a decision
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 15 2020 at 02:51 by TacoAnonymous RESPONDENTS: Iloveit2020! / 8Twenty8 LAST POST: Jul 25 2020 at 13:22

I am a 31 year old female and was in an 8 year relationship, on and off from 22-30 with a male 29 year old male. We begin as friends with benefits and both dated others during our “off” times but always came back to eachother and our comfort zone. Neither of us can really say when it got serious so there was an issue with his commitment in during the times where I thought we had progressed pas...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow do I dump him
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 13 2020 at 13:13 by k3ba3 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Iloveit2020! LAST POST: Jul 17 2020 at 11:51

I am 50 my partner is 58 we don"t live together but have been in a relationship for 14 years even though it has been platonic for years before we met he had both hips replaced so I have been his part time carer even though I was diagnosed 10 years ago with arthritis in my hands,hips and spine,during lockdown we have isolated apart in our own homes,I have really enjoyed the relaxation and being al...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryThis is weird... Right?
[1 POST] CREATED: Jul 12 2020 at 22:39 by HappyMummy RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Jul 13 2020 at 13:35

My husband's mom is married to a wonderful man, and, his son is married to my husband's ex... so my husband's ex is now his step sister-in-law (I think that's how that goes). My husband and his ex dated for less than a year, but were on/off and remain somewhat in contact. At first, he felt weird about the situation, but overtime he has grown to not care much about it. I, on the other hand, still h...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs there ANY hope at all for me?
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 12 2020 at 00:44 by funkyzoom RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Iloveit2020! LAST POST: Jul 16 2020 at 08:52

First, a bit of background. I'm a 34 year old man belonging to an ethnic minority in the country I live in. I am an immigrant here, and I hail from a culturally backward country where dating and relationships are still taboo, and are frowned upon. One of the reasons I moved out of my home country, is because I felt suffocated living in such a backward culture. I now live in a reasonably liberal we...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAbout to start convincing my parents to let me marry a divorcee! SOS!
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 11 2020 at 00:19 by Saanjh RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Iloveit2020! LAST POST: Jul 15 2020 at 21:11

I am a 24-year-old Indian girl with conservative parents. I am in a relationship with a divorcee (29 y/o) for the past four years. It obviously has been an emotional rollercoaster with him and I took my own time to decide if he really is the one for me. And now, nothing can ever make me doubt that. We are planning to get married in December 2021. My parents found out that I was dating him (through...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryBoyfriend lies to me and does drugs
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 10 2020 at 09:50 by harriet28 RESPONDENTS: manalone / Iloveit2020! LAST POST: Jul 15 2020 at 21:49

I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 10 months. i think it may be of some importance to note that i am 26 and that he is 10 years older than me, and at this time we do not live together permanently. our relationship has been good from the start however, even before the last 3 months of the coronavirus pandemic there were issues which upset me although i managed to be forgivin...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWill he ever forgive me?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 9 2020 at 10:46 by Miss anonymous RESPONDENTS: Iloveit2020! LAST POST: Jul 15 2020 at 21:35

I have been with my s/o for near 3 years we have our problems but since the corona virus things turned sour. We have a long distance relationship and spent 2 months away from each other in which he was not very nice to me. I then started work again in which there where two new male owners, on the first day one of the owners asked to give me a ride home. In which nothing happened he just asked me q...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAre we just TOO different?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 7 2020 at 22:38 by Sven RESPONDENTS: Soulmate LAST POST: Aug 25 2020 at 10:01

I'm a 35 year old man who's mature with a good job, etc. And I've been in a relationship with a 31 year old girl/woman for four years and we've just got a mortgage on a house (to avoid having to pay rent when moving in together). The problem we have is that in the last four years, we have always used condoms when having sex, and they are a massive turn off for me and stop me from being able to ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryBoyfriend pressuring me to marry
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 6 2020 at 02:38 by Pressuring RESPONDENTS: manalone / susiedqq LAST POST: Jul 7 2020 at 12:34

My bf is telling me to set a wedding date in the next 2 months. Seeing each other 1 year and while things are great I thought we’d live together first. The problem with that is that we live 100 miles apart and he cannot work remotely. Before he said he’s willing to sell his business at home, he wants to have a firm commitment including marriage. Does not feel comfortable selling his home and b...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryInterested or move on?
[1 POST] CREATED: Jul 6 2020 at 01:18 by Hoops55 RESPONDENTS: Iloveit2020! LAST POST: Jul 9 2020 at 22:05

I work with a guy and for the past year I've had a crush on him. He is always at my desk, he comes and eats by me, works by me, sits in silence with me, we talk about our personal lives etc. Everyone in the office thinks we're secretly dating or into one another. He joined my kickball team last year, where he knew no one (he didn't talk much to anyone besides me) and he is joining a different team...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryStuck on someone less
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 4 2020 at 22:08 by CliveTheCactus RESPONDENTS: manalone / susiedqq / January LAST POST: Jul 26 2020 at 12:58

Hello there, I've been with my partner for about 8 months now but things have been so complicated. Me and my ex only ended 2 months prior. My ex was my first proper relationship, I was deeply in love with them. Things had been up and down, we ended but they continued to message me and play with my emotions when trying to move on and wouldn't agree to being friends and wanted a one night stand....