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Hi All. I hate being so cliche and it’s also partially why I didn’t own my feelings about this, as well as legitimately love my mom. Long story short — I’ve had an interesting dynamic with my family where I was loved unconditionally, no intentional harm and also have felt disconnected due to being “the emotional one”. What’s “funny” is both my parents are more like me in that...

I want to start with this: I’ve always loved dogs and I’ve never hurt her. She’s a small Pomeranian mix and I hate her personality. She’s needy, dirty, and annoying. We also have a cat that I adore because she’s clean and not as needy. When my bf and I started dating over a year ago, she would pee on doggie pads and shit on the bedroom carpet and he would let her sleep all over...

Hello, I've been married to my husband for 16 years now. I love him so much but my upset is he never does anything special for me like roses,card NOTHING! Our anniversary was yesterday and I even gave hints but nada... I've told him several times that I would like more romance he always says he'll work on it and it never happens. He thinks paying bills shows enough love 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️...

So this guy I know has been a bit flirtatious with me. For example, when he sits down across from me, he sits quite close so that his feet touch mine and he'll leave them there for a bit. He’s squeezed my shoulder, touched my hand, touched my knee (if I recall), given me hugs (he initiated), complimented me, stood over me close to me, asked about my relationship status, etc. I’ve caught him lo...

Hi everyone, My husband, I and are two small children lives in Scandinavia. He’s not from here, but holds a Canadian citizenship and so does our children (they’re born here in Scandinavia, so they have two citizenships) To make a long story short; husband never liked it here. We have a lot of problems and arguments. He never found himself here. Loved his life in Canada. He’s a self employ...

Hii I made this account just to ask for help, and I have been wanting to use this more so ig two birds with one stone situation here. So to start with my situation, my ex (17m) and I (17f), had broken up about 6 months ago, after 2 years of being together, and it was one of the roughest things I've ever gone through. I have abandonment issues related to some family stuff and I don't like relatio...

I have a girlfriend that I have been fooling around with on and off since the age of 15. We finally reconnected 8 years ago and she moved in after a few months. We fall out alot cause I don't trust her and she does funny things. After 7 years we fell out and she moved with her mother. She had already gotten mean and want no sex. Yelling at me , sleeping at the other end of the bed, getting ...

Okay. I am new here but need advice. I've been with my current boyfriend for almost 5 years and we have a child together. It's been a very exhausting 5 years. Constantly fighting. Me leaving and then coming back in hopes it will work (it never does). It's just a matter of time before out next argument and fallout. He hates my family and we spend more time apart then we do together. Ton...

Maybe I am worrying about nothing. Maybe I a reading into something that is not there but here goes. I have been in a relationship with D for over 11 years. We have two amazing children together. D is an amazing guy. He has always been very truthful and honest. He has a very big heart and will give you the shirt right off his back. It is one the things that has always attracted me to him is that h...

It's been a few weeks since this awful event happened. I ended up getting so drunk and was seduced into sex by my wife's sister in law, I can barely remember all of the details of the whole night leading up to it but I remember snapping back to my senses seconds into it and putting a stop to it but it was still too late, all hell has broken loose, and I seem to be the only one taking responsibilit...

It's been just over a month since I ended our relationship. We were not in touch until he recently reached out to me. We got along really well in our relationship in terms of the things we had in common, goals etc. I still love him and do feel I should have given our relationship a better chance. Bottom line is that if he wanted to get back together I most likely would be willing. Since he...

I don’t know what I should do.My life is passing me by and it’s stressing me out.Im a good person easy going but I just don’t know what’s my issue at home.I have nobody to confide in so I came here.Im a 35 yr old male.I’ve been with this woman since 2014 everything was great until she found out she was pregnant and it went down hill from there.she began becoming distant from me but I tho...

My boyfriend and I have recently just started dating. The issue lies in the fact we’re both going to different high schools, and I’m worried he might replace me or eventually just forget me. I’m not as fearful for his loyalty given he has been on the receiving end of a cheater, but what if another girl captivates him in the same way I did? And what if He becomes tired of me? I rarely see ...

Hello there! I never ask anything on forums, but I'm really confused. let me explain (sorry for a long rant). I got out of relationship not all too long ago and then I met this guy at work - and damn, i fell for him. We chatted with my colleagues, somehow talked about relationships - he said his longest one was 2 months and that's it (he's 26). He fucked around a lot, like really a lot, but sai...

My ex and I recently broke up, and he’s just reached out to me after over a month. I’ve been thinking of him quite a bit, wondering if my decision to end things was the right one. Our relationship was perfect in my opinion up until it became clear ( he admitted this ) that he struggles with trust issues due to being cheated on in the past. We talked about that a bit, however, it got to the poi...

hello, i recently found out that my boyfriend of 14 years is messaging a man to meet up for sex. He has sent and recieved pictures that have then been deleted and unsent (facebook messenger). Not once has he ever expressed to me that he is attracted to men and now i feel blind sided. iv been keeping it a secret for a while as i cant talk to any of my friends or family as they all love him a...

I got together with my current partner at the back end of 2019 things developed fast and she moved into my home in March of 2020 at the start of the lockdown. We are both approaching 40 and discussed and started trying for a baby, during this time I noticed insecurity problems, she was getting drunk alot while at home and was agreeing a lot. It may seem irresponsible but at this point I reali...

For the longest time now I've wanted to sever all ties and leave, family, friends, everyone, and just disappear. Am I crazy? I'm not on particularly bad terms with people but my family haven't exactly done wonders for my mental health, and deep down I just want to vanish and start afresh somewhere new with a clean slate, I live in a small dead end town and I don't want to be stuck here forever. I...

I am in my mid 40’s so is my partner so not a young relationship, anyway we’ve been together a while and about 4 months into our relationship we were chatting as I was due to get my hair coloured, he said to me in a room full of women I will always choose the blonde, this made me feel very uncomfortable as now I feel I can’t change my hair colour. Would this bother you or am I over thi...

Hi all I (M47) am in a relationship with my girlfriend (F29) for about five months now. We're very much in love (she was the one initiating the relationship btw if that matters) and things are pretty serious between us. However, she sometimes wonders if she enjoyed her 'single' life enough (she's been single for two years since her last serious relationship, but one year feels kind of gone to h...

A few months ago I met Sarah (not her real name) and we really hit it off and became good friends. Especially in Corona time it was good to have someone in your bubble to take long walks with, watch a movie, share a meal, etc. She would occasionally even spend the night but then in the guest room. You see I respectfully kept my distance as Sarah was struggling with an unresolved relationship. S...

PLEASE. FOR THOSE WHO WILL ALOW THE TIME TO READ, YOU HAVE MY DEEPEST SYMPATY AND THANKS. Our relationship started in 2015, 6 years ago, and at the beginning it was super ok, milk and honey, for me, and honestly, I thought it was likewise for her. I’m 53 years old, but I don’t show my age. She, Mira, is 7 years younger than me. Her husband died 3 years earlier. Mira worked for a small priva...

I am with my partner 3 and had years. We live together 2 years and he has a 7 y old girl from another relationship. She is a sweet girl. The problem is him… since we’re together I can’t really remember when did he invited me somewhere for a date, night, weekend. There has been some holidays but mostly I had organised it and paid for it, first was on his birthday second one as well and third ...

It’s a long story but I’ll make it short. I messaged a Turkish barber 9 weeks ago asking if he is single. He replied back saying yes and told me how beautiful I am etc. He worked down the road from me and I his customer because I take my nephew there for a haircut. The next evening we met for a coffee. And I know this is rushed but since that day, I have spend EVERY SINGLE night with him s...

I recently got back in contact with the father of my child. We maintain contact because of our daughter But for the past month we have been really close. Hé says he wants us to be closer and explore our options. But given the fact that I was heartbroken for years after we broke up I am afraid that this is a setup and I don’t want to get hurt again. Yes I still love him! Should I go with the fl...

I have been freinds with a guy for 5 yrs we txt often almost every day the chat between us is always civil now and again he will flirt in txt with me .. we normally meet every few weeks for a coffee and I have slept with him only once ...I'm so confused on our coffee dates he has passionately kissed me and I am tryingbto work out what this means if anything I don't know if he wants to engage in a ...

So a man comes into your shop that works next door, you see him most days because obviously you work next door to each other. So you are civil with each other and say hi etc. So he comes into your shop and says that after his tattoo has healed he wants to go on a sunbed, and doesn't know which cream is best so you just recommend the most popular one. Then the following day you end up researching i...

For the first time in our 15 year relationship, today I felt no connection with my wife during sex. I already felt a disconnect in the relationship but to feel nothing during sex really hit me for six. I feel like this is the end. Anyone with experience of this, any advice? ...

I (20F) feel that I've created a toxic relationship with my boyfriend (22M) of almost 2 years. I will be honest that now that I look back at everything it was certainly set up to be toxic and SUPER codependent. I'll start with the beginning and then jump to present day. I met him at work and hit it off pretty well, we had similar interests and seemed really compatible so we went on a handful of da...

I am a girl. I am in a dilemma where I don't know whether to move on or keep continue talking to a guy who proposed me for marriage first but a few days before when he revealed in his family that he is seeing a girl (me), his family wasn't so welcoming. I never wanted to marry at first place, then at my private company, I met him, hehe by then had cleared govt. Exam and was doing a part time job i...

Hello, I am 28 year old wife, my husband is 33. We've been married for 5 years. We've been dating 2 years before that. However, 2 years ago I started cheating on my husband with a younger man. He was 21 back then. It started as if I was hypnotized. I didn't know how things got so deep, so quickly. I met this guy on my yoga classes. Soon after that we started walking home together after each...

My wife and I have been married for close to 20 years and have had a good relationship all around. A few weeks ago my wife went away for a girls weekend with some friends and got drunk at the bar where they were staying. She ended up exposing her breasts (bra only) to a few men that they were with at the bar that night as she told me about the encounter once she returned from her trip . Nothing...

Broke up with my partner of 17 months due to him not compromising re moving in together location wise was his issue . I’m in late 30’s & felt going forward if he can’t compromise where is this going? Met up with him for chat a month ago both of us said we still love each other & I said if he wants me in his future he has show me commitment- i.e find a decent rental house for us to live as ...

My bf has a inappropriate relationship she is 20 he is 43 she is his friends daughter has known her most her life they lived down the rd.. they never talked while we have been together til she moved in down the street renting her moms house... he makes comments about her like she’s hot he wants to fuck her got upset when I didn’t think she was hot then I find out at 16 her asked to see her nip...

So… there’s this person whom I’ve known for a long time. We were close friends since elementary school and always got along and stuff. They’re sweet, and caring, and we make each other laugh. Things sort of changed in high school, when they told me that they had a crush on me. At the time, I wasn’t ready to be in a relationship, (you know, being young and dumb) and I turned them down as ...

Dear All, I have got into a mess and can't get out of it I need some advice please. Basically I have ended up in an online relationship with someone who is 15 years younger than me , I am married with kids , in an unhappy marriage and live a very stressful life for various reasons. I think it was a form of escape to start chatting to people online and find friendship I was not looking for anything...

There is one guy, having two kids, same as me. We r friends now for some time, since he got divorced and his ex has new bf and kid. When his kids r staying with him we always play together with my and his kids. I confess my feelings to him andhe said he doesnt feel the same. It was a year ago. I stopped talking to him for a week, then he contacted me again and we talk normal since then. Last c...

I was in a zoom meeting and a friend of a friend asked my contact from her. When this common friend told me about her, she said that this girl "liked me." I added her and we talked for 2 days. But one of the first things she asked me was my age. I told her I'm 35 and she told me she is 21. I found her really pretty. But the next day she opened the game that she couldn't see herself with me beca...

Because people might might think I'm really ugly as possible....

I have been in a relationship for 6 years and I love my boyfriend dearly. Last night I went out and got really drunk (not an excuse) and ended up kissing another guy for less than 2 seconds. It meant nothing and I immediately regretted it. If anything this completely solidified the fact that my boyfriend is the person I want to be with for the rest of my life. Do I tell him? I know that you should...

Hi.. I am 26Female. I lost my dad when i was 19. I planned to study CA. I fell in love with a guy(X) different caste, during my 21 and i did not study or be happy with him or with my life. I know it was toxic but i was scared that i will lose him. Because I don’t have anybody else. I was very impatient, over possessive on him. I tried a lot to come out of that relationship but couldn’t. When i...

, I’ve been seeing a guy who says he’s a sociopath and feels nothing for anyone except his son. BUT he abandoned his son and wife (not sure if they’re still married?) to move to California 3000 miles away, for a job that’s not much different from his job back home. He’ll tell me he’s so depressed over missing his son and “ruining his family,” yet he could’ve gone back home for th...

Hello,this story will be long but i will try to keep it short as i can,but it's important to get all the details out so if some of you have advice for me it would be better that you get whole story. So,story goes long way back when i was a secound year of my high school life,in my country we have 4 years of high school system,and there was this girl i really fell for,after abouth a month of sor...

Manhattan based Male 48 - 23 year old female. I live in the East village in a walk-up apartment. I am single, work at a charity and I do research in sociology. I am clean, decent, respectful, law-abiding, non-smoking, non-drinking. I don't have that much money, but I am an optimist and have a good attitude, a sunny, positive outlook and a good voice. Am Asian. In February 2020 I met a new ne...

Hello. I am 19yo,, a female and I am currently at a 2.5 yo long distance relationship. Me and my partner are great. We have the only kind of relationship I would ever see myself in. They are the only type of person I can visualize a long term relationship with. The problem is, I feel like I have lost the excitement and the strong feelings I had in the start of our relationship. Also, I don...

I texted my bf “I love you 😘 You’re my favorite person 🥰” and his response was “ Wow nobody ever said that to me before! You're pretty fantastic yourself.” Umm 🤔 … I honestly didn’t expect this response. I would have preferred he just send me the 😘 emoji in response. His wording sucks. I was definitely put off by it. Should I just keep reading into this or let it slid...

So I'm getting some conflicting views on this from friends, and I just wanted to get others' opinions on it even though I'm fairly certain my gut instinct isn't leading me wrong. I met this guy online, and we decided to meet up for a date. The date went really well, and I felt like I liked him a lot. I ended up inviting him over afterwards, and we slept together. I don't normally do that, but I...

So I'm kinda old, early 40s. Anyway I work in a hospital. There is a young girl, early 20s, works in a different dept in an entry level position while attending college. We have worked together about a year but only actually see each other at work 1 day every other week. We have been friendly, never flirty or anything.she has a boyfriend. Anyways today at the end of her shift she informs me that...

my goal in life is to get what others got. there are a few incidents here that stand out. i saw this bodywork practitioner a few years ago. she seemed highly rated, so i booked a session, but what happened is that after the session I used her bathroom, and then as she was letting me out the door she said “why are you looking like that, were you raped?” I didn’t really register it at fi...

Dear forum users, I would like to write about my difficult relationship. I'm aware of the fact that I should seek the help of a psychologist, but for now I can't afford it. Therefore, I will be grateful for any advice or questions from you - maybe they will make me realize something. This is going to be a long story, but in short: I have a lot of doubts about my current relationship. I am a woman...

Hi, three months ago I started my relationship, but since then I feel off and I am very confused. I need someone to listen to me and tell me whether my feelings are valid or I am being anxious?...

I recently started talking to an old boyfriend that I have always been n love with and I am struggling to keep the relationship going but I love the guy so I need advice...

I (18M) work part-time as an elementary school librarian. For the past almost 2 weeks now, there's been a new girl in town, about my age, doing volunteer work at the school. AFAIK, she just goes around looking for people who need help and doing things with them, which is basically what I did the first few weeks I worked there. One day she came in and asked if I needed any help while I didn't ha...

With the new year, I started online dating. I am 28 years old and feel like time is running out to have my own family. After a few flops I found a guy I liked and started hoping that I would enter a meaningful and long-term relationship. A couple months in he told me that we were better off being friends. When we first started seeing each other he was unsure if he wanted kids, but he decided...

It frustrates me that no men might want to date me?...

Because I might be rated to be really really really really really really really really really really really really really really below a 0/10 or 1 on the beauty scale physicslly....

I am a married woman married for 16 years and have a 15 year old son. I am madly in love with a guy who is 9 years younger than me. He is a divorcee. We happened to become friends and now madly in love with each other. We want to live together but cannot because I cannot leave my family either. Please advice. ...

I just discovered my husband has an onlyfans account. Yesterday he showed me a collectible figure he liked, so I scrolled through his history this morning to find it for Father's Day. I never DREAMED this would happen to us. He doesn't seem the type at all, and I never felt I couldn't trust him. He's not only subscribed, he has paid upword of $120 (at least) to these girls for specific material, A...

Hello.so I am 36, married with a baby. My family (parents and 4 siblings) are all very intertwined with each others lives and I believe this is because we have had somewhat of a chaotic past. My parents got involved in a very spiritual church when my twin and I were young. All lovely people but it was intense.my mum and dad's relationship was v toxic. Mum self harmed. Tried to leave a few times...

So I thought I’d do some browsing and try and get other peoples opinions on this. My fiancee decided to buy flowers which were (red roses) from his kids. I want a fan at all and it actually pissed me off. There are deeper reason why it does as in the past she has caused such a headache for us including at my workplace. This individual in the past has gone to the point of stalking him and I.. say...

Hello everyone, I really felt the need to share this with a group of mature adults, any input is highly appreciated. I have met a person I felt is the love of my life a few years ago. He's everything I was hoping to find for myself, but after a couple of years together, some complex family relationships are starting to untangle, and it makes me feel not so enthusiastic about our future toget...

My fiance relocated out of town for work, I will soon follow with moving truck. We get along great,everything in common. Something rare in past relationships. I calmly asked him if anything was going on between him and a co worker he texts/calls all the time for hours, even not at work, blowing me and others off while he's on the call, or puts me on hold. I'm not a jealous person in relationships...

My husband is helpful, kind, and loving the majority of the time but sometimes he can react to things in a way that strikes me as cruel and I don't understand why or know what to do about it. Maybe I'm misinterpreting it or being oblivious in some way but I feel like his moods can change in a moment. I'd like to understand what's going on so I can modify my own behavior in some way that will help ...

Hi, I am in my 50s and am having a bad relationship with my parents, specifically my father. We have had huge explosive rows regularly since I was in my teens. In my teens and until I left home at the first opportunity, it was physical violence too. My father is not 100% monster however, he is basically a good person, but very weak. It has been like having a jealous older sibling who wi...

So late this year my boyfriend and I planned to go to a music festival around both of our birthdays so we could celebrate. My boyfriend’s brother is planning the trip and invited a lot of people from my boyfriend’s friend group. So it turns out most people don’t want to go to this festival except for two girls that my boyfriend used to have feelings for. Leaving me, my boyfriend, his bro...

I have been in this relationship for around four years, but between 2018 and 2019, some things happened that probably caused me to feel this way. The backstory is that my boyfriend broke up on me for reasons that are still unclear, because at the time he blamed it on me being needy, depressed, controlling, distancing him from himself and his friends and just “being afraid that our love is fading...

I've been with my fiance for just under 4 years. Things were almost picture perfect for 2 of those years until my insecurities started. He did everything in his power to make me feel secure and proved me wrong a thousand times over. It's from a previous relationship and unfortunately, I brought it into this one. It's like a switch just turned on and I was back to being unsecure. This man has done ...

My partner (M55) and I (F53) met 4 ½ years ago. After 3 month of dating I wanted to end the relationship as he hardly expressed any affection. He is very generous buy buying things, dinners and providing in general but he never looks into my eyes, ask questions, shows an interest in my work or projects, answers only with yes or no and doesn't strings more then four sentences together – and sti...

I am in a relationship with him for 5 years now, and we are expecting our first child (I'm 4 months pregnant). But I feel that our relationship is not going well and I am very anxious about that. I have a feeling that he is manipulating me and that his manipulative tendencies have increased now when I am pregnant. At the same time I am not sure if maby my behavior towards him was bad, so he is wou...

I started working with my coworker almost three years ago. It was only recently (about less than a year) that we have gotten closer. He joins me during my lunch time and sits there and chats. He will buy me food that i want to work. Invited me over to his house. I thought he was interested but recently he told me that he likes his old childhood friend. She lives somewhere else and there relationsh...

So, my husband is a good guy. As far as not cheating and abuse goes. But, the attachment to his mother, is gross to me. His mom has tried living off of him idk how many times, and if it wasn’t for me... she would. This Mother’s Day she even asked him for a ring. She has a boyfriend for stuff like that. He doesn’t take up for me when she makes remarks about me, that are meant to start troub...

We have been married for 14 years and been engaged for 4 years before marriage. My wife feels like I no longer love her, do no care about her and I always talk about food and sex. She always care about me no doubt, she surprises me with good food,etc. I really can't gauge her love and compassion for me, it's simply beyond words. I have this habit of making silly mistakes daily. I don't do things ...

Met my husband years ago, but lived in separate states, he wasn’t kind to me at the time, but we were young and dumb. We end up talking again through Facebook. At this point we are living across the country. Me in California working my first job in my career and him in Florida. After a few months I decide to quit my job and move out to be with him. I even bought a ring to ask him to marry me. He...

I've been dating a guy for about 2 months, we've been seeing each other a couple of times a week, staying over at each other's houses, going for walks, hanging out, playing games, cooking together, spending the night... We both wanted something serious and made that clear from quite early on so as to not waste time. We talked every day, sending memes and discussing work, general nice convers...

Hi, I’ve never been on one of these but needed some unbias thoughts/advice. Long story short. I’ve had this friend I’ve known maybe 2 years. She is married and has no kids. I’m in a long term relationship right now and he’s got some flaws, like we all do. I went out with her on St Pattys day and later on she posted pictures of the event online. There was a picture with another girl I...

My husband and I met when I was 16 and we started dating when I was 18. After I moved to his town, we lived together for 2 years, then got married when I was 20. I don't regret our marriage because he really is my best friend, but I worry that we met too early in life or something. We do not have any children because I'd like for my husband to work out his alcohol problem before we bring kids into...

I have Covid. My partner for 6 years has been cheating on me. Today, he said he can’t never come because he doesn’t want to catch Covid. He says he is never coming back, moving to a new place. Leaving me stranded for rent and gave me the 1-800- number for Assistance. Does anyone think that he used Covid to leave this relationship is cold, mean, and cruel? I was in shock. What does anyone think...

We have been married for 7 years now and we used to have the best sex life, but then for like a year now, he just wants sex only once a month and just doesn’t show any sexual interest towards me :( and well this is affecting me a great deal, makes me feel depressed and unattractive also I sometimes just feel maybe he doesn’t love me anymore. I don’t know what to do, I have tried everythin...

Hi everyone, My partner and I have been together over 3 years but on and off for a little over a year. We don't live together. There's been a lot of issues we've been trying to work on, however a few remain still. 1. No intellectual/ deep conversations.. We've had 1 deep conversation at the begining of our relationship and that was one he brought up about his ex. We've had none sin...

Hi all new here Can anyone explain the reason why my partner would knock on a mans door after a night out that she seen in pub that night. She sad she done it to get her sister a date who she was with that night ...

I have been with my partner for nearly 2 years. The first year was amazing, we travelled, went out all the time and spent time having a laugh and enjoying eachother. Since lockdown started though, it's been downhill. We have sex once every 6 weeks and time in between nothing sensual happens, we dont sext or have even remotely sexual conversations. I miss him so much. What's worse is that when ...

My partner is used to having a drink everynight in the pub but is now working night shifts so can only drink during the weekend. He has become grumpy and moody with me and I feel I'm walking on eggshells. Is this why he's character has changed. He says that the one day he is off work he will do a marathon run at the pub. His mood swings affect me as I take them personally and feel he hates me....

When my wife and I got married, we agreed that we would wait 5 years to have children. We had read that most marriages fail within the first 5 years, so that is why we chose that period to wait. We didn't want to risk bringing children into a failed marriage. During those 5 years, her Mother passed away. She told me that she didn't want children after that, because she always counted on her mom...

Been living in a privately rented house for two years with my husband. It’s a nice area and a nice house and sometimes I am happy to live there other times I cannot wait to get away from it and wonder if we should move. Our last privately rented house was horrible compared to this house and the landlord didn’t want to pay for any repairs so we could not wait to move. This house we are in now...

I've been with my partner for a little over 6 years, and I love him dearly. But over the last few months he's started going out most weekends and not coming home. I know him and I trust him, so I know there is nothing 'bad' in a sense happening, i.e i know he's not cheating. The problem is drinking. I like a drink, I'm sure we all do, but most of us know when to stop, or at least to come ho...

Myself and husband have been living in a rented house for 22 months and we live next to a woman who lives alone. my husband and me were once arguing and she knocked on the wall. we can hear her sometimes in her house but other times she is really quiet and then I feel like we should be like that, not that we make much noise but its not away to live. we have never met her nor do I know what she loo...

Hello All.. This is Mr.D from India. I am married for 3+ years now. My wife had hit menopause before marriage. Their family never disclosed this to us. She was also diabetic before marriage. This was also not disclosed to us. I feel cheated and agonised. I haven't told my family about this. In a great dilemma. Need your advice folks.....

I've been dating for 5 years and the last 2 years, I've always been finding flirtatious and sexual texts in my boyfriend's phone, but I ignored it and let it slide. About a week ago, he went through my phone and found a some deep flirting in my phone and we had a big fight, it got a bit physical and he left and we broke up and I knew we were done and we would never get back together again. He had ...

Ok so this may be a compound question; Let’s begin: Would you accept your partner Marrying a “cousin” from another country to allow them to come to the US? Secondly, “cousin” to many Latin people (I am one myself; yet born in the US) just refers to a family friend that may have grown up with them, why do ppl do this. I don’t just name ppl as part of my family because they hung around a...

I broke up with someone after an intense 18 month relationship. He wanted to marry me and I didn’t see a future with him. That was a few months ago and I’ve been out with someone else. I like the new person but he isn’t affectionate except giving me a quick goodnight kiss. I myself can’t figure out if I want to sleep with him yet. I am attracted to him but not in a big way. I don’t know ...

I been with my partner ( now ex) for nearly 4 years. The relationship has always been good, anyhow he recently got the sack but told everyone including me the company folded and lost the contract. I only found out when I see a work van out and found out that wasn't the case. It doesn't even bother me he got the sack or the Reason why although I could have a good guess. I do have problems ex...

I am very forgetful simple things like someone asking me to let them know when I set off home, replying to messages etc this is a big problem for my husband and he has asked me a few times to sort this out, I've tried a few things, reminders, trying to be more organised, therapy for my anxiety, I've gotten better but yesterday he asked me to tell him when I finished something I forgot and he went ...

I had this friend that I've helped so may times, in terms of money, moral support and more.. I didn't expect anything from her just because I helped her.. This is the problem one day she suddenly attacked me with hurtful words that I've become arrogant because I'm going to college and the college that I'm going to is making the students arrogant etc.. I didn't even save myself from her.. I didn...

Hi all. I am new here, because I am trying to get some advice, that I can't really find the answer to anywhere else. Okay, here is my dilemma. I am a 50 year old divorced guy. My friend is a 50 year old married woman, with 5 children, and I have known her since High School, and we are really good friends. We talk with each other almost everyday, and we like all the same things, and have so much...

Past 2 years, we have spl it 3 times because of a third party. January my husband woke up ranting how we don't get on, doesn't want me touching him and moved out. 2 weeks later after arguing with this other person he ended up alone trying to find himself and sort his mind out. 2 weeks ago I invited him round with mutual friends of ours for drinks. He stayed behind. I told him that I ...

My husband had his prostrate removed four and half years ago. We manage to have sex at least 3 times a week but he as to use a pump to help it along and it’s different then it used to be. I always worry if I’m enough for him in the bedroom and wonder if he thinks of other women to help him come. He as looked at porn for years in the past and I wouldn’t be surprised if he still doesn’t now...

hey! so... I meet this man, Laszlo through mutual friends and immediately we take a great dislike to each other, we have very few things in common and hate what the other likes but for our friends we agree to be civil and (try to) get along. This goes alright for a while, we also come to hate each other's habits and are often at each other's throats but we also have middle ground and can at ...

I came home from work and walked upstairs where I saw my wife coming out of the bedroom. She works from home since the pandemic and so she is always downstairs in the office when I come home. She looked really tired or not feeling well so I said ...

Hello. Looking for advice. I've been with my boyfriend for 11 years. Hes now 32 and I am 29. About 3 years into our relationship I found out he did cocaine everytime we were drinking. Eventually we broke up over it as he continued to hide it. We got back together 8 months later which was was 5 years ago now. Over the years he's continued to lie to me about drugs. Mostly by omission but there has b...

A little background- I haven’t had social media for too long, but I’ve still made so many amazing friends (I actually have more online than I do in-person). I’ve only had it for about 14-15 weeks. So I have this guy friend and we live across country from each other. He’s an absolutely fantastic friend and we talk almost every day. Problem is, I think he likes me for multiple reasons. 1)...

So there’s this guy I have gotten close to over the last year. I have never had a boyfriend and I’m extremely clueless in the relationship area. He has the reputation of being a player. We somehow became friends (after I overcame my shyness). We have been hanging out since last year and he hasn’t made a move yet. He has a girl roommate who doesn’t like me and without asking him he told me ...

I'm at a loss as to what's going on and I don't know what to do or how to proceed. There's this guy at work who I had never really spoken to because we worked in different departments and he was always just very serious with me even on the few occasions we did cross paths. It's like he had an aversion to me because he treated me so differently than any of my other coworkers. However, my tasks a...

Hi there, I will go straight into the story: My partner and I were supposed to see each other this afternoon (me coming to his place first). I haven't seen him in a week (which is normal, we're busy during the weekdays). A bit last minute he told me there was a slight change in schedule and had to do something first (I won't give details, but it was a good reason). Along the day he kept me u...

I chose relationships because that seemed closest... really i dont have any relation to this guy. we know each other because we're part of the same online gaming community. the most interaction I've had is forum posts and the occasional group game. Somehow I've done enough to make him dislike me, which I didn't figure out til a few weeks ago. before that i thought we got along just fine. he's a n...

A few years ago, I landed a job in an office, where the senior manager knew my partner. His deputy, the line manager running the team (Lisa), didn't seem too pleased, but called me two days later, inviting me to join her team. A few weeks later, after vetting and other checks, I started. The job wasn't difficult, so I got the hang of it. Lisa began warming to me, to the point that she was happy t...

So, I have this friend. He’s really sweet and kind, and he’s one of my best friends. I met him online and we got really close in just a matter of days. We would stay up for hours and just talk about anything in our lives. After a few weeks, we started dating and it was great. Until. He told me that he “still loved me”, but he was losing feelings (huh?). I told him “whatever makes you ha...

Married 18months, together nearly 10yrs. I can't cope with husbands attitude about me. We both work full time, but I always do the cooking dispute asking him to help. He hates cooking, but will do clearing up. He says to people I can do what I want, but his behaviour says otherwise. Tonight I had a run on treadmill he told me to hurry up as he wanted dinner, I told him to cook himself he said he'd...

Hi all, I am needing some help. A month ago hubby and I were at a 30th for one of his friends. He bumped into someone he used to know there (around 8-10 years ago) and they invited him to their birthday up north. After discussing it I asked him if he could please not go as I was not comfortable with it (they do alot of drinking and drugs). On Friday he says that the party is tomorrow and h...

Where to start. Am 54 been with my fella 7 years and no children with him I met him through a friend when I ventured abroad looking for work . He had his own bar I never got my job within 2 weeks he lost the bar and I list my savings paying his rent . After that we got flat at home fits and starts of work here and there . Any job I introduced him to as we are both bus drivers he was never h...

Me and my partner of 3 years just broke up, it was an emotional break up we both cried as we both love each other unconditionally, I didn’t want it to happen. He has said he wants his own time, he doesn’t want to be with anyone right now and just needs to clear his head to see if he can move forward with me. He said he wants to be able to do as he pleases without having to worry about someo...

Hi all, I'm new here and hoping to get some really good advice on a situation I've landed myself in. I'm married with 2 children one 4 and the other 14 weeks. Me and my wife always being rocky, we always argue and she's always threatening to kick me out of our house. Anyway after years of this I've had enough of it and at the weekend she said I need to leave and I obliged and said that...

For the last 15 years I have been in a relationship. It was complicated from the off however we continued with with and as we stand have a beautiful home and child together. No marriage as partner refuses to divorce the ex due to finances. I was not the cause of their break up. So over the last 15 years I have had 4 issues whereby conversation happened between my partner and others which really...

Some years ago my wife introduced to me her work colleague, Helen, at a party for her wedding to David. Helen and my wife were working at a school, but my wife later left that employment. We have all remained friends for a long time, but my feelings toward Helen have changed a fair bit. My wife has become quite distant in the last few years, and doesn't participate in social media very much, prefe...

My husband and myself live next to a woman who moved in about a year ago. we have been here nearly 2 years. A parcel was delivered for my husband when we stayed away in December last year and usually we leave a note on the door to say to leave it in our back garden if no one is in and to not leave it with neighbours. we had forgotten to put the note on the door and it got delivered there. we do no...

Timeline - We started dating in May 2017 while in graduate school in different cities. In Feb 2018, he moved to another city for a job. He had another female friend from his school join the same company and since they were friends already, they hung out a lot. This female friend had a crush on him since school but she was dating someone else(Mr.A) and he was dating me. In Mar 2018, barely a mo...

First of all, before I write, I have to give the disclosure that I have not listed my real name on here because of privacy reasons and risk of confidentiality being compromised. I am 30 years old and I will attend my favorite school next Spring Semester for graduate school. It is my dream school as I am obsessed with their football team. I am a convicted felon and back in 2012, I was charged...

Well where to start... Theres this guy that I love. I have known him for almost 7 years and we dated for a short while and then he changed to fwb. I went along with that for awhile, until I had enough. He had basically a harem of women that he associated with. I could never trust him. I never knew who he was going to be with and it drove me crazy,so I eliminated myself from his life for several...

Anyhow, a few months ago, reconnected with an old friend/flame. For maybe a month, everything was great. But then I had a plan to go spend time with my family over the holidays (WFH is awesome!), so I would be out of the area for about a month. (This includes time before/after to quarantine because I'm trying to be semi-responsible.) I spent the evening before I began quarantine with friend. Bu...

I have been in a relationship for 2 years now with my partner, we live together. this is after both of us ended our respective marriages. My divorce was sorted quickly, we have not kids, my ex and I are still friends and get along well. My partner's divorce on the other hand has been a nightmare. There are children involved and his ex is, well... a narcissistic sociopath, she tried to take the...

I have no friends. I am a 28 year old female and I can speak to people easily ;I'm not shy. Currently I study an online degree and to earn money, I pick up ad-hoc work as and when I can. I've befriended people in the past quickly and hung out with them (prior to lockdown), only then to discover that they are not for me due to several reasons (one friend would act immature and childish) and the oth...

So, ive been with my husband since we was 16/17 years old which during that time, he hasn't had a very close relationship with his mom due to his childhood with his step dad. He has a younger half sister who he isn't really close with either. Now, since being pregnant, all of a sudden they want to be involved and I just don't understand why. Since we have been living together (9 years), they rarel...

My mom went off on me this morning, she was absolutely fine, absolutely fine, she was laying with me and we were talking. Then my grandma called asking if I wanted to go get lunch. So I said yes, all of a sudden my mom is like "Get up now you need to get ready" Over and over and She is not taking me for 2 hours!! I do have a class between then but all I have to do is put on a shirt and shorts.... ...

Hi, the problem I want to talk about seems simple: I have a feeling I shouldn´t have married my wife. We have a lovely son and we are expecting a second baby. A year ago, when the first lockdown in my country was imposed, we separated for a month or so. However, I couldn´t handle not being with my son, so I moved back and tried to make everything up. I´m a teacher, I´ve been teaching online...

Would you allow your partner to take a 2 week break from you and the relationship with no communication between you two? I feel slighted, sad, angry, and hurt that they told me they want a break because they have alot going on in their lives. Well I do too, and I should be included. I'm not running away because my life is chaotic and messy , I feel like they shouldn't either. am I overreacting? Sh...

TL/DR: We opened our relationship, my partner has fallen for someone, im overcome with jealousy and wish I never did this in the first place My partner and I are 21 and have been together for about 7 years. I would say we’re in an extremely emotionally close and loving relationship, but since we moved in together our sex life diminished dramatically. I guess because I was getting bored and w...

My husband and I coparent with his ex wife. I find myself constantly comparing myself to her. My first marriage was horrible and ruined my self esteem so I know this is partially the reason. My current husband told me from the get go that he will always love his ex bc she is the mother of his children. I feel like that is another reason for my self esteem issues as I have absolutely no love fo...

Here’s the scenario. VDay was (from start to almost finish) verging on the best day ever. We woke up early, made breakfast, watched some Netflix and had an Afternoon Nap. When I woke up it was only 1:30pm. The room was dark and AC was blowing, perfect vibe for awesome afternoon sex! The day couldn’t get better i thought, but it did. She told me I had an hour to get ready for a place she...

I know I shouldn't have but I checked partners phone this morning and found that he had yet again taken a semi hard dick pic which he hasn't sent to me. This isn't the first time he has done this. I questioned him the last time and he said he was going to send to me, but felt that as things weren't great between us, that he shouldn't do it. I'm going through a tough time, emotionally and mentall...

Hello there, I recently found this forum so I decided to ask for some advice here. I am a girl, 18 years old and currently I am in a relationship with a really sweet guy. To mention, I’ve never had a boyfriend before so he is my first one. He is a really nice person, he is sweet, caring, he keeps showing me the perfect amount of love and everything else is just perfect. The problem is that I ...

i don't have a good relationship with my parents , they are too strict,controlling and always make me insecure and feel bad about myself , i ve been going through anxiety since i was a child , always bad memories come to my mind and a lot shit is happening in the present moment , they make me feel as i m not enough . but how could i live with them in peace ? i ve hated my life with them since i w...

I have a baby out of wedlock.but the man am with is not the father to the baby. but he does not know about that, so and he is not married to me yet. and there is this other guy that I love so much each time sleep or in my leisure time I think about him but he does not want the baby boy. he said I should give the baby to his father and also the man that is standing has his father I have been havin...

Hi everyone, it's my first post here and I can't believe I am resorting to seeking advice for my manager. I guess I should put my entire life on the line and let ransom strangers all over the internet decide my fate but here it goes. There is a manager at my work and he's really hot and appears to be a complete sweet heart. I was going through a lot of problems and did not treat him very kindl...

We have been together for 4yrs we have a 1yr old I wanted to talk about marriage and he doesn't want to. I am hurt and broken and he says its not me that its him. He cant promise that commitment to me ever pretty much. I am currently packing my stuff😥 its awful that whatever it is it is stronger than him caring about us his family. He says it means total control of the other person when you m...

Can you be friends with the opposite sex without anything going on between you. I met my husband through a dating site he was friends with a older woman before he met me who he had known since he was young and living at home. his parents were friendly with her and her husband and they used to get together for meals and the woman ended up working with my husband years later. he did not recognize he...

My husband as worked for a company for 7 years as a sales rep out on the road. The first time he went for the interview I was with him and I remember a woman coming out from the office and saying, goodbye and said my husbands name. I thought it was odd that she walked out with him and Im sure he told me that she asked what he was going to be doing after the interview. he had been interviewed by he...

I have been dating this guy I met 5 months ago online. We really hit it off and got along so well in person. Our sexual, physical and emotional chemistry is unlike any other guy I have dated before. There is a few set backs that I have with him first he has a kid that he never mentioned until I saw a picture on his phone. His kid is in another state and he only visits him every month or two. ...

My ex fiancé of 8 months cheated on me with his toxic ex than dumped me in October 2020. He got engaged to his ex in January 2021 and got married a few days ago. What I don’t understand is why now they were off and on again for 9 years why now get married when I was in the picture. He had 9 years to ask her to be his wife.Me and him were supposed to be married in December 22 2020. It’s like a...

Long story short, my husband and i have been together 21 years, most were good. The last five have been bad, at times very bad, and we've def lost trust and communication, but we claim to love each other and want to make it work. That being said, i still catch my husband withholding things from me, telling little white lies about small things, just generally not trying like he said. He's also bec...

My bf and I do love each other and he’s really pushing to marry me after our 19 month courtship. Actually he was pushing to marry me well before but I told him I needed time. So now fast forward several months of spending time together. We are generally compatible including our interests and sex life. But over this time he has shown certain personality issues and I don’t know if they will get ...

My husband and I have been together for 8 years, married for 3 and have a gorgeous almost 2 year old son together. He confided in me early on that he suffered with bulimia from the age of around 15 due to being very overweight as a child and being bullied mercilessly for it at school. He’s always had issues with his self image and pride. Shortly after we got together, when he was about 2...

(English is not my first language so if my grammar sucks I’m sorry :) ) First some background information: I have been friends with this guy A for about 8 years and we’ve become best friends about 1,5 years ago. I’m also really good friends with another guy B for about a year. The problem is when we are both (very) drunk, we have a habit of “touching” each other. It started with just...

(Edited) My boyfriend and I have been together for a few years now and he spends most of his spare time playing on the PlayStation! We both work busy jobs throughout the days/weekends, he gets home late evening and goes straight to play on the PlayStation! We only really get to see each other when we are having dinner. We are currently living with Family so ...

Hi, I met this girl 7 years ago in college I fell for her and expressed my feelings for her.. soon we were in a relationship, she is kind of an extrovert open minded and fun loving person and gets along pretty well with most people! I am an introvert and i would like to call myself focused person. Our relationship was pretty fine we both loved each other, she loves to eat out, have fun and ...

Hello. My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months and he gets out in 4. We met while he was inside and the closer it gets the more anxious i feel. We talk about it but i think its a risk. I dont really know what to do. He seems kind of reassuring but idk. I use to say if he gets out and ghosts me I will deal with it but now being in it if he did that I'd lose it. I have done alot for him....

Hi I have been with my partner 7 months. I see he has watched porn and I don't want that in my relationship. I think it best to separate which is a shame. We have talked about it and he said its no big deal he can't see why it should be. He dies not do it much. But I don't like it as it najes me see images if him in my head enjoying that and I kniw we are fine in our relationship but it's what he'...

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years, but my parents dont know. I'm already in my third year of college and my parents are pretty anal abt me dating and they want me focused on my grades. BTW i go to school in another country and my parents stay in the US. I'm also an honor student, since like high school so I've never really had issues regarding my grades. my boyfriend, on the...

Hi, I'm in a relationship of more than 7 years. My boyfriend is kind of controlling. He's not a bad person but sometimes he wants to control everything. I mean he wants me to change myself according to him. So I was in college when i first met him and it was my first relationship. I didn't have much friends in graduation and he was my priority. I used to spend all the time with him in graduation....

i don't think anyone takes me seriously. i act a bit mature for my age but that's because i haven't gotten to live a "real" childhood. i'm pretty sure everyone think i'm always lying or that i'm just a little kid in a teenager's body and i just hate it so much. how do i get my friends, bf, and family to stop thinking of me like this?...

Dear Readers, Thank you for clicking on this thread, I hope everyone is staying safe. My boyfriend (28 yrs) and I (27 yrs) have known each other over 5 years, but been in a relationship for 15 months only. We've been a bit rocky, where trust issues has made us fight even broke up one time during the 15 months. Nobody ever cheated though, as far as I know. During the time we got back tog...

My wife and I have been married for 19 years. I am 46, and she is 40. We have two kids, a 16 year old son and a 13 year old daughter. Our son is graduating high school this year and has already completed 2 years of college completed. He will go to college next year away from home. Daughter will start high school next year. Wife had an affair 13 years ago, and we worked things out...but we never...

My girlfriend deals with anxiety and now recent depression because of stresses in her life. She got overwhelmed with stress in life and from affection from me and asked for space and to go slow and pull back from the relationship. She sees us as still dating and not talking to anyone else. We spent the holidays together and went through having COVID together so we spent a lot of time and only been...

Actually, I met a girl for about 6 months now. All I can say is we both realized that we love each other. I’m looking for some ideas of gifts I can buy on the online store that can be shipped to her on Valentine’s day. Do you guys have any ideas of shops or gifts for this occasion?...

I am a college teacher of 45 years of age and am married with two kids. Recently, it came to my notice that a student of mine of age approximately 21 years has developed a feeling about me. In return, I have also developed the same feeling about her. But, my sense does not allow me to go ahead with this as I have a nice family and am a teacher of her. Nowadays, I realize that she i...

Me and my husband had a massive argument before Christmas which ended up being a blessing in disguise, for the past 5 years there has been physical affection in our marriage inc sex. We both acknowledged we are more like parents living together. Over Christmas I tried to offer my husband affection, however it was just very awkward for both of us. I think working alternative shifts and having a you...

Hi there, I am seeking a perspective that might help me to understand my cause of distrust and be free from it. I am in a newish relationship about 6 month. It is going very well, and my partner invests a lot of time and effort into our relationship. He makes an effort with my family, he has been vulnerable and opened up to me about past hurts. Everything is going very well... and then... there i...

In laws throwing a fit about the idea of my family moving. Was told that I may as well have another kid and leave the other with them because they are not going to allow us to move with their grandchild. Mind you that this is a retirement community and we cannot afford to own a house here. There is nothing here for young families. They don't understand because they dont have to rent and never boug...

My girlfriend has been trying to communicate for a few weeks of me being overwhelming with affection and not enough random conversations outside of our relationship. At the same time she's going through many other stresses in life but the whole time has wanted me there with her to help, comfort, and hangout. She has brought up all the serious talks for relationship first and has said many times ho...

Hi, Thank you for taking time to help me if you are ready this. Backstory - My girlfriend and I met 7 years ago in college but just started dating 2 months ago and been official for almost a month. We didn't stay in contact over the years hardly even at all just because it happened that way. But we both always had a crush on each other since we met and talked a lot when we met. Now we are t...

I’m driving myself crazy. I feel so guilty. I want to be with someone else, but can’t find the courage to admit it. I don’t have enough reason to leave my relationship aside from this. Except for feeling for years like my partner doesn’t really know me and that he’s perfect, but not perfect for me. I feel like it’s too late, I should be happy now. Until a guy came into my life who I fe...

I need some help with my relationship. I’m 22 years old and I have 1 kid and 1 on the way with someone. I would like to think I love this man but I’m not sure I ever have really. He earns well and therefore I am lucky enough to not need to work, but as I haven’t worked for some time I feel as if I would not be capable to provide on my own. From an outside point of view I have everything, nic...

TW: suicide I was in a relationship with this guy for nearly 2 years. We've been through thick and thin, I've struggled a lot with my mental health, attempted many times, and had 4 psych ward visits as well as being kicked out of my home twice. Despite that, he stayed strong for me and continued to support me. I've always been moody and hard to handle at times, but so loving and caring, and a g...

Hello all, I hope to get some constructive advice here as I have encountered what has become a frustrating situation. This past year (going back to about May of 2020), I began flirting with a woman I worked with and she was flirting with me as well. We knew each other for about 8 months prior to this. It started out playfully but I quickly became smitten with her and after a couple of mont...

So we have been together for almost 4 years. The issues I have are that he says he adores me wants to move in with me in the next 2 months and I'm unsure. He keeps leaving in the night with no explanation. Doesn't call and expects me to chase all the time. Uses excuses such as I just come when I'm feeling upset or I just want a good night's sleep. I have fibromyalgia and other long term health iss...

I think my girlfriend's friends are a bad influence to her that might lead to her cheating on me or being endangered. What can I do to encourage her to get better friends or encourage them to me safer....

I have recently reconnected with an old schoolfriend via social media after a long period of time, which although is great, it has stirred up some very old emotions. At school I suppose I was 'in love ' with her but never had the courage to do anything about it. It probably sounds ridiculous but after 30+ years, all of the feelings and emotions have returned. I am currently in a relationsh...

I really need some advice and can’t go to anyone I know in “real life”. I don’t even know where to begin. This is going to be long, I will give as much detail as I can to help anyone understand my situation. I feel like I’m going crazy and need to let this off my chest. It is in regards to my marriage and personal life. To give some background information, I have been with my husband for...

I dated a man 3 years ago and the relationship lasted 1.5 years. He had a breakup a few months before we met and all I heard about the whole time was how this woman used him, how he gave her lots of his time and how she would mistreat him and her heroin addiction. He would keep me at arms distance even though I was trying to get closer and would often leave upset that he didn't consider ...

My gf had to move to a different city for work. We wanted to end things before they moved because they thought they couldn't handle long distance but once they moved we actually decided to stay together. We've only seen each other twice since they moved due to the pandemic so things have been strained between us and decided to go on a break and just be friends for a while. After seeing each other ...

After 2 months I am finally taking the initiative and going to my get my stuff from my ex. He has been saying he would send it for months and never did. It's a all day across country drive and he has offered for me to stay at his house to save $1000+ in hotel costs which I don't have anyway. We havent talked about the separation there was no big fight or anything. I'm really nervous because I want...

Hi , Me and my girlfriend had a big argument and I would like to sort things out with her.She said she isn't speaking with me until I speak to someone and get help. It's all because I told her I would never lie to her but I have. It wasn't a big lie but still I lied. I was drinking energy drinks and unhealthy fizzy drinks and she said I should stop. Yesterday I promised to her that I w...

My husband and I have been together for 3 years and married for 1/2 year. Let me first start off by saying that before my husband and I moved in together we were having sex 4x a week (that went on for about a year and a half). I moved in after a year and a half and sex dwindled significantly. He is VERY type "A" , mid 30s and never lived with anyone before, never had a serious relationship, so...

I met someone in an online server and developed feelings for them. I even think that they might feel the same way. We talk every day and support each other and they make me happy in ways Ive never felt before. I thought for a while wed make a really nice long distance couple. The problem comes in that sometime after I realized I fell for them I found out theyre only 17. Im 22. I know its only a ye...

Iv caught my husband exploring anal masturbation . He won't admit it at all calls me crazy he makes theses really loud moans and acts as if I'm losing my mind.i swear he has a vibrator in his butt cause I hear the buzzing and the vibration while in bed. He does this all the time sitting in the couch watching TV I look over and he's rolling his hips. He blamshiffts very bad while trying to ask abou...

Hi there. I'm Sarah, single mum to my two teenage sons one of which has autism, OCD, anxiety and sensory difficulties and who I care for and home educate. I have no respite but my parents visit each week to support where they can although they do find it difficult at times. I'm seeking a listening ear and hopefully another point of view on my situation. I've been seeing a guy who I've been me...

I was married for 20 years, we have been unhappy for the last 5. I made a friendship with a old boyfriend in February. We have always been in touch but only as friends. However we have both separated but we’re still Living with our spouses when we started talking. My situation was my husband didn’t want the divorce and made it so difficult/ he has since been arrested and cannot come near...

I was with my girlfriend for 3 years,back in may last year and after talking to her ex girlfriend she walked out. 4 weeks later she came back and we were working out our problems. I had issues with nagging and moaning. We were back together for 5 months,still i was trying to work on my issues. I was a lot better than i was but not perfect. My girlfriends dog died and she told her ex because they o...

Im a 26 year old guy, with no tertiary qualifications, who owns my own transport business in the private sector. I started it at the age of 19, i now employ 3 other people but im still very hands on so it involves me being a driver or mechanic at times. My business gives me an annual salary of R240 000($16000), plus the profits of the business put back in as capital and held in the value of assets...

I’ve known my best friend for almost 20years and I love him. We’ve lived in different continents for about 16 years but have stayed in close contact throughout since I moved away. We’ve never dated. I’d casually told him a few years ago that I liked him and he said “it was complicated”. I wasn’t bothered too much at the time as I don’t really want a long distance relationship myse...

Ive been with someone for 4 months. Weve shared some amazing experiences and I felt we had something very special despite us being very different and being long distance (2 hours but we saw each other twice a week) and having the restrictions of the pandemic to contend with. We had talked about the future and i was going to start spending more time at his home qhich i was happy about. We started t...

I want to settle in my hometown to be close to my family and friends – I have slept with a few girls a long time ago that are still in circles of friends. They are mainly in my secondary circle of friends in my hometown, although things can change quickly in a small town – my best friend’s brother and another guy in the main circle seem to be in contact with one of the girls. My girlfrien...

Hello, This is my first post on this forums and I am feeling rather ashamed and guilty doing this but I feel I would like an outsiders opinion on the situation I have managed to get myself into. ABOUT ME ******** I am a 38-year-old male, that seems to have a terrible time picking the right partner. I am a typical nice guy that just wants an easy life and tends to give in to my partner's pr...

I'm a bit lost.. In short we met some new friends who we spent a lot of time with and we both developed feelings for one another partners which ended up in us all having affairs, concurrently. The affairs lasted for approximately three months, and is your stereotypical 'exciting to meet someone else' affair. My wife developed feelings for him, as I wasn't showing any interest, and we both just ...

This is a long story so brace yourselves... About a year ago, I began working on a show as Assistant Director (I'm a theatre major). I started to get to know one of the actors more and more; we spent almost every break during rehearsals chatting and I ended up catching some serious feelings for him. I learned soon, though, that he had recently started dating this girl and after my initial shock...

Hi everyone Firstly, I’m from Scandinavia, so English is not my mother tongue..therefore I apologize for all my mistakes🙃 Husband and I have been together for 6 years. He's 33 y/I and I’m 36. We met in his country as I was on vacation. We visited each other pretty much every month (both students at that time, so it allowed us to live like that/to do so. Anyway, around 1.5 years afte...

I’m sorry if this seems like a ramble but I feel like I need someone to talk to as I feel I can’t talk to anyone about this . Me and my partner have been together for 2 years but was friends for well over a decade before we got together. Recently it has become very tough to live with him. Everything has to revolve around him and his emotional well-being but yet if my mental health is low...

Hello I am writing to get your help to resurrect my friendship with a work colleague who works for me. Basically we got to know each other since she had some problems at work and I helped her resolve it. She also had some issues with her present neighbour. Hence she decided to look for a new house. I gave some practical and first-hand advice based on my recent move. We were fine talking in per...

Hi, Firstly, I’m 21 just graduated from university working a part time job living at home with my parents. Not really sure how else to start this but here goes. For the last year or so, I’ve been really lonely, very few interactions with others outside my small family. Spend near enough most evenings on my own. I have had times with my friends but for the most part we don’t talk outside o...

Hello guys I’m hoping you can help me. I’m 22 and my boyfriend is 27 we have been together for nearly 2 years. I lived on my own before meeting him and he lived with his parents (which is not a problem for me) he then moved in with me and we agreed to go 5050. A couple of months with living with each other he lost his Job. It took him 2/3 months for him to find another job with A lot of pr...

Need Advice in a difficult choice So I have a decision to make in the next couple of months. I have been in a common law marriage for 9 years. 8 of those nine years my husband was not nice (emotionally abusive) and didn’t give me and my kids what we needed. We have been financially unstable and moved constantly. He has also been arrested numerous times and now has 2 felony charges (drug relat...

I brought Christmas presents for my exs children before he broke up with me a month ago. He is no longer talking to me but when he was he said he had Christmas presents for my children too. I haven't sent the presents to him yet because everyone is telling me not to because he broke up with me and it will kinda be like playing mind games trying to get him to talk to me. I still want to send them b...

I am feeling so much regret lately for leaving my ex. I broke up with him around 2 years ago and honestly, that first year I was in a haze. I ran from the issues and did not want to face it. I basically let my emotions end the relationship and my anger continue to stay away from him. I pushed the emotions, the memories, the thought, everything down to the bottom of my head and just ran. That is wh...

My boyfriend has a habit of sometimes telling me what to do. Example is I’ll start to drink diet ice tea and he’ll say do you know how many chemicals are in that drink and I’ll say yea but I don’t drink too much and he’ll say don’t drink it because it’s really bad for you look at the ingredients. Another recent time as I was getting in the bed he asked did you brush your teeth and wa...

I discovered my husband had been having an affair 3 years ago. He has always maintained that the reason it happened was because I hadn’t “been a dutiful wife in the bedroom”, although we were still having regular, if predictable, sex. I saw a Counsellor (he didn’t want to) and he worried at each session I might want a divorce. I didn’t. And still don’t. After a lot of counselling,...

I am 18 and about a month ago I got into a relationship with someone from work. He is amazing and we love each other however he is much older than me. (almost 20 years...) I have tried to introduce the idea of him to my mum but before even mentioning that he is my boyfriend she said to get the idea of him out of my head as he is too old for me. Will this mean that the relationship will not work? A...

I have a boyfriend who hardly ask people how you doing. Whenever he step out of his room to join us dinner, he will talk like a comedian or act like a clown to get everyone's attention. When he talk to you, he will look at you still, blink his eye, pause for a while, give a funny look. It is exactly like I am watching a comedy show. After he sit down he will start tell you things about himself, w...

If your partner is texting you like normal. And you know you’ve been friendly over text all day sending and initiating texts every couple of hours like norm. (He gets mad when I don’t text him first) And an hour goes past. And he tells you that ‘You’ve been so very very quiet tonight and that he hopes I’m okay because he’s worried and that he’s going to bed. With no goodnight ...

My fiance and I have been together for about 3 years, friends for 10 years. When we first started dating I was living on my own in a large city and him back in our home town with his parents. I was 25 he was 27. Throughout our relationship I decided to move home to continue our relationship and then we became engaged. Until I moved back to our hometown I had lived on my own since I was 20. We live...

First of all - I've (52f) been in intensive therapy for a few years to help process an extremely abusive childhood and traumatic adulthood. It's been a rough go but I'm much happier and I've come a long way in how I deal with relationships of every sort. I haven't yet addressed this particular issue with my therapist and would appreciate some feedback before deciding if it's a valid thread to pull...

Last week me (24f) and my boyfriend (24m) got engaged. We don't currently live together but he has been 'bubbled' with me and my parents (I live at home with them). On the proposal day he took me for a walk, we did some Christmas shopping and went to a place we hung out when we were kids. We got food to take home and once we'd eaten he popped the question. It was a total surprise and absolutel...

Hi I have seen this new date 3 times in 1 month , firstly I really like her , she seems sincere genuine kind etc softly spoken , she’s very likeable by friends family . She’s going threw upsetting time with her brother in hospital, so I’m taking a step back but I’m there for her if she needs to chat , she felt down and had two really dreary days so I took her bunch of flowers and chocolate...

Ok, so from the beginning. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year, it has been a rough year. In the beginning of our relationship, I was also flirting with a couple of other people and went to hang out with one of them. Nothing happened. There were many things I hid from my partner for the first 5 months we were together until he caught me in one lie and then we have been g...

This is not something I'm proud of, but I need advice and hope to get some on here please. I have been in a 10 year relationship with my fiance. He is a very loving person, wonderful husband material, kind - never had any qualms about our relationship throughout these 10 years and were planning to get married. We get along very well together, but at some point the relationship starting feeling l...

I have finished a 8 year relationship, I knew deep down long ago I wasn’t happy, Over the years i tried over and over to talk about my feelings, relationship I’m an open person, he wasn’t, not everyone is, but he literally wouldn’t acknowledge what I had said or say a word literally just be silent. Over the years I thought it will change but it hasn’t so i finished it. We haven’t arg...

I’ve been with my partner for a year and a half. He has 2 children I have 3. We live 20 minutes from each other and work together. We’ve broken up a few times. Mainly me because we don’t see each other. It’s one night every 2 weeks. He’s always hid his phone. Barley plans anything and there have been numerous women he’s spoken to behind my back. Including one woman who jumped his fen...

My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for two years now. We have been friends for a long time before that. Recently, he has not been spending as much time with me as I want him to. Because of this, we previously had a minor breakup in January, but then got back together again. I love him and he's absolutely in love with me, and after our mini breakup he changed his ways and gave me the ti...

I'm a 27 year old gay male. In mid-2019, a 1 year 7 month relationship with a guy I really loved ended. It was a mutual decision to end the relationship. There was no fighting. In fact, we both still consider us to be really good friends. It sounds weird, but I still cannot get over him. I have tried to move on, but I simply cannot make it happen. I know the fact that we've maintained contact has...

There is this couple that started their relationship as an affair when they were both married to two different people. The marriage of her ended two months after not only because of this affair but also due to previous problems in the relationship. Everything started as just having fun but little by little, they both started falling in love for each other, feelings were very strong and they both r...

Hi this morning my partner popped out with my 3 year old on what he said was a secret mission. We have been together for 18 years. I was at home looking after our newborn. On return my 3 year old came in and said that they had a ring. My partner said well now he has ruined the surprise you may as well have it. They had been shopping for an engagement ring. My partner presented me with the ring b...

The guy I totally fancied years ago ended up trying to kiss me even though he knows I have a boyfriend now. We were together for the first time in months because he is now best friends with my friends boyfriend so we sometimes bump into each other at their house. I thought we were all just having a good laugh together and enjoyed the fact we were like good friends. I wasn’t expecting it at a...

Hi, I’ve been struggling with this for some time, I have a 14 year old son from a previous relationship. I met my husband 7 years ago and we recently go married and have a daughter. There have been various displays of behaviour from my ex that I imagine many separated couples go through, basically him trying to make me jealous, overly spoiling son on what felt like an attempt to buy his affectio...

I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. We have both been previously married and we both have 2 grown children. I really care for him and want to share our lives together. We moved in together after a year of being together. He has met my kids and my family now over a year ago but I have not met his. This is were my issue is. His kids who are 23 and 19 as well as his mom do not no I even...

Long story but i need someone elses view on my situation. I struggle to deal with issues and confrontation and its causing more arguements than needed. I was in a long term relationship of 8 years which majority of this was mentally torturing but i felt trapped. Despite everyones plea that shes was changing who i was. effecting me as a person. I stayed because i thought she was the one! Fast fo...

Earlier this year I found out my wife had been sexting an old flame in Wyoming. The things they said to each other made me physically sick to my stomach. I told her I could forgive her but the words I saw keep coming back to haunt me. M desperate to talk to someone about this. Do I continue to live with it or seek professional help thanks Sham....

currently i have a fwb who i dated for three years in high school but broke up with. but i’m in love with a guy i worked with two years ago who now has a girlfriend but texts me every day. another guy who i like asked me on a trip a tropical country and i am going with him. i don’t know what do or who to talk to or if i should just not talk to any of them. ...

Throughout my 6 year relationship, me and my partner have grown and achieved so much together, often with the help of the on another. He is very stable whereas I can be very unstable, he is anxious where I am confident, he can stay calm where I would become annoyed. On paper, there are many positives about him and the relationship as far as future prospects go. There has been, however, many recurr...

The last few weeks have been a nightmare. A few members of my immediate family have contracted the Covid virus and one of them has been hospitalized. In addition, my cat of 17 years almost died the other night from congestive heart failure. First, the vet told me that he has cardiomyopathy and a very damaged heart so he may not survive long and now they called tonight to tell me the x-rays also re...

My husband is a wonderful person who has always treated me well. This is my major insecurity causing me to feel down. Several years ago (before we were married), one of his ex's came up. We were with his friend and they were discussing hot celebrities. His friend mentioned that one celebrity reminded him of my then bf's 1st ex, how attractive she was. My bf agreed with him and I was a litt...

I am 28 (almost 29) and I have the most beautiful 5 year old girl. I have been with the man I thought I loved for about 4 years now. It was so great at first, we gradually got to know each other and eventually around almost 2 years moved in together (with my daughter). As we pretty much lived together, he stayed with me in an apartment and I paid all of the bills. He would ask me for $50 here and ...

Hi everybody, so my boyfriend and I had already talked about this and we kind of sorted things out, he said he felt comfortable speaking with me about it and so on, so I decided to give him a chance and start from there but recently I found out some things I didn’t know of which I don’t know what to think of. Below these lines I will give a brief explanation of my general situation, p...

I love buying things for my boyfriend, and he clearly loves receiving them. He tends to like one thing in particular for a month or so, and sometimes I will get it for him. He's always excited to get it. The problem is that if I tell him I'm buying it before I actually do, he tries to talk me out of it. It starts out light-hearted. He says how he really doesn't need it and I should spend my mon...

So back in school way before covid I started talking to this guy I had a crush on. Eventually we both had a crush on eachother and would text on snapchat or call almost everyday after school. We didn't ever end up officially dating because it was still too early for all of that. But when school shut down in March and everything was online he stopped talking to me completely. I still tried talki...

I've been married (I'm 37M, she's 36F) for almost 15 years. Our marriage has certainly had it's share of ups and downs. Shortly after we were engaged I left my career in law enforcement with a diagnosis of PTSD. She was very supportive of my issues, and I was devoted to her entirely for staying with me. I believe in loyalty to a severe degree, and the fact that she never waivered was the most I co...

Hi I've posted a cpl of times before..honestly because I have no one to talk. My bf and I have had a bad sex life the last year not me him he's too tired not in the mood etc then September I caught him masturbating I didn't say at time then asked told me it was only a cpl times since been together tried to move on the happened again so I went away for a break without him so we could see if we ...

Hey all, I started dating this guy I met in college; we’ve been going out for 7 months now. At first, things were going well; but as time passes, I have real doubts about this relationship. 1-he told me he ‘couldn’t feel my vagina’, immediately assuming the problem was me. Granted, I get very wet when we have sex, but I’ve never had that problem with my previous partners; and I do f...

I hear some men say they prefer a woman not to play hard to get. But I hear some say they like it. Here is my story: So I am not the kind of girl who likes to play hard to get. If anything, I'm the opposite - I play easy to get. I am so weak for my crushes and cannot resist, so it is so hard to do so. BUT that does not mean I am clingy. I could so easily avoid that as I am so shy and careful arou...

Hi Alll Been with my hubby 20yrs now and all was fantastic until 7 years ago he was a naughty boy (let’s say) I was devastated to say the least!!! A lot of unhappiness was about for some months and thought as I loved him I would forgive him! If I’m honest since that time I have never trusted my husband but tried my best to get on lives together as this is and was I believe totally out of cha...

I have been hooking up with a boy since I was 15 (I'm now 26). I'm now just really confused with the our relationship it is basically "friends with benefits". Recently he's started talking about having a future partner and it's really hurt me because I feel like I'm good enough for him to hook up with but not be his girlfriend. I've met his parents and sibling but he wants our hook ups now to b...

Sorry this is long, I'm a writer and don't know how to shorten anything up. There's a ton of backstory, but I met "Robert". He was a customer I'd never seen before. It was instant attraction. He never talked, but he started coming in more and more. He asked me out, we went out a few times, but I was basically living with a guy (John) at the point in time to just not be homeless, because I had been...

I have been dating a guy consistently for three months and to be honest it felt perfect. We were getting along, we had similar values, and great conversation everyday and our dates were always nice. Two days ago he was telling me he missed me and he can't wait till I cook for him some day (He's attracted to girls who cook and we always talked about him trying my cooking) and then the next day, he ...

My girlfriend and I have been dating 10 months. We have a great relationship most of the time. She has been hurt a lot so sometimes she gets butt hurt(her words not mine) She has 2 younger children which I adore and they adore me. We get to spend every weekend with eachother and we usually just hang out at her place or mine. She likes to get butt hurt about things that are just silly. One morning ...

So tonight I discovered my partner has been secretly watching porn. This shouldn't be a problem i am no prude,our sex life is good. Could be better but sharing a house with paper thin walls with our 17 and 21 year old kids and working full time we never get a minute's peace. But we try make up for it where possible. We've always had a great relationship. 3 kids 2 grandkids we don't have alot but...

Over the last year my husband has started drinking more, and at a local strip club. I do not normally have an issue with strip clubs, but do not want my husband to be a regular. I have asked him repeatedly not to go there, but he continues, claiming it is "just another bar" to him and I have no reason to worry. Is it wrong for me to make a deal out of this? I am considering giving him a...

I admit I'm a person who always likes to please and avoid any type of controversy. My bf of 15 months is very loving but can be very intrusive too and has a tendency not to be sensitive to the needs of others sometimes (including how and what he says). Now to the issue: I told him I needed this past weekend alone with my child visiting from far away for only a week. Since I told him, he has been a...

Hi, this is my first time on a forum . I’m looking for impartial anonymous advice . It’s my 40th birthday in a months time which has been difficult to plan due to covid but I’m still hoping to get away and do something as usually I don’t do much but 40 is a big milestone. My wife is from the Philippines and has a mother with mental health issues , her mum is been forced into moving hou...

(Here goes...) - I'm 31, I'll be 32 next March. I grew up in Los Angeles, where my aspirations were akin to today's youth who aspire to YouTube Fame. My dream of being an entertainer failed at age 25/26, after experiencing a traumatic event in the industry that left me confused and lost. Luckily, I managed to obtain a Bachelor's Degree while I was in Hollywood. In survival mode, I sought a job...

I was divorced over 16 years ago with no kids after being married for almost 7 years. Since then, I have an ex-girlfriend I've known over 15 years, call her Woman A. Woman A and I have seen each other on and off since and have both had other relationships. One of those relationships, call her Woman B, went on for around three years on and off, and broke off around 2 years ago. Woman B had contacte...

I always been a bit of a loner and I always been the type to have only a few trustworthy friends around me. Over the years I either fell out with some of this friends because they let me down and disappointed me for various reasons or just because we have less contact with each other because we spent a lot of time with family and work. My wife recently told me that she finds loners like myself ...

I was recently talking to my husband about our joint life insurance and he said, 3 years ago he was thinking of changing it so I would only get £1. he said at the time I had really been going on at him and it crossed his mind for a few seconds then went out of his mind. he said he would wonder what the look on my face would be like. he said I would only give our children £25 each and i would kee...

I fell in love with my brother's girlfriend after trying to save her from the toxic atmosphere that he has trapped her in. They are constantly fighting, to the point it get violent, and she has become suicidal on more than one occasion and I've done my absolute best to just be a friend. I don't want to ruin my relationship with him or my friendship with her and I would appreciate any advice I can ...

Hi everyone! I am new on here and I'm looking for some advice on my relationship predicament. I apologize it is somewhat complicated/lengthy. I have been with this guy for 4 years. Our personalities are basically the same and we like all of the same stuff. But, lately we have been drifting apart and he doesn't communicate well at all. His major downfalls are that he cannot seem to get his life...

I got into a relationship with someone for almost 3 months. He is very close with his ex that was with him for 9 years. They constantly are messaging each other. I am uncomfortable when I am around them so I chose to not be around her. What do I do? My mind I wanna stay with him but I can’t be comfortable with her around....

Hi, I was hoping you could help me with some advise. My husband and i have been married for 22 yrs, not all of them have been happy. We've had alot of struggles with him showing me real affection and showing emotion. He expected me to just know he loved me. Long story short , i moved out and decided that was it. I was tired of begging for attention and affection. I did the worst thing i can do. I ...

Would you consider it emotional or a form of cheating when a man starts a relationship with you while still having feelings for his ex-girlfriend? In addition, he comments with hearts and flames on his female friends Instagram pictures which are very sexual, meaning showing their naked butts and naked breasts. He would never leave a comment under his girlfriends pictures which are non-sexual. He...

I dated this guy off and on a year ago. We were very toxic and long story short it never worked because A-he took my best friend's virginity prior to us dating but he loved her B-he said I assume the worst or C-he pressured me into things and my parents hate him. Now it's been a while and I saw him. We spent a few hours together one night, but nothing happened really. He acted as he loved me. Well...

Looking for help and advice! I’ve never posted on anything like this before but I feel like I’m beginning to exhaust all options so I suppose that I’m hoping that someone who has maybe been in a similar situation before can help. I have been with my partner for 15 years now. I fell pregnant at the age of 20 with our now 14 year old daughter and although it wasn’t planned and we strug...

I am wanting advice, my husband and I have 2 beautiful kids when we first discussed having children we agreed that 3 kids no more so all along that has been the plan we have been through a rough couple of years and it hasn't been the right time for another child we now have our life back on track and when I bought up the subject of possibly having another kids in maybe a year year and a half he sa...

Please feel free to tell me that I’m being unreasonable or overly paranoid. I’ve got a girlfriend who seems to relish being the other woman, has no qualms whatsoever about being with married men or men in committed long term relationships. She also has a real love for being a martyr, and letting men treat her terribly. The other day, she was supposedly having a Halloween party. I show up wi...

I am here to find the best woman in my life the person can love me with all of heard also the woman that i will cherish forever thanks....

My bf and I are in our 60s and have been together more than a year. While I'm aware he can be somewhat bossy and too harsh with words, he generally is very loving and kind. However, my adult daughter met him once last year and he came off as brash and bossy to the point where she cried. He was picking on our family cat, who has been a source of comfort for me and my kids since my husband (their d...

Where do I start? Here goes. I find myself very destructive in relationships, this is on going and really hurts the other party. I have underlying trust issues, I'm the first person to admit that. I feel these stem from 2009 ish when my cousin apparently got close to my wife, who was then my girlfriend. He died in 2016 and 3 months later I was kicked out of the martial home. We had...