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Anyhow, a few months ago, reconnected with an old friend/flame. For maybe a month, everything was great. But then I had a plan to go spend time with my family over the holidays (WFH is awesome!), so I would be out of the area for about a month. (This includes time before/after to quarantine because I'm trying to be semi-responsible.) I spent the evening before I began quarantine with friend. Bu...

I have been in a relationship for 2 years now with my partner, we live together. this is after both of us ended our respective marriages. My divorce was sorted quickly, we have not kids, my ex and I are still friends and get along well. My partner's divorce on the other hand has been a nightmare. There are children involved and his ex is, well... a narcissistic sociopath, she tried to take the...

I have no friends. I am a 28 year old female and I can speak to people easily ;I'm not shy. Currently I study an online degree and to earn money, I pick up ad-hoc work as and when I can. I've befriended people in the past quickly and hung out with them (prior to lockdown), only then to discover that they are not for me due to several reasons (one friend would act immature and childish) and the oth...

So, ive been with my husband since we was 16/17 years old which during that time, he hasn't had a very close relationship with his mom due to his childhood with his step dad. He has a younger half sister who he isn't really close with either. Now, since being pregnant, all of a sudden they want to be involved and I just don't understand why. Since we have been living together (9 years), they rarel...

My mom went off on me this morning, she was absolutely fine, absolutely fine, she was laying with me and we were talking. Then my grandma called asking if I wanted to go get lunch. So I said yes, all of a sudden my mom is like "Get up now you need to get ready" Over and over and She is not taking me for 2 hours!! I do have a class between then but all I have to do is put on a shirt and shorts.... ...

Hi, the problem I want to talk about seems simple: I have a feeling I shouldn´t have married my wife. We have a lovely son and we are expecting a second baby. A year ago, when the first lockdown in my country was imposed, we separated for a month or so. However, I couldn´t handle not being with my son, so I moved back and tried to make everything up. I´m a teacher, I´ve been teaching online...

Would you allow your partner to take a 2 week break from you and the relationship with no communication between you two? I feel slighted, sad, angry, and hurt that they told me they want a break because they have alot going on in their lives. Well I do too, and I should be included. I'm not running away because my life is chaotic and messy , I feel like they shouldn't either. am I overreacting? Sh...

TL/DR: We opened our relationship, my partner has fallen for someone, im overcome with jealousy and wish I never did this in the first place My partner and I are 21 and have been together for about 7 years. I would say we’re in an extremely emotionally close and loving relationship, but since we moved in together our sex life diminished dramatically. I guess because I was getting bored and w...

My husband and I coparent with his ex wife. I find myself constantly comparing myself to her. My first marriage was horrible and ruined my self esteem so I know this is partially the reason. My current husband told me from the get go that he will always love his ex bc she is the mother of his children. I feel like that is another reason for my self esteem issues as I have absolutely no love fo...

Here’s the scenario. VDay was (from start to almost finish) verging on the best day ever. We woke up early, made breakfast, watched some Netflix and had an Afternoon Nap. When I woke up it was only 1:30pm. The room was dark and AC was blowing, perfect vibe for awesome afternoon sex! The day couldn’t get better i thought, but it did. She told me I had an hour to get ready for a place she...

I know I shouldn't have but I checked partners phone this morning and found that he had yet again taken a semi hard dick pic which he hasn't sent to me. This isn't the first time he has done this. I questioned him the last time and he said he was going to send to me, but felt that as things weren't great between us, that he shouldn't do it. I'm going through a tough time, emotionally and mentall...

Hello there, I recently found this forum so I decided to ask for some advice here. I am a girl, 18 years old and currently I am in a relationship with a really sweet guy. To mention, I’ve never had a boyfriend before so he is my first one. He is a really nice person, he is sweet, caring, he keeps showing me the perfect amount of love and everything else is just perfect. The problem is that I ...

i don't have a good relationship with my parents , they are too strict,controlling and always make me insecure and feel bad about myself , i ve been going through anxiety since i was a child , always bad memories come to my mind and a lot shit is happening in the present moment , they make me feel as i m not enough . but how could i live with them in peace ? i ve hated my life with them since i w...

I have a baby out of wedlock.but the man am with is not the father to the baby. but he does not know about that, so and he is not married to me yet. and there is this other guy that I love so much each time sleep or in my leisure time I think about him but he does not want the baby boy. he said I should give the baby to his father and also the man that is standing has his father I have been havin...

Hi everyone, it's my first post here and I can't believe I am resorting to seeking advice for my manager. I guess I should put my entire life on the line and let ransom strangers all over the internet decide my fate but here it goes. There is a manager at my work and he's really hot and appears to be a complete sweet heart. I was going through a lot of problems and did not treat him very kindl...

We have been together for 4yrs we have a 1yr old I wanted to talk about marriage and he doesn't want to. I am hurt and broken and he says its not me that its him. He cant promise that commitment to me ever pretty much. I am currently packing my stuff😥 its awful that whatever it is it is stronger than him caring about us his family. He says it means total control of the other person when you m...

Can you be friends with the opposite sex without anything going on between you. I met my husband through a dating site he was friends with a older woman before he met me who he had known since he was young and living at home. his parents were friendly with her and her husband and they used to get together for meals and the woman ended up working with my husband years later. he did not recognize he...

My husband as worked for a company for 7 years as a sales rep out on the road. The first time he went for the interview I was with him and I remember a woman coming out from the office and saying, goodbye and said my husbands name. I thought it was odd that she walked out with him and Im sure he told me that she asked what he was going to be doing after the interview. he had been interviewed by he...

I have been dating this guy I met 5 months ago online. We really hit it off and got along so well in person. Our sexual, physical and emotional chemistry is unlike any other guy I have dated before. There is a few set backs that I have with him first he has a kid that he never mentioned until I saw a picture on his phone. His kid is in another state and he only visits him every month or two. ...

My ex fiancé of 8 months cheated on me with his toxic ex than dumped me in October 2020. He got engaged to his ex in January 2021 and got married a few days ago. What I don’t understand is why now they were off and on again for 9 years why now get married when I was in the picture. He had 9 years to ask her to be his wife.Me and him were supposed to be married in December 22 2020. It’s like a...

Long story short, my husband and i have been together 21 years, most were good. The last five have been bad, at times very bad, and we've def lost trust and communication, but we claim to love each other and want to make it work. That being said, i still catch my husband withholding things from me, telling little white lies about small things, just generally not trying like he said. He's also bec...

My bf and I do love each other and he’s really pushing to marry me after our 19 month courtship. Actually he was pushing to marry me well before but I told him I needed time. So now fast forward several months of spending time together. We are generally compatible including our interests and sex life. But over this time he has shown certain personality issues and I don’t know if they will get ...

My husband and I have been together for 8 years, married for 3 and have a gorgeous almost 2 year old son together. He confided in me early on that he suffered with bulimia from the age of around 15 due to being very overweight as a child and being bullied mercilessly for it at school. He’s always had issues with his self image and pride. Shortly after we got together, when he was about 2...

(English is not my first language so if my grammar sucks I’m sorry :) ) First some background information: I have been friends with this guy A for about 8 years and we’ve become best friends about 1,5 years ago. I’m also really good friends with another guy B for about a year. The problem is when we are both (very) drunk, we have a habit of “touching” each other. It started with just...

(Edited) My boyfriend and I have been together for a few years now and he spends most of his spare time playing on the PlayStation! We both work busy jobs throughout the days/weekends, he gets home late evening and goes straight to play on the PlayStation! We only really get to see each other when we are having dinner. We are currently living with Family so ...

Hi, I met this girl 7 years ago in college I fell for her and expressed my feelings for her.. soon we were in a relationship, she is kind of an extrovert open minded and fun loving person and gets along pretty well with most people! I am an introvert and i would like to call myself focused person. Our relationship was pretty fine we both loved each other, she loves to eat out, have fun and ...

Hello. My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months and he gets out in 4. We met while he was inside and the closer it gets the more anxious i feel. We talk about it but i think its a risk. I dont really know what to do. He seems kind of reassuring but idk. I use to say if he gets out and ghosts me I will deal with it but now being in it if he did that I'd lose it. I have done alot for him....

Hi I have been with my partner 7 months. I see he has watched porn and I don't want that in my relationship. I think it best to separate which is a shame. We have talked about it and he said its no big deal he can't see why it should be. He dies not do it much. But I don't like it as it najes me see images if him in my head enjoying that and I kniw we are fine in our relationship but it's what he'...

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years, but my parents dont know. I'm already in my third year of college and my parents are pretty anal abt me dating and they want me focused on my grades. BTW i go to school in another country and my parents stay in the US. I'm also an honor student, since like high school so I've never really had issues regarding my grades. my boyfriend, on the...

Hi, I'm in a relationship of more than 7 years. My boyfriend is kind of controlling. He's not a bad person but sometimes he wants to control everything. I mean he wants me to change myself according to him. So I was in college when i first met him and it was my first relationship. I didn't have much friends in graduation and he was my priority. I used to spend all the time with him in graduation....

i don't think anyone takes me seriously. i act a bit mature for my age but that's because i haven't gotten to live a "real" childhood. i'm pretty sure everyone think i'm always lying or that i'm just a little kid in a teenager's body and i just hate it so much. how do i get my friends, bf, and family to stop thinking of me like this?...

Dear Readers, Thank you for clicking on this thread, I hope everyone is staying safe. My boyfriend (28 yrs) and I (27 yrs) have known each other over 5 years, but been in a relationship for 15 months only. We've been a bit rocky, where trust issues has made us fight even broke up one time during the 15 months. Nobody ever cheated though, as far as I know. During the time we got back tog...

My wife and I have been married for 19 years. I am 46, and she is 40. We have two kids, a 16 year old son and a 13 year old daughter. Our son is graduating high school this year and has already completed 2 years of college completed. He will go to college next year away from home. Daughter will start high school next year. Wife had an affair 13 years ago, and we worked things out...but we never...

My girlfriend deals with anxiety and now recent depression because of stresses in her life. She got overwhelmed with stress in life and from affection from me and asked for space and to go slow and pull back from the relationship. She sees us as still dating and not talking to anyone else. We spent the holidays together and went through having COVID together so we spent a lot of time and only been...

Actually, I met a girl for about 6 months now. All I can say is we both realized that we love each other. I’m looking for some ideas of gifts I can buy on the online store that can be shipped to her on Valentine’s day. Do you guys have any ideas of shops or gifts for this occasion?...

I am a college teacher of 45 years of age and am married with two kids. Recently, it came to my notice that a student of mine of age approximately 21 years has developed a feeling about me. In return, I have also developed the same feeling about her. But, my sense does not allow me to go ahead with this as I have a nice family and am a teacher of her. Nowadays, I realize that she i...

Me and my husband had a massive argument before Christmas which ended up being a blessing in disguise, for the past 5 years there has been physical affection in our marriage inc sex. We both acknowledged we are more like parents living together. Over Christmas I tried to offer my husband affection, however it was just very awkward for both of us. I think working alternative shifts and having a you...

Hi there, I am seeking a perspective that might help me to understand my cause of distrust and be free from it. I am in a newish relationship about 6 month. It is going very well, and my partner invests a lot of time and effort into our relationship. He makes an effort with my family, he has been vulnerable and opened up to me about past hurts. Everything is going very well... and then... there i...

In laws throwing a fit about the idea of my family moving. Was told that I may as well have another kid and leave the other with them because they are not going to allow us to move with their grandchild. Mind you that this is a retirement community and we cannot afford to own a house here. There is nothing here for young families. They don't understand because they dont have to rent and never boug...

My girlfriend has been trying to communicate for a few weeks of me being overwhelming with affection and not enough random conversations outside of our relationship. At the same time she's going through many other stresses in life but the whole time has wanted me there with her to help, comfort, and hangout. She has brought up all the serious talks for relationship first and has said many times ho...

Hi, Thank you for taking time to help me if you are ready this. Backstory - My girlfriend and I met 7 years ago in college but just started dating 2 months ago and been official for almost a month. We didn't stay in contact over the years hardly even at all just because it happened that way. But we both always had a crush on each other since we met and talked a lot when we met. Now we are t...

I’m driving myself crazy. I feel so guilty. I want to be with someone else, but can’t find the courage to admit it. I don’t have enough reason to leave my relationship aside from this. Except for feeling for years like my partner doesn’t really know me and that he’s perfect, but not perfect for me. I feel like it’s too late, I should be happy now. Until a guy came into my life who I fe...

I need some help with my relationship. I’m 22 years old and I have 1 kid and 1 on the way with someone. I would like to think I love this man but I’m not sure I ever have really. He earns well and therefore I am lucky enough to not need to work, but as I haven’t worked for some time I feel as if I would not be capable to provide on my own. From an outside point of view I have everything, nic...

TW: suicide I was in a relationship with this guy for nearly 2 years. We've been through thick and thin, I've struggled a lot with my mental health, attempted many times, and had 4 psych ward visits as well as being kicked out of my home twice. Despite that, he stayed strong for me and continued to support me. I've always been moody and hard to handle at times, but so loving and caring, and a g...

Hello all, I hope to get some constructive advice here as I have encountered what has become a frustrating situation. This past year (going back to about May of 2020), I began flirting with a woman I worked with and she was flirting with me as well. We knew each other for about 8 months prior to this. It started out playfully but I quickly became smitten with her and after a couple of mont...

So we have been together for almost 4 years. The issues I have are that he says he adores me wants to move in with me in the next 2 months and I'm unsure. He keeps leaving in the night with no explanation. Doesn't call and expects me to chase all the time. Uses excuses such as I just come when I'm feeling upset or I just want a good night's sleep. I have fibromyalgia and other long term health iss...

I think my girlfriend's friends are a bad influence to her that might lead to her cheating on me or being endangered. What can I do to encourage her to get better friends or encourage them to me safer....

I have recently reconnected with an old schoolfriend via social media after a long period of time, which although is great, it has stirred up some very old emotions. At school I suppose I was 'in love ' with her but never had the courage to do anything about it. It probably sounds ridiculous but after 30+ years, all of the feelings and emotions have returned. I am currently in a relationsh...

I really need some advice and can’t go to anyone I know in “real life”. I don’t even know where to begin. This is going to be long, I will give as much detail as I can to help anyone understand my situation. I feel like I’m going crazy and need to let this off my chest. It is in regards to my marriage and personal life. To give some background information, I have been with my husband for...

I dated a man 3 years ago and the relationship lasted 1.5 years. He had a breakup a few months before we met and all I heard about the whole time was how this woman used him, how he gave her lots of his time and how she would mistreat him and her heroin addiction. He would keep me at arms distance even though I was trying to get closer and would often leave upset that he didn't consider ...

My gf had to move to a different city for work. We wanted to end things before they moved because they thought they couldn't handle long distance but once they moved we actually decided to stay together. We've only seen each other twice since they moved due to the pandemic so things have been strained between us and decided to go on a break and just be friends for a while. After seeing each other ...

After 2 months I am finally taking the initiative and going to my get my stuff from my ex. He has been saying he would send it for months and never did. It's a all day across country drive and he has offered for me to stay at his house to save $1000+ in hotel costs which I don't have anyway. We havent talked about the separation there was no big fight or anything. I'm really nervous because I want...

Hi , Me and my girlfriend had a big argument and I would like to sort things out with her.She said she isn't speaking with me until I speak to someone and get help. It's all because I told her I would never lie to her but I have. It wasn't a big lie but still I lied. I was drinking energy drinks and unhealthy fizzy drinks and she said I should stop. Yesterday I promised to her that I w...

My husband and I have been together for 3 years and married for 1/2 year. Let me first start off by saying that before my husband and I moved in together we were having sex 4x a week (that went on for about a year and a half). I moved in after a year and a half and sex dwindled significantly. He is VERY type "A" , mid 30s and never lived with anyone before, never had a serious relationship, so...

I met someone in an online server and developed feelings for them. I even think that they might feel the same way. We talk every day and support each other and they make me happy in ways Ive never felt before. I thought for a while wed make a really nice long distance couple. The problem comes in that sometime after I realized I fell for them I found out theyre only 17. Im 22. I know its only a ye...

Iv caught my husband exploring anal masturbation . He won't admit it at all calls me crazy he makes theses really loud moans and acts as if I'm losing my mind.i swear he has a vibrator in his butt cause I hear the buzzing and the vibration while in bed. He does this all the time sitting in the couch watching TV I look over and he's rolling his hips. He blamshiffts very bad while trying to ask abou...

Hi there. I'm Sarah, single mum to my two teenage sons one of which has autism, OCD, anxiety and sensory difficulties and who I care for and home educate. I have no respite but my parents visit each week to support where they can although they do find it difficult at times. I'm seeking a listening ear and hopefully another point of view on my situation. I've been seeing a guy who I've been me...

I was married for 20 years, we have been unhappy for the last 5. I made a friendship with a old boyfriend in February. We have always been in touch but only as friends. However we have both separated but we’re still Living with our spouses when we started talking. My situation was my husband didn’t want the divorce and made it so difficult/ he has since been arrested and cannot come near...

I was with my girlfriend for 3 years,back in may last year and after talking to her ex girlfriend she walked out. 4 weeks later she came back and we were working out our problems. I had issues with nagging and moaning. We were back together for 5 months,still i was trying to work on my issues. I was a lot better than i was but not perfect. My girlfriends dog died and she told her ex because they o...

Im a 26 year old guy, with no tertiary qualifications, who owns my own transport business in the private sector. I started it at the age of 19, i now employ 3 other people but im still very hands on so it involves me being a driver or mechanic at times. My business gives me an annual salary of R240 000($16000), plus the profits of the business put back in as capital and held in the value of assets...

I’ve known my best friend for almost 20years and I love him. We’ve lived in different continents for about 16 years but have stayed in close contact throughout since I moved away. We’ve never dated. I’d casually told him a few years ago that I liked him and he said “it was complicated”. I wasn’t bothered too much at the time as I don’t really want a long distance relationship myse...

Ive been with someone for 4 months. Weve shared some amazing experiences and I felt we had something very special despite us being very different and being long distance (2 hours but we saw each other twice a week) and having the restrictions of the pandemic to contend with. We had talked about the future and i was going to start spending more time at his home qhich i was happy about. We started t...

I want to settle in my hometown to be close to my family and friends – I have slept with a few girls a long time ago that are still in circles of friends. They are mainly in my secondary circle of friends in my hometown, although things can change quickly in a small town – my best friend’s brother and another guy in the main circle seem to be in contact with one of the girls. My girlfrien...

Hello, This is my first post on this forums and I am feeling rather ashamed and guilty doing this but I feel I would like an outsiders opinion on the situation I have managed to get myself into. ABOUT ME ******** I am a 38-year-old male, that seems to have a terrible time picking the right partner. I am a typical nice guy that just wants an easy life and tends to give in to my partner's pr...

I'm a bit lost.. In short we met some new friends who we spent a lot of time with and we both developed feelings for one another partners which ended up in us all having affairs, concurrently. The affairs lasted for approximately three months, and is your stereotypical 'exciting to meet someone else' affair. My wife developed feelings for him, as I wasn't showing any interest, and we both just ...

This is a long story so brace yourselves... About a year ago, I began working on a show as Assistant Director (I'm a theatre major). I started to get to know one of the actors more and more; we spent almost every break during rehearsals chatting and I ended up catching some serious feelings for him. I learned soon, though, that he had recently started dating this girl and after my initial shock...

Hi everyone Firstly, I’m from Scandinavia, so English is not my mother tongue..therefore I apologize for all my mistakes🙃 Husband and I have been together for 6 years. He's 33 y/I and I’m 36. We met in his country as I was on vacation. We visited each other pretty much every month (both students at that time, so it allowed us to live like that/to do so. Anyway, around 1.5 years afte...

I’m sorry if this seems like a ramble but I feel like I need someone to talk to as I feel I can’t talk to anyone about this . Me and my partner have been together for 2 years but was friends for well over a decade before we got together. Recently it has become very tough to live with him. Everything has to revolve around him and his emotional well-being but yet if my mental health is low...

Hello I am writing to get your help to resurrect my friendship with a work colleague who works for me. Basically we got to know each other since she had some problems at work and I helped her resolve it. She also had some issues with her present neighbour. Hence she decided to look for a new house. I gave some practical and first-hand advice based on my recent move. We were fine talking in per...

Hi, Firstly, I’m 21 just graduated from university working a part time job living at home with my parents. Not really sure how else to start this but here goes. For the last year or so, I’ve been really lonely, very few interactions with others outside my small family. Spend near enough most evenings on my own. I have had times with my friends but for the most part we don’t talk outside o...

Hello guys I’m hoping you can help me. I’m 22 and my boyfriend is 27 we have been together for nearly 2 years. I lived on my own before meeting him and he lived with his parents (which is not a problem for me) he then moved in with me and we agreed to go 5050. A couple of months with living with each other he lost his Job. It took him 2/3 months for him to find another job with A lot of pr...

Need Advice in a difficult choice So I have a decision to make in the next couple of months. I have been in a common law marriage for 9 years. 8 of those nine years my husband was not nice (emotionally abusive) and didn’t give me and my kids what we needed. We have been financially unstable and moved constantly. He has also been arrested numerous times and now has 2 felony charges (drug relat...

I brought Christmas presents for my exs children before he broke up with me a month ago. He is no longer talking to me but when he was he said he had Christmas presents for my children too. I haven't sent the presents to him yet because everyone is telling me not to because he broke up with me and it will kinda be like playing mind games trying to get him to talk to me. I still want to send them b...

I am feeling so much regret lately for leaving my ex. I broke up with him around 2 years ago and honestly, that first year I was in a haze. I ran from the issues and did not want to face it. I basically let my emotions end the relationship and my anger continue to stay away from him. I pushed the emotions, the memories, the thought, everything down to the bottom of my head and just ran. That is wh...

My boyfriend has a habit of sometimes telling me what to do. Example is I’ll start to drink diet ice tea and he’ll say do you know how many chemicals are in that drink and I’ll say yea but I don’t drink too much and he’ll say don’t drink it because it’s really bad for you look at the ingredients. Another recent time as I was getting in the bed he asked did you brush your teeth and wa...

I discovered my husband had been having an affair 3 years ago. He has always maintained that the reason it happened was because I hadn’t “been a dutiful wife in the bedroom”, although we were still having regular, if predictable, sex. I saw a Counsellor (he didn’t want to) and he worried at each session I might want a divorce. I didn’t. And still don’t. After a lot of counselling,...

I am 18 and about a month ago I got into a relationship with someone from work. He is amazing and we love each other however he is much older than me. (almost 20 years...) I have tried to introduce the idea of him to my mum but before even mentioning that he is my boyfriend she said to get the idea of him out of my head as he is too old for me. Will this mean that the relationship will not work? A...

I have a boyfriend who hardly ask people how you doing. Whenever he step out of his room to join us dinner, he will talk like a comedian or act like a clown to get everyone's attention. When he talk to you, he will look at you still, blink his eye, pause for a while, give a funny look. It is exactly like I am watching a comedy show. After he sit down he will start tell you things about himself, w...

If your partner is texting you like normal. And you know you’ve been friendly over text all day sending and initiating texts every couple of hours like norm. (He gets mad when I don’t text him first) And an hour goes past. And he tells you that ‘You’ve been so very very quiet tonight and that he hopes I’m okay because he’s worried and that he’s going to bed. With no goodnight ...

My fiance and I have been together for about 3 years, friends for 10 years. When we first started dating I was living on my own in a large city and him back in our home town with his parents. I was 25 he was 27. Throughout our relationship I decided to move home to continue our relationship and then we became engaged. Until I moved back to our hometown I had lived on my own since I was 20. We live...

First of all - I've (52f) been in intensive therapy for a few years to help process an extremely abusive childhood and traumatic adulthood. It's been a rough go but I'm much happier and I've come a long way in how I deal with relationships of every sort. I haven't yet addressed this particular issue with my therapist and would appreciate some feedback before deciding if it's a valid thread to pull...

Last week me (24f) and my boyfriend (24m) got engaged. We don't currently live together but he has been 'bubbled' with me and my parents (I live at home with them). On the proposal day he took me for a walk, we did some Christmas shopping and went to a place we hung out when we were kids. We got food to take home and once we'd eaten he popped the question. It was a total surprise and absolutel...

Hi I have seen this new date 3 times in 1 month , firstly I really like her , she seems sincere genuine kind etc softly spoken , she’s very likeable by friends family . She’s going threw upsetting time with her brother in hospital, so I’m taking a step back but I’m there for her if she needs to chat , she felt down and had two really dreary days so I took her bunch of flowers and chocolate...

Ok, so from the beginning. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year, it has been a rough year. In the beginning of our relationship, I was also flirting with a couple of other people and went to hang out with one of them. Nothing happened. There were many things I hid from my partner for the first 5 months we were together until he caught me in one lie and then we have been g...

This is not something I'm proud of, but I need advice and hope to get some on here please. I have been in a 10 year relationship with my fiance. He is a very loving person, wonderful husband material, kind - never had any qualms about our relationship throughout these 10 years and were planning to get married. We get along very well together, but at some point the relationship starting feeling l...

I have finished a 8 year relationship, I knew deep down long ago I wasn’t happy, Over the years i tried over and over to talk about my feelings, relationship I’m an open person, he wasn’t, not everyone is, but he literally wouldn’t acknowledge what I had said or say a word literally just be silent. Over the years I thought it will change but it hasn’t so i finished it. We haven’t arg...

I’ve been with my partner for a year and a half. He has 2 children I have 3. We live 20 minutes from each other and work together. We’ve broken up a few times. Mainly me because we don’t see each other. It’s one night every 2 weeks. He’s always hid his phone. Barley plans anything and there have been numerous women he’s spoken to behind my back. Including one woman who jumped his fen...

My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for two years now. We have been friends for a long time before that. Recently, he has not been spending as much time with me as I want him to. Because of this, we previously had a minor breakup in January, but then got back together again. I love him and he's absolutely in love with me, and after our mini breakup he changed his ways and gave me the ti...

I'm a 27 year old gay male. In mid-2019, a 1 year 7 month relationship with a guy I really loved ended. It was a mutual decision to end the relationship. There was no fighting. In fact, we both still consider us to be really good friends. It sounds weird, but I still cannot get over him. I have tried to move on, but I simply cannot make it happen. I know the fact that we've maintained contact has...

There is this couple that started their relationship as an affair when they were both married to two different people. The marriage of her ended two months after not only because of this affair but also due to previous problems in the relationship. Everything started as just having fun but little by little, they both started falling in love for each other, feelings were very strong and they both r...

Hi this morning my partner popped out with my 3 year old on what he said was a secret mission. We have been together for 18 years. I was at home looking after our newborn. On return my 3 year old came in and said that they had a ring. My partner said well now he has ruined the surprise you may as well have it. They had been shopping for an engagement ring. My partner presented me with the ring b...

The guy I totally fancied years ago ended up trying to kiss me even though he knows I have a boyfriend now. We were together for the first time in months because he is now best friends with my friends boyfriend so we sometimes bump into each other at their house. I thought we were all just having a good laugh together and enjoyed the fact we were like good friends. I wasn’t expecting it at a...

Hi, I’ve been struggling with this for some time, I have a 14 year old son from a previous relationship. I met my husband 7 years ago and we recently go married and have a daughter. There have been various displays of behaviour from my ex that I imagine many separated couples go through, basically him trying to make me jealous, overly spoiling son on what felt like an attempt to buy his affectio...

I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. We have both been previously married and we both have 2 grown children. I really care for him and want to share our lives together. We moved in together after a year of being together. He has met my kids and my family now over a year ago but I have not met his. This is were my issue is. His kids who are 23 and 19 as well as his mom do not no I even...

Long story but i need someone elses view on my situation. I struggle to deal with issues and confrontation and its causing more arguements than needed. I was in a long term relationship of 8 years which majority of this was mentally torturing but i felt trapped. Despite everyones plea that shes was changing who i was. effecting me as a person. I stayed because i thought she was the one! Fast fo...

Earlier this year I found out my wife had been sexting an old flame in Wyoming. The things they said to each other made me physically sick to my stomach. I told her I could forgive her but the words I saw keep coming back to haunt me. M desperate to talk to someone about this. Do I continue to live with it or seek professional help thanks Sham....

currently i have a fwb who i dated for three years in high school but broke up with. but i’m in love with a guy i worked with two years ago who now has a girlfriend but texts me every day. another guy who i like asked me on a trip a tropical country and i am going with him. i don’t know what do or who to talk to or if i should just not talk to any of them. ...

Throughout my 6 year relationship, me and my partner have grown and achieved so much together, often with the help of the on another. He is very stable whereas I can be very unstable, he is anxious where I am confident, he can stay calm where I would become annoyed. On paper, there are many positives about him and the relationship as far as future prospects go. There has been, however, many recurr...

The last few weeks have been a nightmare. A few members of my immediate family have contracted the Covid virus and one of them has been hospitalized. In addition, my cat of 17 years almost died the other night from congestive heart failure. First, the vet told me that he has cardiomyopathy and a very damaged heart so he may not survive long and now they called tonight to tell me the x-rays also re...

My husband is a wonderful person who has always treated me well. This is my major insecurity causing me to feel down. Several years ago (before we were married), one of his ex's came up. We were with his friend and they were discussing hot celebrities. His friend mentioned that one celebrity reminded him of my then bf's 1st ex, how attractive she was. My bf agreed with him and I was a litt...

I am 28 (almost 29) and I have the most beautiful 5 year old girl. I have been with the man I thought I loved for about 4 years now. It was so great at first, we gradually got to know each other and eventually around almost 2 years moved in together (with my daughter). As we pretty much lived together, he stayed with me in an apartment and I paid all of the bills. He would ask me for $50 here and ...

Hi everybody, so my boyfriend and I had already talked about this and we kind of sorted things out, he said he felt comfortable speaking with me about it and so on, so I decided to give him a chance and start from there but recently I found out some things I didn’t know of which I don’t know what to think of. Below these lines I will give a brief explanation of my general situation, p...

I love buying things for my boyfriend, and he clearly loves receiving them. He tends to like one thing in particular for a month or so, and sometimes I will get it for him. He's always excited to get it. The problem is that if I tell him I'm buying it before I actually do, he tries to talk me out of it. It starts out light-hearted. He says how he really doesn't need it and I should spend my mon...

So back in school way before covid I started talking to this guy I had a crush on. Eventually we both had a crush on eachother and would text on snapchat or call almost everyday after school. We didn't ever end up officially dating because it was still too early for all of that. But when school shut down in March and everything was online he stopped talking to me completely. I still tried talki...

I've been married (I'm 37M, she's 36F) for almost 15 years. Our marriage has certainly had it's share of ups and downs. Shortly after we were engaged I left my career in law enforcement with a diagnosis of PTSD. She was very supportive of my issues, and I was devoted to her entirely for staying with me. I believe in loyalty to a severe degree, and the fact that she never waivered was the most I co...

Hi I've posted a cpl of times before..honestly because I have no one to talk. My bf and I have had a bad sex life the last year not me him he's too tired not in the mood etc then September I caught him masturbating I didn't say at time then asked told me it was only a cpl times since been together tried to move on the happened again so I went away for a break without him so we could see if we ...

Hey all, I started dating this guy I met in college; we’ve been going out for 7 months now. At first, things were going well; but as time passes, I have real doubts about this relationship. 1-he told me he ‘couldn’t feel my vagina’, immediately assuming the problem was me. Granted, I get very wet when we have sex, but I’ve never had that problem with my previous partners; and I do f...

I hear some men say they prefer a woman not to play hard to get. But I hear some say they like it. Here is my story: So I am not the kind of girl who likes to play hard to get. If anything, I'm the opposite - I play easy to get. I am so weak for my crushes and cannot resist, so it is so hard to do so. BUT that does not mean I am clingy. I could so easily avoid that as I am so shy and careful arou...

Hi Alll Been with my hubby 20yrs now and all was fantastic until 7 years ago he was a naughty boy (let’s say) I was devastated to say the least!!! A lot of unhappiness was about for some months and thought as I loved him I would forgive him! If I’m honest since that time I have never trusted my husband but tried my best to get on lives together as this is and was I believe totally out of cha...

I have been hooking up with a boy since I was 15 (I'm now 26). I'm now just really confused with the our relationship it is basically "friends with benefits". Recently he's started talking about having a future partner and it's really hurt me because I feel like I'm good enough for him to hook up with but not be his girlfriend. I've met his parents and sibling but he wants our hook ups now to b...

Sorry this is long, I'm a writer and don't know how to shorten anything up. There's a ton of backstory, but I met "Robert". He was a customer I'd never seen before. It was instant attraction. He never talked, but he started coming in more and more. He asked me out, we went out a few times, but I was basically living with a guy (John) at the point in time to just not be homeless, because I had been...

I have been dating a guy consistently for three months and to be honest it felt perfect. We were getting along, we had similar values, and great conversation everyday and our dates were always nice. Two days ago he was telling me he missed me and he can't wait till I cook for him some day (He's attracted to girls who cook and we always talked about him trying my cooking) and then the next day, he ...

My girlfriend and I have been dating 10 months. We have a great relationship most of the time. She has been hurt a lot so sometimes she gets butt hurt(her words not mine) She has 2 younger children which I adore and they adore me. We get to spend every weekend with eachother and we usually just hang out at her place or mine. She likes to get butt hurt about things that are just silly. One morning ...

So tonight I discovered my partner has been secretly watching porn. This shouldn't be a problem i am no prude,our sex life is good. Could be better but sharing a house with paper thin walls with our 17 and 21 year old kids and working full time we never get a minute's peace. But we try make up for it where possible. We've always had a great relationship. 3 kids 2 grandkids we don't have alot but...

Over the last year my husband has started drinking more, and at a local strip club. I do not normally have an issue with strip clubs, but do not want my husband to be a regular. I have asked him repeatedly not to go there, but he continues, claiming it is "just another bar" to him and I have no reason to worry. Is it wrong for me to make a deal out of this? I am considering giving him a...

I admit I'm a person who always likes to please and avoid any type of controversy. My bf of 15 months is very loving but can be very intrusive too and has a tendency not to be sensitive to the needs of others sometimes (including how and what he says). Now to the issue: I told him I needed this past weekend alone with my child visiting from far away for only a week. Since I told him, he has been a...

Hi, this is my first time on a forum . I’m looking for impartial anonymous advice . It’s my 40th birthday in a months time which has been difficult to plan due to covid but I’m still hoping to get away and do something as usually I don’t do much but 40 is a big milestone. My wife is from the Philippines and has a mother with mental health issues , her mum is been forced into moving hou...

(Here goes...) - I'm 31, I'll be 32 next March. I grew up in Los Angeles, where my aspirations were akin to today's youth who aspire to YouTube Fame. My dream of being an entertainer failed at age 25/26, after experiencing a traumatic event in the industry that left me confused and lost. Luckily, I managed to obtain a Bachelor's Degree while I was in Hollywood. In survival mode, I sought a job...

I was divorced over 16 years ago with no kids after being married for almost 7 years. Since then, I have an ex-girlfriend I've known over 15 years, call her Woman A. Woman A and I have seen each other on and off since and have both had other relationships. One of those relationships, call her Woman B, went on for around three years on and off, and broke off around 2 years ago. Woman B had contacte...

I always been a bit of a loner and I always been the type to have only a few trustworthy friends around me. Over the years I either fell out with some of this friends because they let me down and disappointed me for various reasons or just because we have less contact with each other because we spent a lot of time with family and work. My wife recently told me that she finds loners like myself ...

I was recently talking to my husband about our joint life insurance and he said, 3 years ago he was thinking of changing it so I would only get £1. he said at the time I had really been going on at him and it crossed his mind for a few seconds then went out of his mind. he said he would wonder what the look on my face would be like. he said I would only give our children £25 each and i would kee...

I fell in love with my brother's girlfriend after trying to save her from the toxic atmosphere that he has trapped her in. They are constantly fighting, to the point it get violent, and she has become suicidal on more than one occasion and I've done my absolute best to just be a friend. I don't want to ruin my relationship with him or my friendship with her and I would appreciate any advice I can ...

Hi everyone! I am new on here and I'm looking for some advice on my relationship predicament. I apologize it is somewhat complicated/lengthy. I have been with this guy for 4 years. Our personalities are basically the same and we like all of the same stuff. But, lately we have been drifting apart and he doesn't communicate well at all. His major downfalls are that he cannot seem to get his life...

I got into a relationship with someone for almost 3 months. He is very close with his ex that was with him for 9 years. They constantly are messaging each other. I am uncomfortable when I am around them so I chose to not be around her. What do I do? My mind I wanna stay with him but I can’t be comfortable with her around....

Hi, I was hoping you could help me with some advise. My husband and i have been married for 22 yrs, not all of them have been happy. We've had alot of struggles with him showing me real affection and showing emotion. He expected me to just know he loved me. Long story short , i moved out and decided that was it. I was tired of begging for attention and affection. I did the worst thing i can do. I ...

Would you consider it emotional or a form of cheating when a man starts a relationship with you while still having feelings for his ex-girlfriend? In addition, he comments with hearts and flames on his female friends Instagram pictures which are very sexual, meaning showing their naked butts and naked breasts. He would never leave a comment under his girlfriends pictures which are non-sexual. He...

I dated this guy off and on a year ago. We were very toxic and long story short it never worked because A-he took my best friend's virginity prior to us dating but he loved her B-he said I assume the worst or C-he pressured me into things and my parents hate him. Now it's been a while and I saw him. We spent a few hours together one night, but nothing happened really. He acted as he loved me. Well...

Looking for help and advice! I’ve never posted on anything like this before but I feel like I’m beginning to exhaust all options so I suppose that I’m hoping that someone who has maybe been in a similar situation before can help. I have been with my partner for 15 years now. I fell pregnant at the age of 20 with our now 14 year old daughter and although it wasn’t planned and we strug...

I am wanting advice, my husband and I have 2 beautiful kids when we first discussed having children we agreed that 3 kids no more so all along that has been the plan we have been through a rough couple of years and it hasn't been the right time for another child we now have our life back on track and when I bought up the subject of possibly having another kids in maybe a year year and a half he sa...

Please feel free to tell me that I’m being unreasonable or overly paranoid. I’ve got a girlfriend who seems to relish being the other woman, has no qualms whatsoever about being with married men or men in committed long term relationships. She also has a real love for being a martyr, and letting men treat her terribly. The other day, she was supposedly having a Halloween party. I show up wi...

I am here to find the best woman in my life the person can love me with all of heard also the woman that i will cherish forever thanks....

My bf and I are in our 60s and have been together more than a year. While I'm aware he can be somewhat bossy and too harsh with words, he generally is very loving and kind. However, my adult daughter met him once last year and he came off as brash and bossy to the point where she cried. He was picking on our family cat, who has been a source of comfort for me and my kids since my husband (their d...

Where do I start? Here goes. I find myself very destructive in relationships, this is on going and really hurts the other party. I have underlying trust issues, I'm the first person to admit that. I feel these stem from 2009 ish when my cousin apparently got close to my wife, who was then my girlfriend. He died in 2016 and 3 months later I was kicked out of the martial home. We had...

I’m going to start of by saying I know this will come across pathetic and desperate but I can’t help it... My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years and about 4 years ago he admitted to cheating on me. We worked through it and stayed together. I found out about a month ago that he has done it again. He has been seeing a random 20 year old behind my back. It went on for about a month...

Hi Long story I'll try to keep it brief. Earlier this year I found naked pictures of a woman on my boyfriends phone. These were very explicit and this was such a shock. When I looked at the girls Instagram account I seen that she works in the 'porn industry' she wasn't a normal girl like me. He followed her account also. So I confronted him. He completely blows up and is angry that I had looked...

My adult daughter tries to control my life and has been doing so since my husband (her father) passed away 9 years ago. I did go through a temporary rough patch after he passed but never lost control of my life except I lost a lot of weight and became dehydrated leaving me in the hospital a few times. She freaked out which I understand b/c I am her sole parent now. Once I started dating a few yea...

I (32 yr old female) have been married to my husband (36 year old male) for ten years. During that time (and when I first met him, dated him etc.) I was aware that he sends half of his salary to his parents, who refuse to work (they had their children as teenagers and have since qualified themselves in different fields, so they are not yet of a retirement age) but they prefer to stay at home. My h...

Just wanted to share my story and get some insight from people here. My bf and I had to break up because of his family's disapproval. Unlike most other stories, the disapproval was not personal to me. We had been dating many months now, and he's honestly the most compatible partner I have ever met in my life. We align in almost every single way, and in just the first few months, we had reached ...

TD;DR my parents don’t approve of my guy. I’m still seeing him behind their backs. I’m worried they’ll disown me. Apologies in advance if my grammar is a little f-ed at times and that this is super long Hi, I am F24, Australian born-Chinese. I have been close friends with a guy (M23, Australian born-Sri Lankan) for about a year. He is truly my best friend. We have the same values, get ...

I met this man in my class 2 years ago and we became good friends. As we opened up to one another, he began to flirt and showed more of his emotions with me. Last year, I found out that he had been dating a girl for the past 5 years, while he was talking to me. Although we were still friends at the time, I had developed feelings for him and he also showed me that he had feelings for me. I recall, ...

This guy I really fell for and I had a bad fall out. It resulted in him filling a restraining order against me. I don't think I deserved that because I could tell he did it to diss me and make me feel less than. I cyber stalked him thinking it would bring us closer. I was hurt mot only by the rejection but the fact that he was ok with lying to people about us and not taking the opportunity to talk...

My boyfriend didn't want to put on his social media that he's in a relationship. He came up with two different reasons why he didn't want to. He says he doesn't care about social media but I see that he's on it sometimes. Why wouldn't he want to change his status from single to in a relationship?...

My mom just hit me today with a bucket an broke it on me called me a bastard and other stuff. She also smashed my phone and while she was washing my hair I had a panic attack because of what she said to me and she just told me to shut up. Then she apologized to me afterwards and I feel like I'm being dramatic, I've forgiven her so much before but I don't think I can this time. It is partly my faul...

Am I wrong for not being ok with my partner spending time with or making me obligated to be around them to see that nothing is going on, a person that they were in a relationship during a period while we were broken up? Please help me with this because I am told im just jealous and crazy for feeling that I dont have to be ok With this?...

Would you say a week of push pull dynamic me not wanting the relationship to be over and basically trying to persuade him and him still saying no to much? He has said he truly believes if we are meant to be together then we will be. Now I have stopped contact to respect him and give him what he wants. The last thing he said to me was that he loved me....

This is going to seem really trivial, but I need advice. I'm not very good with dating/romantic stuff as I'm not very good at reading social queue's and I have never had any experience. There is this guy I like, and I don't think he likes me back but other people say that they can feel a connection. I'll give a bit more detail. So, I met this guy 2 years ago, and we get on really well and I con...

So I confessed to my bestfriend after 5 years, as I couldn't keep my feelings in anymore. And to my surprise, she felt the same way. We started talking a lot more, but after 2 weeks or so, I found out my other friend likes me too. This was hard because these two girls were bestfriends. We eventually talked to her about us having feelings for each other and things started to go smoother once again,...

My boyfriend and I have been together for more than a year and we deeply care for each other. However there’s one thing that’s really consistent and that is from time to time he could be controlling and states his opinion even if sometimes that opinion comes off as being hurtful and or insensitive. I can go to a lot of examples but I suppose what just happened the other day is a good one. He r...

Ignore any grammar errors as I use voice to text: I met this amazing guy on Facebook dating literally my dream guy. I think I’m seriously falling for him it’s been three months since we started talking and have been seeing each other exclusively for two and a half months. We talked for a week via text before we had our first phone conversation on a Friday which was 3 hours. He had said he hat...

Hi I meant this guy last month and we went out to eat. We were just hanging out and having conversation. I am 49 yrs old woman and he is 33yrs old. We had a good time. Anyway I had sex with him after we went out that day to eat. We have had sex a few times now. I have started to get feelings for him. He has made comments lately about that he is happy that I am into him. He doesn't want me having s...

So I'm reaching out as I don't know where else to go. I've never even been part of a chatroom before! My husband & I met in 8th grade, dated all through HS and were married at 17 & 18 years. But we've stuck it out - or at least I thought so. However, when we were only a year married, with a child, and he told me he "wasn't sure" and "still loved" a girl he had dated a couple of months behind my...

Hi all I posted a couple of weeks ago about my boyfriend and how I felt caught him popping one off and then had words told me only did it a couple of times and wouldn't as we didn't have sex not through but he had lost the mojo tired or not in the mood...well anyway porn sites been on his phone saw them when he was closing his browsers. Tuesday I told him again how I felt that no affection I do ev...

Hello, well i wont take up too much of your time im just worried about one of my close friends. Shes gotten herself involved with a married man, he is clearly using her for sex, he gives her money and she says the arrangement works. However i know who this bloke is and his wife and it would cause a huge uproar in the local town if she found out about it. She has 2 young children and im worried ...

Hi everyone, I hope you are doing well. I have a weird question to ask. One of my very good friends (we call each other sisters) has no trouble meeting guys as friends or dating (especially dating) and it always seems like this is true because she just seems to hang out where there are lots of guys. There never seem to be many guys when I go places and I always wonder why when I go places I ne...

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now. So I'm 19 years old but my parents are a bit conservative about me going out ever since COVID. Since I have grandparents in my house, the amount of times i go out has reduced. My boyfriend lives about 13km away from me. Ever since it started, Ive been going to his house and off late, ive been going twice a week atleast unless im sick or have a ...

So me and my ex (37) broke up nearly a year ago last November. I recently got back in contact after my birthday in august and my break up with my recent ex (26) of 4 months who I started seeing in April. Me and my ex (37) were together for two years but broke up briefly for 3 months where I started seeing another guy (39) before getting back together for 2 months when I told him to go back with hi...

It was my 5oth birthday a few days ago and my husband had asked our kids to come as it would be nice for my birthday. I didn't want any fuss at all and if they weren't going to be able to make it I was not bothered because they have jobs and there own lives and a phone call would of been alright to me. my husband took 2 days off work for my birthday. at first our daughter was only going to come fo...

I was with my fiance for 8 months, we were going to be married on December 22, 2020. So I thought. Then my fiance all of a sudden said he needed space, we did have a few issues but they were not that bad it turns out while we were on this break he slept with his kids mom. Which they were together for 9 years off and on. He vowed to me that he would never be with her. That she cheated on him a lot ...

Help. Divorced with two kids, moved on and in with the guy I thought was my forever. Turns out I’m a backseat to everything in his life. As a farmer we moved to him- his mom died, and his dad depends deeply on him. I’m finding myself desperate for any affection and even his acknowledgement that I deserve that and physical interaction. He is always tired and sore from his day (legitimiat...

Hi Guys, My first post here and trying to find some answers. I have recently broken up with my Fiance that I had been with for 3 years. I have been noting down some observations and would apprieciate if someone can tell me if this sounds like Martyr Complex? Kerry: Previous relationships – Was in an abusive relationship with someone called Dan. Would completely control her life, p...

I'm 28 and my boyfriend 35, we've been for 6 years now. I'd like to settle down and he too, but he isn't earning enough money and me neither, Shouldn't I worry so much for this 'cause as I read and see for you as men the economic stability improves with the years? I want to read you from a man or woman perspective...

My husband is highly pissed with me right now because of what happened yesterday. My biological daughter is having my first grandchild, the family's first biological great-grandchild. This is my only child. My sister, and my daughter's best friend have been planning a gender reveal party and Sunday my sister called me to ask if they could have it at our house. I didn't have a problem with it. The ...

6 of my close family members attended a Top Golf outing. Top Golf is similar to a bowling alley, every group gets their own section (called a bay), chairs, table and a place to hit golf balls. Top Golf put a sheet of plastic between groups that hangs from the ceiling. Top Golf cleans the golf clubs and the computer screen but they did not clean the seat where everyone lounges on. The place was...

We've been together for 7 years, 3 married. My husband brought home a gun 4 years ago, there was no indication before that he was interested in them. I'm pretty anti-gun, he knew this. I'm going to try to make this short. He bought 2 guns and brought them home, we had been dating for a few years at this point. I was upset, we had a fight and in the end I agreed that he could keep them as long ...

His name's Eric he ignores me unless I'm with him even then he's on his phone. He's said/says mean and ugly things to me. He's always accusing me of lying and hiding things. I can't even go to my mom's without him tripping on me. I love him been with him for 4 years but it seems and feels like I don't matter to him at all anymore. I think I should leave him but then we end up together again. ...

First I want to apologize for making this so long, you will probably spend 3-4 minutes reading my thread, this is a very long story I tried my best to brief and provide all the details so you could understand the story. “Sigh” I don’t even know where to start.. I met my fiancé 11 years ago. I was 15 and he was 17. We met in high school. The only reason why I decided to date my fianc...

my partner is interested in gay sex I havent much of a problem with this but I dont want him to do it alone It intrigues me to join him and we have agreed, but he aint happy with the guys I choose and we have both decided that no one is touching me only him He has no patience, when he's horny he wants it there and now But he also says things during our sex sessions that hurt me We have br...

My husband and I have been together for almost 10 years. We have always been honest and open with each other about our feelings, even when it entails the other persons behavior. A big point of contention in our relationship has been selfishness. I have always felt that he takes more than he gives and is constantly asking for more than is being offered in the context of our relationship. We’ve s...

Hey girls. Please give my your honest opinion on what you'd like a guy to do. Thank you so much. :) I've known her since Jan of 2016. We were always good friends, but not SUPER close (This is all during High School, we're currently both 18) Jan 2019, I joined her friend group (all girls, but I typically get on better with girls). Her and I grew very close now. But then I got feelings for her...

When our relationship is good... Well it's just that, good. There are so many issues that I've got to a point where I'm not even sure it's worth it anymore. Don't get me wrong I haven't made it easy myself. It's so dysfunctional and unhealthy partly because of me, that I feel like I may as well just end it. But then there's another part of me that is fighting to hold in a power thro...

TW// Su*c*de For context, my partner and I are relatively young adults so like early 20s and we've been dating for a little over 2 years. The ex friend in question is in their mid 20s and came in contact with us through internet communities. So for context, I have depression and anxiety and it gets really bad sometimes because of lack of access to medication/therapy and I live in an abusive hou...

We were bestfriends for 5 years now. After being bestfriend for that long we decided to drink, only the two of us. we literally drank until were wasted. We are drinking at his yard and decides to come in for i am wasted and i can't even walk straight. We are very close that cuddling is just normal. So we cuddle and ended up having sex after 5 years. Now the problem is, no one wants to open it up. ...

"I don't see why we can't just relax and continue No big deal" This is his answer, I'm confused, what does it mean?...

Basically, there are two friends of mine a guy and a girl, who were* very close to each other than me last year. However, when we get back together after summer holiday for a few months, I notice that something has happened between them and they keep ignoring each other. I'm feeling really awkward whenever I meet a guy friend while I'm together with a girl friend. The situation is harder for me no...

There are two guys, one’s name is Emmanuel and one is Evan. I did a yolo on snapchat where I got a lot of messages and it turns out theres a lot of guys out there that like me, which is strange. I got out of my comfort zone and started opening up as a flirty person, that no one thought of me as before. Well, both Emmanuel and Evan hmu after wards. I knew Emmanuel for 2 years ...

I met my bf at work we got on well and spoke laughed there's 6 yrs difference im older everything was fine and I could see a future with him roll on 6 months later and we started dating...3 months later he moved in with me,we have lived together for 17 months. i just don't know if this is really worth it and have no one to talk too so opinions really would help Our first so called magical Xmas...

Okay so I'll try not to ramble but I've been in a 5 year relationship with a man whom I think I love but I cant stand to be touched, kissed nor be around him. It sounds awful, but the thought of having sex with him makes me cringe also. Why do I feel this way? I feel like I love him but is it more the thought of losing him? I suppose when you've been with someone so long it's like losing a best...

First off, I'd like to give some context. I am 19 and about 6'1 while my girlfriend is 18 and 5'7. I'm not submissive, and I've had multiple girlfriends in the past meaning that I'm not desperate. However, recently I've begun dating this relatively quiet girl who was pretty hot. At first things started really slow but she soon started opening up to me and our relationship reached a personal level...

So my issue is with my friend who i’ll call Carl for privacy purposes. But I’ve been friends with Carl for a while now and last year he had broken up with his girlfriend so we became close & started on the low seeing eachother. Well due to circumstances with petty ex friends he ended stuff with us but we still remained close friends/ friends with benefits. Carl got back with his girlfriend...

Recently my husband and I have been going through a rough patch. I earlier this summer found him messaging other women non-explicitly; saying things such as I could kiss you , or how he could ride his Harley over to see this other woman. Both of these messages were to two different women. I’ve confronted him and asked him how he’d feel if the roles were reversed. He was remorseful and begging ...

I've (23F) been with this guy (28) for about 1.5 months. There have been little things that he has been saying casually or in a joking manner which sort of worried me but I'm not sure if they are "red flags". 1) He asked about my income and savings a few of times and each time I refused to tell him the details because it's irrelevant to me. He also (in a joking manner) asked me to cover more th...

My boyfriend doesn’t really want to have sex with me anymore. We are a BDSM couple as well, so spicing it up even more would mean killing each other in bed. I have sex with him whenever he wants. But when I ask him when IM horny he always makes up an excuse. What do I do?...

My Fiancè and I have quarreled this many times. I do something for him like make his breakfast or lunch in the morning. Or dinner in the evening. Doing his laundry. And a lot of the times it's far from perfect. Most of the time I get a thank you. But occasionally I get a "thank you, but..." To which I've done something that needs improving. The kicker is while my Fiancè and I were dating he ...

We got together in 1992 for 3 years but split up and he married and I was in a relationship with someone when those were done we got back together and he moved in after a year he cheated with someone younger so we split again and when that ended we got back together again but I couldn't forgive him so he finished it for good last year but we remained friends and got on well talking every day all d...

My husband keeps online cheating this has been going on for years on and off he keeps deleting the apps promising never again Last year I had enough i felt worthless so I did the wrong thing and wrongly had a affair we sorted it out promised never again we got passed it thought all was good But I found out again last week he is at it again 😥 his excuse he gets bored when I work ok I work da...

I am currently dating a paranoid schizophrenic, it has I have to say been an arduous journey My problem is my horrendous jealousy I thought as I matured that I was managing my emotions quite well but recently my partner has started to look at other women when we are together He constantly and quite obviously checks them out He also frequently has and shares amongst his friends porn a graphic m...

I've known for 18 months and I am finding it hard be his friend knowing this.hes separated two years and there are 3 kids. First isn't his and is now 14. He doesn't s on terrible terms with his ex as he found out she had a few affairs.to make it worse his cousin is the father of his oldest I know its none of my business but he's my best friend ...

I have be single for about 1 year previous to that I was involved with a women for 4 yrs it was mutual breakup. I learned a lot about myself and what I wanted. I joined match and have been seeing a wonderful women for 2 months. She is a single mom of 2 kids, she has been separated from her husband for a yr and half and working though a divorce he was very mentally abusive and controlling, she has ...

I shouldn't feel this way, and I don't understand it. I am only a teenager, but out of all of the trivial crushes I've had in the past, I have never felt like this. I think I fell in love with him. It's been over a year since I met him, but as soon as I got to know him I had the urge to get closer. To be honest, he isn't the handsomest, nor is he the tallest, but I don't care. He has a reputati...

Hello folks, looking forward to getting some advice on my issue here. To make a long story as short as possible, I have fallen completely in love with a woman I work with. I was the first to reveal my feelings and though she didn't immediately reciprocate them, she has come around and we get along as well as two people can. Until now, I had never understood when people talk about how they just...

Hey everyone, I'm having kind of a dilemma. I got engaged back in November and have been planning a wedding for this November. Yes even COVID wasn't going to stop us from getting married. It wasn't about the number of attendees anyways. However, within the past few weeks my mother-in-law to be has been diagnosed with lymphoma and will be starting an 18 week 6 cycle chemotherapy treatment. ...

I have been with a guy for 3 years and wanted a baby and marriage. I was 39 when we met and it was probably my last chance. We really connect but he has made constant excuses about why we can't be together. The main one was that commitment freaked him out and he didn't understand why but he just needed to pull away from me from time to time. At the same time he talks constantly about us getting ma...

Hey Everyone, I just need some Mother advice. It is eating at my head all day. I will just start from this year only or else if I do more, it'll be a novel. lol. So I live 4.5 hours from my mom and step dad. I moved to a city to have better career opportunities and just to start a new chapter in life. I had some issues with my new move and my dog. So in Jan, I took my dog to my parents...

Jane was physically and sexually abused by her mothers abusive partners as a child, at aged 12 the abuse stopped and Jane began spending more and more time at her friend‘s house. Over a couple of years she fell for her friend’s older brother; she pursued him, sneaking into his room when everybody else was asleep. They began a physical relationship when she was 13 and he was 18. No interco...

was with my fiance for 8 months and all of a sudden he said he needed space ,he said I was to clingy and smothering him .I was in shock ,we had an amazing weekend together a few days before he dropped this bomb I have called him and texed him asking him why he is doing this to me ,we were supposed to be married in December, he is the one that set a date for us to be married. When I call or text h...

I've been with my boyfriend for 18 months, im 40 and he's 43. We've had a really tough time so far and I'm worried he's going to realise I'm not worth all the aggro. When we first got together I was a nightmare when I'd had a drink, I was diagnosed with anxiety and put on medication. We then realised I was bleeding during and after sex. After numerous trips to the doctors I was referred to the hos...

My boyfriend and myself both have always had issues with weight. Him more than me, but we both lost a pretty big amount of weight not too long ago. At some point he started binge eating again though and that makes me and him both unhappy. To me his health is the number one priotity and it scares me to see him lose control when it comes to eating. He always askes me for help but at some point he ne...

My mom has 2 brothers who I feel have been jealous of her ever since our family became more financially well-off. My mom is always thoughtful of them, always goes out of her way to buy them food, take their kids out to have fun, and every time we go on vacation she always gets them souvenirs-I know that my mom has good intentions, but all of this I think has only ever been seen by them as my mom...

Last night I found lots of photos of a woman on holiday on my boyfriends phone. This woman is a customer of his and he had requested the photos. To top it all of he texted her back “you look very hot” I have an issue with this. It is obviously inappropriate as she is his customer. He however is saying that I’m completely over reacting as it was just a complement. Please could y...

So during lockdown my partner of 3 years ended our relationship. Whilst upsetting, I knew that this was the right decision as it was no longer healthy or salvageable. Prior to this we had been arguing for some time, as I felt that he had lost interest in me from as early as last November. We had been doing long distance for just over a year when he began to contact me less often, and seem much les...

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 1/2 years now. I have lived on my own since I was 18, I am 26 now. He still lives with his parents, he is 24. I understand with him being younger he might not “be there” but he is the main one that continues to say that he “can’t wait to have kids” “can’t wait to get married” “can’t wait to live together”. Now any time I bring up mo...

Hello to all of you! I have a question. I’ve been seeing a guy for about a year. We see each other about every other weekend. We both work and every other weekend just works for us. He and usually text a lot!!! Well lately (past two months)I have noticed he doesn’t always reply back to my messages right away. Sometimes I text on Saturday morning and he doesn’t reply until Monday. A c...

Hello! Just a warning, ya'll-- this might be a long story but I promise I'll make it as short and sweet as I can so bare with me. Please and thank you! Okay so, for the past 2 years I've been living with my fiance and his mom, who is widowed. He also has an older brother and sister but they've been moved out since before I got here. The relationship between my fiance and I is pretty great a...

So I met a wonderful man online, and I think it is someone who is a great match for me. We are both retired from successful careers. We have moved in together, and although he had been separated from his wife for over ten years, they had never finalized a divorce. He agreed to go forward and complete the divorce, and she had always told him, "No problem. Whenever you decide to complete the ...

i am 45, married and have 2 kids. i have fallen in love with a woman who is 33 and also has 2 kids. She prefers tall men of her age who have a deep voice. I am not any of these. There is a third person of her age who is tall and has a deep voice. He is also in love with her. He is also a guitarist and a good artist. She says she has a soft corner for him and really likes him. On the other han...

Corona virus really did ruin things for me and my boyfriend. We've been together 10 months now and its safe to say that we havent felt this way about anyone else. We love each other very dearly. Few months ago, around May, I heard word from a family friend that my boyfriends' best friend(who is also close to me because his family and mine know each other), was having feelings for me. I had to info...

Hi guys I have a bit of a dilemma. My older sister has been with her boyfriend around 5 years now. He has a brother who I have a major crush on, and have done for a couple of years now. The problem is he has a girlfriend, who is not a great character. She lies, takes drugs and has has a history of dodgy lifestyles and behaviours. He on the other hand is very soft natured, nice looking and quit...

Okay so where to begin... We got together in February (valentines day to be exact). He was recently released from jail (after serving 2 years) he was on electronic tag. I gave him the Benefit of the doubt as he commited the crime whilst he was 19. He ended up back in jail after the first two times of us meeting. As he breached his tag. I had the choice to stay with him as I was only having to wai...

My girlfriend went to a concert last night with one of her best friends and then a friend of hers who she used to be in a relationship with. The best friend got tired and decided to go home, but my girlfriend stayed with the other friend and went back to his house. She told me she was doing this, and that the atmosphere was very relaxed and she felt like she was with one of her best friends. Af...

my wife walked out on myself and our 14 year old daughter 4 months ago. She stated that she didn't love me anymore. We started to talk and spoke about how we could fix the issues we have but it was all one way traffic on my half. She told me last week that she was not coming back and I'm devastated, it should of been our 11 year wedding anniversary the other day. I feel so lost....

I’ve never submitted anything to a forum before but I’m not sure who to ask for advice. This is the first really serious relationship I’ve been in so I’m not sure how to approach this topic without hurting her feelings. So some background for anonymity’s sake I’m going to refer to my girlfriend as Sally. I’m not sure if it’s relevant but I’m 23 years old and she is 20. So me a...

When I first met my boyfriend, I told him about my many escapades with couples and other woman. At the time I had no problem with having sex with multiple partners and we even discussed having an open relationship. At the time, he said no to an open relationship and that he didn't want me having sex with other people without him and especially not other men. I was ok with that and kept having s...

Is it disrespectful for a man that's in a relationship to sit at another womans house alone with her in her bedroom for atleast 2hrs and tell the other woman" my wife would not like me here alone with you" also does him doing that mean he doesn't love his wife? ...

I was on a night out with a few of my friends. After a few drinks, me and a close guy friend started having a heartfelt conversation. In the middle the conversation, he leant in and kissed me. I was taken aback and confused. But I briefly kissed back. The kiss was for no more than a few seconds as, once I comprehended what was happening, I immediately pulled away. It did not mean anything and I fe...

Been married 24 years together 28. Husband had prostrate taken out 4 years ago so as to use a pump. We recently had sex without the pump and I gave him oral, I sat on him and he came and thanked me for it. I felt so hurt and angry. I said it made me feel like a prostitute or one night stand and he said what's wrong with thanking me for sex because he enjoyed it. I have cheated on my husband quite ...

So, basically i’ve come on here for peoples advice. Simply because i don’t know if i’m over reacting or not? Me and my partner have had a rocky two years. Arguing a lot and it did draw attention. I used to discuss our issues with his mum as she knows he has an anger problem, and she helped me to get him a counsellor/ anger management. But one day she decided she’s done helping with our...

Hi I am a middle aged widow with two grown children. 2 years ago I began a relationship with a lovely man who was coming off a fairly recent separation. His former partner was emotionally and financially abusive to him during the course of their marriage and he has endured a long and expensive fight to have regular access to his children and settle their property. Through it all I have witnessed ...

So long story short my boyfriend of 7 years and I broke up back in December and just reconnected again finally in June. It was devastating to say the least for me without going into super personal details ill just say its always been a lot of nonsense and games hes not been the greatest guy he's cheated numerous times done horrible things behind my back kept plenty of secrets and he's been abusiv...

Desperate in need of advice, I recently have been dating a girl who’s been pursuing me for almost a year. Very nice girl, a family girl, and very old school, loves to cook and take care of home, she also has a 3 year old son who’s dad is not in the picture, but she is young, she is a very mature 20 year old and she also lives in TJ. Mexico. While I’m a 35 year old. The age difference scares ...

My high school sweetheart and I have been on and off for 10 years. Our relationship was super unhealthy, both insecure teenagers with broken homes that craved just the slightest bit of acceptance. We just needed somewhere to escape to, somehow the problems we made were better than the ones at home. Although we had problems we managed to get better we fix things by the time we left highschool. At ...

Hi there Have been looking for a place to chat to people as I’m stuck in such a horrid complicated place atm. I’ve been with my OH for 20 years this month and married for 7. He got into cocaine just after we got married. He started his own business.... Over the last 7 years I’ve seen such a change in him. I have tried all I can to get him to stop but always an excuse. It’s stressed ...

My boyfriend was dating a girl for 4 years before he met me. When they broke up, they didn't part amicably. They both beared a lot of resentment towards each other. Now in the 2 years that we have been together he's tried to help her on multiple occasions just as a friend. But every time he's tried to reach out to her she's just blocked him. 1) He tried to let go of all the resentment and just mov...

My husband works as a sales rep. I have always supported him and been there for him when he as talked about his work or going after new jobs. I've felt I have never had any support from him at all in anything I do. Recently he went out at 730am and got home 7pm at night. I knew he had to go and fix a water pump and he said the night before he would be home early in the day he was fixing it. I was ...

I’ve just turned 33 and I haven’t brought anyone home to meet my parents or family ever. I date pretty consistently. Things last about 3-6 months typically and then when things are about to get more serious I bolt....every time. I am seeing someone currently and am trying to give it some more time (try a little harder to make it work) but it just doesn’t feel right. Thoughts? I’m clearly a...

Hi all. Maybe someone can offer some help or advice - any input is much appreciated. TO MAKE IT CLEAR... I WANT TO BE OVER HER... I HAVE A FEELING THAT SHE'S STILL CONSIDERING US TO BE A POSSIBILITY BUT... I JUST CAN'T HANDLE THE CONSTANT EMOTIONAL GAME OF CAT & MOUSE... YES, IT WILL SOUND LIKE I'M STILL HEAD OVER HEELS FOR HER... AND I MIGHT BE... BUT I'D RATHER NOT BE... Essentially, I was...

i proposed my crush he rejected my marriag proposal then i started dating his friend he was ok with us dating but when he came to know we are getting married he got shocked and depressed and trying to pursue me for sex/date...do u think he will propose me for marriage or can this be called love??...

It started with her growling "men" whenever a man would ever so slightly inconvenience her, then it would move on to her making generalizing comments. One night, her friends decided to make anti-men comments and she encouraged them. This incident was the camel that broke the straw's back. When I confronted her about her behavior, she said "oh", and then proceeded to ignore the fact that I was ...

I have been with my partner for Six years, we have been engaged for 3 years and living together for two. We are both divorcees and both have two kids. Mine are now both adults and my partners boys are 18 and 15 I have had a great relationship with both her children and she has with mine. When we moved in together we had to rent as we couldn’t get a mortgage together as she is stuck on her old ...

My boyfriend is worried that i could be unfaithful to him in the future since i had cheated in a past relationship. I told him i realized i made a terrible mistake in the past and that I have no intention of cheating ever again. I never cheated on him. He asked me whether i would be willing to make a solemn oath of fidelity before God. In the oath, i would say that if i ever cheated on him, i a...

My girlfriend and I have been together for about 3 years. We have loved together for a little over a year. I would say for probably the last 8 months I have been constantly preoccupied with the idea of breaking up with her. I constantly think about the freedom to be alone in the house, do things my way, have great sex that I really enjoy with a variety of people. It has gotten to the point that I ...

My bf and I have a great relationship and we've been together for a year. We live 2 hours apart and both still work (but retirement is only a few years away). The issue we have is as follows: He wants to marry me now (or soon) and not live together first (which involves him moving and selling his house). I want (and need) to live with him first; even for 6 months and then I can move forwar...

I recently began a relationship with a man who is 11 years older than me. I'm in my early twenties and still live at home while attending graduate school. Over the past few months, I have developed what I feel is a serious, committed relationship with this man. My parents like this man as a person, but feel that the 11 year age difference is creepy, and don't think our values line up well enough (...

So I’ve been dating this girl for a month and a half. First date, we had sex in her car on the side of the road at 4 am. As the days go by we spend time with each other talking about our lives and experiences. She revealed that she once went to a strip club with her friends and got drunk, got on the pole, and stripped for tips. As the weeks move along she tells me she loves me and that she�...

The man i have been dating off and on for 11 yars in a toxic relationship is doing something im finding disturbing. I want to know if in anyones oponion is this abuse. I own my own home and car work a full time job.Lately, he has been jokingly referring to himself as the taliban man.He says hes joking but its affecting me as a woman.He now comes to my house calls my dog a taliban dog and says keep...

Hello. To sum up - I'm a 31 years old woman. I stepped up 2 years ago and started to transform my body as I was heavily overweight. I lost almost 40kg,eat clean now and exercise 4x/week. I've never had confidence before, fat and ugly and probably that's why I have never been in a relationship. I was sure that when I'll look better, everything will be nice and shiny, men will be attracted to me ...

I know this question may sound silly. Trust me, I am a working professional and not a high school girl. Just that I have these crazy endless thoughts. If a guy likes a girl, would he ever not initiate a conversation with her? The thing is we don't have any mutual friends. And we have never spoken to each other. If he was into me, he would definitely try to inbox me in social media or something,...

Basically what the title says. My boyfriend finds it weird and concerning that several of my friends and I share our locations with each other. He made me remove one of my male friends but I refused to remove my female friends as well as family members. Am I off base in thinking he has no reason to request getting rid of my friends and I’s shared locations? Why does it matter to him beyond sheer...

am new to all this and I am not sure if I am posting in the right place. Just want some advice and what people’s thoughts are. I hope I can make sense here goes: I have been separated from my Husband for well over 2 years. We have got on well for the sake of our children, there is no way we would or will get back together. He has started to date again and I have been looking at online datin...

This is very very hard for me to do. I am going to try my best to explain what I need help with and hopefully I won’t be judged for it. My husband and I have a very open relationship and I mean that in all aspects of the word. But twice now I have caught my husband with pictures of other women on his phone. We spoke about it and I guess it was sort of swept under the rug so to speak. I get it....

I am a 31 year old female and was in an 8 year relationship, on and off from 22-30 with a male 29 year old male. We begin as friends with benefits and both dated others during our “off” times but always came back to eachother and our comfort zone. Neither of us can really say when it got serious so there was an issue with his commitment in during the times where I thought we had progressed pas...

I am 50 my partner is 58 we don"t live together but have been in a relationship for 14 years even though it has been platonic for years before we met he had both hips replaced so I have been his part time carer even though I was diagnosed 10 years ago with arthritis in my hands,hips and spine,during lockdown we have isolated apart in our own homes,I have really enjoyed the relaxation and being al...

My husband's mom is married to a wonderful man, and, his son is married to my husband's ex... so my husband's ex is now his step sister-in-law (I think that's how that goes). My husband and his ex dated for less than a year, but were on/off and remain somewhat in contact. At first, he felt weird about the situation, but overtime he has grown to not care much about it. I, on the other hand, still h...

First, a bit of background. I'm a 34 year old man belonging to an ethnic minority in the country I live in. I am an immigrant here, and I hail from a culturally backward country where dating and relationships are still taboo, and are frowned upon. One of the reasons I moved out of my home country, is because I felt suffocated living in such a backward culture. I now live in a reasonably liberal we...

I am a 24-year-old Indian girl with conservative parents. I am in a relationship with a divorcee (29 y/o) for the past four years. It obviously has been an emotional rollercoaster with him and I took my own time to decide if he really is the one for me. And now, nothing can ever make me doubt that. We are planning to get married in December 2021. My parents found out that I was dating him (through...

I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 10 months. i think it may be of some importance to note that i am 26 and that he is 10 years older than me, and at this time we do not live together permanently. our relationship has been good from the start however, even before the last 3 months of the coronavirus pandemic there were issues which upset me although i managed to be forgivin...

I have been with my s/o for near 3 years we have our problems but since the corona virus things turned sour. We have a long distance relationship and spent 2 months away from each other in which he was not very nice to me. I then started work again in which there where two new male owners, on the first day one of the owners asked to give me a ride home. In which nothing happened he just asked me q...

I'm a 35 year old man who's mature with a good job, etc. And I've been in a relationship with a 31 year old girl/woman for four years and we've just got a mortgage on a house (to avoid having to pay rent when moving in together). The problem we have is that in the last four years, we have always used condoms when having sex, and they are a massive turn off for me and stop me from being able to ...

My bf is telling me to set a wedding date in the next 2 months. Seeing each other 1 year and while things are great I thought we’d live together first. The problem with that is that we live 100 miles apart and he cannot work remotely. Before he said he’s willing to sell his business at home, he wants to have a firm commitment including marriage. Does not feel comfortable selling his home and b...

I work with a guy and for the past year I've had a crush on him. He is always at my desk, he comes and eats by me, works by me, sits in silence with me, we talk about our personal lives etc. Everyone in the office thinks we're secretly dating or into one another. He joined my kickball team last year, where he knew no one (he didn't talk much to anyone besides me) and he is joining a different team...

Hello there, I've been with my partner for about 8 months now but things have been so complicated. Me and my ex only ended 2 months prior. My ex was my first proper relationship, I was deeply in love with them. Things had been up and down, we ended but they continued to message me and play with my emotions when trying to move on and wouldn't agree to being friends and wanted a one night stand....