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Hello all, I would like some advice on how to go about dealing with and getting my power back as a result of having sex/relations with an older male when I was younger. (Being Taken advantage of) The story goes, when I was 16 I had the typical emotional problems that comes with being a teenager, I realized quickly I loved to drink to mask my problems from lack of affection from my father. I con...

Ive been in this marriage with my husband of 3 years. All was good in fact most days are good. But it's been months since our last time being intimate (I blame us for working 24/7) but it's because of this too I'm beginning to become less attracted to him sexually as a husband. He often assures me that he is still attracted to me but the hecticness & tiring life led us both t...

A friend of mine who I had always loved moved away to a different continent well over a decade ago. She got married had children and the only contact I had with her was through facebook. Her marriage broke down she ended up back in the UK. But she lives a long way away. But she got in touch and we started speaking a lot over a year and a lot of a lot in the final 4 months of lockdown. She was...

Hi everyone, Me and my husband met each other in 2015 and fell in love with . Met after a year and got married the next year. We both live in different countries and now we are finally together things are not working out. His parents were giving me hard time and I kept telling him. And now when he saw it himself he didn’t say a word. He didn’t support me at all. He even swore at me in front...

Hi, so I know what most are going to say "you don't deserve either" With that being said, I've been casually dating two guys the past few months and I've gotten to the point where I need to pick one or none. I know I can't keep stringing them both along. Let me start off by saying I am a 32 year old female. With that being said guy #1 is 8 years older than me...

Hi everyone, So I need advice… I have been in a on and off again relationship for the past two years. We have had our fair share of shit and always managed to work things out but we had a fight last night and now I’m questioning my own sanity and whether or not I am these things he said; Abusive Manipulative Narcissistic Crazy Bipolar Split personalty Victim mentality To...

My boyfriend has changed alot over the last few months - lots of new clothes, different shoes, very good mood all the time. We live apart but see each other on weekends, although in recent months he spends less time with me on those weekends. He sells alot of collectibles etc on Ebay and after viewing something on there he was talking about I checked his feedback as a buyer ( being nosey I s...

I’m curious to know if I have reacted far too sensitively. My colleague, who I work with every day, we have developed a close friendship over the last few years. He recently said he doesn’t message much outside of work anymore because his connection with me is always at work , therefore us messaging is like hearing from work. I thought and apparently meant more than that. He’s always said ...

I started out in this relationship for the wrong reasons, we were expecting a child. Then when everything in me told me not to stay, I staid, & to make it worse I married her out of guilt and a sense of responsibility. We were married even though I knew I wasn’t happy I couldn’t bring myself to leave that child & to have her grow up in a broken home from the start, or at least that...

I first wanted to start off with by saying that I have just turned 37 years old and it is starting to bother me that in my entire life I have had no friends. I was an introvert with social anxiety throughout schooling and college, so I kept to myself and never socialized with anyone and have always lived with my parents. My parents drilled in me that friends only cause trouble and they would never...

I, F(21) was dating this M(30), but he broke things off with me because he said he thought the age difference would cause problems in the future. We are currently fwb. I spent the night at his place Saturday and he dropped me off at home the following morning. As we were in the car he told me this “funny story” about a girl approaching him and telling him he was exactly the guy she was lo...

My wife has been chatting for about a year I think. She is 55 and although fairly prim and proper in public has a naughtyish side when she gets to know people. Chat rooms appear to have allowed her darker side full reign. I found her half dressed and with one of her toys on the desk with a much younger man on screen who was naked from the waist up. I said nothing and left the room only to hear he...

My wife of ten years has been battling depression for the last seven years or so and been taking meds and seeking medical advice for the last two and half  years. Recently, it has been exacerbated by work and she is really find it tough. She woke the other day and sobbed because she'd 'woken up'. I'm trying so hard to help her get better but I'm afraid it's starting ...

I like this person for more than 5 years already. We used to talk but suddenly we just acted like we didn't know each other. We would exchange glances or smile and that's it. For messages, we only message each other during birthdays and yes that's every year. We don't miss any birthdays. I sometimes think he's showing me mixed signals or motives that makes me think he like...

A decade ago my partner & I started writing a novella containing several characters. It was to be something we do together. Was supposed to be our very own entertainment, creation, fun & a secret pastime at home just for us. Over the years it has grown to quite the obsession. We role play into characters! However, the two main characters (Lovers Mirra & Pete with kids never married...

So, there is this common friend group that I have. I have met most people from it but due to the pandemic, we mostly meet in online video calls. The number of people on the call varies depending on everyone's schedule. There is this one girl in the group that was my senior and over the past few months, I started talking to her. We started talking about casual stuff like shows, work etc. but o...

Hello, I am reaching out here because my girlfriend is struggling with suicidal depression and I need advice on how to proceed in our relationship. Some background: this is my first relationship, we met in college, and have been together for five years. I found out early on that she suffers from this condition and it has continually persisted. Her depression comes in periodic waves. There ar...

This is my first time on here. I don't have anyone I can talk to about my husband. I find myself in a situation that I'm too ashamed to even confide in those I love and I just need some fresh eyes. My husband is cheating again. We've been together about 15 years and from day one he's had secret relationships with other women. How many of them he's actually slept with I do...

1st time here and discussing my issues because i just can't take it anymore. I am a 51 year old male. I am a 20+ year law enforcement officer, married with 2 children. My kids are doing great. I come from an educated middle-upper class family and live in a very nice neighborhood/home along with my 82 yr old mother. I love to golf, jog, fish, ride my bicycle, and watch baseball. My other i...

There's a girl who constantly stares at me all the time and when I look back she pretends like she was never looking. At first, it was kind of weird, and I started paying more attention to her. She turned out to be really nice, and I think I might in fact like her. She's not exceptionally pretty, but her personality and passions stand out. We share a common interest, but I don't...

Hello! Sorry if this is kind of long... I suffer from pretty bad anxiety, and recently a lot of it has been about me thinking of myself as a terrible person. Especially when I was younger, I feel like I was just really self-centred and only thought about myself. But the main thing that's really been bothering me is how I treated one person in particular when we were around 10-11. Basic...

Hi! I would really appreciate some advice on a situation I am facing at the moment regarding realtionships. I've always been a very mature person for my age, and that's why I've only pretty much been surrounded by friends older than me, cause they would match my level of maturity (if that makes sense). That being said, I met a boy 6 years older than me a few months ago. And I�...

Several years ago I started dating a woman with 3 children. We both had good paying jobs for great companies. Her ex basically provides child support and nothing else. 3 years ago she abruptly quit her job and asked if she could stay home for a year to which I told her we should be able to make it. Several disasters around the house occurred and she went into a spiral. We took care of that and tho...

I am looking for help in deciding on whether or not I should end my relationship. I have been dating a woman with 3 children for the last 4 years. When I met her things were great. I have a good job and she has a good job. Her ex husband is quite wealthy and does very little to help the children other than provide child support. 3 years ago she quit her job abruptly and asked if f she could take a...

My issue is I fell head over heels in love w somebody that didn’t love me.i gambled everything and it was and continues to be a loss.I spent 8 yrs trying to make it make sense.how can I feel so deeply for someone who never returned the love.I’ve been busy trying to rebuild but he’s on my lease in the apt he can’t pay for .I would be so happy to hear some advice.if you have stopped by to ag...

Hi everyone hope u all doing well... I am one to over analyze a lot and by nature pretty suspicious...Of late my girlfriend which I've been dating for almost a year now keeps asking me when she is gonna see me again..this never used to be the case so I don't know what to think if she wants to know exactly when I'm coming as we live 20 min drive away from each other which is not bad...

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 6 months, and he’s lovely. He’s everything I’ve ever dreamed of and more. We have beautiful times together and both feel it’s meant to be. He makes me feel like a princess, does really sweet things for me, makes me feel protected and loved and cared for. He makes me really happy and the last thing I want is to lose him. Unfortunately though, there are some...

—->TLDR: I lost myself due to mental health issues last year and selfishly took it out on those who meant the most to me. Completely ended our friendships. It’s been a year and I am still overwhelmed with guilt and regret, now that i have a better grasp on my mental health. Should i reach out simply to apologize? And if they’re willing should i try to rebuild that bond (even tho i know it...

I got married when I was 19years and my hubby was always good to me.He loved me so much that he promised not to ever cheat on me.when I was 3 months pregnant he lost his job and we decided to relocate in his upcountry. He opened his own pub and a butchery .He decided to employ a gal to work in the pub.He started coming home late and sometimes he would mot even pick my calls.By that time I was 8mo...

I’m going to start off by saying: I love this friend a lot, he means so much to me and I do not want to break off our friendship. What I am looking for here is an outsider’s perspective on our relationship, so I can correctly judge whether or not I should talk to him about it. Also, please let me know if i seem to be the one at fault here, so I can be a better friend to him. For the sake of...

I have two very good friends who have decided to end their marriage. I care about them both and they both know this. I enjoy their company but am finding it tricky living in the middle of their break up. I don't want to lose either of them from my life but recently found out the male is seeing another woman so soon after the break up and made the difficult decision to tell the female who ...

Just had another family gathering today. For my birthday. I turn 39 in a couple days. Amazingly, the shortest yet. I think we (wife and I) were only there 5 minutes. **A little history, to understand the dynamic. I'll keep it short. When I was young, my father had an affair. Causing my mother to go on a tyrannical warpath for years. Hated all men, and constantly punished all males for...

1.Solve problems without involving a third party No need to run for advice to parents, friends or anonymous people on the forum. You always know better what is happening in a relationship, since it is you who know all the circumstances of the conflict. Suppose you nevertheless turned to your mother for support and she agreed that your partner is wrong and generally a bad person. Only you and t...

So my ex (i guess)- and I were together from when I was 18 years old up until a few days before my 31st birthday. He dumped me. Yet still lives here with our kids and me. The oldest kid is only freshly 11 so it's not as if I'm fully against this living arrangement bc I would never forgive him if he went ghost on his kids, one of which didn't make it past her birth so she's in ...

So as the title suggests, my (M20) brother (M23) has been in a toxic relationship with his girlfriend (F21) for over 5 years now and they now want to move in together. I will start explaining the whole story from the beginning here. It's a lot to unpack, so my apologies for the (very) long read. 5 and a half years ago my brother came home with his girlfriend. She seemed nice, had some frie...

I need advice, as someone who isn't very good with words and also hates any form of confrontation, I need help in how to tell my partner something I know would 100% offend me if someone said it. Just to make it clear, my partners grandparents are absolutely incredible and I love them to bits, he classes them as his parents as his mother was not a nice lady and they took her to court to ge...

Hey, I'm just going to introduce myself first: I'm 16, female, I think I'm bi and am currently in the middle of a relationship crisis. So, a few months ago, I was desperate for a relationship, my mental health was really not great (thankfully it is now) so I decided to ask this girl who I know out. I didn't even have feelings for her and we had been friends for years. As soo...

This is going to be a really long post but I would appreciate if people would read it as I need a bit of advice and I do not know who to turn to about any of this because I feel embarrassed and stupid. I am finding it hard to trust my boyfriend and I don't know if I am the problem or if he is. Multiple times throughout our relationship we have had arguments about him texting his ex girlfr...

She’s very flirty in a joke way. We got on well from the moment we met and she’s been flirting with me non stop. Like, really. Pulling situations out of context, talking about how we got married today, and every one of our conversations has a sexual innuendo somewhere in there. But she’s like that with literally everyone. Her friends, my friends, our mutual friends. Everyone thinks she...

Hi everyone, apologies in advance as this is going to be a long one. Please stick with me I know parts of this are going to sound weird so I would really appreciate no judgement. So I am 29, I will have been married for 4 years this year, together for 9. We have a 1 year old child and a house that is bought in my husbands name. My husband is a kind, very hardworking man, who I know loves me ...

I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, in that time he has suffered a lot with his mental health (he has a diagnosis, takes meds and does therapy) The main issue is every few months he has such a low period that he doesn’t go to work. This has resulted in him losing jobs, having to do temporary work and once was a factor in a suicide attempt. I love him and want to support him but I am wor...

Going to make this as short as possible, so hopefully someone can give me insight. You can skip to the last paragraph for the minimum for the question. I have extreme anxiety and depression. I know my issues can only be fixed by putting in the work on myself. My question is how can I do this and still keep my boyfriend happy? A little background.I've put myself last and put his wants and n...

I have a friend who i’ve been friends with for nearly 2 years. We know each other in real life and play games with each other. We fell out last year as they were in a weird place mentally, and they would constantly trauma dump their problems onto me, and it seemed like they were trying to turn my friends against me by telling them i said i didn’t like my friends etc. But we became friends arou...

Hi Guys, So, I have a best friend whom I absolutely love. She has her positives and negatives. Let's call her Betty for the sake of this post. The issues started when I got to know that Betty cheated on each of her boyfriend. She would literally sleep with her ex while she went out with the new bf. It was just horrible to see what she did. I never said anything. Helped her in th...

I have this friend that I'm pretty sure sees me as just a friend, but I like her a lot romantically. I kind of half-confessed to her and I think she either thought it was pathetic or maybe thought it was a joke. As i was walking away I looked back and she was laughing at the note I had given her. We do joke-flirt a lot but I thought this was obviously something more serious. Now it's the...

When I was a teen, my dad used to hit me, and my mom believed I was not a good child. After years, I still can't forgive them, but I also feel guilty for that. I was always labelled as the worst child ever. The only good thing about me was my intelligence.My mom and sister told me every day that No one would ever like me because I'm just too strange. It still makes me cry thinking about ...

I don't think I've told this to anyone, not really used to wearing my heart on my sleeve, but getting it off my chest could maybe ease the pain and confusion a little... I know what I'm gonna say might cause anger in some.(You'll understand why as you read on) When I was 17 (I'm 24 now) I met a girl that would become my first actual serious girlfriend. We were both fin...

sucks to admit but ive found myself in yet another abusive relationshp..lately hes just been choking me really tightly & trying to put me to bed , thank god i havent passed out but i guess in a way you can say its my fault.. ive been doing dumb things & i know i need to run, its just im pregnant & i dont wanna do it alone .. you dont have to tell me to leave , trust me .. i will i just...

Anyway, I have a friend who is flaky and it's hit the point where I am just DONE with it. The last (of many) incidents came when he said he wanted to hang out over the weekend...then even after me texting multiple times about it, just ignored me. Then he completely "forgot" that we were going to the ballet together (I found another friend to go, luckily, so the tickets weren'...

I met my partner a year ago and was very explicit regarding what I want from a relationship/life. I want a true partnership, a family and monogamy is the only option for me, my mental health and self esteem couldn’t cope with anything else. He freely agreed to this and said all the right things, sick of the single life, wants a family etc. He had poly relationships in the past but said he didn�...

Married for 20 years and reasambly happy or so I thought as last 3 years my husband hardly shows any affection and last time we had sex was 3 years ago.i have asked him why and he just says I could live without it but it's really starting to affect me I feel like I'm in a loveless marriage. Am I been selfish? He has never flirted around women or anything which i have always found quite o...

I looked up an ex on Facebook after 13 years of breakup back in mid November and sent an email. She contacted me within 90 minutes and we real timed emailed back and forth for about 30 minutes catching up etc. By the end of November, we had emailed 2 more times, but not in real time. At the end of November, I emailed if she would like to talk on the phone instead and she emailed back to give he...

A good friend of mine in the UK has a bf of 18 months who can be very affectionate and loving, but when angry he tells her to shut up, grow up, F off, stop being a c**t. He won’t apologise for talking that way. He will give her the silent treatment too. I’ve tried to tell her it’s verbal abuse but she stays with him and accepts the treatment. I’d like to show her opinions from others that ...

I am a single mum since 2014. Have two children age 19 and 12. I’ve only had one relationship in this time since my marriage broke down which I recently ended. I really was smitten with him despite 19 year age gap. But there were problems from the start. My daughter (11) hated me dating as it was so foreign to her. My son wasn’t too happy either. My daughter was acting out a lot. The guy I was...

Hello, first of all English is not my first language so I’m sorry if I make mistakes. So I’m 20 yo, 3rd year of college and I’ve never dated before. Not only dated but even got into a close romantic relationship, never had a kiss before and never flirted… A lot of my friends with the same age already got into a relationship or even date at the moment, and that makes me feel kinda left ...

My wife and I have been married for over 7 years and have small children together. Since having kids, we've had lots of marital issues and stress. During a very rocky stretch a couple months ago during which she said she wanted a divorce, I learned from a recorded conversation that she was cheating last winter. It sounded like she cheated just for sex and broke it off when the guy stated he w...

Me and my boyfriend have been exclusively dating for about a month. We met on a dating app where we had both being dating around prior to each to meeting each other. I am absolutely crazy about him and have been invested in him since we went on our first date, there was an instant connection from the beginning. I was on two different dating apps before we met, and I deleted them both (or so I ...

OK. I have been in love with a certain celebrity (much older than I am) since I was 8 years old. I kind of met him recently, and we began cyber-flirting. It was a dream come true. But, then he became mean and dumped me and said that it would never work. I cry every day now. I grieve not only for the loss of him, but because I have wasted all my my life loving a man who doesn't want me and...

I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year, and I still haven’t met his friends or family (other than his flatmate). He’s met both mine and it makes me feel sad and excluded from a large part of his life. I told him a few months ago how it makes me feel and he promised I’d meet them soon, but so far nothing. His parents and the mother of his child don’t even know I exist. I appreciate h...

I've been with my partner for nearly 20 years. However a few years back curiosity got the better of me and I had sex with another man. Ultimately I decided that this wasn't what I was looking for and have not done it since. However it seems the past has come back to haunt me as I have tested positive chlamydia. I know that I must tell my partner about it. Of course I'm scared of the...

So I know I may get some hate for this but just to be clear I DID NOT KNOW HE WAS WITH HIS WIFE WHEN I MET HIM. for reference, I am a 26yo female and the man in question is 33. We met online in March 2021 and started seeing each other in person in early April. I am in a happy and committed open relationship with someone, and the person in question (who I will call Max from now on) and my par...

I (36M) have known this girl (31F) for over 6 years. We were roommates at first, had not met before. We hit off pretty quickly and became intimate at some point, about a few months after I moved in. We would grab a bite to eat or go to the movies, I really liked her but only as a friend, and sex was great so we kept that going for a few months. She then confessed she had feelings for me so I w...

Hi Guys I am trying to get my mind in gear would welcome honest advice and not judging me on what I say. I have started a New Job,in this pandemic World there are social policy's in place IE face mask to be worn at all time. staggered lunches most eat lunch in our cars. I have become friendly with a women in work,she is seeing someone,I am also living with someone. Attraction has grown...

Hey everyone! So I have some problems with me and my "gf" relationship. I really like this girl and she likes me (We both admitted to each other over snap), once I asked her if she sees me as her bf and she asked if I saw her as my gf and I said yes and I quote she said "Oh, then I see you as my bf". She's a very open and friendly girl and has a lot of friends. However one...

Hello. I'm 22 years old girl, living in a ordinary-modern society. 2 years ago I met my boyfriend. This is my first romantic relationship. We like each other very much. But when my parents met him, they didn't like him. They think he's weird and not for me. My family isn't best in the world. My parents were always overprotective. In the house, it was never quiet, al...

I apologize if this is quite long but I was rather confused about the state of my relationship. I met a guy off of an app 3 months ago who’s pretty much my gender bend. I was looking for friendship as to where he was looking for friendships and romance. We had started talking on the phone and were completely obsessed with each other. We would spend nights and mornings on the phone and FaceTi...

Hey everyone and thanks for reading. Hopefully this won’t be too long… Was seeing this guy for 7 months… gave me a ring after 1 month of dating… gave me $10,000 to pay off my car, planning a house to build with me. He bought a truck and camper and it was placed in my name. We went on plenty of trips , but then we break up 2 months ago. I start to miss him so I reach out to him to talk...

I'm early 60s and in a new couple month old relationship. My significant other has 2 children late 30s who are married and on their own. I have been told and shown that they will always come first. I dont need to always be first, but I would like to feel like I am not always 3rd place. Everything else about the relationship is good. Should I move on or wait it out hoping for it to get bette...

So my now ex girlfriend split up with me over a month ago, now I don’t know if this is because my previous relationships have been pushed and I’ve ended up disliking my other exes before her but I’m really confused as to how I’m feeling on it all. Basically the reasons she gave to me where our arguments that got quite bad over the last month or so- but I had believed it was just a phas...

I have an ex-coworker who wants to have a picnic with me in the park. She has chosen to not receive the Covid-19 vaccine. I don't feel safe being around her because of this. How can I decline the picnic invitation without offending her? ...

While I have dated divorced men in the last several years, I have never had the issues I'm having with my current partner. We've been seeing each other for about 4 months and while he seems very interested in me and makes efforts to see me regularly, I feel like he has one foot in his prior marriage. He has been divorced for 3 years after a 34 year marriage and has told me his ex asked...

When my ex ended things she wanted to remain friends but I choose not to.. she seemed a little taken back by this and an argument broke out lasting on and off for a week.. it ended up in her blocking my mobile number.. I felt a little bad knowing I had upset her threw things I had said during the argument and wanted to apologise.. I used Facebook to contact her and apologise, she thanked me...

Going to start again. I am in a relationship that I am planning to leave. I am in love with one of my partners friends. We have flirted for a year, even snuck in a couple of kisses. Eventually we had intense and fantastic sex, but now he has gone away for 5 weeks and won’t talk to me. I don’t know whether he is wanting to finish it? Whether I imagined we were both in the same space? Whether I ...

I was great frends with a guy who is married with kids and last summer it got a bit more where he started sending videos and photos and I started sending them back then as well. We were enjoying the flirting and he’d ring me a few times a day and we’d be constantly texting until early hrs of morning. At first we had no intentions of having sex but then started discussing it and I where it co...

I really want to move on. I have no idea what I can do to move on from this relationship in which I wasn't even loved. After breaking no contact we argued again i thought he wouldn't reply anymore so I typed in a last goodbye. He didn't reply and i lost all hope. Next day he sent a good bye message as well and he told me he only loved the idea of me. And at the end of the day he d...

There's this friend that I've known for a long time now and we'd hang out and message each other from time to time. We even went out once years ago but it didn't amount to anything. Recently, we reconnected and we had good conversations, fun and we'd message every day. One day, I decided to flirt a bit more obviously and "shoot my shot" and while he responded tha...

My ex Boyfriend ended things months ago. He has fought for us to be friends, even when I have wanted to run away. he would always txt me, every day. For the past 2 weeks he has suddenly become distant and cold. he still messages me, just not daily, and when he does its short conversations or yes, no answers. He will not tell me where I stand, and he knows I still have feelings for him. I'm co...

so basically been with someone for 5 months now, but there’s this 1 girl i met for one weekend a while back an i just can’t stop thinking about her and what she’s up too n etc, in very happy w my girl and i know she’s good for me. i just don’t know why i keep thinking about this certain one :/...

Hi. I'm a boy 23, I have a friend that we are so close to each other. since last year I had some feelings for her. I feel comfortable around her, she is cute and has a great personality. last year I asked her if we could be in a relationship or not and she told me that she don't want to talk about it. At that time we weren't close like today and she was broke up with her last rela...

Men don't ask me out or approach me....

Hi, I'm 16/F. I'm afraid I have to begin this post with a confession. Back during summer break, I was responsible for a car accident that severely injured two people in the other vehicle involved. I was lucky enough to walk away with some bruises, but they had to be taken to the hospital in an ambulance. The accident was a result of the fact that I'd been texting while driving and a...

There's this girl I like and she likes me too but I'm Unable to talk to her because I'm scared she might not want me to talk to her so I need help please...

My husband has decided that since last week, he doesn't want to go to my parents for xmas dinner. He said that myself and the kids can go without him. He has decided that he doesn't want to be around my family anymore. He thinks they don't like him which is completely untrue. The problem is that my parents and siblings are all looking forward to us all being together at xmas as ...

My husband and I have had the same issue for years. I have always felt like his family mistreated me. His mom would say we would t last, that I wasn’t enough for him, and that I was going to take advantage of him. This treatment has stopped since I gave birth to my first son, because my husband is afraid I will leave him and take his son away. IHe grew up without his dad so his relationships wit...

So before I get into great detail I am struggling with the end of a 4 year relationship and it's going on 10 months. I know time and no contact are big helpers but the no contact is almost impossible because we work very closely together. Any advice you have would be greatly appreciated or if you'd like more information I'm happy to supply it. Thank you!...

Im growing increasing frustrated with myself when it comes to relationships. I havent had many relationships and feel like I suck or settling for the wrong men. My first relationship was at the age of 23 met my sons dad and fell head over heels for him. Only for us not workout, we both had a play in this. But I remember not being happy or appreciated in this union. I decided to date opposite of hi...

I'm really missing her even though she manipulated me and broke my heart, I seem to miss her more as the days go on. We were firstly in a relationship about 6 years ago, we were together for around 8 months and things were going well until I found out she was engaged. One of my friends found out and when I confronted her she denied it but I found out it was true after seeing him on her socia...

I've been thinking about divorce a lot recently. I love my husband. We've been married for almost 9 years, together for 13, and friends for nearly 20. I'm 33 and he's 39. He's gorgeous, funny, and intelligent. We have an amazing daughter and he loves her unconditionally. The problem is he's changed. He's become lazy, but I think that's likely just a symp...

I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year, and we’ve been living together for 4 months. tonight I got to bed when he was already asleep and put my head on his shoulder. He god mad at me for waking him up and was rude to me. This isn’t the first time this happens. Recently he got mad at me when I adjusted our blanket at night because that also woke him up. I feel like I always have to be sc...

So since becoming single I’ve been dating a few women but one in particular i just have that connection with. We have such a buzz . Same sense of humour, banter , morals, outlook , and have the same huge sex drive. But thing is I’m 36 and she’s 58. Now I don’t care , my mates think I’m mad as I could quite easily date a younger girl but I’m not that shallow and her friends think she’...

I need an honest opinion from the outside. So my husband is a funny guy. Very quick witted. That's one of the things I love about him. But, sometimes he makes jokes that seem to be at my expense. Then when I tell him he hurt my feelings, he says he would never purposely hurt my feelings and is just trying to be funny. Tell me what you think...so we are on the phone with his brother to w...

As I type this, my mum just asked “who’s that?”, I asked “who’s what?”, she replied “who are you typing to?”… I’m 22. I work abroad for around 6 months of the year on super yachts, I’m an only child and my parents are divorced however my mum has had a partner for the past 15 years. To say the least, she is obsessive, highly sensitive and controlling. She will say “I don’t...

I am 28 and my child is 2. I've started dating someone (I'll call him "Joe".) Joe has spent a bit of time with my child and myself, but he has spent no time at all with my child and my mother at the same time. Recently, my mother babysat for free so I could go on a bike ride with Joe. When he and I got back, my mother was sitting in her parked car with my child while my chil...

So, my gf broke up with me about two months ago. For the first two weeks I begged and pleaded, and to no avail, nothing good happened. I stopped imitating contact, and the next week she came over for a “late night” saying that that’s all that it was and to think nothing more. So I went no contact. 3 weeks after no contact, she asked me on two separate occasions if I was dating someone new...

I've been working for a small company in an office building for the last two months. Soon after I began, I became friendly with a woman who works for a different company in the same building. It started out as friendly workplace banter, small talk kinds of things whenever we would run into each other around the building. For the last two weeks or so, I've noticed that her interactions...

Hi all, Maybe you all think I am crazy, too oldfashioned, too intolerant, but let me explain what my "problem" is. I am currently in a relationship with a woman that I really love. Due to Covid and other personal reasons in our lives, as of now we cannot live together - we come from cities about 100 kilometers apart - so it is basically a long distance relationship. As of now th...

I am on the mind set of breaking up with my boyfriend of 2yrs but I'm struggling to come up with the idea of how to do it. The many factors are because 1. we live together 2. i don't hate him in fact i love him very much 3.Due to health issues, he has been relying on me, which is not a problem for me at all. I don't wish him any harm. I just simply lost all trust in him over th...

When I went back to work after 5 straight days of being off and I said hey to this guy he fidget tell me that he missed me....

Ok I f30 dating a m54 for 3.5 years. He has been finding it more difficult to finish the last three months. Blamed tiredness, age etc. Found out today he’s watching porn 3-5 times a week. I’m not against porn. I’m also a filthy freak in bed, attractive, and willing. Am I being dramatic asking him to reduce it to get some of the intimacy back in our relationship? ...

I broke up with my partner of 16 year's 3 months ago,since then a family member has said she saw my partner chatting up a young girl in our local shopping centre,but she didn't say when this happened just that it was during the time we were together,when I asked the family member for more details she's not admitting she said anything about it,which now makes me look like a liar,my a...

Hi. I am having several issues in my relationship and would just like some insight, maybe advice, and just a place to vent a bit. Sorry for the really long post. So My fiancé and I have been together for 8 years now. We got together young at 19 and had our first child a year later. We now have two children together. Our relationship definitely hasn’t been the easiest and often times has be...

I’ve been married for 14 years. Is it working ? NO NO NO. Why ? Because I failed to “fully” understand how my wife life was between ages 2 yrs old until 19 yes old. My wife was raise by the foster care system. During her first 19 years she did receive the following (as building blocks for a successful life. - was never loved, seen love, felt loved, and no good role model th...

Hi all, this is a long thread so please bear with me. I was in a relationship with a girl about 6 years ago, we were only together for around 4 months and things were going well until I found out she was engaged. One of my friends found out and when I confronted her she denied it but I found out it was true after seeing him on her social media so I deleted her off everything even though she tried ...

Last week I created an entry under the above title. I explained that my wife of 25+ years wad headed to New Orleans for a three day business trip and she had very casually said she wanted a "Hall Pass" while away. Needless to say, I was floored and as the days passed, rather frigidly I might say, my wife realized I was not a happy guy and she became very attentive and over loving. Not...

I am growing increasingly infatuated with my boyfriends best friend (let’s call him Alex) and I don’t know what do! I don’t know if it’s a crush or if I’m just lusting after him, all I know is, it’s becoming way too much. I’m beginning to think about him all the time, especially before bed! I am finding myself spending hours concocting far fetched fantasies about him. My bo...

My boyfriend wants me to hike with him, but when I do, he always brings his dog. The rule of the trail is dogs must be leashed in the parking lot and can be off leash on the trail if they don't touch people or jump on them. His dog is not trained at all, and that is the way he likes his dog to be. He lets his dog touch people and jump on them, which embarrasses me very much. Yesterday...

My wife and I have been married for 25+ years. Two beautiful girls in college. Empty nesters. Our sex life has picked up considerably and we seem to be more in love than ever. My wife is going on a business trip in a week. Three nights in New Orleans.Last night she asked me if I'd consider giving her a Hall Pass for the trip.I am stunned, angry, humiliated, and depressed. What can I say. I ha...

A while ago, I dated this guy. Our relationship was great, everything was fine. Until, you know, he breaks up with me. I couldn't tell you for the life of me why he did, but it happened and it sent me to a dark place. I did slowly get out of the ditch I fell into, but it was a painstaking process. I recently got a girlfriend and we hit it off right away. Our relationship is going better than...

Help I need some advice on my ending relationship:( ...

I have this girlfriend who I’ve been going out with for a few months, she initially made the first move on me and wanted to make it official So I decided to give it a chance. Everything was all fine and good we used to talk on the phone every single day for hours and all of a sudden one day she said we shouldn’t talk on the phone every single day we should limit the amount of times we’re on...

I have been married for 25 years with a man that shows me much affection and tells me he loves me every day. On the other side of the coin he can become a beast when comfronted or asked for an explanation. This is how our arguments always escalate. Behind my back he portrays me as a crazy lunatic. He has 3 sons now 37, 35 and 32. We have one 26 yo daughter together. He has turned his kids against ...

Ok so I have been single since February and I’ve been doing some online dating through tinder since then. I met my ex (together for 3 years) on tinder so I’m hopeful that I will find something new on there. At the end of September, I matched with this guy and we’ve been talking since. We’ve gone on multiple dates and I’ve even stayed over for a night at his place. We have really good...

Hello, I'm in such desperate need of honest input, as the last few months I feel overwhelmed with suspicion and the fear I'm becoming delusional. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years all in all he's a good guy he works hard and is a pretty good provider. However lately something feels really off. He seems very detached as if our relationship is the furthest thing from...

Me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 3 years. We moved in together about 7 months ago. When we first got together she was a smoker. It didn't bother me too much despite never being a smoker myself. Without any influence from me she has made several attempts to quit but failed. Since we have moved in I've found that I'm struggling to deal with the smoking. I know it...

I was in a 4 year relationship with a guy I met online. We both wanted to marry each other but the circumstances didn't work in our favour. Now, I'm married to someone else. But I miss my ex. It's been 2 and half year's of our break up and 2 year's of my marriage. I feel like I rushed the marriage because I wanted to move on. My husband is a kind, gentle man but my...

A friend introduced me to her best friend and he seems to be closer with me. We hang out a lot and now she's often rude to me. She’s always busy, so him and I have been hanging out while she’s away. When she sees us she’s often cold to me or won’t speak to me unless I speak to her. She treats him the same though and tries to isolate me whenever she gets a chance to. I’m not really h...

My husband unexpectedly passed away from a heart attack 2 months ago. We had only been married for 9 months. We had only been together for less than 2 years. Prior to meeting him I had been a single mom if 3 kids for 7 years. One of the first guys I ever dated after my divorce and not dating for 6 years I really fell hard for but the timing was way off. He reached out to me after my husband�...

I have been seeing this guy for 2 months he just got out of a 20-year relationship because he cheated on her throughout their 20-year relationship. He said he changed that he will never cheat on anyone ever again. I believed him at first but it is hard to trust him when he is always making jokes about him being with other girls. He keeps saying we need to split up so that I could work on my jealou...

I have been married 20 years. I recently found out that my husband has secretly been chatting and flirting with women in internet chat rooms. He tells these women how beautiful they are, or how sexy they look. He evan told 1 girl that in his eyes, she was the perfect woman. Things he has never told me, evan before we were married. He has sent photos of himself to these women (fully clothed), and w...

He’s married but left his wife and 7-year-old for faraway job - says he just felt like it, for $/selfishness/ freedom, and his family cried for him to stay but he ignored. He’ll go back whenever vacation time allows, but it’s really far so that’s every few months. I said well something must have been wrong in your marriage, there was some reason you left, and he insists nothing at all. S...

Please I need advice on this matter. I have been in a relationship for 6months, it was wonderful. I got to experience love and I loved back whole heartedly. We talked about a future together. We were both in our finals in school and lockdown got us chatting and falling in love eventually. After final exams,my boyfriend went back home which was still in the same state. I was yet to go home becau...

Okay so the long and short of it is that I deleted my social media so that no one could get a hold of me unless they had my email. I have been having issues with drama in the community I was hanging out with and I just can't handle the stress and bullying because I don't believe everything they think. Also it's filled with three year old drama like picking sides. I hope one day ...

Please bear with me; this is going to be a long one... A bit of context: Hi, my name (for the purpose of this forum) is R. I am 22 years old and am feeling particularly conflicted at the moment. I am wondering if anybody could give me some advice on this situation and I am completely lost. When I was 9 years old, my mother took her own life. There was no one major cause of this; she was a...

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 8, we have. 3 year old son together. Our relationship was fantastic to begin but after the birth of our son I feel it went south, I gained around 80lbs that I have struggled to shed due to PCOS and my poor diet (not gunna lie) and our arguing increased. Around 5 years into our relationship he got a new phone and changed his password so I didn’t know it ...

My ex broke up with me 13 years ago. We drifted apart, and it was amicable. My long time girlfriend/life partner (10 years) passed away a few months ago. We were never ones to be on social media, but I have recently set up an account and saw that my ex has an account. Is it ok to send her a message just as a friend to see how things are going? I have no idea of her relationship status and I am ...

Today is day 5 without my partner by my side. I miss him, but I don't want to hurt anymore, and my 12 year old daughter is so over him. It also hurts because I feel like I'm torturing him. He wants to come home and be with his "family" (He's staying at an hotel right now), but there's so much tension still, everyone thinks it's best for us to just let it go, beca...

I broke up with my ex in may this year, we hadn’t been close in quite a while, I was very unhappy, he was unwilling to work with me to make things better. We were together 13 years. We have 3 children together ages 5, 3 and 9 months. I moved out temporarily to my mums until I can find suitable housing. I started chatting to an old friend whilst I was going through the separation and we have gott...

I am a teenage trans boy with ADHD and I've been falling behind on school. My parents are understandably upset but I think that they are taking it too far. My dad has gotten better with handling me over the past years, but it feels like my mom just doesn't care anymore. Every time I am trying to work on my current homework she gets mad at me for not working on the missing stuff, but when...

Recently I was really depressed due to a few different things. My mum passed away 3 months ago and even thou I never saw her for years it still hit me. I dont trust my husband and have issues in our marriage due to it and we recently returned from a holiday and the depression hit me so hard when I got home because all our holidays were over and there is nothing else to look forward to and because ...

Hey, dwellers of peoplesproblems. Hope you're all doing well. 16M, going on 17. Girlfriend is 16. Recently, I got into an argument with my father. This argument escalated into a more intense than usual situation. As I was driving with him trying to get some final hours in for my driver's test (which was supposed to be today), I did my best to respectfully point out that he was con...

Hi, I am driving myself mad here and need advice. After 20 years my marriage broke down and I've been on my own quiet happily for the last 9 months. I don't do dating websites or anything and although I felt it would be lovely to meet someone I wasn't going to go looking. 3 weeks ago a man messaged me, thinking I was someone else (probably clever line) anyway we got chatting and...

I need some advice for my best friends. They are both early 20's. They have found out that the girl in the relationship is pregnant. She is against abortion. The boy has expressed strongly that he thinks its best for her to have an abortion. He has been depressed since finding out because of not feeling ready and also feeling like having a child now will ruin his life. She is now stuck as to ...

Started seeing someone I’ve know through a friend. After going out to a restaurant a got word from some folks that I he has had a troubled past with money and relationships (taking money from his prior spouses). Also heard from a friend who was out with him and some other folks that he was bragging about his sexual conquests and talking about a woman’s breasts in the same room at the restauran...

so.. I was with someone for four and half years. I split up with her because I thought she would be better off with out me because i was so worried about hurting her. she was the most amazing person and I regret putting through what I did. Its been over a year since we split and all I've done is think about her and wonder how she was getting on. each day has been a fight within my head trying...

My boyfriend of 6 years wants to explore his possible bisexuality. He wants to do this with me. I have no desire to have a threesome as much as he feels this is important to him. Can I get advice and outcome stories from people in or behind similar situations? I don't want any ...

Years ago I fell in love with the perfect girl and she still is my "crush" today. Back then I WAS her crush too,but I was filled with anxiety, fear, insecurities (dont have a good impression i suck at studies+sports, dont have friends and i am ugly af) and i never really had the courage to ask her out or even start a conversation with her . She "moved on" and has had a few ...

Dating a good friend of one of my exes. My ex and I broke up a couple of years ago and he has been with somebody else ever since. However, I recently heard he still has feelings for me but I have no feelings for him whatsoever. The friend I’m dating decided to tell him that we’ve been going out so we didn’t hear from somebody else and leaders to say he was very unhappy. He also told the man ...

I am in a happy relationship and have a small circle of friends and life is overall thriving. A few years ago I was in a long term relationship with my now ex and through our social group met a girl same age as myself. I didn’t really like her at first impression but my partner at the time got on really well with her and they quickly became friends. After a couple of months and seeing her...

Ive been with my now ex boyfriend for a year, we had just celebrated our 1 year anniversary one month ago and both our birthdays 3 weeks ago which we went away for and had the best time ever. A week ago he asked to talk and told me over the last 2 weeks he didnt feel the same anymore and he doesnt know why but he cant lead me on so he wanted to end things. I was completely devastated especiall...

Been together 11 years, married for 5. Two kids together, plus one from him with a dysfunctional baby mama past. Never went on our honeymoon- or any vacation really other than tent camping. He works a lot…. I see him maybe two hours in the evenings before I fall asleep and on Sundays. I miss him all day and feel sad and loneliness, when he comes home I display resentfulness which cause a mou...

I have been with my husband for 4 years (married 2). He is the only person I have ever dated/kissed/had sex with. Recently I've been having feelings for a good friend of mine who I didn't meet until after I started dating my now husband. I don't think this friend has any idea about my feelings for him. I love my husband, I really do, we get along great, he makes me laugh, and...

My fiancé and I have been together for 11 years and our wedding is in 3 months from now. Almost 2 years ago, I got caught by my fiancé in a porn addiction, which led us to seek counseling and work out our relationship. All the counseling has made me learn how emotionally abusive she has been towards me in our years together, which is what led to the porn addiction. Lately, I have been strugg...

My partner and I are both female, in our 50s and live together. We've been in a relationship for about a year and a half. Last Friday night we had plans to go out for the evening and we got into an argument. She took off and wouldn't tell me where she was going or what time she would be home. I was really upset. I texted her a little while later and told her I'm going out and I ...

I’m scared of a phone call with a friend because he might find out I’m unfortunately a girl. So I (girl,16) met this guy (same age) online on a website to find friends and we’ve been texting for months. He always tells me he wants to call me and talk on the phone and that’s a good idea because it’s faster than texting and “really talking” will make the friendship stronger, won’t...

HI, Im 40 years old, lived a very successful life as i have dedicated my like to business so have sacrificed marriage and children for the good life which I have enjoyed every minute. I have always been attracted to the older man, 6 years ago i was in a relationship with a very attractive, very good honest man who was only 15 years my senior, everyone accepted him and it was the first time I sta...

My husband and I found out we lost what would have been our second baby when I was 3 months pregnant last October. It was a really hard time for both of us, a massive shock, and the saddest thing we’ve experienced. I struggled to accept it and spoke to a counsellor/therapist to try and find a way that I could come to terms with had happened, and help me deal with my grief. Nothing helped, and mo...

Last night I had dinner with my husband. There were six tables on an outdoor terrace, each table with a M/F couple. It was very windy and I noticed the wait staff offering several women a shawl towards the end of the evening. I was having a great night when I looked around and noticed that every woman at each of the other five tables was wearing a restaurant-provided shawl except me. At that momen...

I've been with my bf for about a year and a half and even in the beginning, I wasn't feeling too excited about him but I wasn't in a good place and I probably shouldn't have been dating but I was isolated and wanted some human interaction and this was right when the pandemic and the lockdowns hit. I always hoped that maybe I would get to know him better and change how I felt. ...

My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years. Two years ago he cheated on me, left and bane back 5 separate times for the same girl. Pretty quick after the final tube he went to jail for 6 months where he proceeded to tell me I was his everything and his wonderful things would be when he got out etc etc etc... He got out and things have changed some, I have access to all his accounts (at leas...

A few months ago, my wife and I invited a male friend and a female friend to our home for dinner and drink. After dinner, the 2 women were drinking wine and we were drinking beer. An hour later, the male friend offered THC gummies to my wife. She never did drugs but she took 3 gummies and 3 pieces of chocolate (no one else took it) 40mg in total. Another hour later my wife got high and horny. She ...

I could really use some help. Please don't hate instead. Pleae read till the end. I'm 21 and am in a relationship since 16. Everything was fine until 4 years ago when we suddenly realised my boyfriend's parents had run into debt. He was in his freshman year of college and had started looking for ways to earn money, giving up his plans to continue his education abroad. I joined...

Hi im new here and looking for advice or a extra pair of eyes to look in on why im feeling suffocated and feeling resentment towards in laws especially mil. Not married but have been with partner 8 years. We have a happy little life from the start his mother has never left us in peace. She used to turn up uninvited and we owuld be running around trying to tidy things up hiding stuff we didnt wa...

About a year ago my sister and I bought a house together yes we were thinking about fixing it up and selling it and maybe doing another one we are both retired so it’s not a problem for us to spend time doing that. So After we found a house in another state I went down to stay in the house while my sister sold her house and cleared out. She Call one day and told me that she had met someone and t...

My ex broke up with me last week, Iv fine the usual asking if but when how etc.. she’s just saying she didn’t see a future despite being engaged to be married.. Trouble is she keeps telling she loves me, misses me and think I’m wonderful followed by but it’s best we split up.. I think it’s a little cruel she keeps saying those things considering she knows I love her and want her...

My (former) best friend abruptly ended our decades long friendship after I invited her to my wedding. She never congratulated me. I had a feeling something was wrong but I didn’t want to assume so I waited for her response. Weeks later she sent a long message that blindsided me (there was a lot more said that is not on this list): - she was no longer going to talk to me - she couldn’...

I'm a 30 year old woman, and after several bad dating/relationship experiences, I've become thoroughly disillusioned with the idea of finding a decent partner or falling in love again. I would love to fall in love and settle down, but after so many false starts and toxic relationships/dating experience with the wrong people, I fear I won't ever find "that person" to settle...

So I have a friend I’ve known most of my life, but we start messaging and talking around 3 years ago when I split from my ex. This was purely on a friendship basis, as he was in a relationship, however we spoke most days, mainly just random chat. When he split from him ex about a year ago, the flirty banter, sexual innuendos started, just cheeky chat, again nothing serious. Recently that’s cha...

Looks because I don't have a boyfriend? Because I might be rated to be way below a 0 or rated to be a 1. ...

Hi Everyone, My husband and I have been married for 8 years. My husband is a wonderful man I've ever known and I am very thankful of having him as my husband. I really don't know how to start this but, In our early years of marriage, it doesn't matter if I wear sexy lingerie or not. But later in our marriage, this becomes mandatory before making love. He started to buy my s...

I want to preface that both of these people mean the world to me, and I have sat on this problem for months since it happened because I didn't want to act too rashly. Let's set the scene: after 7 months of deployment, my boyfriend finally came home. I was incredibly anxious and excited. Without my knowledge, he was coming home a month earlier than planned, and was planning a surprise ...

I have been with a guy for the past 3 years, and ever since he has always been very laid-back. I didn't mind it since I didn't want a boyfriend who hovered or was hard to get along with. Most of the time he's doing his own thing, gaming, sleeping, working out, etc. and I am drawing or sleeping. We tend to go hours a day without texting eachother, and occassionally can go a day w...

Hi All. I hate being so cliche and it’s also partially why I didn’t own my feelings about this, as well as legitimately love my mom. Long story short — I’ve had an interesting dynamic with my family where I was loved unconditionally, no intentional harm and also have felt disconnected due to being “the emotional one”. What’s “funny” is both my parents are more like me in that...

I want to start with this: I’ve always loved dogs and I’ve never hurt her. She’s a small Pomeranian mix and I hate her personality. She’s needy, dirty, and annoying. We also have a cat that I adore because she’s clean and not as needy. When my bf and I started dating over a year ago, she would pee on doggie pads and shit on the bedroom carpet and he would let her sleep all over...

Hello, I've been married to my husband for 16 years now. I love him so much but my upset is he never does anything special for me like roses,card NOTHING! Our anniversary was yesterday and I even gave hints but nada... I've told him several times that I would like more romance he always says he'll work on it and it never happens. He thinks paying bills shows enough love 🤷‍♀�...

So this guy I know has been a bit flirtatious with me. For example, when he sits down across from me, he sits quite close so that his feet touch mine and he'll leave them there for a bit. He’s squeezed my shoulder, touched my hand, touched my knee (if I recall), given me hugs (he initiated), complimented me, stood over me close to me, asked about my relationship status, etc. I’ve caught h...

Hi everyone, My husband, I and are two small children lives in Scandinavia. He’s not from here, but holds a Canadian citizenship and so does our children (they’re born here in Scandinavia, so they have two citizenships) To make a long story short; husband never liked it here. We have a lot of problems and arguments. He never found himself here. Loved his life in Canada. He’s a self employ...

Hii I made this account just to ask for help, and I have been wanting to use this more so ig two birds with one stone situation here. So to start with my situation, my ex (17m) and I (17f), had broken up about 6 months ago, after 2 years of being together, and it was one of the roughest things I've ever gone through. I have abandonment issues related to some family stuff and I don't li...

I have a girlfriend that I have been fooling around with on and off since the age of 15. We finally reconnected 8 years ago and she moved in after a few months. We fall out alot cause I don't trust her and she does funny things. After 7 years we fell out and she moved with her mother. She had already gotten mean and want no sex. Yelling at me , sleeping at the other end of the bed, get...

Okay. I am new here but need advice. I've been with my current boyfriend for almost 5 years and we have a child together. It's been a very exhausting 5 years. Constantly fighting. Me leaving and then coming back in hopes it will work (it never does). It's just a matter of time before out next argument and fallout. He hates my family and we spend more time apart then we do to...

Maybe I am worrying about nothing. Maybe I a reading into something that is not there but here goes. I have been in a relationship with D for over 11 years. We have two amazing children together. D is an amazing guy. He has always been very truthful and honest. He has a very big heart and will give you the shirt right off his back. It is one the things that has always attracted me to him is that h...

It's been a few weeks since this awful event happened. I ended up getting so drunk and was seduced into sex by my wife's sister in law, I can barely remember all of the details of the whole night leading up to it but I remember snapping back to my senses seconds into it and putting a stop to it but it was still too late, all hell has broken loose, and I seem to be the only one taking res...

It's been just over a month since I ended our relationship. We were not in touch until he recently reached out to me. We got along really well in our relationship in terms of the things we had in common, goals etc. I still love him and do feel I should have given our relationship a better chance. Bottom line is that if he wanted to get back together I most likely would be willing. Sin...

I don’t know what I should do.My life is passing me by and it’s stressing me out.Im a good person easy going but I just don’t know what’s my issue at home.I have nobody to confide in so I came here.Im a 35 yr old male.I’ve been with this woman since 2014 everything was great until she found out she was pregnant and it went down hill from there.she began becoming distant from me but I tho...

My boyfriend and I have recently just started dating. The issue lies in the fact we’re both going to different high schools, and I’m worried he might replace me or eventually just forget me. I’m not as fearful for his loyalty given he has been on the receiving end of a cheater, but what if another girl captivates him in the same way I did? And what if He becomes tired of me? I rarely see ...

Hello there! I never ask anything on forums, but I'm really confused. let me explain (sorry for a long rant). I got out of relationship not all too long ago and then I met this guy at work - and damn, i fell for him. We chatted with my colleagues, somehow talked about relationships - he said his longest one was 2 months and that's it (he's 26). He fucked around a lot, like really...

My ex and I recently broke up, and he’s just reached out to me after over a month. I’ve been thinking of him quite a bit, wondering if my decision to end things was the right one. Our relationship was perfect in my opinion up until it became clear ( he admitted this ) that he struggles with trust issues due to being cheated on in the past. We talked about that a bit, however, it got to the poi...

hello, i recently found out that my boyfriend of 14 years is messaging a man to meet up for sex. He has sent and recieved pictures that have then been deleted and unsent (facebook messenger). Not once has he ever expressed to me that he is attracted to men and now i feel blind sided. iv been keeping it a secret for a while as i cant talk to any of my friends or family as they all love him a...

I got together with my current partner at the back end of 2019 things developed fast and she moved into my home in March of 2020 at the start of the lockdown. We are both approaching 40 and discussed and started trying for a baby, during this time I noticed insecurity problems, she was getting drunk alot while at home and was agreeing a lot. It may seem irresponsible but at this point I reali...

For the longest time now I've wanted to sever all ties and leave, family, friends, everyone, and just disappear. Am I crazy? I'm not on particularly bad terms with people but my family haven't exactly done wonders for my mental health, and deep down I just want to vanish and start afresh somewhere new with a clean slate, I live in a small dead end town and I don't want to be s...

I am in my mid 40’s so is my partner so not a young relationship, anyway we’ve been together a while and about 4 months into our relationship we were chatting as I was due to get my hair coloured, he said to me in a room full of women I will always choose the blonde, this made me feel very uncomfortable as now I feel I can’t change my hair colour. Would this bother you or am I over thi...

Hi all I (M47) am in a relationship with my girlfriend (F29) for about five months now. We're very much in love (she was the one initiating the relationship btw if that matters) and things are pretty serious between us. However, she sometimes wonders if she enjoyed her 'single' life enough (she's been single for two years since her last serious relationship, but one year fee...

A few months ago I met Sarah (not her real name) and we really hit it off and became good friends. Especially in Corona time it was good to have someone in your bubble to take long walks with, watch a movie, share a meal, etc. She would occasionally even spend the night but then in the guest room. You see I respectfully kept my distance as Sarah was struggling with an unresolved relationship. S...

PLEASE. FOR THOSE WHO WILL ALOW THE TIME TO READ, YOU HAVE MY DEEPEST SYMPATY AND THANKS. Our relationship started in 2015, 6 years ago, and at the beginning it was super ok, milk and honey, for me, and honestly, I thought it was likewise for her. I’m 53 years old, but I don’t show my age. She, Mira, is 7 years younger than me. Her husband died 3 years earlier. Mira worked for a small priva...

I am with my partner 3 and had years. We live together 2 years and he has a 7 y old girl from another relationship. She is a sweet girl. The problem is him… since we’re together I can’t really remember when did he invited me somewhere for a date, night, weekend. There has been some holidays but mostly I had organised it and paid for it, first was on his birthday second one as well and third ...

It’s a long story but I’ll make it short. I messaged a Turkish barber 9 weeks ago asking if he is single. He replied back saying yes and told me how beautiful I am etc. He worked down the road from me and I his customer because I take my nephew there for a haircut. The next evening we met for a coffee. And I know this is rushed but since that day, I have spend EVERY SINGLE night with him s...

I recently got back in contact with the father of my child. We maintain contact because of our daughter But for the past month we have been really close. Hé says he wants us to be closer and explore our options. But given the fact that I was heartbroken for years after we broke up I am afraid that this is a setup and I don’t want to get hurt again. Yes I still love him! Should I go with the fl...

I have been freinds with a guy for 5 yrs we txt often almost every day the chat between us is always civil now and again he will flirt in txt with me .. we normally meet every few weeks for a coffee and I have slept with him only once ...I'm so confused on our coffee dates he has passionately kissed me and I am tryingbto work out what this means if anything I don't know if he wants to en...

So a man comes into your shop that works next door, you see him most days because obviously you work next door to each other. So you are civil with each other and say hi etc. So he comes into your shop and says that after his tattoo has healed he wants to go on a sunbed, and doesn't know which cream is best so you just recommend the most popular one. Then the following day you end up research...

For the first time in our 15 year relationship, today I felt no connection with my wife during sex. I already felt a disconnect in the relationship but to feel nothing during sex really hit me for six. I feel like this is the end. Anyone with experience of this, any advice? ...

I (20F) feel that I've created a toxic relationship with my boyfriend (22M) of almost 2 years. I will be honest that now that I look back at everything it was certainly set up to be toxic and SUPER codependent. I'll start with the beginning and then jump to present day. I met him at work and hit it off pretty well, we had similar interests and seemed really compatible so we went on a han...

I am a girl. I am in a dilemma where I don't know whether to move on or keep continue talking to a guy who proposed me for marriage first but a few days before when he revealed in his family that he is seeing a girl (me), his family wasn't so welcoming. I never wanted to marry at first place, then at my private company, I met him, hehe by then had cleared govt. Exam and was doing a part ...

Hello, I am 28 year old wife, my husband is 33. We've been married for 5 years. We've been dating 2 years before that. However, 2 years ago I started cheating on my husband with a younger man. He was 21 back then. It started as if I was hypnotized. I didn't know how things got so deep, so quickly. I met this guy on my yoga classes. Soon after that we started walking home toge...

My wife and I have been married for close to 20 years and have had a good relationship all around. A few weeks ago my wife went away for a girls weekend with some friends and got drunk at the bar where they were staying. She ended up exposing her breasts (bra only) to a few men that they were with at the bar that night as she told me about the encounter once she returned from her trip . Nothing...

Broke up with my partner of 17 months due to him not compromising re moving in together location wise was his issue . I’m in late 30’s & felt going forward if he can’t compromise where is this going? Met up with him for chat a month ago both of us said we still love each other & I said if he wants me in his future he has show me commitment- i.e find a decent rental house for us to ...

My bf has a inappropriate relationship she is 20 he is 43 she is his friends daughter has known her most her life they lived down the rd.. they never talked while we have been together til she moved in down the street renting her moms house... he makes comments about her like she’s hot he wants to fuck her got upset when I didn’t think she was hot then I find out at 16 her asked to see her nip...

So… there’s this person whom I’ve known for a long time. We were close friends since elementary school and always got along and stuff. They’re sweet, and caring, and we make each other laugh. Things sort of changed in high school, when they told me that they had a crush on me. At the time, I wasn’t ready to be in a relationship, (you know, being young and dumb) and I turned them down as ...

Dear All, I have got into a mess and can't get out of it I need some advice please. Basically I have ended up in an online relationship with someone who is 15 years younger than me , I am married with kids , in an unhappy marriage and live a very stressful life for various reasons. I think it was a form of escape to start chatting to people online and find friendship I was not looking for any...

There is one guy, having two kids, same as me. We r friends now for some time, since he got divorced and his ex has new bf and kid. When his kids r staying with him we always play together with my and his kids. I confess my feelings to him andhe said he doesnt feel the same. It was a year ago. I stopped talking to him for a week, then he contacted me again and we talk normal since then. Last c...

I was in a zoom meeting and a friend of a friend asked my contact from her. When this common friend told me about her, she said that this girl "liked me." I added her and we talked for 2 days. But one of the first things she asked me was my age. I told her I'm 35 and she told me she is 21. I found her really pretty. But the next day she opened the game that she couldn't see ...

Because people might might think I'm really ugly as possible....

I have been in a relationship for 6 years and I love my boyfriend dearly. Last night I went out and got really drunk (not an excuse) and ended up kissing another guy for less than 2 seconds. It meant nothing and I immediately regretted it. If anything this completely solidified the fact that my boyfriend is the person I want to be with for the rest of my life. Do I tell him? I know that you should...

Hi.. I am 26Female. I lost my dad when i was 19. I planned to study CA. I fell in love with a guy(X) different caste, during my 21 and i did not study or be happy with him or with my life. I know it was toxic but i was scared that i will lose him. Because I don’t have anybody else. I was very impatient, over possessive on him. I tried a lot to come out of that relationship but couldn’t. When i...

, I’ve been seeing a guy who says he’s a sociopath and feels nothing for anyone except his son. BUT he abandoned his son and wife (not sure if they’re still married?) to move to California 3000 miles away, for a job that’s not much different from his job back home. He’ll tell me he’s so depressed over missing his son and “ruining his family,” yet he could’ve gone back home for th...

Hello,this story will be long but i will try to keep it short as i can,but it's important to get all the details out so if some of you have advice for me it would be better that you get whole story. So,story goes long way back when i was a secound year of my high school life,in my country we have 4 years of high school system,and there was this girl i really fell for,after abouth a month o...

Manhattan based Male 48 - 23 year old female. I live in the East village in a walk-up apartment. I am single, work at a charity and I do research in sociology. I am clean, decent, respectful, law-abiding, non-smoking, non-drinking. I don't have that much money, but I am an optimist and have a good attitude, a sunny, positive outlook and a good voice. Am Asian. In February 2020 I met a n...

Hello. I am 19yo,, a female and I am currently at a 2.5 yo long distance relationship. Me and my partner are great. We have the only kind of relationship I would ever see myself in. They are the only type of person I can visualize a long term relationship with. The problem is, I feel like I have lost the excitement and the strong feelings I had in the start of our relationship. Also, I don...

I texted my bf “I love you 😘 You’re my favorite person 🥰” and his response was “ Wow nobody ever said that to me before! You're pretty fantastic yourself.” Umm 🤔 … I honestly didn’t expect this response. I would have preferred he just send me the 😘 emoji in response. His wording sucks. I was definitely put off by it. Should I just keep reading into this or let it...

So I'm getting some conflicting views on this from friends, and I just wanted to get others' opinions on it even though I'm fairly certain my gut instinct isn't leading me wrong. I met this guy online, and we decided to meet up for a date. The date went really well, and I felt like I liked him a lot. I ended up inviting him over afterwards, and we slept together. I don'...

So I'm kinda old, early 40s. Anyway I work in a hospital. There is a young girl, early 20s, works in a different dept in an entry level position while attending college. We have worked together about a year but only actually see each other at work 1 day every other week. We have been friendly, never flirty or anything.she has a boyfriend. Anyways today at the end of her shift she informs me...

my goal in life is to get what others got. there are a few incidents here that stand out. i saw this bodywork practitioner a few years ago. she seemed highly rated, so i booked a session, but what happened is that after the session I used her bathroom, and then as she was letting me out the door she said “why are you looking like that, were you raped?” I didn’t really register it at fi...

Dear forum users, I would like to write about my difficult relationship. I'm aware of the fact that I should seek the help of a psychologist, but for now I can't afford it. Therefore, I will be grateful for any advice or questions from you - maybe they will make me realize something. This is going to be a long story, but in short: I have a lot of doubts about my current relationship. I ...

Hi, three months ago I started my relationship, but since then I feel off and I am very confused. I need someone to listen to me and tell me whether my feelings are valid or I am being anxious?...

I recently started talking to an old boyfriend that I have always been n love with and I am struggling to keep the relationship going but I love the guy so I need advice...

I (18M) work part-time as an elementary school librarian. For the past almost 2 weeks now, there's been a new girl in town, about my age, doing volunteer work at the school. AFAIK, she just goes around looking for people who need help and doing things with them, which is basically what I did the first few weeks I worked there. One day she came in and asked if I needed any help while I didn...

With the new year, I started online dating. I am 28 years old and feel like time is running out to have my own family. After a few flops I found a guy I liked and started hoping that I would enter a meaningful and long-term relationship. A couple months in he told me that we were better off being friends. When we first started seeing each other he was unsure if he wanted kids, but he decided...

It frustrates me that no men might want to date me?...

Because I might be rated to be really really really really really really really really really really really really really really below a 0/10 or 1 on the beauty scale physicslly....

I am a married woman married for 16 years and have a 15 year old son. I am madly in love with a guy who is 9 years younger than me. He is a divorcee. We happened to become friends and now madly in love with each other. We want to live together but cannot because I cannot leave my family either. Please advice. ...

I just discovered my husband has an onlyfans account. Yesterday he showed me a collectible figure he liked, so I scrolled through his history this morning to find it for Father's Day. I never DREAMED this would happen to us. He doesn't seem the type at all, and I never felt I couldn't trust him. He's not only subscribed, he has paid upword of $120 (at least) to these girls for ...

Hello.so I am 36, married with a baby. My family (parents and 4 siblings) are all very intertwined with each others lives and I believe this is because we have had somewhat of a chaotic past. My parents got involved in a very spiritual church when my twin and I were young. All lovely people but it was intense.my mum and dad's relationship was v toxic. Mum self harmed. Tried to leave a few ...

So I thought I’d do some browsing and try and get other peoples opinions on this. My fiancee decided to buy flowers which were (red roses) from his kids. I want a fan at all and it actually pissed me off. There are deeper reason why it does as in the past she has caused such a headache for us including at my workplace. This individual in the past has gone to the point of stalking him and I.. say...

Hello everyone, I really felt the need to share this with a group of mature adults, any input is highly appreciated. I have met a person I felt is the love of my life a few years ago. He's everything I was hoping to find for myself, but after a couple of years together, some complex family relationships are starting to untangle, and it makes me feel not so enthusiastic about our future ...

My fiance relocated out of town for work, I will soon follow with moving truck. We get along great,everything in common. Something rare in past relationships. I calmly asked him if anything was going on between him and a co worker he texts/calls all the time for hours, even not at work, blowing me and others off while he's on the call, or puts me on hold. I'm not a jealous person in rel...

My husband is helpful, kind, and loving the majority of the time but sometimes he can react to things in a way that strikes me as cruel and I don't understand why or know what to do about it. Maybe I'm misinterpreting it or being oblivious in some way but I feel like his moods can change in a moment. I'd like to understand what's going on so I can modify my own behavior in some...

Hi, I am in my 50s and am having a bad relationship with my parents, specifically my father. We have had huge explosive rows regularly since I was in my teens. In my teens and until I left home at the first opportunity, it was physical violence too. My father is not 100% monster however, he is basically a good person, but very weak. It has been like having a jealous older sibling who wi...

So late this year my boyfriend and I planned to go to a music festival around both of our birthdays so we could celebrate. My boyfriend’s brother is planning the trip and invited a lot of people from my boyfriend’s friend group. So it turns out most people don’t want to go to this festival except for two girls that my boyfriend used to have feelings for. Leaving me, my boyfriend, his bro...

I have been in this relationship for around four years, but between 2018 and 2019, some things happened that probably caused me to feel this way. The backstory is that my boyfriend broke up on me for reasons that are still unclear, because at the time he blamed it on me being needy, depressed, controlling, distancing him from himself and his friends and just “being afraid that our love is fading...

I've been with my fiance for just under 4 years. Things were almost picture perfect for 2 of those years until my insecurities started. He did everything in his power to make me feel secure and proved me wrong a thousand times over. It's from a previous relationship and unfortunately, I brought it into this one. It's like a switch just turned on and I was back to being unsecure. Thi...

My partner (M55) and I (F53) met 4 ½ years ago. After 3 month of dating I wanted to end the relationship as he hardly expressed any affection. He is very generous buy buying things, dinners and providing in general but he never looks into my eyes, ask questions, shows an interest in my work or projects, answers only with yes or no and doesn't strings more then four sentences together – an...

I am in a relationship with him for 5 years now, and we are expecting our first child (I'm 4 months pregnant). But I feel that our relationship is not going well and I am very anxious about that. I have a feeling that he is manipulating me and that his manipulative tendencies have increased now when I am pregnant. At the same time I am not sure if maby my behavior towards him was bad, so he i...

I started working with my coworker almost three years ago. It was only recently (about less than a year) that we have gotten closer. He joins me during my lunch time and sits there and chats. He will buy me food that i want to work. Invited me over to his house. I thought he was interested but recently he told me that he likes his old childhood friend. She lives somewhere else and there relationsh...

So, my husband is a good guy. As far as not cheating and abuse goes. But, the attachment to his mother, is gross to me. His mom has tried living off of him idk how many times, and if it wasn’t for me... she would. This Mother’s Day she even asked him for a ring. She has a boyfriend for stuff like that. He doesn’t take up for me when she makes remarks about me, that are meant to start troub...

We have been married for 14 years and been engaged for 4 years before marriage. My wife feels like I no longer love her, do no care about her and I always talk about food and sex. She always care about me no doubt, she surprises me with good food,etc. I really can't gauge her love and compassion for me, it's simply beyond words. I have this habit of making silly mistakes daily. I don�...

Met my husband years ago, but lived in separate states, he wasn’t kind to me at the time, but we were young and dumb. We end up talking again through Facebook. At this point we are living across the country. Me in California working my first job in my career and him in Florida. After a few months I decide to quit my job and move out to be with him. I even bought a ring to ask him to marry me. He...

I've been dating a guy for about 2 months, we've been seeing each other a couple of times a week, staying over at each other's houses, going for walks, hanging out, playing games, cooking together, spending the night... We both wanted something serious and made that clear from quite early on so as to not waste time. We talked every day, sending memes and discussing work, gener...

Hi, I’ve never been on one of these but needed some unbias thoughts/advice. Long story short. I’ve had this friend I’ve known maybe 2 years. She is married and has no kids. I’m in a long term relationship right now and he’s got some flaws, like we all do. I went out with her on St Pattys day and later on she posted pictures of the event online. There was a picture with another girl I...

My husband and I met when I was 16 and we started dating when I was 18. After I moved to his town, we lived together for 2 years, then got married when I was 20. I don't regret our marriage because he really is my best friend, but I worry that we met too early in life or something. We do not have any children because I'd like for my husband to work out his alcohol problem before we bring...

I have Covid. My partner for 6 years has been cheating on me. Today, he said he can’t never come because he doesn’t want to catch Covid. He says he is never coming back, moving to a new place. Leaving me stranded for rent and gave me the 1-800- number for Assistance. Does anyone think that he used Covid to leave this relationship is cold, mean, and cruel? I was in shock. What does anyone think...

We have been married for 7 years now and we used to have the best sex life, but then for like a year now, he just wants sex only once a month and just doesn’t show any sexual interest towards me :( and well this is affecting me a great deal, makes me feel depressed and unattractive also I sometimes just feel maybe he doesn’t love me anymore. I don’t know what to do, I have tried everythin...

Hi everyone, My partner and I have been together over 3 years but on and off for a little over a year. We don't live together. There's been a lot of issues we've been trying to work on, however a few remain still. 1. No intellectual/ deep conversations.. We've had 1 deep conversation at the begining of our relationship and that was one he brought up about his ex. ...

Hi all new here Can anyone explain the reason why my partner would knock on a mans door after a night out that she seen in pub that night. She sad she done it to get her sister a date who she was with that night ...

I have been with my partner for nearly 2 years. The first year was amazing, we travelled, went out all the time and spent time having a laugh and enjoying eachother. Since lockdown started though, it's been downhill. We have sex once every 6 weeks and time in between nothing sensual happens, we dont sext or have even remotely sexual conversations. I miss him so much. What's worse is ...

My partner is used to having a drink everynight in the pub but is now working night shifts so can only drink during the weekend. He has become grumpy and moody with me and I feel I'm walking on eggshells. Is this why he's character has changed. He says that the one day he is off work he will do a marathon run at the pub. His mood swings affect me as I take them personally and feel he...

When my wife and I got married, we agreed that we would wait 5 years to have children. We had read that most marriages fail within the first 5 years, so that is why we chose that period to wait. We didn't want to risk bringing children into a failed marriage. During those 5 years, her Mother passed away. She told me that she didn't want children after that, because she always counted ...

Been living in a privately rented house for two years with my husband. It’s a nice area and a nice house and sometimes I am happy to live there other times I cannot wait to get away from it and wonder if we should move. Our last privately rented house was horrible compared to this house and the landlord didn’t want to pay for any repairs so we could not wait to move. This house we are in now...

I've been with my partner for a little over 6 years, and I love him dearly. But over the last few months he's started going out most weekends and not coming home. I know him and I trust him, so I know there is nothing 'bad' in a sense happening, i.e i know he's not cheating. The problem is drinking. I like a drink, I'm sure we all do, but most of us know when t...

Myself and husband have been living in a rented house for 22 months and we live next to a woman who lives alone. my husband and me were once arguing and she knocked on the wall. we can hear her sometimes in her house but other times she is really quiet and then I feel like we should be like that, not that we make much noise but its not away to live. we have never met her nor do I know what she loo...

Hello All.. This is Mr.D from India. I am married for 3+ years now. My wife had hit menopause before marriage. Their family never disclosed this to us. She was also diabetic before marriage. This was also not disclosed to us. I feel cheated and agonised. I haven't told my family about this. In a great dilemma. Need your advice folks.....

I've been dating for 5 years and the last 2 years, I've always been finding flirtatious and sexual texts in my boyfriend's phone, but I ignored it and let it slide. About a week ago, he went through my phone and found a some deep flirting in my phone and we had a big fight, it got a bit physical and he left and we broke up and I knew we were done and we would never get back together...

Ok so this may be a compound question; Let’s begin: Would you accept your partner Marrying a “cousin” from another country to allow them to come to the US? Secondly, “cousin” to many Latin people (I am one myself; yet born in the US) just refers to a family friend that may have grown up with them, why do ppl do this. I don’t just name ppl as part of my family because they hung around a...