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Relationships advice forum category advice forum categorySister without the hood
CREATED: Sep 28 2022 at 15:57 by fivepetalpromise LAST POST: Sep 28 2022 at 16:14

My Sister & I simply can't get along:( She is 57 & I'm 54 years & this will sound childish. Sorry. So much over the years I feel I've endured from her. Cheating on her husband with married men, promiscuity & flirting with strangers, AA, Lying/Exaggerating/Story telling. All men want her. Acting Holier than thou. Boho/Wild Spirit Woman/Love & Light/Retreats....

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryGetting married and know his family won't be happy
CREATED: Sep 28 2022 at 15:08 by Bride2beee LAST POST: Sep 28 2022 at 15:22

Myself and my fiance are getting married next year. We are paying for it all ourselves as my father passed away 20yrs ago and I don't speak to my mother. My partners family have already said they aren't putting any money towards it, they don't speak to me at all. We are doing it all on a very tight budget of less than £2000 but I know there are going to be members of hi...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryReally confused by his mixed signals
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 26 2022 at 00:03 by Sunnyclimes RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / Soulmate LAST POST: Sep 28 2022 at 17:53

Firstly please let me apologise for the length of this post. Sorry x.. I'm feeling really confused regarding a guy I'd been seeing.. We went on a date over several years ago and got on really well but we never went on a second date but friended one another on Facebook although never stayed in touch.. Fast forward to July this year and I received a message via Facebook from him sa...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryNeed Advice CREATED: Sep 25 2022 at 01:03 by Vib

On Monday, I'm going out with a girl I really like. We went out last year on a date, but nothing came of it because I was so smitten with her that I scared her off. Lesson learned. She has agreed to give me another chance. Any advice would be appreciated. And yes, I know I screwed up. What I'm looking for is encouragement....

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI've broke with my gf and still can't believe it's really happens CREATED: Sep 23 2022 at 19:48 by detlef LAST POST: Sep 23 2022 at 19:50

I met here on FB. After 3 months I came to her to Kenya. We were dating for 3 months, she took me to the city where she raised, to introduce me to her family. Ive met her parents, grandma, siblinngs, cousins, aunts and uncles. We agreed to go to one place (mombasa) by a train and stay there for 5 days... So... We entered to train, I joined her little later, like 1-2 minutes coz Ive had bags. There...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryBreaking up with fiance over thoughts changing of having kids
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 21 2022 at 03:15 by HaeunKim RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / CHICKADEE LAST POST: Sep 23 2022 at 16:40

Hi! My fiance and i broke up... Here comes the problem: We are have been engaged for a year and before that dated too and even before dating we are have been friends for 3 years. He always wanted to have kids and to build a family, so we are talked about having kids together, building our own little family. He is even bought baby shoes too. We are went abroad for a two week long work trip. S...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI'm contemplating getting a divorce, should I go through with it
[1 POST] CREATED: Sep 19 2022 at 22:29 by Excrucior Anima RESPONDENTS: CHICKADEE LAST POST: Sep 23 2022 at 01:15

I've been married to my wife for 4 yours now. Things have always been near perfect before we got married, we never fought about anything, it was never necessary. After about 2 years we got married and things were still good. The problem started when we had our 1st child. My wife has asthma and hypertension so it was a high-risk pregnancy, but things went relatively smoothly. We were blesse...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWill things ever be the same again? Am I just overthinking things?
[1 POST] CREATED: Sep 19 2022 at 01:17 by Gawain_Not_Wayne RESPONDENTS: CHICKADEE LAST POST: Sep 23 2022 at 17:55

When my friend from college met his wife, he became less available. I adapted, though it was difficult. I met a group of people from another town and got to know them well enough to stay over at theirs on nights out. I made individualised photo calendars for them over lockdown Christmas, they buy me birthday and Christmas presents and I buy them birthday and Christmas presents. Their Whatsapp grou...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWorried
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 16 2022 at 13:01 by SkySky123??? RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / CHICKADEE LAST POST: Sep 24 2022 at 00:22

My husband as been offered a sales job. The company is closer to home and he will still get paid the same amount of money. He as been looking for something that doesn’t involve long distance driving as he as done it for years. He is 56 years old. I’m worried he will meet someone new at his company and even thou we have been together 30 years married 26 and have 3 children together I feel i...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMarriage
[1 POST] CREATED: Sep 14 2022 at 00:57 by Jelisa RESPONDENTS: oldmainer LAST POST: Sep 15 2022 at 04:03

I'm married. Everything I do is wrong. Nothing I do for them is good enough. I have loved them beyond my personal self care or self love they can't see the sacrifices. I am always wrong. They never admit when they are wrong yet tell me they always admit when they are wrong. They say they are always blamed yet they are always blaming me. They go out of there way to make sure I go without ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryA dirty little secret
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 11 2022 at 00:34 by Sunlover RESPONDENTS: Aka / oldmainer / Candyfloss / CHICKADEE LAST POST: Sep 23 2022 at 20:31

I've been with my partner for a year (F47 M50) I spend on average 3 nights a week at his. I'm spoilt rotten when I go there. When we're apart he messages and calls. Is constantly telling me he loves me, that I'm amazing, beautiful, sexy and clever, and that he's lucky to be with me. Sounds brilliant doesn't it? This is my problem. In the year we've been to...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAdvice please
[1 POST] CREATED: Sep 10 2022 at 07:05 by Unicorn198543213 RESPONDENTS: oldmainer LAST POST: Sep 10 2022 at 19:12

My partner is the kindest man I've ever met, however, he shows all signs of having Autism and is on a waiting list. He is extrenely high functioning. He flips almost like he is bipolar from wanting a family and to grow together to not wanting anything at all. He gets upset and loses all feelings for me over the smallest thing as he said it causes him stress and he can't cope. He used to...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryShould I confess this to my boyfriend?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 7 2022 at 13:02 by crazycatlady227 RESPONDENTS: Aka / Astral LAST POST: Sep 9 2022 at 15:09

I haven’t cheated. I just flirt a lot. I’m trying to stop but should I tell him? I love him so much and I would never want to hurt him. Is telling him what I should do or should I just stop without telling him?...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhat is he waiting for
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 4 2022 at 21:21 by BrainyBri RESPONDENTS: Aka / Astral LAST POST: Sep 9 2022 at 15:01

So I've been friends with this man for a few years. We worked together, spent most of our time at work together, speak all day and night mostly everyday. The thing is he never invited me to spend time with him outside of work. He likes going out with his friends. He's not dating anyone but he won't offer to ever hang out and when I offer he has an excuse. I mentioned to a mu...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHi? 19F met a 31M and i think i like him...a lot? help?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 2 2022 at 07:41 by dumbfrenchie RESPONDENTS: Aka / obvious LAST POST: Sep 11 2022 at 03:27

hi so umm, i want to preface this by saying i don't know much about relationships in general and absolutely nothing about age gap relationships. but essentially what has happened is that i met this guy (im too embarrassed to admit the means through which this occurred) and what started out as me asking for advice turned into staying up until 5am just talking. and he says things that he kn...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryComplicated relationship with friend after 2 years of fighting
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 1 2022 at 11:17 by aldjabby RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Sep 3 2022 at 21:38

In 2020 my best friend got into a serious romantic relationship. I was surprised because I didn't know she was even looking for a partner, especially as we had been talking about moving in together. She knows that I'm not remotely interested in dating and had been planning to prioritize her as the main person in my life once we lived together, so to not even mention that she wanted a boy...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs my boyfriend moving too fast with me?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 30 2022 at 17:05 by Moving too fast RESPONDENTS: Aka / Astral LAST POST: Sep 9 2022 at 15:05

I've been dating a guy for almost a year. We are senior citizens and both of us have dated before. I am a widow almost 11 years and he's been divorced for 4 years after a 35 year marriage. We live 50 miles apart. Since meeting him, he has been encouraging me to move to his area. He loves his area and has a lot of nice friends (his grown kids live in the area too). While I really ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categorySeperated but confused
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 25 2022 at 18:01 by nature1 RESPONDENTS: Aka / Silvarion LAST POST: Aug 29 2022 at 07:38

please help. I am seperated from my wife for 3 years and she has a partner. our daughter is terminally Ill and we have been spending a lot of time together. I keep catching her looking at me and she always texts me at bedtime. What is going on? ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryTo train or not to train?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 23 2022 at 17:59 by doublesaggqueen RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / Soulmate LAST POST: Aug 24 2022 at 02:37

Is this even a training issue? I know relationships take work and no one is a perfect partner because no one is a perfect human. However my partner misses the chance every time I present a bid for attention/love and it makes me feel like they genuinely don't care about anything I have going on in life. To top it off when roles are reversed his feelings are hurt if I don't catch his bids ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryNewly married no sex life
[11 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 16 2022 at 23:57 by Shei RESPONDENTS: Aka / GentleFox / Soulmate LAST POST: Aug 30 2022 at 00:09

I'm 26 years old female recently married 7 months ago. My problem is that my husband doesn't pay attention to me since we got married and he hardly wants sex. Before we were married, we had a good sex life and he would constantly be behind me for it and I would sometimes turn him down because we weren't married as yet. Ever since we got married I'm usually the initiator and Im ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryShould i be worried?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 15 2022 at 22:52 by tonnyblue RESPONDENTS: Aka / Soulmate LAST POST: Aug 17 2022 at 23:08

I have been with my girlfriend for less than a year. We are both in out early forties. We were recently having a discussion following something we saw on television about sexual partners. In answer to questions that i asked during the conversation she revealed two things that i am concerned about. The first thing is that one of her close male friends is also someone with whom she was "frie...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I been taken advantage of from my friend? Is this even a friend?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 15 2022 at 10:01 by Fantacat RESPONDENTS: Aka / Soulmate LAST POST: Aug 18 2022 at 00:46

So this friend, I will use a made up name for them, for the sake of their privacy. We will name them Kate. Okay so Kate and I knew each other way back at high school, though we fall apart because I moved school. We reconnected through Facebook and messager, and our friendship started at a time when one of her parent's was slowly dying sadly. The friendship seem at the time for me wa...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy friends don't want to hang out
[1 POST] CREATED: Aug 7 2022 at 20:43 by peoplecallmenao RESPONDENTS: jannahsavant LAST POST: Aug 8 2022 at 06:18

Hello, this is my first time writing here it feels weird but I really need some counseling on how to deal with my situation with my friendgroup. I'm from a small town, so I have a friendgroup since school days. However recently many of them have some tension in between them because some arguments that happened. So now the group is not hanging out, making plans or talking by messages. I sti...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDistance in rather relationship
[15 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 1 2022 at 14:42 by Chatty RESPONDENTS: Soulmate LAST POST: Sep 12 2022 at 12:41

Hi guys, id like to have some of your opinions to my following problem: ive been with my boyfriend almost a year now and we moved in rather quickly after starting our relationship. and now, so for some weeks now, ive noticed emotional distance living in our flat with us, if i may say so. the past few months i have been under constant stress because of money. i have a gambling addiction...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy past
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 26 2022 at 21:15 by help_needed RESPONDENTS: Aka / oldmainer LAST POST: Jul 29 2022 at 12:54

A few years back I slept with my boss who got married during the duration. It carried on over a number of years which I regret. Sometimes I didn't want it but let it happen. Fast forward 3 and a half years after. I'm currently in a 2 year relationship, I opened up about my past to him. he has been finding it very hard to deal with despite not knowing me at the time. It has lead to m...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhy can’t I move on?
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 25 2022 at 21:30 by Random RESPONDENTS: rabbit2022 / Donotuy / oldmainer LAST POST: Aug 22 2022 at 13:59

I started chatting to a co worker, he would text me every day, several times a day. It wasn’t just a ploy to get me into bed, it seemed genuine. He asked questions about me, asked my advice on decorating tips for his house. We met during a work event and later went to a restaurant. We ended up spending the night together. The text and calls continued. We met again, this time we spent the day...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryRelationship advice
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 24 2022 at 17:06 by Libby RESPONDENTS: manalone / AnonymousJ_123 LAST POST: Jul 26 2022 at 09:48

How do I know when to just let go of a relationship or just wait things out. There is no physical or emotional abuse. In fact I caused the separation. I have apologized and told him how I really feel. What should I do? ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs this offensive, or someone having a bad day
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 21 2022 at 23:35 by oldmainer RESPONDENTS: Balance / Aka LAST POST: Jul 25 2022 at 13:20

Today, someone came into our workplace wearing a t-shirt that read, ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryLooking to date but unable to edjeculate
[1 POST] CREATED: Jul 17 2022 at 08:22 by AndrewT RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Jul 17 2022 at 11:31

Around five years ago I had a prostatectomy due to prostrate cancer, I have just ended a 25 year relation ship in which we have three children between us (plus one each fro a previuse relationship. I am now looking to finding another partner, but due to age (early sixties) and moving to a new location am finding it difficult to find some one, one solution is on line dating, the problem fo me is h...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHello
[1 POST] CREATED: Jul 15 2022 at 19:50 by countrymusic RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Jul 16 2022 at 16:00

I have been having mentail illness and boyfriend problems I came here to get advice...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryToxic Parents : Should I move away/out?
[1 POST] CREATED: Jul 12 2022 at 23:15 by doojie RESPONDENTS: Richard B LAST POST: Jul 12 2022 at 23:31

To expand my question, my father were serving me raw chicken and they want me to eat it. It usually happens all the time. My father won't even allow me to go outside and made me stay in the house for 2 years. Even if I badly needed a haircut they won't even let me outside. They say demeaning words to me saying that I wouldn't be successful in the future. They even put something on m...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI went through his phone
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 12 2022 at 21:16 by Rach04 RESPONDENTS: Aka / oldmainer / Wendy / MarcusJW LAST POST: Jul 28 2022 at 06:57

So I did go through my boyfriend's phone which I know is wrong but he was being fishy. I found out he was sending his ex fare to come see him and I confronted him. He said his ex claimed to be pregnant and he wanted to confirm this since she had refused to send proof. My problem is he lied. I asked why he sending fare and he lied saying that he loved me so much he didn't want to risk los...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWas I in the wrong ?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 11 2022 at 07:05 by Jason RESPONDENTS: Aka / lily31 LAST POST: Jul 11 2022 at 11:35

I recently posted on the forum regarding my marriage. Things have changed dramatically since, I cancelled a holiday I booked for myself because my husband wasn't happy about me going alone. We've booked to visit Canada, now the truth has come out, he wants to go not gor a holiday, we'll be staying with his family and he'll be looking for a job and wants me to join him in mo...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFriend says I play the victim, I am a smartass, blocks me on facebook
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 11 2022 at 02:10 by RichardLV RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Jul 11 2022 at 06:21

So, I have/had this friend over the past 30 years. We have lived in the same town now for the first time since late last year. I am on long-term disability. He works a full-time job recruiting medical staff. Lately, he has been what I believe is very hostile towards me for no logical reason. He lashes out at me and I find it very abusive. He claims I am the abusive one. Here is what transpired tod...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFirst time, I ever wished I had just gone to work
[78 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 5 2022 at 04:58 by Aka RESPONDENTS: Soulmate / Balance LAST POST: Sep 13 2022 at 05:58

Been an overall bad day. I wanted to BBQ spiedies (pronounced speedy's, it's chunks of marinated chicken on a skewer put on Italian bread with toppings, a dish I grew up with) for dinner. Asked my wife to pick up the stuff and I would make it. She bought some cheap pre-marinated (wrong flavors) chicken on skewers. Wasn't very good. And while this is a minor thing that I can certainl...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs this a friendship or something else
[11 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 4 2022 at 14:34 by 9hev RESPONDENTS: manalone / oldmainer / Aka / Soulmate LAST POST: Jul 14 2022 at 02:15

Please no judgement, I want to understand what is happening so that I can make the right choices. I met a man at work....we spoke a handful of times and he supported me on one occasion when I was having some difficulty with my employer. On my last day at work, I found him to tell him I was leaving that day, and he asked to keep in touch so we exchanged numbers. I thought nothing more about it, ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFallen out with my mum & now everyone thinks I’m the AH. Am I?
[1 POST] CREATED: Jun 30 2022 at 20:22 by mememememe RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Jul 1 2022 at 23:03

A few months ago I had an argument with my mum. She basically implied that she didn’t like my daughter and questioned my parenting skills. In return I commented that I wouldn’t take parenting advice from her as 50% of her children have mental health problems. We apologised after calming down but I couldn’t shake what she had said. The next day she spoke to my sister (who I’m close to) and ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy fiancée left me
[6 POSTS] CREATED: Jun 30 2022 at 17:50 by hhk8798 RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / TanT LAST POST: Jul 10 2022 at 21:37

Back in 2011, I added a guy on facebook and we talked for 4 years. I wanted to get into college. He was 4 years elder than me. We fell in love. It was the most amazing time of our life. However, I became suspicious. There were random girls on his account. He used to tell me I cant have my picture as a profile picture. Not even the picture of my hands. Nothing. He also told me that I cant add any m...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryConfused about gifting my ex crush
[1 POST] CREATED: Jun 30 2022 at 13:35 by babystartae RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Jul 1 2022 at 22:56

Hi there, this is my first time posting here and i hope you all can take some of your valuable time to answer me :) im F19 and he is m21, we've known eachother since 2016. We were friends then had a short dating period and had a fight and just drifted apart. We've recently started talking again and we are clear we are nothing more than friends. His birthday is coming next week and i...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI'm I being unfair?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jun 29 2022 at 06:51 by Jason RESPONDENTS: Aka / lily31 LAST POST: Jun 29 2022 at 11:14

My partner has asked for a divorce. We have been arguing for sometime now, the last time was when we was on a day out and I bumped into someone I knew, we was visiting a town together with his parents. He said that I planned this and wouldn't speak to me for 2 days, nor did he speak to his parents. I have a very difficult job and I work long hours and have had very little time off in 2...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryInsecure about my height as a male
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jun 28 2022 at 22:55 by LittleGuy RESPONDENTS: Aka / Soulmate LAST POST: Jul 1 2022 at 17:55

Hey, I already made a post in another category about this problem last month, but I'm still kind of depressed because of it. My problem is that I'm a 17 years old male who is only 158 cm/ 5ft2 tall/short. I really hate being small, everytime I go to school every pupil of the younger years is a lot taller than me etc. My biggest problem is that I'm already insecure with girls, ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryShould I stay with him?
[14 POSTS] CREATED: Jun 27 2022 at 04:37 by anonymous585928 RESPONDENTS: Aka / oldmainer / Soulmate / MarcusJW LAST POST: Jul 7 2022 at 10:36

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. Before this, we were friends for about 2.5 years. It’s been the healthiest relationship I’ve been in in a long time. For the past month, he’s been in another state for work. I flew out there for the last week of his month long stay so we could fly home together. He’d received some bad news, so I wanted to make sure he wasn’t...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow to resolve unbalanced relationship responsibilities
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jun 23 2022 at 10:05 by TheStarks RESPONDENTS: Aka / Soulmate LAST POST: Jun 27 2022 at 00:42

I'm not sure what to do. My husband recently sold his business because he wanted to spend more time at home with the kids and to look after his sick elderly father (who lives in a flat on the ground floor of our home). I work from home full time, but it still feels like I do all the housework, child-raising, and act as the primary carer for his dad. He is trying to start an online business bu...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryNeed Advice
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jun 22 2022 at 03:22 by Vib RESPONDENTS: Aka / oldmainer / Soulmate LAST POST: Jun 22 2022 at 18:41

Hi, I'm hoping you can help me. I'm a Christian pastor, and there is a woman in my congregation who is my age, and single. I'm interested in her, and want to ask her out on a date. A couple of problems: 1. She's always busy with work, and 2., As a pastor, asking a member of my congregation out would be perceived as awkward and crossing a boundary. We connected nicely, but I&...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDifficulty with adult friendships
[72 POSTS] CREATED: Jun 6 2022 at 18:58 by fightingthroughlife RESPONDENTS: Soulmate / shadowperson LAST POST: Aug 23 2022 at 02:02

Hi Everyone, I am new here. I am having difficulty with adult friendships - namely fellow mums at school. I fell out with one of the mums early on and living in a small suburb with no other schools in the area means she is always at school and we have to see one another regularly. My issue is that I have made the effort to branch out and I have made other friends independently of her.....m...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryCan somebody please talk to me
[2 POSTS] CREATED: May 31 2022 at 15:43 by shadowperson RESPONDENTS: Soulmate LAST POST: May 31 2022 at 19:08

PLEASE. I am 'Transmutation' previously. I need somebody to listen. Right now. Is anybody out there?...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWill I be wrong?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: May 28 2022 at 15:34 by Yourtake RESPONDENTS: manalone / Aka LAST POST: May 31 2022 at 00:17

I met this guy May 2021 and we started hanging out. He started pursuing me after a couple of months and I was upfront about my situation at the time but he never disclosed his side. We then started dating end of October 2021. I found out he had been talking to a girl he had fling with early 2021 which was okay with me until he started being shady about it. I later found out that a day before w...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categorySister in law trouble
[1 POST] CREATED: May 27 2022 at 13:03 by Abil RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: May 28 2022 at 01:19

Myself and my partner have put up with years of my sister in law doing ridiculous things that have cause us hurt or anger. She recently met a man and they've been going fast in sense of house babies etc. He seemed nice and we all got along fine. However in recent weeks they came to my partner (her brother) and demanded help with something in their personal life. They didn't listen to his...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryProblems with MEN - Result of teenage Trauma
[8 POSTS] CREATED: May 23 2022 at 06:43 by Freegirl92 RESPONDENTS: Aka / Soulmate LAST POST: Jun 16 2022 at 00:50

Hello all, I would like some advice on how to go about dealing with and getting my power back as a result of having sex/relations with an older male when I was younger. (Being Taken advantage of) The story goes, when I was 16 I had the typical emotional problems that comes with being a teenager, I realized quickly I loved to drink to mask my problems from lack of affection from my father. I con...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryTo stay or to let go of my marriage
[9 POSTS] CREATED: May 20 2022 at 14:53 by SadCat RESPONDENTS: Balance / Aka / Soulmate LAST POST: May 26 2022 at 16:05

Ive been in this marriage with my husband of 3 years. All was good in fact most days are good. But it's been months since our last time being intimate (I blame us for working 24/7) but it's because of this too I'm beginning to become less attracted to him sexually as a husband. He often assures me that he is still attracted to me but the hecticness & tiring life led us both t...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFeel like I was treated really badly, but still beating myself up
[6 POSTS] CREATED: May 11 2022 at 14:02 by LakesNightmare RESPONDENTS: manalone / oldmainer / Aka LAST POST: May 18 2022 at 14:03

A friend of mine who I had always loved moved away to a different continent well over a decade ago. She got married had children and the only contact I had with her was through facebook. Her marriage broke down she ended up back in the UK. But she lives a long way away. But she got in touch and we started speaking a lot over a year and a lot of a lot in the final 4 months of lockdown. She was...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryGot together after 3 years and now having issues
[13 POSTS] CREATED: May 4 2022 at 10:17 by Sharon89 RESPONDENTS: Soulmate / Truthlady LAST POST: May 16 2022 at 14:02

Hi everyone, Me and my husband met each other in 2015 and fell in love with . Met after a year and got married the next year. We both live in different countries and now we are finally together things are not working out. His parents were giving me hard time and I kept telling him. And now when he saw it himself he didn’t say a word. He didn’t support me at all. He even swore at me in front...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryTired of being torn
[15 POSTS] CREATED: May 2 2022 at 18:24 by Wendy RESPONDENTS: Soulmate / manalone / oldmainer LAST POST: May 16 2022 at 15:05

Hi, so I know what most are going to say "you don't deserve either" With that being said, I've been casually dating two guys the past few months and I've gotten to the point where I need to pick one or none. I know I can't keep stringing them both along. Let me start off by saying I am a 32 year old female. With that being said guy #1 is 8 years older than me...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I toxic?
[8 POSTS] CREATED: May 2 2022 at 13:31 by Froggileggs RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / Soulmate LAST POST: May 4 2022 at 02:39

Hi everyone, So I need advice… I have been in a on and off again relationship for the past two years. We have had our fair share of shit and always managed to work things out but we had a fight last night and now I’m questioning my own sanity and whether or not I am these things he said; Abusive Manipulative Narcissistic Crazy Bipolar Split personalty Victim mentality To...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI saw feedback on my boyfriend's Ebay Account from Sex Shops
[3 POSTS] CREATED: May 1 2022 at 09:32 by Girlagogo RESPONDENTS: manalone / Soulmate LAST POST: May 6 2022 at 21:23

My boyfriend has changed alot over the last few months - lots of new clothes, different shoes, very good mood all the time. We live apart but see each other on weekends, although in recent months he spends less time with me on those weekends. He sells alot of collectibles etc on Ebay and after viewing something on there he was talking about I checked his feedback as a buyer ( being nosey I s...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFriendship fall out
[19 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 23 2022 at 17:23 by Louise Anne RESPONDENTS: lily31 / manalone / Soulmate / Aka LAST POST: May 5 2022 at 23:02

I’m curious to know if I have reacted far too sensitively. My colleague, who I work with every day, we have developed a close friendship over the last few years. He recently said he doesn’t message much outside of work anymore because his connection with me is always at work , therefore us messaging is like hearing from work. I thought and apparently meant more than that. He’s always said ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHopelessness & no clear way out
[7 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 22 2022 at 05:21 by Hopelessly Torn RESPONDENTS: Aka / Soulmate / oldmainer / UIM62 LAST POST: May 29 2022 at 17:45

I started out in this relationship for the wrong reasons, we were expecting a child. Then when everything in me told me not to stay, I staid, & to make it worse I married her out of guilt and a sense of responsibility. We were married even though I knew I wasn’t happy I couldn’t bring myself to leave that child & to have her grow up in a broken home from the start, or at least that...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy life problems that are a hindrance
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 20 2022 at 05:50 by CosimaX505 RESPONDENTS: Soulmate LAST POST: Apr 26 2022 at 01:29

I first wanted to start off with by saying that I have just turned 37 years old and it is starting to bother me that in my entire life I have had no friends. I was an introvert with social anxiety throughout schooling and college, so I kept to myself and never socialized with anyone and have always lived with my parents. My parents drilled in me that friends only cause trouble and they would never...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhy would he tell me this?
[23 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 19 2022 at 21:13 by Jde245 RESPONDENTS: Soulmate LAST POST: May 12 2022 at 17:14

I, F(21) was dating this M(30), but he broke things off with me because he said he thought the age difference would cause problems in the future. We are currently fwb. I spent the night at his place Saturday and he dropped me off at home the following morning. As we were in the car he told me this “funny story” about a girl approaching him and telling him he was exactly the guy she was lo...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryThe chat room trap
[9 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 19 2022 at 16:05 by Peter527Kent RESPONDENTS: Aka / Soulmate LAST POST: Apr 29 2022 at 03:28

My wife has been chatting for about a year I think. She is 55 and although fairly prim and proper in public has a naughtyish side when she gets to know people. Chat rooms appear to have allowed her darker side full reign. I found her half dressed and with one of her toys on the desk with a much younger man on screen who was naked from the waist up. I said nothing and left the room only to hear he...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categorySupporting my wife through depression
[6 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 18 2022 at 16:44 by TheBenevolentFrog RESPONDENTS: Balance / Soulmate LAST POST: Apr 19 2022 at 05:49

My wife of ten years has been battling depression for the last seven years or so and been taking meds and seeking medical advice for the last two and half  years. Recently, it has been exacerbated by work and she is really find it tough. She woke the other day and sobbed because she'd 'woken up'. I'm trying so hard to help her get better but I'm afraid it's starting ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI am in an unrequited love
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 18 2022 at 15:56 by happeepiii RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / nikkiwats LAST POST: Apr 27 2022 at 23:20

I like this person for more than 5 years already. We used to talk but suddenly we just acted like we didn't know each other. We would exchange glances or smile and that's it. For messages, we only message each other during birthdays and yes that's every year. We don't miss any birthdays. I sometimes think he's showing me mixed signals or motives that makes me think he like...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryGame gone wrong
[301 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 18 2022 at 02:22 by transmutation RESPONDENTS: Balance / Soulmate / lily31 / shadowperson / broost LAST POST: Jun 20 2022 at 20:29

A decade ago my partner & I started writing a novella containing several characters. It was to be something we do together. Was supposed to be our very own entertainment, creation, fun & a secret pastime at home just for us. Over the years it has grown to quite the obsession. We role play into characters! However, the two main characters (Lovers Mirra & Pete with kids never married...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I in the wrong here? Should I apologise?
[63 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 16 2022 at 20:26 by heisenberg RESPONDENTS: manalone / oldmainer / Soulmate / Aka LAST POST: Sep 27 2022 at 22:56

So, there is this common friend group that I have. I have met most people from it but due to the pandemic, we mostly meet in online video calls. The number of people on the call varies depending on everyone's schedule. There is this one girl in the group that was my senior and over the past few months, I started talking to her. We started talking about casual stuff like shows, work etc. but o...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy girlfriend suffers from suicidal depression
[7 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 14 2022 at 06:48 by anonimo RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / lily31 / loved&lost / Soulmate LAST POST: Apr 29 2022 at 05:48

Hello, I am reaching out here because my girlfriend is struggling with suicidal depression and I need advice on how to proceed in our relationship. Some background: this is my first relationship, we met in college, and have been together for five years. I found out early on that she suffers from this condition and it has continually persisted. Her depression comes in periodic waves. There ar...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy husband is cheating. . .again
[6 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 11 2022 at 20:53 by Marcy RESPONDENTS: NiceGuy2022 / Soulmate LAST POST: Apr 25 2022 at 17:50

This is my first time on here. I don't have anyone I can talk to about my husband. I find myself in a situation that I'm too ashamed to even confide in those I love and I just need some fresh eyes. My husband is cheating again. We've been together about 15 years and from day one he's had secret relationships with other women. How many of them he's actually slept with I do...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAlone for life
[8 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 11 2022 at 20:02 by roommate RESPONDENTS: oldmainer LAST POST: Apr 14 2022 at 13:46

1st time here and discussing my issues because i just can't take it anymore. I am a 51 year old male. I am a 20+ year law enforcement officer, married with 2 children. My kids are doing great. I come from an educated middle-upper class family and live in a very nice neighborhood/home along with my 82 yr old mother. I love to golf, jog, fish, ride my bicycle, and watch baseball. My other i...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhy is this happening? CREATED: Apr 9 2022 at 03:11 by Someoneidk2 LAST POST: Apr 14 2022 at 14:01

There's a girl who constantly stares at me all the time and when I look back she pretends like she was never looking. At first, it was kind of weird, and I started paying more attention to her. She turned out to be really nice, and I think I might in fact like her. She's not exceptionally pretty, but her personality and passions stand out. We share a common interest, but I don't...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I a bad person?
[6 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 7 2022 at 22:26 by feelingmeh RESPONDENTS: Someoneidk2 / Soulmate / oldmainer LAST POST: May 8 2022 at 18:11

Hello! Sorry if this is kind of long... I suffer from pretty bad anxiety, and recently a lot of it has been about me thinking of myself as a terrible person. Especially when I was younger, I feel like I was just really self-centred and only thought about myself. But the main thing that's really been bothering me is how I treated one person in particular when we were around 10-11. Basic...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs a 6 years age gap between two lovers this significant?
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 3 2022 at 00:25 by YourIronicFriend RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / manalone / Peter527Kent LAST POST: Apr 23 2022 at 00:56

Hi! I would really appreciate some advice on a situation I am facing at the moment regarding realtionships. I've always been a very mature person for my age, and that's why I've only pretty much been surrounded by friends older than me, cause they would match my level of maturity (if that makes sense). That being said, I met a boy 6 years older than me a few months ago. And I�...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryRelationship advice
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 31 2022 at 18:22 by Smitty3431 RESPONDENTS: mona LAST POST: Apr 1 2022 at 12:29

Several years ago I started dating a woman with 3 children. We both had good paying jobs for great companies. Her ex basically provides child support and nothing else. 3 years ago she abruptly quit her job and asked if she could stay home for a year to which I told her we should be able to make it. Several disasters around the house occurred and she went into a spiral. We took care of that and tho...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryLife/relationship advice
[6 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 31 2022 at 17:55 by Smitty3431 RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / manalone LAST POST: Apr 4 2022 at 12:29

I am looking for help in deciding on whether or not I should end my relationship. I have been dating a woman with 3 children for the last 4 years. When I met her things were great. I have a good job and she has a good job. Her ex husband is quite wealthy and does very little to help the children other than provide child support. 3 years ago she quit her job abruptly and asked if f she could take a...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryTrials and tribulations
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 28 2022 at 13:49 by Roxsox226 RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Mar 30 2022 at 14:20

My issue is I fell head over heels in love w somebody that didn’t love me.i gambled everything and it was and continues to be a loss.I spent 8 yrs trying to make it make sense.how can I feel so deeply for someone who never returned the love.I’ve been busy trying to rebuild but he’s on my lease in the apt he can’t pay for .I would be so happy to hear some advice.if you have stopped by to ag...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I reading into much or do I have a leg to stand on
[1 POST] CREATED: Mar 27 2022 at 03:17 by Mucks261 RESPONDENTS: Roxsox226 LAST POST: Mar 28 2022 at 14:19

Hi everyone hope u all doing well... I am one to over analyze a lot and by nature pretty suspicious...Of late my girlfriend which I've been dating for almost a year now keeps asking me when she is gonna see me again..this never used to be the case so I don't know what to think if she wants to know exactly when I'm coming as we live 20 min drive away from each other which is not bad...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI’m head over heels in love with a gaslighter and i’m so confused
[6 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 26 2022 at 21:16 by Bella Bean RESPONDENTS: manalone / Cuddleswithfoxes / Roxsox226 LAST POST: Mar 28 2022 at 14:30

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 6 months, and he’s lovely. He’s everything I’ve ever dreamed of and more. We have beautiful times together and both feel it’s meant to be. He makes me feel like a princess, does really sweet things for me, makes me feel protected and loved and cared for. He makes me really happy and the last thing I want is to lose him. Unfortunately though, there are some...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryNeed advice on a friend breakup
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 24 2022 at 07:58 by anonymous111102 RESPONDENTS: oldmainer LAST POST: Mar 25 2022 at 03:53

—->TLDR: I lost myself due to mental health issues last year and selfishly took it out on those who meant the most to me. Completely ended our friendships. It’s been a year and I am still overwhelmed with guilt and regret, now that i have a better grasp on my mental health. Should i reach out simply to apologize? And if they’re willing should i try to rebuild that bond (even tho i know it...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIn a dilema
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 23 2022 at 11:18 by Mam ensley RESPONDENTS: Roxsox226 LAST POST: Mar 28 2022 at 14:23

I got married when I was 19years and my hubby was always good to me.He loved me so much that he promised not to ever cheat on me.when I was 3 months pregnant he lost his job and we decided to relocate in his upcountry. He opened his own pub and a butchery .He decided to employ a gal to work in the pub.He started coming home late and sometimes he would mot even pick my calls.By that time I was 8mo...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIt’s becoming hard to talk with my friend
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 22 2022 at 03:31 by Ratatatatatata RESPONDENTS: manalone / Roxsox226 LAST POST: Mar 28 2022 at 14:33

I’m going to start off by saying: I love this friend a lot, he means so much to me and I do not want to break off our friendship. What I am looking for here is an outsider’s perspective on our relationship, so I can correctly judge whether or not I should talk to him about it. Also, please let me know if i seem to be the one at fault here, so I can be a better friend to him. For the sake of...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy friends are ending their marriage and I am stuck in the middle
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 20 2022 at 17:16 by LikeACatDoes RESPONDENTS: Aka / oldmainer / manalone LAST POST: Mar 21 2022 at 00:24

I have two very good friends who have decided to end their marriage. I care about them both and they both know this. I enjoy their company but am finding it tricky living in the middle of their break up. I don't want to lose either of them from my life but recently found out the male is seeing another woman so soon after the break up and made the difficult decision to tell the female who ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAnother failed family gathering
[6 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 20 2022 at 08:43 by Aka RESPONDENTS: oldmainer LAST POST: Apr 7 2022 at 12:43

Just had another family gathering today. For my birthday. I turn 39 in a couple days. Amazingly, the shortest yet. I think we (wife and I) were only there 5 minutes. **A little history, to understand the dynamic. I'll keep it short. When I was young, my father had an affair. Causing my mother to go on a tyrannical warpath for years. Hated all men, and constantly punished all males for...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum category5 relationship tips
[1 POST] CREATED: Mar 13 2022 at 07:44 by Dilnaz RESPONDENTS: Sweet girl 123 LAST POST: Mar 13 2022 at 13:51

1.Solve problems without involving a third party No need to run for advice to parents, friends or anonymous people on the forum. You always know better what is happening in a relationship, since it is you who know all the circumstances of the conflict. Suppose you nevertheless turned to your mother for support and she agreed that your partner is wrong and generally a bad person. Only you and t...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFalsely accused of cheating & now falsely accused of being in a porn
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 9 2022 at 17:53 by WhatUniverseIsThis RESPONDENTS: Akm160281 / saru / lipstick79 LAST POST: Mar 14 2022 at 12:49

So my ex (i guess)- and I were together from when I was 18 years old up until a few days before my 31st birthday. He dumped me. Yet still lives here with our kids and me. The oldest kid is only freshly 11 so it's not as if I'm fully against this living arrangement bc I would never forgive him if he went ghost on his kids, one of which didn't make it past her birth so she's in ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy brother is in a toxic relationship for over 5 years now
[7 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 9 2022 at 16:04 by Helpseekerchicken RESPONDENTS: manalone / Smthanonymous / Akm160281 / minsungisreal1 / jvben / Sweet girl 123 / oldmainer LAST POST: Mar 14 2022 at 21:40

So as the title suggests, my (M20) brother (M23) has been in a toxic relationship with his girlfriend (F21) for over 5 years now and they now want to move in together. I will start explaining the whole story from the beginning here. It's a lot to unpack, so my apologies for the (very) long read. 5 and a half years ago my brother came home with his girlfriend. She seemed nice, had some frie...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow to tell your partner his parents stink?
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 4 2022 at 23:15 by Notme RESPONDENTS: manalone / jvben / oldmainer / UIM62 LAST POST: Mar 18 2022 at 23:14

I need advice, as someone who isn't very good with words and also hates any form of confrontation, I need help in how to tell my partner something I know would 100% offend me if someone said it. Just to make it clear, my partners grandparents are absolutely incredible and I love them to bits, he classes them as his parents as his mother was not a nice lady and they took her to court to ge...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHelp. I went out with her even though I don't like her...
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 3 2022 at 20:38 by 21h82v33 RESPONDENTS: manalone / life partner 1 / oldmainer LAST POST: Mar 13 2022 at 02:47

Hey, I'm just going to introduce myself first: I'm 16, female, I think I'm bi and am currently in the middle of a relationship crisis. So, a few months ago, I was desperate for a relationship, my mental health was really not great (thankfully it is now) so I decided to ask this girl who I know out. I didn't even have feelings for her and we had been friends for years. As soo...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryStruggling to trust my boyfriend - am I the problem?
[6 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 2 2022 at 01:47 by polopolo RESPONDENTS: manalone / lily31 / Aka / ventelatte87 LAST POST: Mar 6 2022 at 02:55

This is going to be a really long post but I would appreciate if people would read it as I need a bit of advice and I do not know who to turn to about any of this because I feel embarrassed and stupid. I am finding it hard to trust my boyfriend and I don't know if I am the problem or if he is. Multiple times throughout our relationship we have had arguments about him texting his ex girlfr...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI like a girl with a flirty personality
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 27 2022 at 18:30 by sad teenage guy RESPONDENTS: jvben / minsungisreal1 LAST POST: Mar 12 2022 at 12:10

She’s very flirty in a joke way. We got on well from the moment we met and she’s been flirting with me non stop. Like, really. Pulling situations out of context, talking about how we got married today, and every one of our conversations has a sexual innuendo somewhere in there. But she’s like that with literally everyone. Her friends, my friends, our mutual friends. Everyone thinks she...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryUnhappy in my relationship or just with my life?
[1 POST] CREATED: Feb 23 2022 at 19:55 by Dennydes RESPONDENTS: Dazednconfused LAST POST: Feb 26 2022 at 04:04

Hi everyone, apologies in advance as this is going to be a long one. Please stick with me I know parts of this are going to sound weird so I would really appreciate no judgement. So I am 29, I will have been married for 4 years this year, together for 9. We have a 1 year old child and a house that is bought in my husbands name. My husband is a kind, very hardworking man, who I know loves me ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow much longer should I stay?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 22 2022 at 19:56 by Whatshouldido RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / lily31 / manalone LAST POST: Feb 24 2022 at 03:04

I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, in that time he has suffered a lot with his mental health (he has a diagnosis, takes meds and does therapy) The main issue is every few months he has such a low period that he doesn’t go to work. This has resulted in him losing jobs, having to do temporary work and once was a factor in a suicide attempt. I love him and want to support him but I am wor...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow to heal emotionally from trauma?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 21 2022 at 21:56 by Cuddleswithfoxes RESPONDENTS: lily31 / oldmainer LAST POST: Feb 23 2022 at 18:28

Going to make this as short as possible, so hopefully someone can give me insight. You can skip to the last paragraph for the minimum for the question. I have extreme anxiety and depression. I know my issues can only be fixed by putting in the work on myself. My question is how can I do this and still keep my boyfriend happy? A little background.I've put myself last and put his wants and n...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs my friend obsessive?
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 17 2022 at 19:22 by AB_48K RESPONDENTS: manalone / oldmainer LAST POST: Feb 19 2022 at 03:05

I have a friend who i’ve been friends with for nearly 2 years. We know each other in real life and play games with each other. We fell out last year as they were in a weird place mentally, and they would constantly trauma dump their problems onto me, and it seemed like they were trying to turn my friends against me by telling them i said i didn’t like my friends etc. But we became friends arou...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI told my friend's BF that she cheated
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 14 2022 at 02:27 by hhk8798 RESPONDENTS: lily31 / manalone / oldmainer LAST POST: Feb 16 2022 at 13:28

Hi Guys, So, I have a best friend whom I absolutely love. She has her positives and negatives. Let's call her Betty for the sake of this post. The issues started when I got to know that Betty cheated on each of her boyfriend. She would literally sleep with her ex while she went out with the new bf. It was just horrible to see what she did. I never said anything. Helped her in th...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categorySchool crush
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 13 2022 at 06:15 by losertown RESPONDENTS: Aka / jvben LAST POST: Mar 12 2022 at 12:08

I have this friend that I'm pretty sure sees me as just a friend, but I like her a lot romantically. I kind of half-confessed to her and I think she either thought it was pathetic or maybe thought it was a joke. As i was walking away I looked back and she was laughing at the note I had given her. We do joke-flirt a lot but I thought this was obviously something more serious. Now it's the...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryToxic parents
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 13 2022 at 01:05 by Tania_fro RESPONDENTS: Aka / losertown / Immune2k / life partner 1 LAST POST: Mar 12 2022 at 19:54

When I was a teen, my dad used to hit me, and my mom believed I was not a good child. After years, I still can't forgive them, but I also feel guilty for that. I was always labelled as the worst child ever. The only good thing about me was my intelligence.My mom and sister told me every day that No one would ever like me because I'm just too strange. It still makes me cry thinking about ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI don't know what to do about her...
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 11 2022 at 04:32 by Ik_ck RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / emilyn LAST POST: Feb 12 2022 at 12:11

I don't think I've told this to anyone, not really used to wearing my heart on my sleeve, but getting it off my chest could maybe ease the pain and confusion a little... I know what I'm gonna say might cause anger in some.(You'll understand why as you read on) When I was 17 (I'm 24 now) I met a girl that would become my first actual serious girlfriend. We were both fin...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAbusive relationship I guess
[1 POST] CREATED: Feb 8 2022 at 00:17 by noonelikejo RESPONDENTS: SilviaGirl LAST POST: Feb 8 2022 at 17:16

sucks to admit but ive found myself in yet another abusive relationshp..lately hes just been choking me really tightly & trying to put me to bed , thank god i havent passed out but i guess in a way you can say its my fault.. ive been doing dumb things & i know i need to run, its just im pregnant & i dont wanna do it alone .. you dont have to tell me to leave , trust me .. i will i just...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryTired of flaky friend
[6 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 7 2022 at 23:59 by SilviaGirl RESPONDENTS: noonelikejo / manalone / oldmainer LAST POST: Feb 9 2022 at 14:49

Anyway, I have a friend who is flaky and it's hit the point where I am just DONE with it. The last (of many) incidents came when he said he wanted to hang out over the weekend...then even after me texting multiple times about it, just ignored me. Then he completely "forgot" that we were going to the ballet together (I found another friend to go, luckily, so the tickets weren'...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryPartner now seems unable to be monogamous
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 7 2022 at 15:08 by Ceecee RESPONDENTS: manalone / SilviaGirl LAST POST: Feb 8 2022 at 00:59

I met my partner a year ago and was very explicit regarding what I want from a relationship/life. I want a true partnership, a family and monogamy is the only option for me, my mental health and self esteem couldn’t cope with anything else. He freely agreed to this and said all the right things, sick of the single life, wants a family etc. He had poly relationships in the past but said he didn...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryNeed advice
[1 POST] CREATED: Feb 5 2022 at 20:56 by TAURUS RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Feb 6 2022 at 01:21

Married for 20 years and reasambly happy or so I thought as last 3 years my husband hardly shows any affection and last time we had sex was 3 years ago.i have asked him why and he just says I could live without it but it's really starting to affect me I feel like I'm in a loveless marriage. Am I been selfish? He has never flirted around women or anything which i have always found quite o...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryContacted an ex online after 13 years, need advice
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 2 2022 at 00:40 by JC RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / manalone / mona LAST POST: Feb 4 2022 at 01:30

I looked up an ex on Facebook after 13 years of breakup back in mid November and sent an email. She contacted me within 90 minutes and we real timed emailed back and forth for about 30 minutes catching up etc. By the end of November, we had emailed 2 more times, but not in real time. At the end of November, I emailed if she would like to talk on the phone instead and she emailed back to give he...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs it okay to be called a c**t by your boyfriend?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 1 2022 at 06:43 by Loulou79 RESPONDENTS: lily31 / manalone LAST POST: Feb 1 2022 at 13:41

A good friend of mine in the UK has a bf of 18 months who can be very affectionate and loving, but when angry he tells her to shut up, grow up, F off, stop being a c**t. He won’t apologise for talking that way. He will give her the silent treatment too. I’ve tried to tell her it’s verbal abuse but she stays with him and accepts the treatment. I’d like to show her opinions from others that ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryBoyfriend disliked my kids so I dumped him
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 30 2022 at 13:04 by Loulou79 RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Jan 31 2022 at 12:32

I am a single mum since 2014. Have two children age 19 and 12. I’ve only had one relationship in this time since my marriage broke down which I recently ended. I really was smitten with him despite 19 year age gap. But there were problems from the start. My daughter (11) hated me dating as it was so foreign to her. My son wasn’t too happy either. My daughter was acting out a lot. The guy I was...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum category20 yo and still never dated : is something wrong with me?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 29 2022 at 14:19 by Orange RESPONDENTS: manalone / esoul LAST POST: Feb 2 2022 at 05:16

Hello, first of all English is not my first language so I’m sorry if I make mistakes. So I’m 20 yo, 3rd year of college and I’ve never dated before. Not only dated but even got into a close romantic relationship, never had a kiss before and never flirted… A lot of my friends with the same age already got into a relationship or even date at the moment, and that makes me feel kinda left ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWife cheated but won't admit it or show remorse
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 27 2022 at 06:51 by ArchStanton RESPONDENTS: Aka / manalone / mona LAST POST: Feb 1 2022 at 16:41

My wife and I have been married for over 7 years and have small children together. Since having kids, we've had lots of marital issues and stress. During a very rocky stretch a couple months ago during which she said she wanted a divorce, I learned from a recorded conversation that she was cheating last winter. It sounded like she cheated just for sex and broke it off when the guy stated he w...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMade a mistake that I am struggling to fix
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 24 2022 at 16:19 by ksalt1 RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / Aka LAST POST: Feb 9 2022 at 10:25

Me and my boyfriend have been exclusively dating for about a month. We met on a dating app where we had both being dating around prior to each to meeting each other. I am absolutely crazy about him and have been invested in him since we went on our first date, there was an instant connection from the beginning. I was on two different dating apps before we met, and I deleted them both (or so I ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHelp! My childhood crush just dumped me!
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 24 2022 at 05:52 by Dawnte243 RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / Aka LAST POST: Jan 27 2022 at 08:54

OK. I have been in love with a certain celebrity (much older than I am) since I was 8 years old. I kind of met him recently, and we began cyber-flirting. It was a dream come true. But, then he became mean and dumped me and said that it would never work. I cry every day now. I grieve not only for the loss of him, but because I have wasted all my my life loving a man who doesn't want me and...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy boyfriend won’t introduce me to friends or family
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 23 2022 at 11:53 by MushroomGirl RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / manalone LAST POST: Jan 24 2022 at 00:11

I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year, and I still haven’t met his friends or family (other than his flatmate). He’s met both mine and it makes me feel sad and excluded from a large part of his life. I told him a few months ago how it makes me feel and he promised I’d meet them soon, but so far nothing. His parents and the mother of his child don’t even know I exist. I appreciate h...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryScared to tell partner about STI
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 22 2022 at 12:27 by Paul RESPONDENTS: manalone / Aka LAST POST: Jan 27 2022 at 08:51

I've been with my partner for nearly 20 years. However a few years back curiosity got the better of me and I had sex with another man. Ultimately I decided that this wasn't what I was looking for and have not done it since. However it seems the past has come back to haunt me as I have tested positive chlamydia. I know that I must tell my partner about it. Of course I'm scared of the...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDo I tell my fwb’s wife with a newborn her husband is cheating?
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 19 2022 at 20:24 by Cox’s Orange Pippin RESPONDENTS: oldmainer LAST POST: Jan 20 2022 at 03:12

So I know I may get some hate for this but just to be clear I DID NOT KNOW HE WAS WITH HIS WIFE WHEN I MET HIM. for reference, I am a 26yo female and the man in question is 33. We met online in March 2021 and started seeing each other in person in early April. I am in a happy and committed open relationship with someone, and the person in question (who I will call Max from now on) and my par...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI destroyed our friendship
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 16 2022 at 23:57 by Everythingbagel RESPONDENTS: Aka / esoul / mona / SilviaGirl LAST POST: Feb 8 2022 at 00:01

I (36M) have known this girl (31F) for over 6 years. We were roommates at first, had not met before. We hit off pretty quickly and became intimate at some point, about a few months after I moved in. We would grab a bite to eat or go to the movies, I really liked her but only as a friend, and sex was great so we kept that going for a few months. She then confessed she had feelings for me so I w...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryCo worker sexual attraction
[6 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 12 2022 at 19:20 by ManCalledHorse RESPONDENTS: Aka / oldmainer LAST POST: Jan 17 2022 at 02:39

Hi Guys I am trying to get my mind in gear would welcome honest advice and not judging me on what I say. I have started a New Job,in this pandemic World there are social policy's in place IE face mask to be worn at all time. staggered lunches most eat lunch in our cars. I have become friendly with a women in work,she is seeing someone,I am also living with someone. Attraction has grown...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryRelationship problems
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 12 2022 at 13:24 by Thatdude RESPONDENTS: Aka / Orange LAST POST: Jan 29 2022 at 16:18

Hey everyone! So I have some problems with me and my "gf" relationship. I really like this girl and she likes me (We both admitted to each other over snap), once I asked her if she sees me as her bf and she asked if I saw her as my gf and I said yes and I quote she said "Oh, then I see you as my bf". She's a very open and friendly girl and has a lot of friends. However one...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryProblem with family and boyfriend - I need advice
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 11 2022 at 19:27 by Green macaron RESPONDENTS: oldmainer LAST POST: Jan 12 2022 at 13:17

Hello. I'm 22 years old girl, living in a ordinary-modern society. 2 years ago I met my boyfriend. This is my first romantic relationship. We like each other very much. But when my parents met him, they didn't like him. They think he's weird and not for me. My family isn't best in the world. My parents were always overprotective. In the house, it was never quiet, al...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I being strung along or is he getting comfortable?
[1 POST] CREATED: Jan 11 2022 at 05:15 by Sunstcrm RESPONDENTS: oldmainer LAST POST: Jan 11 2022 at 12:50

I apologize if this is quite long but I was rather confused about the state of my relationship. I met a guy off of an app 3 months ago who’s pretty much my gender bend. I was looking for friendship as to where he was looking for friendships and romance. We had started talking on the phone and were completely obsessed with each other. We would spend nights and mornings on the phone and FaceTi...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWas I just a rebound?
[9 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 10 2022 at 02:39 by Christina2022 RESPONDENTS: new girl / oldmainer LAST POST: Jan 11 2022 at 21:51

Hey everyone and thanks for reading. Hopefully this won’t be too long… Was seeing this guy for 7 months… gave me a ring after 1 month of dating… gave me $10,000 to pay off my car, planning a house to build with me. He bought a truck and camper and it was placed in my name. We went on plenty of trips , but then we break up 2 months ago. I start to miss him so I reach out to him to talk...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryTaking a backseat to adult children
[1 POST] CREATED: Jan 9 2022 at 18:07 by Mkaya RESPONDENTS: mona LAST POST: Jan 12 2022 at 05:22

I'm early 60s and in a new couple month old relationship. My significant other has 2 children late 30s who are married and on their own. I have been told and shown that they will always come first. I dont need to always be first, but I would like to feel like I am not always 3rd place. Everything else about the relationship is good. Should I move on or wait it out hoping for it to get bette...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryEx from a month is messing with my head
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 8 2022 at 09:34 by NW25 RESPONDENTS: new girl / oldmainer LAST POST: Jan 13 2022 at 00:06

So my now ex girlfriend split up with me over a month ago, now I don’t know if this is because my previous relationships have been pushed and I’ve ended up disliking my other exes before her but I’m really confused as to how I’m feeling on it all. Basically the reasons she gave to me where our arguments that got quite bad over the last month or so- but I had believed it was just a phas...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categorySeek advice regarding how to tell someone something
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 7 2022 at 17:03 by mona RESPONDENTS: NW25 / lily31 / oldmainer LAST POST: Jan 10 2022 at 01:38

I have an ex-coworker who wants to have a picnic with me in the park. She has chosen to not receive the Covid-19 vaccine. I don't feel safe being around her because of this. How can I decline the picnic invitation without offending her? ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I wasting my time with this man?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 3 2022 at 19:00 by seeingthetruth RESPONDENTS: Aka / OSusieQ LAST POST: Jan 24 2022 at 20:20

While I have dated divorced men in the last several years, I have never had the issues I'm having with my current partner. We've been seeing each other for about 4 months and while he seems very interested in me and makes efforts to see me regularly, I feel like he has one foot in his prior marriage. He has been divorced for 3 years after a 34 year marriage and has told me his ex asked...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhat’s the meaning of this?
[1 POST] CREATED: Dec 31 2021 at 06:59 by Jonny1980 RESPONDENTS: mona LAST POST: Dec 31 2021 at 18:36

When my ex ended things she wanted to remain friends but I choose not to.. she seemed a little taken back by this and an argument broke out lasting on and off for a week.. it ended up in her blocking my mobile number.. I felt a little bad knowing I had upset her threw things I had said during the argument and wanted to apologise.. I used Facebook to contact her and apologise, she thanked me...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhat do I do?
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 30 2021 at 05:12 by Anxious RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Dec 30 2021 at 08:28

Going to start again. I am in a relationship that I am planning to leave. I am in love with one of my partners friends. We have flirted for a year, even snuck in a couple of kisses. Eventually we had intense and fantastic sex, but now he has gone away for 5 weeks and won’t talk to me. I don’t know whether he is wanting to finish it? Whether I imagined we were both in the same space? Whether I ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI got too close to my really good friend and he’s gone strange now
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 29 2021 at 20:13 by Kitty600 RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Dec 30 2021 at 07:47

I was great frends with a guy who is married with kids and last summer it got a bit more where he started sending videos and photos and I started sending them back then as well. We were enjoying the flirting and he’d ring me a few times a day and we’d be constantly texting until early hrs of morning. At first we had no intentions of having sex but then started discussing it and I where it co...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryGot dumped. After no contact for 3 months got in contact again
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 25 2021 at 16:17 by Weirdtentaclelover RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Dec 31 2021 at 06:42

I really want to move on. I have no idea what I can do to move on from this relationship in which I wasn't even loved. After breaking no contact we argued again i thought he wouldn't reply anymore so I typed in a last goodbye. He didn't reply and i lost all hope. Next day he sent a good bye message as well and he told me he only loved the idea of me. And at the end of the day he d...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryLongtime crush, 3rd time friend
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 23 2021 at 12:54 by Jellybeanboom RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Dec 26 2021 at 03:38

There's this friend that I've known for a long time now and we'd hang out and message each other from time to time. We even went out once years ago but it didn't amount to anything. Recently, we reconnected and we had good conversations, fun and we'd message every day. One day, I decided to flirt a bit more obviously and "shoot my shot" and while he responded tha...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryConfused by ex boyfriend
[1 POST] CREATED: Dec 22 2021 at 08:08 by Baffled RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Dec 24 2021 at 10:59

My ex Boyfriend ended things months ago. He has fought for us to be friends, even when I have wanted to run away. he would always txt me, every day. For the past 2 weeks he has suddenly become distant and cold. he still messages me, just not daily, and when he does its short conversations or yes, no answers. He will not tell me where I stand, and he knows I still have feelings for him. I'm co...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI’m annoyed at myself
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 20 2021 at 23:57 by yoyo13875 RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Dec 21 2021 at 06:59

so basically been with someone for 5 months now, but there’s this 1 girl i met for one weekend a while back an i just can’t stop thinking about her and what she’s up too n etc, in very happy w my girl and i know she’s good for me. i just don’t know why i keep thinking about this certain one :/...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI'm stuck in friendzone! Help!
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 20 2021 at 22:46 by Rmin RESPONDENTS: yoyo13875 / TheColorPink LAST POST: Dec 26 2021 at 16:44

Hi. I'm a boy 23, I have a friend that we are so close to each other. since last year I had some feelings for her. I feel comfortable around her, she is cute and has a great personality. last year I asked her if we could be in a relationship or not and she told me that she don't want to talk about it. At that time we weren't close like today and she was broke up with her last rela...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIt frustrates me that I want a boyfriend but I probably can't get one?
[1 POST] CREATED: Dec 17 2021 at 10:31 by TheColorPink RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Dec 18 2021 at 22:09

Men don't ask me out or approach me....

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy parents are understandably upset and I could use some advice
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 16 2021 at 11:55 by Sadie1123 RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Dec 17 2021 at 01:21

Hi, I'm 16/F. I'm afraid I have to begin this post with a confession. Back during summer break, I was responsible for a car accident that severely injured two people in the other vehicle involved. I was lucky enough to walk away with some bruises, but they had to be taken to the hospital in an ambulance. The accident was a result of the fact that I'd been texting while driving and a...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI can't talk to her
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 14 2021 at 22:03 by Destro RESPONDENTS: Aka / Rmin LAST POST: Dec 20 2021 at 22:49

There's this girl I like and she likes me too but I'm Unable to talk to her because I'm scared she might not want me to talk to her so I need help please...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryXmas dilemma: Husband vs Family
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 13 2021 at 22:13 by Miranda3 RESPONDENTS: Crazy_Wife / Custard LAST POST: Dec 23 2021 at 07:37

My husband has decided that since last week, he doesn't want to go to my parents for xmas dinner. He said that myself and the kids can go without him. He has decided that he doesn't want to be around my family anymore. He thinks they don't like him which is completely untrue. The problem is that my parents and siblings are all looking forward to us all being together at xmas as ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFrustrated with my life
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 13 2021 at 03:44 by Hellokajdhxk RESPONDENTS: NotAJudge / Crazy_Wife LAST POST: Dec 14 2021 at 01:35

My husband and I have had the same issue for years. I have always felt like his family mistreated me. His mom would say we would t last, that I wasn’t enough for him, and that I was going to take advantage of him. This treatment has stopped since I gave birth to my first son, because my husband is afraid I will leave him and take his son away. IHe grew up without his dad so his relationships wit...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum category4 year relationship ended by her and I'm still struggling CREATED: Dec 12 2021 at 18:55 by lostandalone LAST POST: Dec 13 2021 at 03:11

So before I get into great detail I am struggling with the end of a 4 year relationship and it's going on 10 months. I know time and no contact are big helpers but the no contact is almost impossible because we work very closely together. Any advice you have would be greatly appreciated or if you'd like more information I'm happy to supply it. Thank you!...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFrustrated with myself
[1 POST] CREATED: Dec 11 2021 at 00:52 by growthdaily3443 RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Dec 13 2021 at 16:22

Im growing increasing frustrated with myself when it comes to relationships. I havent had many relationships and feel like I suck or settling for the wrong men. My first relationship was at the age of 23 met my sons dad and fell head over heels for him. Only for us not workout, we both had a play in this. But I remember not being happy or appreciated in this union. I decided to date opposite of hi...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryShould I try get in touch with her if I feel alone and miss her?
[1 POST] CREATED: Dec 9 2021 at 21:55 by Jayda777 RESPONDENTS: mooneyed LAST POST: Dec 10 2021 at 04:22

I'm really missing her even though she manipulated me and broke my heart, I seem to miss her more as the days go on. We were firstly in a relationship about 6 years ago, we were together for around 8 months and things were going well until I found out she was engaged. One of my friends found out and when I confronted her she denied it but I found out it was true after seeing him on her socia...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI've been thinking about divorce
[1 POST] CREATED: Dec 8 2021 at 15:33 by Desperation_Inc RESPONDENTS: NotAJudge LAST POST: Dec 13 2021 at 06:09

I've been thinking about divorce a lot recently. I love my husband. We've been married for almost 9 years, together for 13, and friends for nearly 20. I'm 33 and he's 39. He's gorgeous, funny, and intelligent. We have an amazing daughter and he loves her unconditionally. The problem is he's changed. He's become lazy, but I think that's likely just a symp...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy boyfriend gets mad when I touch him at night
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 5 2021 at 05:43 by Katya RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / NotAJudge / mooneyed LAST POST: Dec 10 2021 at 04:38

I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year, and we’ve been living together for 4 months. tonight I got to bed when he was already asleep and put my head on his shoulder. He god mad at me for waking him up and was rude to me. This isn’t the first time this happens. Recently he got mad at me when I adjusted our blanket at night because that also woke him up. I feel like I always have to be sc...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs age really that important?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 26 2021 at 05:23 by NickBadBoy RESPONDENTS: NotAJudge / sputnik00 LAST POST: Dec 1 2021 at 20:43

So since becoming single I’ve been dating a few women but one in particular i just have that connection with. We have such a buzz . Same sense of humour, banter , morals, outlook , and have the same huge sex drive. But thing is I’m 36 and she’s 58. Now I don’t care , my mates think I’m mad as I could quite easily date a younger girl but I’m not that shallow and her friends think she’...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryJust a joke??
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 26 2021 at 03:28 by Slkastep RESPONDENTS: dollar / NotAJudge LAST POST: Nov 27 2021 at 07:16

I need an honest opinion from the outside. So my husband is a funny guy. Very quick witted. That's one of the things I love about him. But, sometimes he makes jokes that seem to be at my expense. Then when I tell him he hurt my feelings, he says he would never purposely hurt my feelings and is just trying to be funny. Tell me what you think...so we are on the phone with his brother to w...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryChallenging relationship with my mum
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 25 2021 at 16:55 by Tillywilly RESPONDENTS: Aka / Motu LAST POST: Nov 29 2021 at 10:50

As I type this, my mum just asked “who’s that?”, I asked “who’s what?”, she replied “who are you typing to?”… I’m 22. I work abroad for around 6 months of the year on super yachts, I’m an only child and my parents are divorced however my mum has had a partner for the past 15 years. To say the least, she is obsessive, highly sensitive and controlling. She will say “I don’t...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDating and my child
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 25 2021 at 06:54 by mona RESPONDENTS: lily31 / sputnik00 / oldmainer LAST POST: Dec 4 2021 at 13:32

I am 28 and my child is 2. I've started dating someone (I'll call him "Joe".) Joe has spent a bit of time with my child and myself, but he has spent no time at all with my child and my mother at the same time. Recently, my mother babysat for free so I could go on a bike ride with Joe. When he and I got back, my mother was sitting in her parked car with my child while my chil...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryEx GF help and what do you think I should do?
[1 POST] CREATED: Nov 23 2021 at 19:05 by Akrite RESPONDENTS: oldmainer LAST POST: Nov 23 2021 at 20:13

So, my gf broke up with me about two months ago. For the first two weeks I begged and pleaded, and to no avail, nothing good happened. I stopped imitating contact, and the next week she came over for a “late night” saying that that’s all that it was and to think nothing more. So I went no contact. 3 weeks after no contact, she asked me on two separate occasions if I was dating someone new...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWorkplace dating CREATED: Nov 20 2021 at 16:34 by big_rob LAST POST: Nov 22 2021 at 05:37

I've been working for a small company in an office building for the last two months. Soon after I began, I became friendly with a woman who works for a different company in the same building. It started out as friendly workplace banter, small talk kinds of things whenever we would run into each other around the building. For the last two weeks or so, I've noticed that her interactions...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy girlfriend and her tattoos
[1 POST] CREATED: Nov 20 2021 at 13:08 by APEHOS1972 RESPONDENTS: lily31 LAST POST: Nov 24 2021 at 13:19

Hi all, Maybe you all think I am crazy, too oldfashioned, too intolerant, but let me explain what my "problem" is. I am currently in a relationship with a woman that I really love. Due to Covid and other personal reasons in our lives, as of now we cannot live together - we come from cities about 100 kilometers apart - so it is basically a long distance relationship. As of now th...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFirst time taking iniciative CREATED: Nov 17 2021 at 21:36 by xoraclex LAST POST: Nov 25 2021 at 14:33

I am on the mind set of breaking up with my boyfriend of 2yrs but I'm struggling to come up with the idea of how to do it. The many factors are because 1. we live together 2. i don't hate him in fact i love him very much 3.Due to health issues, he has been relying on me, which is not a problem for me at all. I don't wish him any harm. I just simply lost all trust in him over th...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIt frustrates me that no men might miss me?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 17 2021 at 08:24 by TheColorPink RESPONDENTS: oldmainer LAST POST: Nov 29 2021 at 00:20

When I went back to work after 5 straight days of being off and I said hey to this guy he fidget tell me that he missed me....

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAge gap relationship, porn over use? CREATED: Nov 16 2021 at 21:39 by Hopelessfoolexandra LAST POST: Nov 25 2021 at 14:21

Ok I f30 dating a m54 for 3.5 years. He has been finding it more difficult to finish the last three months. Blamed tiredness, age etc. Found out today he’s watching porn 3-5 times a week. I’m not against porn. I’m also a filthy freak in bed, attractive, and willing. Am I being dramatic asking him to reduce it to get some of the intimacy back in our relationship? ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDon't know what to do
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 16 2021 at 11:58 by 2 soft RESPONDENTS: oldmainer LAST POST: Nov 16 2021 at 23:46

I broke up with my partner of 16 year's 3 months ago,since then a family member has said she saw my partner chatting up a young girl in our local shopping centre,but she didn't say when this happened just that it was during the time we were together,when I asked the family member for more details she's not admitting she said anything about it,which now makes me look like a liar,my a...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDisrespectful/narcissistic partner? Leave, stay, help?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 15 2021 at 07:08 by mommma333 RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / BoneAppleTeeth LAST POST: Nov 20 2021 at 09:36

Hi. I am having several issues in my relationship and would just like some insight, maybe advice, and just a place to vent a bit. Sorry for the really long post. So My fiancé and I have been together for 8 years now. We got together young at 19 and had our first child a year later. We now have two children together. Our relationship definitely hasn’t been the easiest and often times has be...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryPeople’s childhood and adult life can cause damage to a marriage CREATED: Nov 14 2021 at 04:03 by Smaj1954 LAST POST: Nov 25 2021 at 14:26

I’ve been married for 14 years. Is it working ? NO NO NO. Why ? Because I failed to “fully” understand how my wife life was between ages 2 yrs old until 19 yes old. My wife was raise by the foster care system. During her first 19 years she did receive the following (as building blocks for a successful life. - was never loved, seen love, felt loved, and no good role model th...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow to move on from this break up?
[1 POST] CREATED: Nov 9 2021 at 23:13 by Usy RESPONDENTS: NotAJudge LAST POST: Nov 10 2021 at 05:23

Hi all, this is a long thread so please bear with me. I was in a relationship with a girl about 6 years ago, we were only together for around 4 months and things were going well until I found out she was engaged. One of my friends found out and when I confronted her she denied it but I found out it was true after seeing him on her social media so I deleted her off everything even though she tried ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHall pass insanity update
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 9 2021 at 14:14 by Donovan7777 RESPONDENTS: Soulmate LAST POST: Nov 9 2021 at 18:12

Last week I created an entry under the above title. I explained that my wife of 25+ years wad headed to New Orleans for a three day business trip and she had very casually said she wanted a "Hall Pass" while away. Needless to say, I was floored and as the days passed, rather frigidly I might say, my wife realized I was not a happy guy and she became very attentive and over loving. Not...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI am growing increasingly infatuated with my boyfriends best friend
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 8 2021 at 00:11 by Lam lam RESPONDENTS: lily31 / oldmainer / Soulmate LAST POST: Nov 9 2021 at 17:53

I am growing increasingly infatuated with my boyfriends best friend (let’s call him Alex) and I don’t know what do! I don’t know if it’s a crush or if I’m just lusting after him, all I know is, it’s becoming way too much. I’m beginning to think about him all the time, especially before bed! I am finding myself spending hours concocting far fetched fantasies about him. My bo...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryBoyfriend and his dog
[14 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 4 2021 at 00:43 by dollar RESPONDENTS: NotAJudge / lily31 / Aka / oldmainer / Soulmate LAST POST: Nov 15 2021 at 04:54

My boyfriend wants me to hike with him, but when I do, he always brings his dog. The rule of the trail is dogs must be leashed in the parking lot and can be off leash on the trail if they don't touch people or jump on them. His dog is not trained at all, and that is the way he likes his dog to be. He lets his dog touch people and jump on them, which embarrasses me very much. Yesterday...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHall pass insanity
[13 POSTS] CREATED: Nov 1 2021 at 13:54 by Donovan7777 RESPONDENTS: Soulmate / Aka / oldmainer LAST POST: Nov 21 2021 at 20:29

My wife and I have been married for 25+ years. Two beautiful girls in college. Empty nesters. Our sex life has picked up considerably and we seem to be more in love than ever. My wife is going on a business trip in a week. Three nights in New Orleans.Last night she asked me if I'd consider giving her a Hall Pass for the trip.I am stunned, angry, humiliated, and depressed. What can I say. I ha...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryConflicted? CREATED: Oct 30 2021 at 03:32 by Nightmare's Pain LAST POST: Oct 30 2021 at 13:35

A while ago, I dated this guy. Our relationship was great, everything was fine. Until, you know, he breaks up with me. I couldn't tell you for the life of me why he did, but it happened and it sent me to a dark place. I did slowly get out of the ditch I fell into, but it was a painstaking process. I recently got a girlfriend and we hit it off right away. Our relationship is going better than...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMeshing kids disaster CREATED: Oct 28 2021 at 04:20 by Mbear77 LAST POST: Oct 28 2021 at 13:24

Help I need some advice on my ending relationship:( ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryStory is all over the place CREATED: Oct 27 2021 at 21:46 by Idk LAST POST: Oct 28 2021 at 13:23

I have this girlfriend who I’ve been going out with for a few months, she initially made the first move on me and wanted to make it official So I decided to give it a chance. Everything was all fine and good we used to talk on the phone every single day for hours and all of a sudden one day she said we shouldn’t talk on the phone every single day we should limit the amount of times we’re on...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHusband of 27 years! Portrays me a crazy person and trash talks me. CREATED: Oct 25 2021 at 02:25 by Intuitionfriendly LAST POST: Oct 26 2021 at 06:45

I have been married for 25 years with a man that shows me much affection and tells me he loves me every day. On the other side of the coin he can become a beast when comfronted or asked for an explanation. This is how our arguments always escalate. Behind my back he portrays me as a crazy lunatic. He has 3 sons now 37, 35 and 32. We have one 26 yo daughter together. He has turned his kids against ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I just overthinking this or could this work?
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Oct 24 2021 at 04:12 by A.P. RESPONDENTS: Perspectivenumber7 / oldmainer LAST POST: Oct 24 2021 at 23:52

Ok so I have been single since February and I’ve been doing some online dating through tinder since then. I met my ex (together for 3 years) on tinder so I’m hopeful that I will find something new on there. At the end of September, I matched with this guy and we’ve been talking since. We’ve gone on multiple dates and I’ve even stayed over for a night at his place. We have really good...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categorySomething feels so off.... Or is he right it's all in my head
[1 POST] CREATED: Oct 22 2021 at 00:06 by Brokenwings07 RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Oct 22 2021 at 10:16

Hello, I'm in such desperate need of honest input, as the last few months I feel overwhelmed with suspicion and the fear I'm becoming delusional. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years all in all he's a good guy he works hard and is a pretty good provider. However lately something feels really off. He seems very detached as if our relationship is the furthest thing from...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categorySmoking and relationship
[22 POSTS] CREATED: Oct 18 2021 at 19:19 by Mmmpies RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / Aka / Soulmate / lily31 LAST POST: Nov 8 2021 at 22:42

Me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 3 years. We moved in together about 7 months ago. When we first got together she was a smoker. It didn't bother me too much despite never being a smoker myself. Without any influence from me she has made several attempts to quit but failed. Since we have moved in I've found that I'm struggling to deal with the smoking. I know it...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMarried and confused.
[6 POSTS] CREATED: Oct 10 2021 at 04:01 by Bloom565 RESPONDENTS: sputnik00 / NotAJudge / oldmainer / Ineedhelpliketf LAST POST: Oct 20 2021 at 06:26

I was in a 4 year relationship with a guy I met online. We both wanted to marry each other but the circumstances didn't work in our favour. Now, I'm married to someone else. But I miss my ex. It's been 2 and half year's of our break up and 2 year's of my marriage. I feel like I rushed the marriage because I wanted to move on. My husband is a kind, gentle man but my...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow to deal with a jealous friend?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Oct 9 2021 at 01:26 by youthanalysis499 RESPONDENTS: sputnik00 LAST POST: Oct 9 2021 at 19:37

A friend introduced me to her best friend and he seems to be closer with me. We hang out a lot and now she's often rude to me. She’s always busy, so him and I have been hanging out while she’s away. When she sees us she’s often cold to me or won’t speak to me unless I speak to her. She treats him the same though and tries to isolate me whenever she gets a chance to. I’m not really h...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFeeling ok after death and want to move on
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Oct 8 2021 at 06:17 by Insight RESPONDENTS: sputnik00 LAST POST: Oct 8 2021 at 20:56

My husband unexpectedly passed away from a heart attack 2 months ago. We had only been married for 9 months. We had only been together for less than 2 years. Prior to meeting him I had been a single mom if 3 kids for 7 years. One of the first guys I ever dated after my divorce and not dating for 6 years I really fell hard for but the timing was way off. He reached out to me after my husband...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhat should I do?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Oct 7 2021 at 10:37 by lety9284 RESPONDENTS: sputnik00 / lily31 LAST POST: Oct 9 2021 at 06:48

I have been seeing this guy for 2 months he just got out of a 20-year relationship because he cheated on her throughout their 20-year relationship. He said he changed that he will never cheat on anyone ever again. I believed him at first but it is hard to trust him when he is always making jokes about him being with other girls. He keeps saying we need to split up so that I could work on my jealou...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I over reacting to my husband using internet chat rooms to "flirt"
[6 POSTS] CREATED: Oct 2 2021 at 22:31 by Sexychick RESPONDENTS: manalone / Checkmate15282 / sputnik00 LAST POST: Oct 6 2021 at 00:30

I have been married 20 years. I recently found out that my husband has secretly been chatting and flirting with women in internet chat rooms. He tells these women how beautiful they are, or how sexy they look. He evan told 1 girl that in his eyes, she was the perfect woman. Things he has never told me, evan before we were married. He has sent photos of himself to these women (fully clothed), and w...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow can I make a relationship w him work?
[1 POST] CREATED: Oct 1 2021 at 23:16 by Flowers1991 RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Oct 2 2021 at 00:51

He’s married but left his wife and 7-year-old for faraway job - says he just felt like it, for $/selfishness/ freedom, and his family cried for him to stay but he ignored. He’ll go back whenever vacation time allows, but it’s really far so that’s every few months. I said well something must have been wrong in your marriage, there was some reason you left, and he insists nothing at all. S...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFeeling of Emptiness
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 30 2021 at 12:16 by Oma_squared RESPONDENTS: sputnik00 LAST POST: Oct 6 2021 at 00:40

Please I need advice on this matter. I have been in a relationship for 6months, it was wonderful. I got to experience love and I loved back whole heartedly. We talked about a future together. We were both in our finals in school and lockdown got us chatting and falling in love eventually. After final exams,my boyfriend went back home which was still in the same state. I was yet to go home becau...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I wrong to delete my Twitter account? CREATED: Sep 27 2021 at 06:58 by TheLoneVaultDweller LAST POST: Sep 29 2021 at 12:24

Okay so the long and short of it is that I deleted my social media so that no one could get a hold of me unless they had my email. I have been having issues with drama in the community I was hanging out with and I just can't handle the stress and bullying because I don't believe everything they think. Also it's filled with three year old drama like picking sides. I hope one day ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs it finally time for me to cut off my grandmother?
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 26 2021 at 14:07 by R_W_98 RESPONDENTS: sputnik00 LAST POST: Oct 6 2021 at 00:27

Please bear with me; this is going to be a long one... A bit of context: Hi, my name (for the purpose of this forum) is R. I am 22 years old and am feeling particularly conflicted at the moment. I am wondering if anybody could give me some advice on this situation and I am completely lost. When I was 9 years old, my mother took her own life. There was no one major cause of this; she was a...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI found 15000 image of other women on my partners phone
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 26 2021 at 00:50 by Tiredmomma27 RESPONDENTS: R_W_98 / sputnik00 LAST POST: Oct 6 2021 at 00:35

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 8, we have. 3 year old son together. Our relationship was fantastic to begin but after the birth of our son I feel it went south, I gained around 80lbs that I have struggled to shed due to PCOS and my poor diet (not gunna lie) and our arguing increased. Around 5 years into our relationship he got a new phone and changed his password so I didn’t know it ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs it ok to message an ex on Facebook
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 25 2021 at 15:30 by bcurry101 RESPONDENTS: Tiredmomma27 LAST POST: Sep 26 2021 at 13:25

My ex broke up with me 13 years ago. We drifted apart, and it was amicable. My long time girlfriend/life partner (10 years) passed away a few months ago. We were never ones to be on social media, but I have recently set up an account and saw that my ex has an account. Is it ok to send her a message just as a friend to see how things are going? I have no idea of her relationship status and I am ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryForgiveness or Weakness CREATED: Sep 24 2021 at 09:51 by Forever.Me LAST POST: Sep 24 2021 at 12:14

Today is day 5 without my partner by my side. I miss him, but I don't want to hurt anymore, and my 12 year old daughter is so over him. It also hurts because I feel like I'm torturing him. He wants to come home and be with his "family" (He's staying at an hotel right now), but there's so much tension still, everyone thinks it's best for us to just let it go, beca...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAdvice please! Pregnancy after a breakup… CREATED: Sep 23 2021 at 07:44 by Sdj1991 LAST POST: Sep 26 2021 at 13:36

I broke up with my ex in may this year, we hadn’t been close in quite a while, I was very unhappy, he was unwilling to work with me to make things better. We were together 13 years. We have 3 children together ages 5, 3 and 9 months. I moved out temporarily to my mums until I can find suitable housing. I started chatting to an old friend whilst I was going through the separation and we have gott...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryParents are kinda sucky
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 23 2021 at 03:35 by LoveIsGod123 RESPONDENTS: Oma_squared / sputnik00 LAST POST: Oct 6 2021 at 08:16

I am a teenage trans boy with ADHD and I've been falling behind on school. My parents are understandably upset but I think that they are taking it too far. My dad has gotten better with handling me over the past years, but it feels like my mom just doesn't care anymore. Every time I am trying to work on my current homework she gets mad at me for not working on the missing stuff, but when...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryNo support CREATED: Sep 22 2021 at 17:59 by Villa LAST POST: Sep 22 2021 at 20:13

Recently I was really depressed due to a few different things. My mum passed away 3 months ago and even thou I never saw her for years it still hit me. I dont trust my husband and have issues in our marriage due to it and we recently returned from a holiday and the depression hit me so hard when I got home because all our holidays were over and there is nothing else to look forward to and because ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI need some advice regarding something that happened
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 22 2021 at 17:18 by TemporaryCorn RESPONDENTS: NotAJudge LAST POST: Oct 5 2021 at 09:45

Hey, dwellers of peoplesproblems. Hope you're all doing well. 16M, going on 17. Girlfriend is 16. Recently, I got into an argument with my father. This argument escalated into a more intense than usual situation. As I was driving with him trying to get some final hours in for my driver's test (which was supposed to be today), I did my best to respectfully point out that he was con...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDid I do something wrong? Was it me? Please help!
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 22 2021 at 15:45 by Drumstetra RESPONDENTS: ImNoAngel / sputnik00 LAST POST: Oct 6 2021 at 00:42

Hi, I am driving myself mad here and need advice. After 20 years my marriage broke down and I've been on my own quiet happily for the last 9 months. I don't do dating websites or anything and although I felt it would be lovely to meet someone I wasn't going to go looking. 3 weeks ago a man messaged me, thinking I was someone else (probably clever line) anyway we got chatting and...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryChoosing between keeping a baby or not?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 21 2021 at 17:44 by NomNominous RESPONDENTS: oldmainer LAST POST: Sep 22 2021 at 20:20

I need some advice for my best friends. They are both early 20's. They have found out that the girl in the relationship is pregnant. She is against abortion. The boy has expressed strongly that he thinks its best for her to have an abortion. He has been depressed since finding out because of not feeling ready and also feeling like having a child now will ruin his life. She is now stuck as to ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryShould I bail out without knowing for certain the rumors are true?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 20 2021 at 22:00 by tooearlytogiveup RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / sputnik00 LAST POST: Oct 6 2021 at 00:49

Started seeing someone I’ve know through a friend. After going out to a restaurant a got word from some folks that I he has had a troubled past with money and relationships (taking money from his prior spouses). Also heard from a friend who was out with him and some other folks that he was bragging about his sexual conquests and talking about a woman’s breasts in the same room at the restauran...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryBreak ups
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 17 2021 at 14:02 by reallyneedhelo RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Sep 20 2021 at 08:24

so.. I was with someone for four and half years. I split up with her because I thought she would be better off with out me because i was so worried about hurting her. she was the most amazing person and I regret putting through what I did. Its been over a year since we split and all I've done is think about her and wonder how she was getting on. each day has been a fight within my head trying...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryBoyfriend might be bisexual and wants to explore together
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 16 2021 at 04:23 by ConfusedMoose RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Sep 20 2021 at 08:27

My boyfriend of 6 years wants to explore his possible bisexuality. He wants to do this with me. I have no desire to have a threesome as much as he feels this is important to him. Can I get advice and outcome stories from people in or behind similar situations? I don't want any ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHaven't talked with my ex-potential soulmate for years, how to proceed
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 15 2021 at 08:57 by Aman N RESPONDENTS: DownByTheRiver LAST POST: Sep 16 2021 at 12:12

Years ago I fell in love with the perfect girl and she still is my "crush" today. Back then I WAS her crush too,but I was filled with anxiety, fear, insecurities (dont have a good impression i suck at studies+sports, dont have friends and i am ugly af) and i never really had the courage to ask her out or even start a conversation with her . She "moved on" and has had a few ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I heading for a bad ending by dating a good friend of my ex?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 15 2021 at 01:54 by Hopefully RESPONDENTS: DownByTheRiver / Aka LAST POST: Sep 20 2021 at 08:30

Dating a good friend of one of my exes. My ex and I broke up a couple of years ago and he has been with somebody else ever since. However, I recently heard he still has feelings for me but I have no feelings for him whatsoever. The friend I’m dating decided to tell him that we’ve been going out so we didn’t hear from somebody else and leaders to say he was very unhappy. He also told the man ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs it wise to reach out to ex friend?
[1 POST] CREATED: Sep 14 2021 at 09:10 by Pumpkina RESPONDENTS: DownByTheRiver LAST POST: Sep 15 2021 at 19:51

I am in a happy relationship and have a small circle of friends and life is overall thriving. A few years ago I was in a long term relationship with my now ex and through our social group met a girl same age as myself. I didn’t really like her at first impression but my partner at the time got on really well with her and they quickly became friends. After a couple of months and seeing her...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy boyfriend was perfect for me and suddenly dumped me out of the blue
[7 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 8 2021 at 21:38 by hhhcccaarrrrr RESPONDENTS: lily31 / manalone / oldmainer / Aka LAST POST: Sep 20 2021 at 08:26

Ive been with my now ex boyfriend for a year, we had just celebrated our 1 year anniversary one month ago and both our birthdays 3 weeks ago which we went away for and had the best time ever. A week ago he asked to talk and told me over the last 2 weeks he didnt feel the same anymore and he doesnt know why but he cant lead me on so he wanted to end things. I was completely devastated especiall...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMarriage is hard CREATED: Sep 4 2021 at 18:10 by Heartbreak Warfare LAST POST: Sep 4 2021 at 20:37

Been together 11 years, married for 5. Two kids together, plus one from him with a dysfunctional baby mama past. Never went on our honeymoon- or any vacation really other than tent camping. He works a lot…. I see him maybe two hours in the evenings before I fall asleep and on Sundays. I miss him all day and feel sad and loneliness, when he comes home I display resentfulness which cause a mou...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryShould I have gotten married? Feeling stuck. CREATED: Sep 1 2021 at 23:24 by GreenFlask LAST POST: Sep 9 2021 at 23:07

I have been with my husband for 4 years (married 2). He is the only person I have ever dated/kissed/had sex with. Recently I've been having feelings for a good friend of mine who I didn't meet until after I started dating my now husband. I don't think this friend has any idea about my feelings for him. I love my husband, I really do, we get along great, he makes me laugh, and...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAdvice about emotionally abusive relationship
[1 POST] CREATED: Sep 1 2021 at 05:39 by JESter1993 RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Sep 2 2021 at 23:59

My fiancé and I have been together for 11 years and our wedding is in 3 months from now. Almost 2 years ago, I got caught by my fiancé in a porn addiction, which led us to seek counseling and work out our relationship. All the counseling has made me learn how emotionally abusive she has been towards me in our years together, which is what led to the porn addiction. Lately, I have been strugg...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryOpinions please
[7 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 24 2021 at 17:01 by LovesCats RESPONDENTS: manalone / Checkmate15282 LAST POST: Aug 26 2021 at 12:43

My partner and I are both female, in our 50s and live together. We've been in a relationship for about a year and a half. Last Friday night we had plans to go out for the evening and we got into an argument. She took off and wouldn't tell me where she was going or what time she would be home. I was really upset. I texted her a little while later and told her I'm going out and I ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhat to do? I lied or something like that and it might be found out
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 23 2021 at 23:03 by sad teenage guy RESPONDENTS: DojaBoyTellEm LAST POST: Aug 31 2021 at 10:43

I’m scared of a phone call with a friend because he might find out I’m unfortunately a girl. So I (girl,16) met this guy (same age) online on a website to find friends and we’ve been texting for months. He always tells me he wants to call me and talk on the phone and that’s a good idea because it’s faster than texting and “really talking” will make the friendship stronger, won’t...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHelp
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 23 2021 at 21:16 by kasey RESPONDENTS: DojaBoyTellEm LAST POST: Aug 25 2021 at 17:15

HI, Im 40 years old, lived a very successful life as i have dedicated my like to business so have sacrificed marriage and children for the good life which I have enjoyed every minute. I have always been attracted to the older man, 6 years ago i was in a relationship with a very attractive, very good honest man who was only 15 years my senior, everyone accepted him and it was the first time I sta...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIn-laws holding a grudge after miscarriage
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 23 2021 at 20:39 by K19 RESPONDENTS: kasey / DojaBoyTellEm LAST POST: Aug 26 2021 at 21:37

My husband and I found out we lost what would have been our second baby when I was 3 months pregnant last October. It was a really hard time for both of us, a massive shock, and the saddest thing we’ve experienced. I struggled to accept it and spoke to a counsellor/therapist to try and find a way that I could come to terms with had happened, and help me deal with my grief. Nothing helped, and mo...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWrong about racism
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 23 2021 at 07:10 by CRL5 RESPONDENTS: DojaBoyTellEm / oldmainer LAST POST: Aug 23 2021 at 19:49

Last night I had dinner with my husband. There were six tables on an outdoor terrace, each table with a M/F couple. It was very windy and I noticed the wait staff offering several women a shawl towards the end of the evening. I was having a great night when I looked around and noticed that every woman at each of the other five tables was wearing a restaurant-provided shawl except me. At that momen...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFeeling stuck
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 21 2021 at 18:16 by Coffeeandcoffee RESPONDENTS: DojaBoyTellEm / oldmainer LAST POST: Aug 22 2021 at 14:39

I've been with my bf for about a year and a half and even in the beginning, I wasn't feeling too excited about him but I wasn't in a good place and I probably shouldn't have been dating but I was isolated and wanted some human interaction and this was right when the pandemic and the lockdowns hit. I always hoped that maybe I would get to know him better and change how I felt. ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I wrong? Opinions needed!
[7 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 20 2021 at 22:23 by Lucidityisfleeting RESPONDENTS: manalone / oldmainer / DojaBoyTellEm LAST POST: Aug 22 2021 at 13:54

My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years. Two years ago he cheated on me, left and bane back 5 separate times for the same girl. Pretty quick after the final tube he went to jail for 6 months where he proceeded to tell me I was his everything and his wonderful things would be when he got out etc etc etc... He got out and things have changed some, I have access to all his accounts (at leas...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow to deal with wife being drugged and assaulted- so I think!
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 20 2021 at 16:07 by BrownBoyfromNYC RESPONDENTS: DojaBoyTellEm / oldmainer LAST POST: Aug 22 2021 at 16:00

A few months ago, my wife and I invited a male friend and a female friend to our home for dinner and drink. After dinner, the 2 women were drinking wine and we were drinking beer. An hour later, the male friend offered THC gummies to my wife. She never did drugs but she took 3 gummies and 3 pieces of chocolate (no one else took it) 40mg in total. Another hour later my wife got high and horny. She ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categorySo confused I don't know where my happiness lies anymore
[8 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 19 2021 at 16:45 by Platinum RESPONDENTS: DojaBoyTellEm / oldmainer LAST POST: Aug 22 2021 at 17:14

I could really use some help. Please don't hate instead. Pleae read till the end. I'm 21 and am in a relationship since 16. Everything was fine until 4 years ago when we suddenly realised my boyfriend's parents had run into debt. He was in his freshman year of college and had started looking for ways to earn money, giving up his plans to continue his education abroad. I joined...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMil intrusive in laws
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 18 2021 at 08:51 by Fedupofbeingfedup RESPONDENTS: DojaBoyTellEm LAST POST: Aug 19 2021 at 03:57

Hi im new here and looking for advice or a extra pair of eyes to look in on why im feeling suffocated and feeling resentment towards in laws especially mil. Not married but have been with partner 8 years. We have a happy little life from the start his mother has never left us in peace. She used to turn up uninvited and we owuld be running around trying to tidy things up hiding stuff we didnt wa...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI have a very tricky situation happening
[6 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 18 2021 at 05:48 by Dakota 3016 RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / DojaBoyTellEm LAST POST: Aug 22 2021 at 02:22

About a year ago my sister and I bought a house together yes we were thinking about fixing it up and selling it and maybe doing another one we are both retired so it’s not a problem for us to spend time doing that. So After we found a house in another state I went down to stay in the house while my sister sold her house and cleared out. She Call one day and told me that she had met someone and t...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryUnderstanding
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 17 2021 at 18:23 by Jonny1980 RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / Checkmate15282 LAST POST: Aug 20 2021 at 21:52

My ex broke up with me last week, Iv fine the usual asking if but when how etc.. she’s just saying she didn’t see a future despite being engaged to be married.. Trouble is she keeps telling she loves me, misses me and think I’m wonderful followed by but it’s best we split up.. I think it’s a little cruel she keeps saying those things considering she knows I love her and want her...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWas this a toxic friendship?
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 14 2021 at 08:52 by Danishcookie RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / Checkmate15282 / DojaBoyTellEm LAST POST: Aug 17 2021 at 18:35

My (former) best friend abruptly ended our decades long friendship after I invited her to my wedding. She never congratulated me. I had a feeling something was wrong but I didn’t want to assume so I waited for her response. Weeks later she sent a long message that blindsided me (there was a lot more said that is not on this list): - she was no longer going to talk to me - she couldn’...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryGiving up on the idea of finding love after various bad experiences
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 13 2021 at 17:19 by Gemini90 RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / DojaBoyTellEm LAST POST: Aug 17 2021 at 11:58

I'm a 30 year old woman, and after several bad dating/relationship experiences, I've become thoroughly disillusioned with the idea of finding a decent partner or falling in love again. I would love to fall in love and settle down, but after so many false starts and toxic relationships/dating experience with the wrong people, I fear I won't ever find "that person" to settle...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFriendship or relationship?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 7 2021 at 05:35 by Patrica7103 RESPONDENTS: DojaBoyTellEm LAST POST: Aug 17 2021 at 23:09

So I have a friend I’ve known most of my life, but we start messaging and talking around 3 years ago when I split from my ex. This was purely on a friendship basis, as he was in a relationship, however we spoke most days, mainly just random chat. When he split from him ex about a year ago, the flirty banter, sexual innuendos started, just cheeky chat, again nothing serious. Recently that’s cha...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIt frustrates me that it might be because of my looks because of my
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 7 2021 at 00:42 by TheColorPink RESPONDENTS: Aka / oldmainer LAST POST: Aug 8 2021 at 12:17

Looks because I don't have a boyfriend? Because I might be rated to be way below a 0 or rated to be a 1. ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categorySexy lingerie before s**
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 6 2021 at 22:34 by Confused unhappy RESPONDENTS: oldmainer LAST POST: Aug 8 2021 at 18:31

Hi Everyone, My husband and I have been married for 8 years. My husband is a wonderful man I've ever known and I am very thankful of having him as my husband. I really don't know how to start this but, In our early years of marriage, it doesn't matter if I wear sexy lingerie or not. But later in our marriage, this becomes mandatory before making love. He started to buy my s...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryBoyfriend kissed my best friend
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 5 2021 at 19:09 by avengersblondie RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / DojaBoyTellEm LAST POST: Aug 17 2021 at 18:52

I want to preface that both of these people mean the world to me, and I have sat on this problem for months since it happened because I didn't want to act too rashly. Let's set the scene: after 7 months of deployment, my boyfriend finally came home. I was incredibly anxious and excited. Without my knowledge, he was coming home a month earlier than planned, and was planning a surprise ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow do I chill out?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 5 2021 at 09:50 by adeleakd RESPONDENTS: lily31 LAST POST: Aug 5 2021 at 13:12

I have been with a guy for the past 3 years, and ever since he has always been very laid-back. I didn't mind it since I didn't want a boyfriend who hovered or was hard to get along with. Most of the time he's doing his own thing, gaming, sleeping, working out, etc. and I am drawing or sleeping. We tend to go hours a day without texting eachother, and occassionally can go a day w...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI love my mom and her communication makes me feel ignored…
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 31 2021 at 17:21 by Anon1113 RESPONDENTS: Letstalk121 LAST POST: Aug 1 2021 at 03:02

Hi All. I hate being so cliche and it’s also partially why I didn’t own my feelings about this, as well as legitimately love my mom. Long story short — I’ve had an interesting dynamic with my family where I was loved unconditionally, no intentional harm and also have felt disconnected due to being “the emotional one”. What’s “funny” is both my parents are more like me in that...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI hate my boyfriends dog
[8 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 30 2021 at 22:47 by Applebaum RESPONDENTS: Letstalk121 / oldmainer LAST POST: Aug 1 2021 at 15:01

I want to start with this: I’ve always loved dogs and I’ve never hurt her. She’s a small Pomeranian mix and I hate her personality. She’s needy, dirty, and annoying. We also have a cat that I adore because she’s clean and not as needy. When my bf and I started dating over a year ago, she would pee on doggie pads and shit on the bedroom carpet and he would let her sleep all over...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAsking to much?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 30 2021 at 09:17 by RiverJ RESPONDENTS: sonangela7 / arabella5 LAST POST: Jul 30 2021 at 10:21

Hello, I've been married to my husband for 16 years now. I love him so much but my upset is he never does anything special for me like roses,card NOTHING! Our anniversary was yesterday and I even gave hints but nada... I've told him several times that I would like more romance he always says he'll work on it and it never happens. He thinks paying bills shows enough love 🤷‍♀...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categorySeeking advice on confusing flirtation
[6 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 27 2021 at 16:47 by Devoriah RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / sonangela7 / arabella5 / carter LAST POST: Aug 4 2021 at 00:38

So this guy I know has been a bit flirtatious with me. For example, when he sits down across from me, he sits quite close so that his feet touch mine and he'll leave them there for a bit. He’s squeezed my shoulder, touched my hand, touched my knee (if I recall), given me hugs (he initiated), complimented me, stood over me close to me, asked about my relationship status, etc. I’ve caught h...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHusband wants to buy a property overseas- alone
[7 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 26 2021 at 10:01 by Strawberry1984 RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / carter / sonangela7 / arabella5 / Letstalk121 LAST POST: Jul 30 2021 at 22:02

Hi everyone, My husband, I and are two small children lives in Scandinavia. He’s not from here, but holds a Canadian citizenship and so does our children (they’re born here in Scandinavia, so they have two citizenships) To make a long story short; husband never liked it here. We have a lot of problems and arguments. He never found himself here. Loved his life in Canada. He’s a self employ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDo I have feelings for him or am I just really lonely
[6 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 24 2021 at 08:03 by Sosnitskaya RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / sophiecan / sonangela7 / carter LAST POST: Jul 29 2021 at 11:54

Hii I made this account just to ask for help, and I have been wanting to use this more so ig two birds with one stone situation here. So to start with my situation, my ex (17m) and I (17f), had broken up about 6 months ago, after 2 years of being together, and it was one of the roughest things I've ever gone through. I have abandonment issues related to some family stuff and I don't li...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryNeed relationship advice. dealing with a controlling mean woman
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 24 2021 at 05:55 by Dpmichigan11 RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / arabella5 / Applebaum / Letstalk121 LAST POST: Jul 30 2021 at 23:20

I have a girlfriend that I have been fooling around with on and off since the age of 15. We finally reconnected 8 years ago and she moved in after a few months. We fall out alot cause I don't trust her and she does funny things. After 7 years we fell out and she moved with her mother. She had already gotten mean and want no sex. Yelling at me , sleeping at the other end of the bed, get...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhat to do
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 24 2021 at 00:43 by Foxk RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / arabella5 / sonangela7 LAST POST: Jul 29 2021 at 10:45

Okay. I am new here but need advice. I've been with my current boyfriend for almost 5 years and we have a child together. It's been a very exhausting 5 years. Constantly fighting. Me leaving and then coming back in hopes it will work (it never does). It's just a matter of time before out next argument and fallout. He hates my family and we spend more time apart then we do to...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryPossible overreacting situation before it happens help please
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 23 2021 at 19:14 by Bluefairiesmoon78 RESPONDENTS: carter / sonangela7 / arabella5 / Cupid LAST POST: Jul 31 2021 at 06:05

Maybe I am worrying about nothing. Maybe I a reading into something that is not there but here goes. I have been in a relationship with D for over 11 years. We have two amazing children together. D is an amazing guy. He has always been very truthful and honest. He has a very big heart and will give you the shirt right off his back. It is one the things that has always attracted me to him is that h...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryCurrently going through forced divorce situation....
[10 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 21 2021 at 12:20 by Icarus RESPONDENTS: Birds1919 / Sunbeams / sophiecan / 8Twenty8 LAST POST: Aug 7 2021 at 13:17

It's been a few weeks since this awful event happened. I ended up getting so drunk and was seduced into sex by my wife's sister in law, I can barely remember all of the details of the whole night leading up to it but I remember snapping back to my senses seconds into it and putting a stop to it but it was still too late, all hell has broken loose, and I seem to be the only one taking res...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy ex wants to be friends - what does this really mean??
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 21 2021 at 10:41 by Wbelly RESPONDENTS: sonangela7 / oldmainer LAST POST: Jul 24 2021 at 14:05

It's been just over a month since I ended our relationship. We were not in touch until he recently reached out to me. We got along really well in our relationship in terms of the things we had in common, goals etc. I still love him and do feel I should have given our relationship a better chance. Bottom line is that if he wanted to get back together I most likely would be willing. Sin...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI’m lost what should do
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 20 2021 at 04:07 by Anonymous Trucker RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / 8Twenty8 / sonangela7 / arabella5 LAST POST: Jul 26 2021 at 13:58

I don’t know what I should do.My life is passing me by and it’s stressing me out.Im a good person easy going but I just don’t know what’s my issue at home.I have nobody to confide in so I came here.Im a 35 yr old male.I’ve been with this woman since 2014 everything was great until she found out she was pregnant and it went down hill from there.she began becoming distant from me but I tho...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I overthinking my relationship? CREATED: Jul 19 2021 at 04:53 by Anonymity73 LAST POST: Jul 19 2021 at 20:55

My boyfriend and I have recently just started dating. The issue lies in the fact we’re both going to different high schools, and I’m worried he might replace me or eventually just forget me. I’m not as fearful for his loyalty given he has been on the receiving end of a cheater, but what if another girl captivates him in the same way I did? And what if He becomes tired of me? I rarely see ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDoes he actually like me or just want sex?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 15 2021 at 12:00 by anon12345 RESPONDENTS: oldmainer LAST POST: Jul 17 2021 at 04:04

Hello there! I never ask anything on forums, but I'm really confused. let me explain (sorry for a long rant). I got out of relationship not all too long ago and then I met this guy at work - and damn, i fell for him. We chatted with my colleagues, somehow talked about relationships - he said his longest one was 2 months and that's it (he's 26). He fucked around a lot, like really...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy ex reached out a month after I ended our relationship…what now ?
[6 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 14 2021 at 10:35 by Nate07 RESPONDENTS: manalone / oldmainer / carter / arabella5 LAST POST: Jul 23 2021 at 14:09

My ex and I recently broke up, and he’s just reached out to me after over a month. I’ve been thinking of him quite a bit, wondering if my decision to end things was the right one. Our relationship was perfect in my opinion up until it became clear ( he admitted this ) that he struggles with trust issues due to being cheated on in the past. We talked about that a bit, however, it got to the poi...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI need help!
[8 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 12 2021 at 17:30 by ineedadvice RESPONDENTS: oldmainer LAST POST: Jul 18 2021 at 18:05

hello, i recently found out that my boyfriend of 14 years is messaging a man to meet up for sex. He has sent and recieved pictures that have then been deleted and unsent (facebook messenger). Not once has he ever expressed to me that he is attracted to men and now i feel blind sided. iv been keeping it a secret for a while as i cant talk to any of my friends or family as they all love him a...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI don't love the mother of our 6 month old child
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 11 2021 at 19:06 by Oliver-21 RESPONDENTS: manalone / sonangela7 / arabella5 LAST POST: Jul 26 2021 at 14:02

I got together with my current partner at the back end of 2019 things developed fast and she moved into my home in March of 2020 at the start of the lockdown. We are both approaching 40 and discussed and started trying for a baby, during this time I noticed insecurity problems, she was getting drunk alot while at home and was agreeing a lot. It may seem irresponsible but at this point I reali...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWanting to run far away
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 11 2021 at 15:38 by Sosig RESPONDENTS: Soulmate LAST POST: Jul 12 2021 at 02:17

For the longest time now I've wanted to sever all ties and leave, family, friends, everyone, and just disappear. Am I crazy? I'm not on particularly bad terms with people but my family haven't exactly done wonders for my mental health, and deep down I just want to vanish and start afresh somewhere new with a clean slate, I live in a small dead end town and I don't want to be s...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhat do you make of this?
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 10 2021 at 19:06 by Macncheese RESPONDENTS: manalone / arabella5 LAST POST: Jul 22 2021 at 13:53

I am in my mid 40’s so is my partner so not a young relationship, anyway we’ve been together a while and about 4 months into our relationship we were chatting as I was due to get my hair coloured, he said to me in a room full of women I will always choose the blonde, this made me feel very uncomfortable as now I feel I can’t change my hair colour. Would this bother you or am I over thi...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryGirlfriend secretly stayed in touch with her recent ex. What to do?
[1 POST] CREATED: Jul 3 2021 at 01:44 by StevenZ RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Jul 7 2021 at 01:14

Hi all I (M47) am in a relationship with my girlfriend (F29) for about five months now. We're very much in love (she was the one initiating the relationship btw if that matters) and things are pretty serious between us. However, she sometimes wonders if she enjoyed her 'single' life enough (she's been single for two years since her last serious relationship, but one year fee...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhat to do when you find out you are the other guy CREATED: Jul 2 2021 at 07:19 by Boulderados LAST POST: Aug 3 2021 at 14:30

A few months ago I met Sarah (not her real name) and we really hit it off and became good friends. Especially in Corona time it was good to have someone in your bubble to take long walks with, watch a movie, share a meal, etc. She would occasionally even spend the night but then in the guest room. You see I respectfully kept my distance as Sarah was struggling with an unresolved relationship. S...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI know I am jealous, but .. my story has also a lot of red flags
[1 POST] CREATED: Jul 1 2021 at 15:35 by Morralles RESPONDENTS: oldmainer LAST POST: Jul 7 2021 at 00:38

PLEASE. FOR THOSE WHO WILL ALOW THE TIME TO READ, YOU HAVE MY DEEPEST SYMPATY AND THANKS. Our relationship started in 2015, 6 years ago, and at the beginning it was super ok, milk and honey, for me, and honestly, I thought it was likewise for her. I’m 53 years old, but I don’t show my age. She, Mira, is 7 years younger than me. Her husband died 3 years earlier. Mira worked for a small priva...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs this normal? Should I stay in this relationship?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jun 26 2021 at 23:07 by Julia22 RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Jun 27 2021 at 10:45

I am with my partner 3 and had years. We live together 2 years and he has a 7 y old girl from another relationship. She is a sweet girl. The problem is him… since we’re together I can’t really remember when did he invited me somewhere for a date, night, weekend. There has been some holidays but mostly I had organised it and paid for it, first was on his birthday second one as well and third ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMet a guy 2 months ago and Feeling awful because of his ex?
[1 POST] CREATED: Jun 26 2021 at 15:47 by Daisyswob RESPONDENTS: cherry-picking LAST POST: Jun 26 2021 at 19:32

It’s a long story but I’ll make it short. I messaged a Turkish barber 9 weeks ago asking if he is single. He replied back saying yes and told me how beautiful I am etc. He worked down the road from me and I his customer because I take my nephew there for a haircut. The next evening we met for a coffee. And I know this is rushed but since that day, I have spend EVERY SINGLE night with him s...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHeartbreak again CREATED: Jun 25 2021 at 13:27 by Jbug LAST POST: Jun 25 2021 at 14:18

I recently got back in contact with the father of my child. We maintain contact because of our daughter But for the past month we have been really close. Hé says he wants us to be closer and explore our options. But given the fact that I was heartbroken for years after we broke up I am afraid that this is a setup and I don’t want to get hurt again. Yes I still love him! Should I go with the fl...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categorySo very confused CREATED: Jun 24 2021 at 19:11 by Misunderstood ange LAST POST: Jun 25 2021 at 04:31

I have been freinds with a guy for 5 yrs we txt often almost every day the chat between us is always civil now and again he will flirt in txt with me .. we normally meet every few weeks for a coffee and I have slept with him only once ...I'm so confused on our coffee dates he has passionately kissed me and I am tryingbto work out what this means if anything I don't know if he wants to en...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs this acceptable in a relationship?
[1 POST] CREATED: Jun 24 2021 at 09:38 by Sisu180 RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Jun 25 2021 at 00:35

So a man comes into your shop that works next door, you see him most days because obviously you work next door to each other. So you are civil with each other and say hi etc. So he comes into your shop and says that after his tattoo has healed he wants to go on a sunbed, and doesn't know which cream is best so you just recommend the most popular one. Then the following day you end up research...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs my marriage over?
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Jun 23 2021 at 20:11 by anon1223456 RESPONDENTS: Julia22 LAST POST: Jun 30 2021 at 19:54

For the first time in our 15 year relationship, today I felt no connection with my wife during sex. I already felt a disconnect in the relationship but to feel nothing during sex really hit me for six. I feel like this is the end. Anyone with experience of this, any advice? ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI think I may have created a toxic environment in my relationship
[1 POST] CREATED: Jun 23 2021 at 06:06 by catfriendly RESPONDENTS: Clark16 LAST POST: Jun 23 2021 at 11:43

I (20F) feel that I've created a toxic relationship with my boyfriend (22M) of almost 2 years. I will be honest that now that I look back at everything it was certainly set up to be toxic and SUPER codependent. I'll start with the beginning and then jump to present day. I met him at work and hit it off pretty well, we had similar interests and seemed really compatible so we went on a han...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs he confusing me or himself confused? CREATED: Jun 22 2021 at 20:05 by Nishtha LAST POST: Jun 28 2021 at 12:17

I am a girl. I am in a dilemma where I don't know whether to move on or keep continue talking to a guy who proposed me for marriage first but a few days before when he revealed in his family that he is seeing a girl (me), his family wasn't so welcoming. I never wanted to marry at first place, then at my private company, I met him, hehe by then had cleared govt. Exam and was doing a part ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI cheat on my husband
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jun 22 2021 at 19:03 by dessert_roes RESPONDENTS: GGN LAST POST: Jun 24 2021 at 14:23

Hello, I am 28 year old wife, my husband is 33. We've been married for 5 years. We've been dating 2 years before that. However, 2 years ago I started cheating on my husband with a younger man. He was 21 back then. It started as if I was hypnotized. I didn't know how things got so deep, so quickly. I met this guy on my yoga classes. Soon after that we started walking home toge...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryConfusing behavior
[1 POST] CREATED: Jun 22 2021 at 12:04 by Clark16 RESPONDENTS: 8Twenty8 LAST POST: Jun 24 2021 at 02:01

My wife and I have been married for close to 20 years and have had a good relationship all around. A few weeks ago my wife went away for a girls weekend with some friends and got drunk at the bar where they were staying. She ended up exposing her breasts (bra only) to a few men that they were with at the bar that night as she told me about the encounter once she returned from her trip . Nothing...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryConfused ex says he loves me
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jun 19 2021 at 23:21 by Nice Cuppa RESPONDENTS: Marta LAST POST: Jun 21 2021 at 23:26

Broke up with my partner of 17 months due to him not compromising re moving in together location wise was his issue . I’m in late 30’s & felt going forward if he can’t compromise where is this going? Met up with him for chat a month ago both of us said we still love each other & I said if he wants me in his future he has show me commitment- i.e find a decent rental house for us to ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy bf has an Inappropriate relationship with a girl half his age!!
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jun 18 2021 at 11:25 by Nichole878954 RESPONDENTS: Hummingbird / Marta LAST POST: Jun 20 2021 at 22:54

My bf has a inappropriate relationship she is 20 he is 43 she is his friends daughter has known her most her life they lived down the rd.. they never talked while we have been together til she moved in down the street renting her moms house... he makes comments about her like she’s hot he wants to fuck her got upset when I didn’t think she was hot then I find out at 16 her asked to see her nip...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI’m conflicted… should I risk it? CREATED: Jun 18 2021 at 07:13 by Beetle LAST POST: Jun 28 2021 at 19:23

So… there’s this person whom I’ve known for a long time. We were close friends since elementary school and always got along and stuff. They’re sweet, and caring, and we make each other laugh. Things sort of changed in high school, when they told me that they had a crush on me. At the time, I wasn’t ready to be in a relationship, (you know, being young and dumb) and I turned them down as ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryGoing crazy
[1 POST] CREATED: Jun 17 2021 at 13:24 by swimmingabroad RESPONDENTS: Marta LAST POST: Jun 20 2021 at 23:00

Dear All, I have got into a mess and can't get out of it I need some advice please. Basically I have ended up in an online relationship with someone who is 15 years younger than me , I am married with kids , in an unhappy marriage and live a very stressful life for various reasons. I think it was a form of escape to start chatting to people online and find friendship I was not looking for any...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhy is he doing this?
[1 POST] CREATED: Jun 16 2021 at 10:20 by IamSanna RESPONDENTS: Marta LAST POST: Jun 20 2021 at 23:04

There is one guy, having two kids, same as me. We r friends now for some time, since he got divorced and his ex has new bf and kid. When his kids r staying with him we always play together with my and his kids. I confess my feelings to him andhe said he doesnt feel the same. It was a year ago. I stopped talking to him for a week, then he contacted me again and we talk normal since then. Last c...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum category35M girl asked my contact but gave up when she knew the age gap CREATED: Jun 15 2021 at 02:51 by Pnfsvjxokd LAST POST: Jun 27 2021 at 16:23

I was in a zoom meeting and a friend of a friend asked my contact from her. When this common friend told me about her, she said that this girl "liked me." I added her and we talked for 2 days. But one of the first things she asked me was my age. I told her I'm 35 and she told me she is 21. I found her really pretty. But the next day she opened the game that she couldn't see ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI'm worried and scared I might never find a boyfriend?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jun 7 2021 at 02:38 by TheColorPink RESPONDENTS: Aka / alloutthere LAST POST: Jul 10 2021 at 05:02

Because people might might think I'm really ugly as possible....

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDrunkenly kissed someone - do I tell my boyfriend?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jun 6 2021 at 01:34 by TricksAreForKids RESPONDENTS: Clark16 LAST POST: Jun 22 2021 at 21:03

I have been in a relationship for 6 years and I love my boyfriend dearly. Last night I went out and got really drunk (not an excuse) and ended up kissing another guy for less than 2 seconds. It meant nothing and I immediately regretted it. If anything this completely solidified the fact that my boyfriend is the person I want to be with for the rest of my life. Do I tell him? I know that you should...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryPhysical relationship and emotional effects CREATED: Jun 2 2021 at 17:01 by Dharshini LAST POST: Jun 12 2021 at 13:00

Hi.. I am 26Female. I lost my dad when i was 19. I planned to study CA. I fell in love with a guy(X) different caste, during my 21 and i did not study or be happy with him or with my life. I know it was toxic but i was scared that i will lose him. Because I don’t have anybody else. I was very impatient, over possessive on him. I tried a lot to come out of that relationship but couldn’t. When i...