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Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMarried and confused.
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Oct 10 2021 at 04:01 by Bloom565 RESPONDENTS: sputnik00 / NotAJudge / susiedqq / oldmainer / Ineedhelpliketf LAST POST: Oct 14 2021 at 02:17

I was in a 4 year relationship with a guy I met online. We both wanted to marry each other but the circumstances didn't work in our favour. Now, I'm married to someone else. But I miss my ex. It's been 2 and half year's of our break up and 2 year's of my marriage. I feel like I rushed the marriage because I wanted to move on. My husband is a kind, gentle man but my...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow to deal with a jealous friend?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Oct 9 2021 at 01:26 by youthanalysis499 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / sputnik00 LAST POST: Oct 9 2021 at 19:37

A friend introduced me to her best friend and he seems to be closer with me. We hang out a lot and now she's often rude to me. She’s always busy, so him and I have been hanging out while she’s away. When she sees us she’s often cold to me or won’t speak to me unless I speak to her. She treats him the same though and tries to isolate me whenever she gets a chance to. I’m not really h...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFeeling ok after death and want to move on
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Oct 8 2021 at 06:17 by Insight RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / sputnik00 LAST POST: Oct 8 2021 at 20:56

My husband unexpectedly passed away from a heart attack 2 months ago. We had only been married for 9 months. We had only been together for less than 2 years. Prior to meeting him I had been a single mom if 3 kids for 7 years. One of the first guys I ever dated after my divorce and not dating for 6 years I really fell hard for but the timing was way off. He reached out to me after my husband...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhat should I do?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Oct 7 2021 at 10:37 by lety9284 RESPONDENTS: sputnik00 / lily31 LAST POST: Oct 9 2021 at 06:48

I have been seeing this guy for 2 months he just got out of a 20-year relationship because he cheated on her throughout their 20-year relationship. He said he changed that he will never cheat on anyone ever again. I believed him at first but it is hard to trust him when he is always making jokes about him being with other girls. He keeps saying we need to split up so that I could work on my jealou...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I over reacting to my husband using internet chat rooms to "flirt"
[6 POSTS] CREATED: Oct 2 2021 at 22:31 by Sexychick RESPONDENTS: manalone / Checkmate15282 / susiedqq / sputnik00 LAST POST: Oct 6 2021 at 00:30

I have been married 20 years. I recently found out that my husband has secretly been chatting and flirting with women in internet chat rooms. He tells these women how beautiful they are, or how sexy they look. He evan told 1 girl that in his eyes, she was the perfect woman. Things he has never told me, evan before we were married. He has sent photos of himself to these women (fully clothed), and w...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow can I make a relationship w him work?
[1 POST] CREATED: Oct 1 2021 at 23:16 by Flowers1991 RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Oct 2 2021 at 00:51

He’s married but left his wife and 7-year-old for faraway job - says he just felt like it, for $/selfishness/ freedom, and his family cried for him to stay but he ignored. He’ll go back whenever vacation time allows, but it’s really far so that’s every few months. I said well something must have been wrong in your marriage, there was some reason you left, and he insists nothing at all. S...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFeeling of Emptiness
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 30 2021 at 12:16 by Oma_squared RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / sputnik00 LAST POST: Oct 6 2021 at 00:40

Please I need advice on this matter. I have been in a relationship for 6months, it was wonderful. I got to experience love and I loved back whole heartedly. We talked about a future together. We were both in our finals in school and lockdown got us chatting and falling in love eventually. After final exams,my boyfriend went back home which was still in the same state. I was yet to go home becau...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I wrong to delete my Twitter account?
[1 POST] CREATED: Sep 27 2021 at 06:58 by TheLoneVaultDweller RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Sep 29 2021 at 12:24

Okay so the long and short of it is that I deleted my social media so that no one could get a hold of me unless they had my email. I have been having issues with drama in the community I was hanging out with and I just can't handle the stress and bullying because I don't believe everything they think. Also it's filled with three year old drama like picking sides. I hope one day ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs it finally time for me to cut off my grandmother?
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 26 2021 at 14:07 by R_W_98 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / sputnik00 LAST POST: Oct 6 2021 at 00:27

Please bear with me; this is going to be a long one... A bit of context: Hi, my name (for the purpose of this forum) is R. I am 22 years old and am feeling particularly conflicted at the moment. I am wondering if anybody could give me some advice on this situation and I am completely lost. When I was 9 years old, my mother took her own life. There was no one major cause of this; she was a...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI found 15000 image of other women on my partners phone
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 26 2021 at 00:50 by Tiredmomma27 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / R_W_98 / sputnik00 LAST POST: Oct 6 2021 at 00:35

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 8, we have. 3 year old son together. Our relationship was fantastic to begin but after the birth of our son I feel it went south, I gained around 80lbs that I have struggled to shed due to PCOS and my poor diet (not gunna lie) and our arguing increased. Around 5 years into our relationship he got a new phone and changed his password so I didn’t know it ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs it ok to message an ex on Facebook
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 25 2021 at 15:30 by bcurry101 RESPONDENTS: Tiredmomma27 / susiedqq LAST POST: Sep 26 2021 at 13:25

My ex broke up with me 13 years ago. We drifted apart, and it was amicable. My long time girlfriend/life partner (10 years) passed away a few months ago. We were never ones to be on social media, but I have recently set up an account and saw that my ex has an account. Is it ok to send her a message just as a friend to see how things are going? I have no idea of her relationship status and I am ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryForgiveness or Weakness
[1 POST] CREATED: Sep 24 2021 at 09:51 by Forever.Me RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Sep 24 2021 at 12:14

Today is day 5 without my partner by my side. I miss him, but I don't want to hurt anymore, and my 12 year old daughter is so over him. It also hurts because I feel like I'm torturing him. He wants to come home and be with his "family" (He's staying at an hotel right now), but there's so much tension still, everyone thinks it's best for us to just let it go, beca...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAdvice please! Pregnancy after a breakup…
[1 POST] CREATED: Sep 23 2021 at 07:44 by Sdj1991 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Sep 26 2021 at 13:36

I broke up with my ex in may this year, we hadn’t been close in quite a while, I was very unhappy, he was unwilling to work with me to make things better. We were together 13 years. We have 3 children together ages 5, 3 and 9 months. I moved out temporarily to my mums until I can find suitable housing. I started chatting to an old friend whilst I was going through the separation and we have gott...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryParents are kinda sucky
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 23 2021 at 03:35 by LoveIsGod123 RESPONDENTS: Oma_squared / sputnik00 LAST POST: Oct 6 2021 at 08:16

I am a teenage trans boy with ADHD and I've been falling behind on school. My parents are understandably upset but I think that they are taking it too far. My dad has gotten better with handling me over the past years, but it feels like my mom just doesn't care anymore. Every time I am trying to work on my current homework she gets mad at me for not working on the missing stuff, but when...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryNo support
[1 POST] CREATED: Sep 22 2021 at 17:59 by Villa RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Sep 22 2021 at 20:13

Recently I was really depressed due to a few different things. My mum passed away 3 months ago and even thou I never saw her for years it still hit me. I dont trust my husband and have issues in our marriage due to it and we recently returned from a holiday and the depression hit me so hard when I got home because all our holidays were over and there is nothing else to look forward to and because ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI need some advice regarding something that happened
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 22 2021 at 17:18 by TemporaryCorn RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / NotAJudge LAST POST: Oct 5 2021 at 09:45

Hey, dwellers of peoplesproblems. Hope you're all doing well. 16M, going on 17. Girlfriend is 16. Recently, I got into an argument with my father. This argument escalated into a more intense than usual situation. As I was driving with him trying to get some final hours in for my driver's test (which was supposed to be today), I did my best to respectfully point out that he was con...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDid I do something wrong? Was it me? Please help!
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 22 2021 at 15:45 by Drumstetra RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / ImNoAngel / sputnik00 LAST POST: Oct 6 2021 at 00:42

Hi, I am driving myself mad here and need advice. After 20 years my marriage broke down and I've been on my own quiet happily for the last 9 months. I don't do dating websites or anything and although I felt it would be lovely to meet someone I wasn't going to go looking. 3 weeks ago a man messaged me, thinking I was someone else (probably clever line) anyway we got chatting and...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryChoosing between keeping a baby or not?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 21 2021 at 17:44 by NomNominous RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / susiedqq LAST POST: Sep 22 2021 at 20:20

I need some advice for my best friends. They are both early 20's. They have found out that the girl in the relationship is pregnant. She is against abortion. The boy has expressed strongly that he thinks its best for her to have an abortion. He has been depressed since finding out because of not feeling ready and also feeling like having a child now will ruin his life. She is now stuck as to ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryShould I bail out without knowing for certain the rumors are true?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 20 2021 at 22:00 by tooearlytogiveup RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / sputnik00 LAST POST: Oct 6 2021 at 00:49

Started seeing someone I’ve know through a friend. After going out to a restaurant a got word from some folks that I he has had a troubled past with money and relationships (taking money from his prior spouses). Also heard from a friend who was out with him and some other folks that he was bragging about his sexual conquests and talking about a woman’s breasts in the same room at the restauran...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryBreak ups
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 17 2021 at 14:02 by reallyneedhelo RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Aka LAST POST: Sep 20 2021 at 08:24

so.. I was with someone for four and half years. I split up with her because I thought she would be better off with out me because i was so worried about hurting her. she was the most amazing person and I regret putting through what I did. Its been over a year since we split and all I've done is think about her and wonder how she was getting on. each day has been a fight within my head trying...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryBoyfriend might be bisexual and wants to explore together
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 16 2021 at 04:23 by ConfusedMoose RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Aka LAST POST: Sep 20 2021 at 08:27

My boyfriend of 6 years wants to explore his possible bisexuality. He wants to do this with me. I have no desire to have a threesome as much as he feels this is important to him. Can I get advice and outcome stories from people in or behind similar situations? I don't want any ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHaven't talked with my ex-potential soulmate for years, how to proceed
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 15 2021 at 08:57 by Aman N RESPONDENTS: DownByTheRiver / susiedqq LAST POST: Sep 16 2021 at 12:12

Years ago I fell in love with the perfect girl and she still is my "crush" today. Back then I WAS her crush too,but I was filled with anxiety, fear, insecurities (dont have a good impression i suck at studies+sports, dont have friends and i am ugly af) and i never really had the courage to ask her out or even start a conversation with her . She "moved on" and has had a few ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I heading for a bad ending by dating a good friend of my ex?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 15 2021 at 01:54 by Hopefully RESPONDENTS: DownByTheRiver / susiedqq / Aka LAST POST: Sep 20 2021 at 08:30

Dating a good friend of one of my exes. My ex and I broke up a couple of years ago and he has been with somebody else ever since. However, I recently heard he still has feelings for me but I have no feelings for him whatsoever. The friend I’m dating decided to tell him that we’ve been going out so we didn’t hear from somebody else and leaders to say he was very unhappy. He also told the man ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs it wise to reach out to ex friend?
[1 POST] CREATED: Sep 14 2021 at 09:10 by Pumpkina RESPONDENTS: DownByTheRiver LAST POST: Sep 15 2021 at 19:51

I am in a happy relationship and have a small circle of friends and life is overall thriving. A few years ago I was in a long term relationship with my now ex and through our social group met a girl same age as myself. I didn’t really like her at first impression but my partner at the time got on really well with her and they quickly became friends. After a couple of months and seeing her...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy boyfriend was perfect for me and suddenly dumped me out of the blue
[7 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 8 2021 at 21:38 by hhhcccaarrrrr RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / lily31 / manalone / oldmainer / Aka LAST POST: Sep 20 2021 at 08:26

Ive been with my now ex boyfriend for a year, we had just celebrated our 1 year anniversary one month ago and both our birthdays 3 weeks ago which we went away for and had the best time ever. A week ago he asked to talk and told me over the last 2 weeks he didnt feel the same anymore and he doesnt know why but he cant lead me on so he wanted to end things. I was completely devastated especiall...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMarriage is hard
[1 POST] CREATED: Sep 4 2021 at 18:10 by Heartbreak Warfare RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Sep 4 2021 at 20:37

Been together 11 years, married for 5. Two kids together, plus one from him with a dysfunctional baby mama past. Never went on our honeymoon- or any vacation really other than tent camping. He works a lot…. I see him maybe two hours in the evenings before I fall asleep and on Sundays. I miss him all day and feel sad and loneliness, when he comes home I display resentfulness which cause a mou...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryShould I have gotten married? Feeling stuck.
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Sep 1 2021 at 23:24 by GreenFlask RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Sep 9 2021 at 23:07

I have been with my husband for 4 years (married 2). He is the only person I have ever dated/kissed/had sex with. Recently I've been having feelings for a good friend of mine who I didn't meet until after I started dating my now husband. I don't think this friend has any idea about my feelings for him. I love my husband, I really do, we get along great, he makes me laugh, and...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAdvice about emotionally abusive relationship
[1 POST] CREATED: Sep 1 2021 at 05:39 by JESter1993 RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Sep 2 2021 at 23:59

My fiancé and I have been together for 11 years and our wedding is in 3 months from now. Almost 2 years ago, I got caught by my fiancé in a porn addiction, which led us to seek counseling and work out our relationship. All the counseling has made me learn how emotionally abusive she has been towards me in our years together, which is what led to the porn addiction. Lately, I have been strugg...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryOpinions please
[7 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 24 2021 at 17:01 by LovesCats RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / manalone / Checkmate15282 LAST POST: Aug 26 2021 at 12:43

My partner and I are both female, in our 50s and live together. We've been in a relationship for about a year and a half. Last Friday night we had plans to go out for the evening and we got into an argument. She took off and wouldn't tell me where she was going or what time she would be home. I was really upset. I texted her a little while later and told her I'm going out and I ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhat to do? I lied or something like that and it might be found out
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 23 2021 at 23:03 by sad teenage guy RESPONDENTS: DojaBoyTellEm / susiedqq LAST POST: Aug 31 2021 at 10:43

I’m scared of a phone call with a friend because he might find out I’m unfortunately a girl. So I (girl,16) met this guy (same age) online on a website to find friends and we’ve been texting for months. He always tells me he wants to call me and talk on the phone and that’s a good idea because it’s faster than texting and “really talking” will make the friendship stronger, won’t...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHelp
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 23 2021 at 21:16 by kasey RESPONDENTS: DojaBoyTellEm LAST POST: Aug 25 2021 at 17:15

HI, Im 40 years old, lived a very successful life as i have dedicated my like to business so have sacrificed marriage and children for the good life which I have enjoyed every minute. I have always been attracted to the older man, 6 years ago i was in a relationship with a very attractive, very good honest man who was only 15 years my senior, everyone accepted him and it was the first time I sta...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIn-laws holding a grudge after miscarriage
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 23 2021 at 20:39 by K19 RESPONDENTS: kasey / DojaBoyTellEm / susiedqq LAST POST: Aug 26 2021 at 21:37

My husband and I found out we lost what would have been our second baby when I was 3 months pregnant last October. It was a really hard time for both of us, a massive shock, and the saddest thing we’ve experienced. I struggled to accept it and spoke to a counsellor/therapist to try and find a way that I could come to terms with had happened, and help me deal with my grief. Nothing helped, and mo...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWrong about racism
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 23 2021 at 07:10 by CRL5 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / DojaBoyTellEm / oldmainer LAST POST: Aug 23 2021 at 19:49

Last night I had dinner with my husband. There were six tables on an outdoor terrace, each table with a M/F couple. It was very windy and I noticed the wait staff offering several women a shawl towards the end of the evening. I was having a great night when I looked around and noticed that every woman at each of the other five tables was wearing a restaurant-provided shawl except me. At that momen...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFeeling stuck
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 21 2021 at 18:16 by Coffeeandcoffee RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / DojaBoyTellEm / oldmainer LAST POST: Aug 22 2021 at 14:39

I've been with my bf for about a year and a half and even in the beginning, I wasn't feeling too excited about him but I wasn't in a good place and I probably shouldn't have been dating but I was isolated and wanted some human interaction and this was right when the pandemic and the lockdowns hit. I always hoped that maybe I would get to know him better and change how I felt. ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I wrong? Opinions needed!
[7 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 20 2021 at 22:23 by Lucidityisfleeting RESPONDENTS: manalone / susiedqq / oldmainer / DojaBoyTellEm LAST POST: Aug 22 2021 at 13:54

My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years. Two years ago he cheated on me, left and bane back 5 separate times for the same girl. Pretty quick after the final tube he went to jail for 6 months where he proceeded to tell me I was his everything and his wonderful things would be when he got out etc etc etc... He got out and things have changed some, I have access to all his accounts (at leas...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow to deal with wife being drugged and assaulted- so I think!
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 20 2021 at 16:07 by BrownBoyfromNYC RESPONDENTS: DojaBoyTellEm / oldmainer LAST POST: Aug 22 2021 at 16:00

A few months ago, my wife and I invited a male friend and a female friend to our home for dinner and drink. After dinner, the 2 women were drinking wine and we were drinking beer. An hour later, the male friend offered THC gummies to my wife. She never did drugs but she took 3 gummies and 3 pieces of chocolate (no one else took it) 40mg in total. Another hour later my wife got high and horny. She ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categorySo confused I don't know where my happiness lies anymore
[8 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 19 2021 at 16:45 by Platinum RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / DojaBoyTellEm / oldmainer LAST POST: Aug 22 2021 at 17:14

I could really use some help. Please don't hate instead. Pleae read till the end. I'm 21 and am in a relationship since 16. Everything was fine until 4 years ago when we suddenly realised my boyfriend's parents had run into debt. He was in his freshman year of college and had started looking for ways to earn money, giving up his plans to continue his education abroad. I joined...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMil intrusive in laws
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 18 2021 at 08:51 by Fedupofbeingfedup RESPONDENTS: DojaBoyTellEm / susiedqq LAST POST: Aug 19 2021 at 03:57

Hi im new here and looking for advice or a extra pair of eyes to look in on why im feeling suffocated and feeling resentment towards in laws especially mil. Not married but have been with partner 8 years. We have a happy little life from the start his mother has never left us in peace. She used to turn up uninvited and we owuld be running around trying to tidy things up hiding stuff we didnt wa...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI have a very tricky situation happening
[6 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 18 2021 at 05:48 by Dakota 3016 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / oldmainer / DojaBoyTellEm LAST POST: Aug 22 2021 at 02:22

About a year ago my sister and I bought a house together yes we were thinking about fixing it up and selling it and maybe doing another one we are both retired so it’s not a problem for us to spend time doing that. So After we found a house in another state I went down to stay in the house while my sister sold her house and cleared out. She Call one day and told me that she had met someone and t...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryUnderstanding
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 17 2021 at 18:23 by Jonny1980 RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / Checkmate15282 LAST POST: Aug 20 2021 at 21:52

My ex broke up with me last week, Iv fine the usual asking if but when how etc.. she’s just saying she didn’t see a future despite being engaged to be married.. Trouble is she keeps telling she loves me, misses me and think I’m wonderful followed by but it’s best we split up.. I think it’s a little cruel she keeps saying those things considering she knows I love her and want her...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWas this a toxic friendship?
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 14 2021 at 08:52 by Danishcookie RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / oldmainer / Checkmate15282 / DojaBoyTellEm LAST POST: Aug 17 2021 at 18:35

My (former) best friend abruptly ended our decades long friendship after I invited her to my wedding. She never congratulated me. I had a feeling something was wrong but I didn’t want to assume so I waited for her response. Weeks later she sent a long message that blindsided me (there was a lot more said that is not on this list): - she was no longer going to talk to me - she couldn’...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryGiving up on the idea of finding love after various bad experiences
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 13 2021 at 17:19 by Gemini90 RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / DojaBoyTellEm LAST POST: Aug 17 2021 at 11:58

I'm a 30 year old woman, and after several bad dating/relationship experiences, I've become thoroughly disillusioned with the idea of finding a decent partner or falling in love again. I would love to fall in love and settle down, but after so many false starts and toxic relationships/dating experience with the wrong people, I fear I won't ever find "that person" to settle...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFriendship or relationship?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 7 2021 at 05:35 by Patrica7103 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / DojaBoyTellEm LAST POST: Aug 17 2021 at 23:09

So I have a friend I’ve known most of my life, but we start messaging and talking around 3 years ago when I split from my ex. This was purely on a friendship basis, as he was in a relationship, however we spoke most days, mainly just random chat. When he split from him ex about a year ago, the flirty banter, sexual innuendos started, just cheeky chat, again nothing serious. Recently that’s cha...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIt frustrates me that it might be because of my looks because of my
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 7 2021 at 00:42 by TheColorPink RESPONDENTS: Aka / oldmainer LAST POST: Aug 8 2021 at 12:17

Looks because I don't have a boyfriend? Because I might be rated to be way below a 0 or rated to be a 1. ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categorySexy lingerie before s**
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 6 2021 at 22:34 by Confused unhappy RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / oldmainer LAST POST: Aug 8 2021 at 18:31

Hi Everyone, My husband and I have been married for 8 years. My husband is a wonderful man I've ever known and I am very thankful of having him as my husband. I really don't know how to start this but, In our early years of marriage, it doesn't matter if I wear sexy lingerie or not. But later in our marriage, this becomes mandatory before making love. He started to buy my s...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryBoyfriend kissed my best friend
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 5 2021 at 19:09 by avengersblondie RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / oldmainer / DojaBoyTellEm LAST POST: Aug 17 2021 at 18:52

I want to preface that both of these people mean the world to me, and I have sat on this problem for months since it happened because I didn't want to act too rashly. Let's set the scene: after 7 months of deployment, my boyfriend finally came home. I was incredibly anxious and excited. Without my knowledge, he was coming home a month earlier than planned, and was planning a surprise ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow do I chill out?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Aug 5 2021 at 09:50 by adeleakd RESPONDENTS: lily31 / susiedqq LAST POST: Aug 5 2021 at 13:12

I have been with a guy for the past 3 years, and ever since he has always been very laid-back. I didn't mind it since I didn't want a boyfriend who hovered or was hard to get along with. Most of the time he's doing his own thing, gaming, sleeping, working out, etc. and I am drawing or sleeping. We tend to go hours a day without texting eachother, and occassionally can go a day w...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI love my mom and her communication makes me feel ignored…
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 31 2021 at 17:21 by Anon1113 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Letstalk121 LAST POST: Aug 1 2021 at 03:02

Hi All. I hate being so cliche and it’s also partially why I didn’t own my feelings about this, as well as legitimately love my mom. Long story short — I’ve had an interesting dynamic with my family where I was loved unconditionally, no intentional harm and also have felt disconnected due to being “the emotional one”. What’s “funny” is both my parents are more like me in that...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI hate my boyfriends dog
[8 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 30 2021 at 22:47 by Applebaum RESPONDENTS: Letstalk121 / oldmainer LAST POST: Aug 1 2021 at 15:01

I want to start with this: I’ve always loved dogs and I’ve never hurt her. She’s a small Pomeranian mix and I hate her personality. She’s needy, dirty, and annoying. We also have a cat that I adore because she’s clean and not as needy. When my bf and I started dating over a year ago, she would pee on doggie pads and shit on the bedroom carpet and he would let her sleep all over...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAsking to much?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 30 2021 at 09:17 by RiverJ RESPONDENTS: sonangela7 / arabella5 LAST POST: Jul 30 2021 at 10:21

Hello, I've been married to my husband for 16 years now. I love him so much but my upset is he never does anything special for me like roses,card NOTHING! Our anniversary was yesterday and I even gave hints but nada... I've told him several times that I would like more romance he always says he'll work on it and it never happens. He thinks paying bills shows enough love 🤷‍♀...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categorySeeking advice on confusing flirtation
[6 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 27 2021 at 16:47 by Devoriah RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / sonangela7 / arabella5 / carter / susiedqq LAST POST: Aug 4 2021 at 00:38

So this guy I know has been a bit flirtatious with me. For example, when he sits down across from me, he sits quite close so that his feet touch mine and he'll leave them there for a bit. He’s squeezed my shoulder, touched my hand, touched my knee (if I recall), given me hugs (he initiated), complimented me, stood over me close to me, asked about my relationship status, etc. I’ve caught h...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHusband wants to buy a property overseas- alone
[7 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 26 2021 at 10:01 by Strawberry1984 RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / carter / sonangela7 / susiedqq / arabella5 / Letstalk121 LAST POST: Jul 30 2021 at 22:02

Hi everyone, My husband, I and are two small children lives in Scandinavia. He’s not from here, but holds a Canadian citizenship and so does our children (they’re born here in Scandinavia, so they have two citizenships) To make a long story short; husband never liked it here. We have a lot of problems and arguments. He never found himself here. Loved his life in Canada. He’s a self employ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDo I have feelings for him or am I just really lonely
[6 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 24 2021 at 08:03 by Sosnitskaya RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / sophiecan / sonangela7 / carter LAST POST: Jul 29 2021 at 11:54

Hii I made this account just to ask for help, and I have been wanting to use this more so ig two birds with one stone situation here. So to start with my situation, my ex (17m) and I (17f), had broken up about 6 months ago, after 2 years of being together, and it was one of the roughest things I've ever gone through. I have abandonment issues related to some family stuff and I don't li...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryNeed relationship advice. dealing with a controlling mean woman
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 24 2021 at 05:55 by Dpmichigan11 RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / arabella5 / Applebaum / Letstalk121 LAST POST: Jul 30 2021 at 23:20

I have a girlfriend that I have been fooling around with on and off since the age of 15. We finally reconnected 8 years ago and she moved in after a few months. We fall out alot cause I don't trust her and she does funny things. After 7 years we fell out and she moved with her mother. She had already gotten mean and want no sex. Yelling at me , sleeping at the other end of the bed, get...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhat to do
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 24 2021 at 00:43 by Foxk RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / arabella5 / sonangela7 LAST POST: Jul 29 2021 at 10:45

Okay. I am new here but need advice. I've been with my current boyfriend for almost 5 years and we have a child together. It's been a very exhausting 5 years. Constantly fighting. Me leaving and then coming back in hopes it will work (it never does). It's just a matter of time before out next argument and fallout. He hates my family and we spend more time apart then we do to...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryPossible overreacting situation before it happens help please
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 23 2021 at 19:14 by Bluefairiesmoon78 RESPONDENTS: carter / sonangela7 / arabella5 / Cupid LAST POST: Jul 31 2021 at 06:05

Maybe I am worrying about nothing. Maybe I a reading into something that is not there but here goes. I have been in a relationship with D for over 11 years. We have two amazing children together. D is an amazing guy. He has always been very truthful and honest. He has a very big heart and will give you the shirt right off his back. It is one the things that has always attracted me to him is that h...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryCurrently going through forced divorce situation....
[10 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 21 2021 at 12:20 by Icarus RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Birds1919 / Sunbeams / sophiecan / 8Twenty8 LAST POST: Aug 7 2021 at 13:17

It's been a few weeks since this awful event happened. I ended up getting so drunk and was seduced into sex by my wife's sister in law, I can barely remember all of the details of the whole night leading up to it but I remember snapping back to my senses seconds into it and putting a stop to it but it was still too late, all hell has broken loose, and I seem to be the only one taking res...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy ex wants to be friends - what does this really mean??
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 21 2021 at 10:41 by Wbelly RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / sonangela7 / oldmainer LAST POST: Jul 24 2021 at 14:05

It's been just over a month since I ended our relationship. We were not in touch until he recently reached out to me. We got along really well in our relationship in terms of the things we had in common, goals etc. I still love him and do feel I should have given our relationship a better chance. Bottom line is that if he wanted to get back together I most likely would be willing. Sin...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI’m lost what should do
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 20 2021 at 04:07 by Anonymous Trucker RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / 8Twenty8 / sonangela7 / arabella5 LAST POST: Jul 26 2021 at 13:58

I don’t know what I should do.My life is passing me by and it’s stressing me out.Im a good person easy going but I just don’t know what’s my issue at home.I have nobody to confide in so I came here.Im a 35 yr old male.I’ve been with this woman since 2014 everything was great until she found out she was pregnant and it went down hill from there.she began becoming distant from me but I tho...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I overthinking my relationship?
[1 POST] CREATED: Jul 19 2021 at 04:53 by Anonymity73 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Jul 19 2021 at 20:55

My boyfriend and I have recently just started dating. The issue lies in the fact we’re both going to different high schools, and I’m worried he might replace me or eventually just forget me. I’m not as fearful for his loyalty given he has been on the receiving end of a cheater, but what if another girl captivates him in the same way I did? And what if He becomes tired of me? I rarely see ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDoes he actually like me or just want sex?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 15 2021 at 12:00 by anon12345 RESPONDENTS: oldmainer / susiedqq LAST POST: Jul 17 2021 at 04:04

Hello there! I never ask anything on forums, but I'm really confused. let me explain (sorry for a long rant). I got out of relationship not all too long ago and then I met this guy at work - and damn, i fell for him. We chatted with my colleagues, somehow talked about relationships - he said his longest one was 2 months and that's it (he's 26). He fucked around a lot, like really...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy ex reached out a month after I ended our relationship…what now ?
[6 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 14 2021 at 10:35 by Nate07 RESPONDENTS: manalone / susiedqq / oldmainer / carter / arabella5 LAST POST: Jul 23 2021 at 14:09

My ex and I recently broke up, and he’s just reached out to me after over a month. I’ve been thinking of him quite a bit, wondering if my decision to end things was the right one. Our relationship was perfect in my opinion up until it became clear ( he admitted this ) that he struggles with trust issues due to being cheated on in the past. We talked about that a bit, however, it got to the poi...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI need help!
[8 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 12 2021 at 17:30 by ineedadvice RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / oldmainer LAST POST: Jul 18 2021 at 18:05

hello, i recently found out that my boyfriend of 14 years is messaging a man to meet up for sex. He has sent and recieved pictures that have then been deleted and unsent (facebook messenger). Not once has he ever expressed to me that he is attracted to men and now i feel blind sided. iv been keeping it a secret for a while as i cant talk to any of my friends or family as they all love him a...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI don't love the mother of our 6 month old child
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 11 2021 at 19:06 by Oliver-21 RESPONDENTS: manalone / sonangela7 / arabella5 LAST POST: Jul 26 2021 at 14:02

I got together with my current partner at the back end of 2019 things developed fast and she moved into my home in March of 2020 at the start of the lockdown. We are both approaching 40 and discussed and started trying for a baby, during this time I noticed insecurity problems, she was getting drunk alot while at home and was agreeing a lot. It may seem irresponsible but at this point I reali...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWanting to run far away
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 11 2021 at 15:38 by Sosig RESPONDENTS: Soulmate LAST POST: Jul 12 2021 at 02:17

For the longest time now I've wanted to sever all ties and leave, family, friends, everyone, and just disappear. Am I crazy? I'm not on particularly bad terms with people but my family haven't exactly done wonders for my mental health, and deep down I just want to vanish and start afresh somewhere new with a clean slate, I live in a small dead end town and I don't want to be s...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhat do you make of this?
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 10 2021 at 19:06 by Macncheese RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / manalone / arabella5 LAST POST: Jul 22 2021 at 13:53

I am in my mid 40’s so is my partner so not a young relationship, anyway we’ve been together a while and about 4 months into our relationship we were chatting as I was due to get my hair coloured, he said to me in a room full of women I will always choose the blonde, this made me feel very uncomfortable as now I feel I can’t change my hair colour. Would this bother you or am I over thi...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryGirlfriend secretly stayed in touch with her recent ex. What to do?
[1 POST] CREATED: Jul 3 2021 at 01:44 by StevenZ RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Jul 7 2021 at 01:14

Hi all I (M47) am in a relationship with my girlfriend (F29) for about five months now. We're very much in love (she was the one initiating the relationship btw if that matters) and things are pretty serious between us. However, she sometimes wonders if she enjoyed her 'single' life enough (she's been single for two years since her last serious relationship, but one year fee...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhat to do when you find out you are the other guy
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jul 2 2021 at 07:19 by Boulderados RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Aug 3 2021 at 14:30

A few months ago I met Sarah (not her real name) and we really hit it off and became good friends. Especially in Corona time it was good to have someone in your bubble to take long walks with, watch a movie, share a meal, etc. She would occasionally even spend the night but then in the guest room. You see I respectfully kept my distance as Sarah was struggling with an unresolved relationship. S...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI know I am jealous, but .. my story has also a lot of red flags
[1 POST] CREATED: Jul 1 2021 at 15:35 by Morralles RESPONDENTS: oldmainer LAST POST: Jul 7 2021 at 00:38

PLEASE. FOR THOSE WHO WILL ALOW THE TIME TO READ, YOU HAVE MY DEEPEST SYMPATY AND THANKS. Our relationship started in 2015, 6 years ago, and at the beginning it was super ok, milk and honey, for me, and honestly, I thought it was likewise for her. I’m 53 years old, but I don’t show my age. She, Mira, is 7 years younger than me. Her husband died 3 years earlier. Mira worked for a small priva...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs this normal? Should I stay in this relationship?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jun 26 2021 at 23:07 by Julia22 RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Jun 27 2021 at 10:45

I am with my partner 3 and had years. We live together 2 years and he has a 7 y old girl from another relationship. She is a sweet girl. The problem is him… since we’re together I can’t really remember when did he invited me somewhere for a date, night, weekend. There has been some holidays but mostly I had organised it and paid for it, first was on his birthday second one as well and third ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMet a guy 2 months ago and Feeling awful because of his ex?
[1 POST] CREATED: Jun 26 2021 at 15:47 by Daisyswob RESPONDENTS: cherry-picking LAST POST: Jun 26 2021 at 19:32

It’s a long story but I’ll make it short. I messaged a Turkish barber 9 weeks ago asking if he is single. He replied back saying yes and told me how beautiful I am etc. He worked down the road from me and I his customer because I take my nephew there for a haircut. The next evening we met for a coffee. And I know this is rushed but since that day, I have spend EVERY SINGLE night with him s...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHeartbreak again
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jun 25 2021 at 13:27 by Jbug RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Jun 25 2021 at 14:18

I recently got back in contact with the father of my child. We maintain contact because of our daughter But for the past month we have been really close. Hé says he wants us to be closer and explore our options. But given the fact that I was heartbroken for years after we broke up I am afraid that this is a setup and I don’t want to get hurt again. Yes I still love him! Should I go with the fl...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categorySo very confused
[1 POST] CREATED: Jun 24 2021 at 19:11 by Misunderstood ange RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Jun 25 2021 at 04:31

I have been freinds with a guy for 5 yrs we txt often almost every day the chat between us is always civil now and again he will flirt in txt with me .. we normally meet every few weeks for a coffee and I have slept with him only once ...I'm so confused on our coffee dates he has passionately kissed me and I am tryingbto work out what this means if anything I don't know if he wants to en...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs this acceptable in a relationship?
[1 POST] CREATED: Jun 24 2021 at 09:38 by Sisu180 RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Jun 25 2021 at 00:35

So a man comes into your shop that works next door, you see him most days because obviously you work next door to each other. So you are civil with each other and say hi etc. So he comes into your shop and says that after his tattoo has healed he wants to go on a sunbed, and doesn't know which cream is best so you just recommend the most popular one. Then the following day you end up research...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs my marriage over?
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Jun 23 2021 at 20:11 by anon1223456 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Julia22 LAST POST: Jun 30 2021 at 19:54

For the first time in our 15 year relationship, today I felt no connection with my wife during sex. I already felt a disconnect in the relationship but to feel nothing during sex really hit me for six. I feel like this is the end. Anyone with experience of this, any advice? ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI think I may have created a toxic environment in my relationship
[1 POST] CREATED: Jun 23 2021 at 06:06 by catfriendly RESPONDENTS: Clark16 LAST POST: Jun 23 2021 at 11:43

I (20F) feel that I've created a toxic relationship with my boyfriend (22M) of almost 2 years. I will be honest that now that I look back at everything it was certainly set up to be toxic and SUPER codependent. I'll start with the beginning and then jump to present day. I met him at work and hit it off pretty well, we had similar interests and seemed really compatible so we went on a han...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs he confusing me or himself confused?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jun 22 2021 at 20:05 by Nishtha RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Jun 28 2021 at 12:17

I am a girl. I am in a dilemma where I don't know whether to move on or keep continue talking to a guy who proposed me for marriage first but a few days before when he revealed in his family that he is seeing a girl (me), his family wasn't so welcoming. I never wanted to marry at first place, then at my private company, I met him, hehe by then had cleared govt. Exam and was doing a part ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI cheat on my husband
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jun 22 2021 at 19:03 by dessert_roes RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / GGN LAST POST: Jun 24 2021 at 14:23

Hello, I am 28 year old wife, my husband is 33. We've been married for 5 years. We've been dating 2 years before that. However, 2 years ago I started cheating on my husband with a younger man. He was 21 back then. It started as if I was hypnotized. I didn't know how things got so deep, so quickly. I met this guy on my yoga classes. Soon after that we started walking home toge...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryConfusing behavior
[1 POST] CREATED: Jun 22 2021 at 12:04 by Clark16 RESPONDENTS: 8Twenty8 LAST POST: Jun 24 2021 at 02:01

My wife and I have been married for close to 20 years and have had a good relationship all around. A few weeks ago my wife went away for a girls weekend with some friends and got drunk at the bar where they were staying. She ended up exposing her breasts (bra only) to a few men that they were with at the bar that night as she told me about the encounter once she returned from her trip . Nothing...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryConfused ex says he loves me
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jun 19 2021 at 23:21 by Nice Cuppa RESPONDENTS: Marta LAST POST: Jun 21 2021 at 23:26

Broke up with my partner of 17 months due to him not compromising re moving in together location wise was his issue . I’m in late 30’s & felt going forward if he can’t compromise where is this going? Met up with him for chat a month ago both of us said we still love each other & I said if he wants me in his future he has show me commitment- i.e find a decent rental house for us to ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy bf has an Inappropriate relationship with a girl half his age!!
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jun 18 2021 at 11:25 by Nichole878954 RESPONDENTS: Hummingbird / Marta LAST POST: Jun 20 2021 at 22:54

My bf has a inappropriate relationship she is 20 he is 43 she is his friends daughter has known her most her life they lived down the rd.. they never talked while we have been together til she moved in down the street renting her moms house... he makes comments about her like she’s hot he wants to fuck her got upset when I didn’t think she was hot then I find out at 16 her asked to see her nip...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI’m conflicted… should I risk it?
[1 POST] CREATED: Jun 18 2021 at 07:13 by Beetle RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Jun 28 2021 at 19:23

So… there’s this person whom I’ve known for a long time. We were close friends since elementary school and always got along and stuff. They’re sweet, and caring, and we make each other laugh. Things sort of changed in high school, when they told me that they had a crush on me. At the time, I wasn’t ready to be in a relationship, (you know, being young and dumb) and I turned them down as ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryGoing crazy
[1 POST] CREATED: Jun 17 2021 at 13:24 by swimmingabroad RESPONDENTS: Marta LAST POST: Jun 20 2021 at 23:00

Dear All, I have got into a mess and can't get out of it I need some advice please. Basically I have ended up in an online relationship with someone who is 15 years younger than me , I am married with kids , in an unhappy marriage and live a very stressful life for various reasons. I think it was a form of escape to start chatting to people online and find friendship I was not looking for any...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhy is he doing this?
[1 POST] CREATED: Jun 16 2021 at 10:20 by IamSanna RESPONDENTS: Marta LAST POST: Jun 20 2021 at 23:04

There is one guy, having two kids, same as me. We r friends now for some time, since he got divorced and his ex has new bf and kid. When his kids r staying with him we always play together with my and his kids. I confess my feelings to him andhe said he doesnt feel the same. It was a year ago. I stopped talking to him for a week, then he contacted me again and we talk normal since then. Last c...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum category35M girl asked my contact but gave up when she knew the age gap
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jun 15 2021 at 02:51 by Pnfsvjxokd RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Jun 27 2021 at 16:23

I was in a zoom meeting and a friend of a friend asked my contact from her. When this common friend told me about her, she said that this girl "liked me." I added her and we talked for 2 days. But one of the first things she asked me was my age. I told her I'm 35 and she told me she is 21. I found her really pretty. But the next day she opened the game that she couldn't see ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI'm worried and scared I might never find a boyfriend?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jun 7 2021 at 02:38 by TheColorPink RESPONDENTS: Aka / alloutthere LAST POST: Jul 10 2021 at 05:02

Because people might might think I'm really ugly as possible....

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDrunkenly kissed someone - do I tell my boyfriend?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jun 6 2021 at 01:34 by TricksAreForKids RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Clark16 LAST POST: Jun 22 2021 at 21:03

I have been in a relationship for 6 years and I love my boyfriend dearly. Last night I went out and got really drunk (not an excuse) and ended up kissing another guy for less than 2 seconds. It meant nothing and I immediately regretted it. If anything this completely solidified the fact that my boyfriend is the person I want to be with for the rest of my life. Do I tell him? I know that you should...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryPhysical relationship and emotional effects
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jun 2 2021 at 17:01 by Dharshini RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Jun 12 2021 at 13:00

Hi.. I am 26Female. I lost my dad when i was 19. I planned to study CA. I fell in love with a guy(X) different caste, during my 21 and i did not study or be happy with him or with my life. I know it was toxic but i was scared that i will lose him. Because I don’t have anybody else. I was very impatient, over possessive on him. I tried a lot to come out of that relationship but couldn’t. When i...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDating a sociopath- hopeless?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jun 2 2021 at 12:42 by Plastics567 RESPONDENTS: manalone / susiedqq LAST POST: Jun 4 2021 at 20:30

, I’ve been seeing a guy who says he’s a sociopath and feels nothing for anyone except his son. BUT he abandoned his son and wife (not sure if they’re still married?) to move to California 3000 miles away, for a job that’s not much different from his job back home. He’ll tell me he’s so depressed over missing his son and “ruining his family,” yet he could’ve gone back home for th...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhat do i do to get out of this loop with girl i like?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: May 31 2021 at 23:39 by Somehere RESPONDENTS: 786 / susiedqq LAST POST: Jun 1 2021 at 22:46

Hello,this story will be long but i will try to keep it short as i can,but it's important to get all the details out so if some of you have advice for me it would be better that you get whole story. So,story goes long way back when i was a secound year of my high school life,in my country we have 4 years of high school system,and there was this girl i really fell for,after abouth a month o...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow to navigate a 25 year age gap
[2 POSTS] CREATED: May 29 2021 at 18:49 by NonJudgemental2021 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: May 31 2021 at 22:45

Manhattan based Male 48 - 23 year old female. I live in the East village in a walk-up apartment. I am single, work at a charity and I do research in sociology. I am clean, decent, respectful, law-abiding, non-smoking, non-drinking. I don't have that much money, but I am an optimist and have a good attitude, a sunny, positive outlook and a good voice. Am Asian. In February 2020 I met a n...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWant to leave a perfect relationship
[2 POSTS] CREATED: May 27 2021 at 11:29 by DemiLovato123 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: May 27 2021 at 12:43

Hello. I am 19yo,, a female and I am currently at a 2.5 yo long distance relationship. Me and my partner are great. We have the only kind of relationship I would ever see myself in. They are the only type of person I can visualize a long term relationship with. The problem is, I feel like I have lost the excitement and the strong feelings I had in the start of our relationship. Also, I don...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryBoyfriend’s response isn’t what I expected
[3 POSTS] CREATED: May 25 2021 at 08:03 by LuvHeart RESPONDENTS: lily31 / susiedqq / SilviaGirl LAST POST: May 25 2021 at 23:17

I texted my bf “I love you 😘 You’re my favorite person 🥰” and his response was “ Wow nobody ever said that to me before! You're pretty fantastic yourself.” Umm 🤔 … I honestly didn’t expect this response. I would have preferred he just send me the 😘 emoji in response. His wording sucks. I was definitely put off by it. Should I just keep reading into this or let it...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWants a relationship after two dates
[2 POSTS] CREATED: May 24 2021 at 18:28 by SM1592 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / SilviaGirl LAST POST: May 25 2021 at 23:31

So I'm getting some conflicting views on this from friends, and I just wanted to get others' opinions on it even though I'm fairly certain my gut instinct isn't leading me wrong. I met this guy online, and we decided to meet up for a date. The date went really well, and I felt like I liked him a lot. I ended up inviting him over afterwards, and we slept together. I don'...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryGirl gave me number at work
[6 POSTS] CREATED: May 24 2021 at 03:17 by Anonymousbigly RESPONDENTS: SilviaGirl / deontaywilder / 786 LAST POST: May 27 2021 at 16:52

So I'm kinda old, early 40s. Anyway I work in a hospital. There is a young girl, early 20s, works in a different dept in an entry level position while attending college. We have worked together about a year but only actually see each other at work 1 day every other week. We have been friendly, never flirty or anything.she has a boyfriend. Anyways today at the end of her shift she informs me...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFighting to get to the same life level... CREATED: May 22 2021 at 20:40 by retconeezing

my goal in life is to get what others got. there are a few incidents here that stand out. i saw this bodywork practitioner a few years ago. she seemed highly rated, so i booked a session, but what happened is that after the session I used her bathroom, and then as she was letting me out the door she said “why are you looking like that, were you raped?” I didn’t really register it at fi...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryShould I give her a chance?
[1 POST] CREATED: May 22 2021 at 12:03 by Lakrisa RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: May 22 2021 at 12:30

Dear forum users, I would like to write about my difficult relationship. I'm aware of the fact that I should seek the help of a psychologist, but for now I can't afford it. Therefore, I will be grateful for any advice or questions from you - maybe they will make me realize something. This is going to be a long story, but in short: I have a lot of doubts about my current relationship. I ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I in a toxic relationship or not?
[1 POST] CREATED: May 21 2021 at 06:01 by Yana RESPONDENTS: 786 LAST POST: May 21 2021 at 11:21

Hi, three months ago I started my relationship, but since then I feel off and I am very confused. I need someone to listen to me and tell me whether my feelings are valid or I am being anxious?...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryBack with an old boyfriend
[2 POSTS] CREATED: May 21 2021 at 04:36 by Geegee RESPONDENTS: 786 LAST POST: May 21 2021 at 11:28

I recently started talking to an old boyfriend that I have always been n love with and I am struggling to keep the relationship going but I love the guy so I need advice...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI just started dating a sweet, awesome girl. Any tips/advice?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: May 18 2021 at 13:48 by wihenih877 RESPONDENTS: 786 / Santa7 LAST POST: May 24 2021 at 15:51

I (18M) work part-time as an elementary school librarian. For the past almost 2 weeks now, there's been a new girl in town, about my age, doing volunteer work at the school. AFAIK, she just goes around looking for people who need help and doing things with them, which is basically what I did the first few weeks I worked there. One day she came in and asked if I needed any help while I didn...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryCan you be friends with someone you are attracted to?
[1 POST] CREATED: May 16 2021 at 17:10 by LookingGlassAlice RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: May 16 2021 at 23:26

With the new year, I started online dating. I am 28 years old and feel like time is running out to have my own family. After a few flops I found a guy I liked and started hoping that I would enter a meaningful and long-term relationship. A couple months in he told me that we were better off being friends. When we first started seeing each other he was unsure if he wanted kids, but he decided...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIt frustrates me that no men might want to date me?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: May 15 2021 at 13:23 by TheColorPink RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Aka / 786 LAST POST: May 18 2021 at 13:07

It frustrates me that no men might want to date me?...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIt frustrates me that no men might want to date me?
[1 POST] CREATED: May 14 2021 at 14:43 by TheColorPink RESPONDENTS: 786 LAST POST: May 14 2021 at 18:50

Because I might be rated to be really really really really really really really really really really really really really really below a 0/10 or 1 on the beauty scale physicslly....

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryEmotional dilemma
[3 POSTS] CREATED: May 13 2021 at 06:24 by Maddy1214 RESPONDENTS: Sad boy / Anonymous1 / Aka LAST POST: May 14 2021 at 04:16

I am a married woman married for 16 years and have a 15 year old son. I am madly in love with a guy who is 9 years younger than me. He is a divorcee. We happened to become friends and now madly in love with each other. We want to live together but cannot because I cannot leave my family either. Please advice. ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHeartbroken Cinderella
[3 POSTS] CREATED: May 12 2021 at 03:20 by Ichabodzleesie RESPONDENTS: Anonymous1 / Aka / susiedqq LAST POST: May 14 2021 at 12:50

I just discovered my husband has an onlyfans account. Yesterday he showed me a collectible figure he liked, so I scrolled through his history this morning to find it for Father's Day. I never DREAMED this would happen to us. He doesn't seem the type at all, and I never felt I couldn't trust him. He's not only subscribed, he has paid upword of $120 (at least) to these girls for ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryVery weird family situation
[1 POST] CREATED: May 10 2021 at 01:29 by Indespair RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: May 10 2021 at 12:36

Hello.so I am 36, married with a baby. My family (parents and 4 siblings) are all very intertwined with each others lives and I believe this is because we have had somewhat of a chaotic past. My parents got involved in a very spiritual church when my twin and I were young. All lovely people but it was intense.my mum and dad's relationship was v toxic. Mum self harmed. Tried to leave a few ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMother’s Day issue
[1 POST] CREATED: May 10 2021 at 00:51 by Cat90 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: May 10 2021 at 12:43

So I thought I’d do some browsing and try and get other peoples opinions on this. My fiancee decided to buy flowers which were (red roses) from his kids. I want a fan at all and it actually pissed me off. There are deeper reason why it does as in the past she has caused such a headache for us including at my workplace. This individual in the past has gone to the point of stalking him and I.. say...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryLeaving the love of my life because of his family
[5 POSTS] CREATED: May 9 2021 at 15:04 by cannedapple RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / lily31 LAST POST: May 10 2021 at 10:32

Hello everyone, I really felt the need to share this with a group of mature adults, any input is highly appreciated. I have met a person I felt is the love of my life a few years ago. He's everything I was hoping to find for myself, but after a couple of years together, some complex family relationships are starting to untangle, and it makes me feel not so enthusiastic about our future ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow do I prove I do not have trust issues?
[4 POSTS] CREATED: May 9 2021 at 06:05 by Anonymous7 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / SM1592 LAST POST: May 24 2021 at 18:44

My fiance relocated out of town for work, I will soon follow with moving truck. We get along great,everything in common. Something rare in past relationships. I calmly asked him if anything was going on between him and a co worker he texts/calls all the time for hours, even not at work, blowing me and others off while he's on the call, or puts me on hold. I'm not a jealous person in rel...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI need help understanding my husband's behavior
[2 POSTS] CREATED: May 9 2021 at 03:36 by April0117 RESPONDENTS: Anonymous1 / susiedqq LAST POST: May 9 2021 at 16:17

My husband is helpful, kind, and loving the majority of the time but sometimes he can react to things in a way that strikes me as cruel and I don't understand why or know what to do about it. Maybe I'm misinterpreting it or being oblivious in some way but I feel like his moods can change in a moment. I'd like to understand what's going on so I can modify my own behavior in some...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI'm having a bad relationship with my elderly parents
[3 POSTS] CREATED: May 6 2021 at 16:40 by Thorny RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / SilviaGirl LAST POST: May 7 2021 at 16:31

Hi, I am in my 50s and am having a bad relationship with my parents, specifically my father. We have had huge explosive rows regularly since I was in my teens. In my teens and until I left home at the first opportunity, it was physical violence too. My father is not 100% monster however, he is basically a good person, but very weak. It has been like having a jealous older sibling who wi...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryShould I be jealous of two girls I’ve never met?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: May 6 2021 at 15:08 by flowermask RESPONDENTS: endofourdestiny / susiedqq LAST POST: May 6 2021 at 21:26

So late this year my boyfriend and I planned to go to a music festival around both of our birthdays so we could celebrate. My boyfriend’s brother is planning the trip and invited a lot of people from my boyfriend’s friend group. So it turns out most people don’t want to go to this festival except for two girls that my boyfriend used to have feelings for. Leaving me, my boyfriend, his bro...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryGuilt and over-consciousness in the relationship
[3 POSTS] CREATED: May 6 2021 at 14:33 by endofourdestiny RESPONDENTS: flowermask / susiedqq / SilviaGirl LAST POST: May 6 2021 at 22:31

I have been in this relationship for around four years, but between 2018 and 2019, some things happened that probably caused me to feel this way. The backstory is that my boyfriend broke up on me for reasons that are still unclear, because at the time he blamed it on me being needy, depressed, controlling, distancing him from himself and his friends and just “being afraid that our love is fading...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryRelationship advice needed
[5 POSTS] CREATED: May 5 2021 at 19:45 by Blue2020 RESPONDENTS: Anonymous1 / SilviaGirl LAST POST: May 6 2021 at 23:16

I've been with my fiance for just under 4 years. Things were almost picture perfect for 2 of those years until my insecurities started. He did everything in his power to make me feel secure and proved me wrong a thousand times over. It's from a previous relationship and unfortunately, I brought it into this one. It's like a switch just turned on and I was back to being unsecure. Thi...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryPlease help, my partner has a porn problem
[5 POSTS] CREATED: May 3 2021 at 22:59 by ItsJustMe7 RESPONDENTS: manalone / 786 LAST POST: May 5 2021 at 19:45

My partner (M55) and I (F53) met 4 ½ years ago. After 3 month of dating I wanted to end the relationship as he hardly expressed any affection. He is very generous buy buying things, dinners and providing in general but he never looks into my eyes, ask questions, shows an interest in my work or projects, answers only with yes or no and doesn't strings more then four sentences together – an...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs my partner manipulative?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: May 3 2021 at 19:04 by Heyyey RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / 786 LAST POST: May 4 2021 at 13:29

I am in a relationship with him for 5 years now, and we are expecting our first child (I'm 4 months pregnant). But I feel that our relationship is not going well and I am very anxious about that. I have a feeling that he is manipulating me and that his manipulative tendencies have increased now when I am pregnant. At the same time I am not sure if maby my behavior towards him was bad, so he i...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryShould I tell my coworker I like him?
[1 POST] CREATED: May 3 2021 at 04:10 by Michelle1171 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: May 4 2021 at 02:01

I started working with my coworker almost three years ago. It was only recently (about less than a year) that we have gotten closer. He joins me during my lunch time and sits there and chats. He will buy me food that i want to work. Invited me over to his house. I thought he was interested but recently he told me that he likes his old childhood friend. She lives somewhere else and there relationsh...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI feel marriage was a mistake
[1 POST] CREATED: May 2 2021 at 23:16 by Confused.wife92 RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: May 3 2021 at 00:09

So, my husband is a good guy. As far as not cheating and abuse goes. But, the attachment to his mother, is gross to me. His mom has tried living off of him idk how many times, and if it wasn’t for me... she would. This Mother’s Day she even asked him for a ring. She has a boyfriend for stuff like that. He doesn’t take up for me when she makes remarks about me, that are meant to start troub...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy wife feels I don't talk to her that often
[1 POST] CREATED: May 2 2021 at 14:04 by Deepak RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: May 2 2021 at 18:55

We have been married for 14 years and been engaged for 4 years before marriage. My wife feels like I no longer love her, do no care about her and I always talk about food and sex. She always care about me no doubt, she surprises me with good food,etc. I really can't gauge her love and compassion for me, it's simply beyond words. I have this habit of making silly mistakes daily. I don�...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMarriage problems
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 30 2021 at 16:41 by Yashalins123 RESPONDENTS: 786 LAST POST: May 4 2021 at 14:56

Met my husband years ago, but lived in separate states, he wasn’t kind to me at the time, but we were young and dumb. We end up talking again through Facebook. At this point we are living across the country. Me in California working my first job in my career and him in Florida. After a few months I decide to quit my job and move out to be with him. I even bought a ring to ask him to marry me. He...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryShould I tell him how I feel
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 27 2021 at 15:20 by buki93 RESPONDENTS: 786 / lily31 / susiedqq LAST POST: Apr 28 2021 at 02:34

I've been dating a guy for about 2 months, we've been seeing each other a couple of times a week, staying over at each other's houses, going for walks, hanging out, playing games, cooking together, spending the night... We both wanted something serious and made that clear from quite early on so as to not waste time. We talked every day, sending memes and discussing work, gener...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI lost a friend..but was she really?
[6 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 26 2021 at 01:49 by Wanderer0016! RESPONDENTS: SoulJourneyCoach / lily31 / susiedqq / manalone / Dating Diva LAST POST: Apr 28 2021 at 00:21

Hi, I’ve never been on one of these but needed some unbias thoughts/advice. Long story short. I’ve had this friend I’ve known maybe 2 years. She is married and has no kids. I’m in a long term relationship right now and he’s got some flaws, like we all do. I went out with her on St Pattys day and later on she posted pictures of the event online. There was a picture with another girl I...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDid I get married too young?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 24 2021 at 16:38 by Flowerbomi RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / 8Twenty8 LAST POST: Apr 28 2021 at 14:17

My husband and I met when I was 16 and we started dating when I was 18. After I moved to his town, we lived together for 2 years, then got married when I was 20. I don't regret our marriage because he really is my best friend, but I worry that we met too early in life or something. We do not have any children because I'd like for my husband to work out his alcohol problem before we bring...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy partner used Covid to leave a 6 year relationship
[7 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 22 2021 at 11:34 by Katieholmes RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Aka / Pummel187 LAST POST: May 19 2021 at 05:11

I have Covid. My partner for 6 years has been cheating on me. Today, he said he can’t never come because he doesn’t want to catch Covid. He says he is never coming back, moving to a new place. Leaving me stranded for rent and gave me the 1-800- number for Assistance. Does anyone think that he used Covid to leave this relationship is cold, mean, and cruel? I was in shock. What does anyone think...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy spouse doesn’t want sex anymore and if he wants it is hardly ever!
[1 POST] CREATED: Apr 19 2021 at 14:41 by 2021Mona RESPONDENTS: 786 LAST POST: Apr 19 2021 at 15:46

We have been married for 7 years now and we used to have the best sex life, but then for like a year now, he just wants sex only once a month and just doesn’t show any sexual interest towards me :( and well this is affecting me a great deal, makes me feel depressed and unattractive also I sometimes just feel maybe he doesn’t love me anymore. I don’t know what to do, I have tried everythin...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryNo intellectually stimulating conversations with partner
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 19 2021 at 14:18 by Iam_me RESPONDENTS: 2021Mona / MamaBear LAST POST: Apr 25 2021 at 13:56

Hi everyone, My partner and I have been together over 3 years but on and off for a little over a year. We don't live together. There's been a lot of issues we've been trying to work on, however a few remain still. 1. No intellectual/ deep conversations.. We've had 1 deep conversation at the begining of our relationship and that was one he brought up about his ex. ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryRelationship
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 18 2021 at 19:17 by Johnny of RESPONDENTS: Soulmate LAST POST: Apr 19 2021 at 20:46

Hi all new here Can anyone explain the reason why my partner would knock on a mans door after a night out that she seen in pub that night. She sad she done it to get her sister a date who she was with that night ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWe don't have sex and he doesn't make plans anymore
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 18 2021 at 12:29 by Toodlepips1234 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / 2021Mona / 786 / Soulmate LAST POST: Apr 19 2021 at 22:01

I have been with my partner for nearly 2 years. The first year was amazing, we travelled, went out all the time and spent time having a laugh and enjoying eachother. Since lockdown started though, it's been downhill. We have sex once every 6 weeks and time in between nothing sensual happens, we dont sext or have even remotely sexual conversations. I miss him so much. What's worse is ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryNight shift moods
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 16 2021 at 15:53 by Boulouka RESPONDENTS: 2021Mona / Soulmate LAST POST: Apr 20 2021 at 06:35

My partner is used to having a drink everynight in the pub but is now working night shifts so can only drink during the weekend. He has become grumpy and moody with me and I feel I'm walking on eggshells. Is this why he's character has changed. He says that the one day he is off work he will do a marathon run at the pub. His mood swings affect me as I take them personally and feel he...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryNo children, has me spinning out
[1 POST] CREATED: Apr 14 2021 at 21:46 by Aka RESPONDENTS: SilviaGirl LAST POST: Apr 15 2021 at 21:56

When my wife and I got married, we agreed that we would wait 5 years to have children. We had read that most marriages fail within the first 5 years, so that is why we chose that period to wait. We didn't want to risk bringing children into a failed marriage. During those 5 years, her Mother passed away. She told me that she didn't want children after that, because she always counted ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMove or stay
[1 POST] CREATED: Apr 14 2021 at 15:24 by Toils RESPONDENTS: tarantula LAST POST: Apr 14 2021 at 20:05

Been living in a privately rented house for two years with my husband. It’s a nice area and a nice house and sometimes I am happy to live there other times I cannot wait to get away from it and wonder if we should move. Our last privately rented house was horrible compared to this house and the landlord didn’t want to pay for any repairs so we could not wait to move. This house we are in now...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDrinking
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 10 2021 at 11:14 by Tumlus85 RESPONDENTS: mfb / manalone / tarantula / susiedqq LAST POST: Apr 14 2021 at 13:14

I've been with my partner for a little over 6 years, and I love him dearly. But over the last few months he's started going out most weekends and not coming home. I know him and I trust him, so I know there is nothing 'bad' in a sense happening, i.e i know he's not cheating. The problem is drinking. I like a drink, I'm sure we all do, but most of us know when t...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDread seeing our neighbour
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 9 2021 at 14:04 by tola74 RESPONDENTS: lily31 / susiedqq LAST POST: Apr 11 2021 at 17:37

Myself and husband have been living in a rented house for 22 months and we live next to a woman who lives alone. my husband and me were once arguing and she knocked on the wall. we can hear her sometimes in her house but other times she is really quiet and then I feel like we should be like that, not that we make much noise but its not away to live. we have never met her nor do I know what she loo...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFeeling cheated
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 8 2021 at 15:21 by CheateD RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / 786 LAST POST: May 5 2021 at 12:20

Hello All.. This is Mr.D from India. I am married for 3+ years now. My wife had hit menopause before marriage. Their family never disclosed this to us. She was also diabetic before marriage. This was also not disclosed to us. I feel cheated and agonised. I haven't told my family about this. In a great dilemma. Need your advice folks.....

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhat facts should I give him ?
[1 POST] CREATED: Apr 8 2021 at 12:24 by Curlyred RESPONDENTS: tarantula LAST POST: Apr 9 2021 at 21:32

I've been dating for 5 years and the last 2 years, I've always been finding flirtatious and sexual texts in my boyfriend's phone, but I ignored it and let it slide. About a week ago, he went through my phone and found a some deep flirting in my phone and we had a big fight, it got a bit physical and he left and we broke up and I knew we were done and we would never get back together...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDeal breaker or not
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 7 2021 at 17:32 by Deadinnsyde RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Apr 11 2021 at 17:22

Ok so this may be a compound question; Let’s begin: Would you accept your partner Marrying a “cousin” from another country to allow them to come to the US? Secondly, “cousin” to many Latin people (I am one myself; yet born in the US) just refers to a family friend that may have grown up with them, why do ppl do this. I don’t just name ppl as part of my family because they hung around a...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I just going through the motions?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 6 2021 at 19:54 by Anxiousornot RESPONDENTS: manalone / tarantula LAST POST: Apr 7 2021 at 21:01

I broke up with someone after an intense 18 month relationship. He wanted to marry me and I didn’t see a future with him. That was a few months ago and I’ve been out with someone else. I like the new person but he isn’t affectionate except giving me a quick goodnight kiss. I myself can’t figure out if I want to sleep with him yet. I am attracted to him but not in a big way. I don’t know ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryNeed man's advice, point of view
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 4 2021 at 02:08 by Tjp RESPONDENTS: tarantula / manalone LAST POST: Apr 5 2021 at 19:20

I been with my partner ( now ex) for nearly 4 years. The relationship has always been good, anyhow he recently got the sack but told everyone including me the company folded and lost the contract. I only found out when I see a work van out and found out that wasn't the case. It doesn't even bother me he got the sack or the Reason why although I could have a good guess. I do have p...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow do I stop being so forgetful?
[1 POST] CREATED: Apr 3 2021 at 21:15 by Soopysayles RESPONDENTS: tarantula LAST POST: Apr 4 2021 at 18:32

I am very forgetful simple things like someone asking me to let them know when I set off home, replying to messages etc this is a big problem for my husband and he has asked me a few times to sort this out, I've tried a few things, reminders, trying to be more organised, therapy for my anxiety, I've gotten better but yesterday he asked me to tell him when I finished something I forgot an...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI'm the victim but still I'm the bad guy
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 2 2021 at 18:34 by lajimolalala RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / manalone LAST POST: Apr 3 2021 at 17:44

I had this friend that I've helped so may times, in terms of money, moral support and more.. I didn't expect anything from her just because I helped her.. This is the problem one day she suddenly attacked me with hurtful words that I've become arrogant because I'm going to college and the college that I'm going to is making the students arrogant etc.. I didn't even...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy friend dilemma!!
[11 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 2 2021 at 02:52 by MetsFan1 RESPONDENTS: tarantula / 8Twenty8 LAST POST: Apr 5 2021 at 12:40

Hi all. I am new here, because I am trying to get some advice, that I can't really find the answer to anywhere else. Okay, here is my dilemma. I am a 50 year old divorced guy. My friend is a 50 year old married woman, with 5 children, and I have known her since High School, and we are really good friends. We talk with each other almost everyday, and we like all the same things, and have so...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy husband confuses me
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Apr 1 2021 at 16:21 by Boulouka RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Apr 11 2021 at 17:55

Past 2 years, we have spl it 3 times because of a third party. January my husband woke up ranting how we don't get on, doesn't want me touching him and moved out. 2 weeks later after arguing with this other person he ended up alone trying to find himself and sort his mind out. 2 weeks ago I invited him round with mutual friends of ours for drinks. He stayed behind. I told h...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWorry to much
[1 POST] CREATED: Mar 31 2021 at 23:34 by Tula RESPONDENTS: tarantula LAST POST: Apr 2 2021 at 09:51

My husband had his prostrate removed four and half years ago. We manage to have sex at least 3 times a week but he as to use a pump to help it along and it’s different then it used to be. I always worry if I’m enough for him in the bedroom and wonder if he thinks of other women to help him come. He as looked at porn for years in the past and I wouldn’t be surprised if he still doesn’t now...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryLiterally the krampus to my santa claus
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 31 2021 at 18:23 by esiotrot RESPONDENTS: Nightmare's Pain LAST POST: Apr 19 2021 at 13:58

hey! so... I meet this man, Laszlo through mutual friends and immediately we take a great dislike to each other, we have very few things in common and hate what the other likes but for our friends we agree to be civil and (try to) get along. This goes alright for a while, we also come to hate each other's habits and are often at each other's throats but we also have middle ground a...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhat did I do wrong?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 31 2021 at 00:47 by w00di3guy RESPONDENTS: SkYlaR LAST POST: Mar 31 2021 at 21:39

I came home from work and walked upstairs where I saw my wife coming out of the bedroom. She works from home since the pandemic and so she is always downstairs in the office when I come home. She looked really tired or not feeling well so I said ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryBoyfriend recreationally does cocaine. I can't handle it.
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 29 2021 at 20:42 by ALJ16 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / manalone / Deadinnsyde LAST POST: Apr 7 2021 at 20:57

Hello. Looking for advice. I've been with my boyfriend for 11 years. Hes now 32 and I am 29. About 3 years into our relationship I found out he did cocaine everytime we were drinking. Eventually we broke up over it as he continued to hide it. We got back together 8 months later which was was 5 years ago now. Over the years he's continued to lie to me about drugs. Mostly by omission but t...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDoes he like me?
[1 POST] CREATED: Mar 29 2021 at 18:01 by Nightmare's Pain RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Mar 30 2021 at 16:23

A little background- I haven’t had social media for too long, but I’ve still made so many amazing friends (I actually have more online than I do in-person). I’ve only had it for about 14-15 weeks. So I have this guy friend and we live across country from each other. He’s an absolutely fantastic friend and we talk almost every day. Problem is, I think he likes me for multiple reasons. 1)...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhere is this going?! Help
[1 POST] CREATED: Mar 29 2021 at 03:27 by Soouulxs RESPONDENTS: Nightmare's Pain LAST POST: Mar 29 2021 at 17:48

So there’s this guy I have gotten close to over the last year. I have never had a boyfriend and I’m extremely clueless in the relationship area. He has the reputation of being a player. We somehow became friends (after I overcame my shyness). We have been hanging out since last year and he hasn’t made a move yet. He has a girl roommate who doesn’t like me and without asking him he told me ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI'm lost and confused
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 28 2021 at 04:27 by Raine RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Mar 30 2021 at 14:55

I'm at a loss as to what's going on and I don't know what to do or how to proceed. There's this guy at work who I had never really spoken to because we worked in different departments and he was always just very serious with me even on the few occasions we did cross paths. It's like he had an aversion to me because he treated me so differently than any of my other cowor...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy bf is late and instead of hurrying, he's relaxing
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 27 2021 at 07:28 by HotPotato RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Mar 31 2021 at 16:03

Hi there, I will go straight into the story: My partner and I were supposed to see each other this afternoon (me coming to his place first). I haven't seen him in a week (which is normal, we're busy during the weekdays). A bit last minute he told me there was a slight change in schedule and had to do something first (I won't give details, but it was a good reason). Along the d...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI don't understand his problem?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 26 2021 at 23:05 by crushed orange RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / lily31 / Raine LAST POST: Mar 28 2021 at 04:34

I chose relationships because that seemed closest... really i dont have any relation to this guy. we know each other because we're part of the same online gaming community. the most interaction I've had is forum posts and the occasional group game. Somehow I've done enough to make him dislike me, which I didn't figure out til a few weeks ago. before that i thought we got along...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI had an affair with my boss...
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 25 2021 at 13:49 by Malcolm RESPONDENTS: Bluebird11 LAST POST: Apr 27 2021 at 15:35

A few years ago, I landed a job in an office, where the senior manager knew my partner. His deputy, the line manager running the team (Lisa), didn't seem too pleased, but called me two days later, inviting me to join her team. A few weeks later, after vetting and other checks, I started. The job wasn't difficult, so I got the hang of it. Lisa began warming to me, to the point that she w...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryShould I let him go…?
[1 POST] CREATED: Mar 24 2021 at 20:31 by Nightmare's Pain RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Mar 25 2021 at 03:39

So, I have this friend. He’s really sweet and kind, and he’s one of my best friends. I met him online and we got really close in just a matter of days. We would stay up for hours and just talk about anything in our lives. After a few weeks, we started dating and it was great. Until. He told me that he “still loved me”, but he was losing feelings (huh?). I told him “whatever makes you ha...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow to deal with disrespectful husband
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 22 2021 at 20:19 by Lexus2002 RESPONDENTS: manalone / 8Twenty8 LAST POST: Mar 27 2021 at 00:56

Married 18months, together nearly 10yrs. I can't cope with husbands attitude about me. We both work full time, but I always do the cooking dispute asking him to help. He hates cooking, but will do clearing up. He says to people I can do what I want, but his behaviour says otherwise. Tonight I had a run on treadmill he told me to hurry up as he wanted dinner, I told him to cook himself he said...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I over reacting? Help
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 22 2021 at 17:57 by Twinmumma RESPONDENTS: Aka / lily31 LAST POST: Mar 23 2021 at 13:23

Hi all, I am needing some help. A month ago hubby and I were at a 30th for one of his friends. He bumped into someone he used to know there (around 8-10 years ago) and they invited him to their birthday up north. After discussing it I asked him if he could please not go as I was not comfortable with it (they do alot of drinking and drugs). On Friday he says that the party is tomorrow and h...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum category54 years old.. do I stay or go
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 19 2021 at 11:40 by Suecaz RESPONDENTS: Bluebird11 / susiedqq / huri72 LAST POST: Apr 6 2021 at 07:31

Where to start. Am 54 been with my fella 7 years and no children with him I met him through a friend when I ventured abroad looking for work . He had his own bar I never got my job within 2 weeks he lost the bar and I list my savings paying his rent . After that we got flat at home fits and starts of work here and there . Any job I introduced him to as we are both bus drivers he was never h...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryConfused after break up
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 17 2021 at 12:34 by Seekingthelight RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Sunbeams LAST POST: Mar 23 2021 at 21:54

Me and my partner of 3 years just broke up, it was an emotional break up we both cried as we both love each other unconditionally, I didn’t want it to happen. He has said he wants his own time, he doesn’t want to be with anyone right now and just needs to clear his head to see if he can move forward with me. He said he wants to be able to do as he pleases without having to worry about someo...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryCould I be making the biggest mistake of my life?
[1 POST] CREATED: Mar 17 2021 at 07:29 by Dannyo88 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Mar 17 2021 at 12:44

Hi all, I'm new here and hoping to get some really good advice on a situation I've landed myself in. I'm married with 2 children one 4 and the other 14 weeks. Me and my wife always being rocky, we always argue and she's always threatening to kick me out of our house. Anyway after years of this I've had enough of it and at the weekend she said I need to leave an...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDon’t know what to do next
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 12 2021 at 09:24 by Broken wings RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Mar 12 2021 at 20:08

For the last 15 years I have been in a relationship. It was complicated from the off however we continued with with and as we stand have a beautiful home and child together. No marriage as partner refuses to divorce the ex due to finances. I was not the cause of their break up. So over the last 15 years I have had 4 issues whereby conversation happened between my partner and others which really...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI want to have fun with an old friend. She's in her 50's.
[8 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 10 2021 at 14:25 by Malcolm RESPONDENTS: SilviaGirl / susiedqq LAST POST: Mar 11 2021 at 15:23

Some years ago my wife introduced to me her work colleague, Helen, at a party for her wedding to David. Helen and my wife were working at a school, but my wife later left that employment. We have all remained friends for a long time, but my feelings toward Helen have changed a fair bit. My wife has become quite distant in the last few years, and doesn't participate in social media very much, ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I worrying to much
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 10 2021 at 11:37 by monos RESPONDENTS: Aka / susiedqq LAST POST: Mar 11 2021 at 21:29

My husband and myself live next to a woman who moved in about a year ago. we have been here nearly 2 years. A parcel was delivered for my husband when we stayed away in December last year and usually we leave a note on the door to say to leave it in our back garden if no one is in and to not leave it with neighbours. we had forgotten to put the note on the door and it got delivered there. we do no...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHusband cheated before engagement. Leave or stay?
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 9 2021 at 19:38 by wifeindistress RESPONDENTS: Aka / SilviaGirl / susiedqq LAST POST: Mar 12 2021 at 16:30

Timeline - We started dating in May 2017 while in graduate school in different cities. In Feb 2018, he moved to another city for a job. He had another female friend from his school join the same company and since they were friends already, they hung out a lot. This female friend had a crush on him since school but she was dating someone else(Mr.A) and he was dating me. In Mar 2018, barely a mo...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryTrying to get to know this woman better, I deserve her
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 9 2021 at 06:08 by cooldude45 RESPONDENTS: manalone / SilviaGirl / Aka LAST POST: Mar 10 2021 at 22:59

First of all, before I write, I have to give the disclosure that I have not listed my real name on here because of privacy reasons and risk of confidentiality being compromised. I am 30 years old and I will attend my favorite school next Spring Semester for graduate school. It is my dream school as I am obsessed with their football team. I am a convicted felon and back in 2012, I was charged...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryPlayers gonna play
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 6 2021 at 05:13 by SugarQube58 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / SilviaGirl / Aka LAST POST: Mar 9 2021 at 23:40

Well where to start... Theres this guy that I love. I have known him for almost 7 years and we dated for a short while and then he changed to fwb. I went along with that for awhile, until I had enough. He had basically a harem of women that he associated with. I could never trust him. I never knew who he was going to be with and it drove me crazy,so I eliminated myself from his life for several...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryEnding a friendship / relationship
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 4 2021 at 16:38 by SilviaGirl RESPONDENTS: lily31 / manalone LAST POST: Mar 5 2021 at 02:56

Anyhow, a few months ago, reconnected with an old friend/flame. For maybe a month, everything was great. But then I had a plan to go spend time with my family over the holidays (WFH is awesome!), so I would be out of the area for about a month. (This includes time before/after to quarantine because I'm trying to be semi-responsible.) I spent the evening before I began quarantine with frien...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI don't want to play this game
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 3 2021 at 09:50 by RavenNinja RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / manalone / 8Twenty8 LAST POST: Mar 6 2021 at 16:40

I have been in a relationship for 2 years now with my partner, we live together. this is after both of us ended our respective marriages. My divorce was sorted quickly, we have not kids, my ex and I are still friends and get along well. My partner's divorce on the other hand has been a nightmare. There are children involved and his ex is, well... a narcissistic sociopath, she tried to tak...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI have no friends
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 2 2021 at 17:54 by superstar6318 RESPONDENTS: lily31 / SilviaGirl LAST POST: Mar 4 2021 at 16:42

I have no friends. I am a 28 year old female and I can speak to people easily ;I'm not shy. Currently I study an online degree and to earn money, I pick up ad-hoc work as and when I can. I've befriended people in the past quickly and hung out with them (prior to lockdown), only then to discover that they are not for me due to several reasons (one friend would act immature and childish) a...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI don't get my in laws!
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Mar 1 2021 at 23:46 by HereComesTheSun21 RESPONDENTS: Aka / lily31 LAST POST: Mar 3 2021 at 18:52

So, ive been with my husband since we was 16/17 years old which during that time, he hasn't had a very close relationship with his mom due to his childhood with his step dad. He has a younger half sister who he isn't really close with either. Now, since being pregnant, all of a sudden they want to be involved and I just don't understand why. Since we have been living together (9 yea...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryCrazy mom
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 25 2021 at 19:25 by Crazyloon RESPONDENTS: Aka / lily31 / susiedqq LAST POST: Feb 26 2021 at 18:25

My mom went off on me this morning, she was absolutely fine, absolutely fine, she was laying with me and we were talking. Then my grandma called asking if I wanted to go get lunch. So I said yes, all of a sudden my mom is like "Get up now you need to get ready" Over and over and She is not taking me for 2 hours!! I do have a class between then but all I have to do is put on a shirt and s...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow can I help more? Wife x work x kids
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 22 2021 at 20:59 by Tunafish RESPONDENTS: manalone / 8Twenty8 / Aka LAST POST: Feb 26 2021 at 03:50

Hi, the problem I want to talk about seems simple: I have a feeling I shouldn´t have married my wife. We have a lovely son and we are expecting a second baby. A year ago, when the first lockdown in my country was imposed, we separated for a month or so. However, I couldn´t handle not being with my son, so I moved back and tried to make everything up. I´m a teacher, I´ve been teaching online...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I overreacting?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 21 2021 at 03:06 by fadden RESPONDENTS: lily31 / Aka LAST POST: Feb 22 2021 at 05:21

Would you allow your partner to take a 2 week break from you and the relationship with no communication between you two? I feel slighted, sad, angry, and hurt that they told me they want a break because they have alot going on in their lives. Well I do too, and I should be included. I'm not running away because my life is chaotic and messy , I feel like they shouldn't either. am I overre...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryRegretting opening my relationship
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 19 2021 at 06:28 by PuppyBerry RESPONDENTS: Aka / Bluebird11 LAST POST: Feb 19 2021 at 19:19

TL/DR: We opened our relationship, my partner has fallen for someone, im overcome with jealousy and wish I never did this in the first place My partner and I are 21 and have been together for about 7 years. I would say we’re in an extremely emotionally close and loving relationship, but since we moved in together our sex life diminished dramatically. I guess because I was getting bored and w...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs it me or the ex wife
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 18 2021 at 22:51 by Greyhusky RESPONDENTS: Aka / susiedqq LAST POST: Feb 19 2021 at 02:01

My husband and I coparent with his ex wife. I find myself constantly comparing myself to her. My first marriage was horrible and ruined my self esteem so I know this is partially the reason. My current husband told me from the get go that he will always love his ex bc she is the mother of his children. I feel like that is another reason for my self esteem issues as I have absolutely no love fo...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryPlease help. My fiancé thinks I ruined VDay I feel she’s wrong
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 17 2021 at 00:05 by C-gar RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Aka LAST POST: Feb 17 2021 at 15:40

Here’s the scenario. VDay was (from start to almost finish) verging on the best day ever. We woke up early, made breakfast, watched some Netflix and had an Afternoon Nap. When I woke up it was only 1:30pm. The room was dark and AC was blowing, perfect vibe for awesome afternoon sex! The day couldn’t get better i thought, but it did. She told me I had an hour to get ready for a place she...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDo I question him or not?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 15 2021 at 16:36 by Tjb70 RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Feb 17 2021 at 23:59

I know I shouldn't have but I checked partners phone this morning and found that he had yet again taken a semi hard dick pic which he hasn't sent to me. This isn't the first time he has done this. I questioned him the last time and he said he was going to send to me, but felt that as things weren't great between us, that he shouldn't do it. I'm going through a tough...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFalling out of love
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 14 2021 at 20:15 by Someone02 RESPONDENTS: AJM248 / manalone LAST POST: Feb 14 2021 at 22:50

Hello there, I recently found this forum so I decided to ask for some advice here. I am a girl, 18 years old and currently I am in a relationship with a really sweet guy. To mention, I’ve never had a boyfriend before so he is my first one. He is a really nice person, he is sweet, caring, he keeps showing me the perfect amount of love and everything else is just perfect. The problem is that I ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFamily problem relationship
[1 POST] CREATED: Feb 10 2021 at 20:59 by lara01 RESPONDENTS: Jennifer01 LAST POST: Feb 11 2021 at 00:43

i don't have a good relationship with my parents , they are too strict,controlling and always make me insecure and feel bad about myself , i ve been going through anxiety since i was a child , always bad memories come to my mind and a lot shit is happening in the present moment , they make me feel as i m not enough . but how could i live with them in peace ? i ve hated my life with them sinc...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI am in love with two and don't know who to marry
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 8 2021 at 16:13 by chiamaka1 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Jennifer01 LAST POST: Feb 8 2021 at 22:57

I have a baby out of wedlock.but the man am with is not the father to the baby. but he does not know about that, so and he is not married to me yet. and there is this other guy that I love so much each time sleep or in my leisure time I think about him but he does not want the baby boy. he said I should give the baby to his father and also the man that is standing has his father I have been havin...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryProblem with a manager
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 7 2021 at 17:10 by Chloests RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Jennifer01 / 8Twenty8 LAST POST: Feb 10 2021 at 16:46

Hi everyone, it's my first post here and I can't believe I am resorting to seeking advice for my manager. I guess I should put my entire life on the line and let ransom strangers all over the internet decide my fate but here it goes. There is a manager at my work and he's really hot and appears to be a complete sweet heart. I was going through a lot of problems and did not treat...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryNo marriage proposal, what would you do?
[8 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 7 2021 at 16:07 by Jennifer01 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Shellz LAST POST: Feb 12 2021 at 12:55

We have been together for 4yrs we have a 1yr old I wanted to talk about marriage and he doesn't want to. I am hurt and broken and he says its not me that its him. He cant promise that commitment to me ever pretty much. I am currently packing my stuff😥 its awful that whatever it is it is stronger than him caring about us his family. He says it means total control of the other person when ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFriend or more
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 5 2021 at 13:06 by tilaxxx RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Jennifer01 LAST POST: Feb 7 2021 at 15:37

Can you be friends with the opposite sex without anything going on between you. I met my husband through a dating site he was friends with a older woman before he met me who he had known since he was young and living at home. his parents were friendly with her and her husband and they used to get together for meals and the woman ended up working with my husband years later. he did not recognize he...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDid he cheat
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 5 2021 at 12:37 by moramay RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Jennifer01 LAST POST: Feb 7 2021 at 15:45

My husband as worked for a company for 7 years as a sales rep out on the road. The first time he went for the interview I was with him and I remember a woman coming out from the office and saying, goodbye and said my husbands name. I thought it was odd that she walked out with him and Im sure he told me that she asked what he was going to be doing after the interview. he had been interviewed by he...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryConfused dating advice
[1 POST] CREATED: Feb 4 2021 at 19:11 by Breezeca RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Feb 5 2021 at 01:00

I have been dating this guy I met 5 months ago online. We really hit it off and got along so well in person. Our sexual, physical and emotional chemistry is unlike any other guy I have dated before. There is a few set backs that I have with him first he has a kid that he never mentioned until I saw a picture on his phone. His kid is in another state and he only visits him every month or two. ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhy now after 9 years
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 4 2021 at 11:30 by let9222 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Jennifer01 LAST POST: Feb 8 2021 at 23:04

My ex fiancé of 8 months cheated on me with his toxic ex than dumped me in October 2020. He got engaged to his ex in January 2021 and got married a few days ago. What I don’t understand is why now they were off and on again for 9 years why now get married when I was in the picture. He had 9 years to ask her to be his wife.Me and him were supposed to be married in December 22 2020. It’s like a...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categorySo confused...
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 3 2021 at 12:27 by Yoshi RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / 8Twenty8 LAST POST: Feb 8 2021 at 00:54

Long story short, my husband and i have been together 21 years, most were good. The last five have been bad, at times very bad, and we've def lost trust and communication, but we claim to love each other and want to make it work. That being said, i still catch my husband withholding things from me, telling little white lies about small things, just generally not trying like he said. He'...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDo I break up with someone I love due to an impasse about the future?
[10 POSTS] CREATED: Feb 1 2021 at 21:51 by Anxiousornot RESPONDENTS: manalone / MamaBear / Jennifer01 / susiedqq LAST POST: Feb 12 2021 at 18:56

My bf and I do love each other and he’s really pushing to marry me after our 19 month courtship. Actually he was pushing to marry me well before but I told him I needed time. So now fast forward several months of spending time together. We are generally compatible including our interests and sex life. But over this time he has shown certain personality issues and I don’t know if they will get ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHusband won’t seek help for his mental health
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 29 2021 at 00:19 by Laukw RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / 8Twenty8 / January LAST POST: Feb 3 2021 at 10:47

My husband and I have been together for 8 years, married for 3 and have a gorgeous almost 2 year old son together. He confided in me early on that he suffered with bulimia from the age of around 15 due to being very overweight as a child and being bullied mercilessly for it at school. He’s always had issues with his self image and pride. Shortly after we got together, when he was about 2...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDo I like my best friend?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 25 2021 at 05:09 by A19yo RESPONDENTS: Aka / Checkmate15282 LAST POST: Jan 26 2021 at 12:40

(English is not my first language so if my grammar sucks I’m sorry :) ) First some background information: I have been friends with this guy A for about 8 years and we’ve become best friends about 1,5 years ago. I’m also really good friends with another guy B for about a year. The problem is when we are both (very) drunk, we have a habit of “touching” each other. It started with just...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHelp my boyfriend spends all his spare time playing video games!!
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 24 2021 at 16:56 by HL0010 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / manalone / barnettnce / Jennifer01 LAST POST: Jan 27 2021 at 23:21

<font style="color: orange;">(Edited)</font> My boyfriend and I have been together for a few years now and he spends most of his spare time playing on the PlayStation! We both work busy jobs throughout the days/weekends, he gets home late evening and goes straight to play on the PlayStation! We only really get to see each other when we are having dinner. We are currently ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryGuy needs a relationship advice, please help!
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 24 2021 at 10:09 by Ank93 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / MamaBear / Caroline Kjeldgard LAST POST: Feb 9 2021 at 13:53

Hi, I met this girl 7 years ago in college I fell for her and expressed my feelings for her.. soon we were in a relationship, she is kind of an extrovert open minded and fun loving person and gets along pretty well with most people! I am an introvert and i would like to call myself focused person. Our relationship was pretty fine we both loved each other, she loves to eat out, have fun and ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryPreparing for boyfriends release
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 24 2021 at 08:53 by mjsm RESPONDENTS: manalone / AJM248 LAST POST: Jan 28 2021 at 03:39

Hello. My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months and he gets out in 4. We met while he was inside and the closer it gets the more anxious i feel. We talk about it but i think its a risk. I dont really know what to do. He seems kind of reassuring but idk. I use to say if he gets out and ghosts me I will deal with it but now being in it if he did that I'd lose it. I have done alot for...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryPartner secretly watches porn
[8 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 24 2021 at 05:09 by Allena222 RESPONDENTS: moon-and-stars / Aka / HL0010 / susiedqq LAST POST: Feb 1 2021 at 06:57

Hi I have been with my partner 7 months. I see he has watched porn and I don't want that in my relationship. I think it best to separate which is a shame. We have talked about it and he said its no big deal he can't see why it should be. He dies not do it much. But I don't like it as it najes me see images if him in my head enjoying that and I kniw we are fine in our relationship bu...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAre we being selfish and immature?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 24 2021 at 04:53 by moon-and-stars RESPONDENTS: Aka / susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 27 2021 at 16:18

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years, but my parents dont know. I'm already in my third year of college and my parents are pretty anal abt me dating and they want me focused on my grades. BTW i go to school in another country and my parents stay in the US. I'm also an honor student, since like high school so I've never really had issues regarding my grades. my bo...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWhat should I do? Relationship advice please
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 23 2021 at 20:51 by khushi1 RESPONDENTS: AJM248 / manalone LAST POST: Jan 24 2021 at 00:52

Hi, I'm in a relationship of more than 7 years. My boyfriend is kind of controlling. He's not a bad person but sometimes he wants to control everything. I mean he wants me to change myself according to him. So I was in college when i first met him and it was my first relationship. I didn't have much friends in graduation and he was my priority. I used to spend all the time with him...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow do I get people to take me seriously...
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 23 2021 at 17:26 by justanonpan RESPONDENTS: khushi1 / AJM248 LAST POST: Jan 24 2021 at 01:10

i don't think anyone takes me seriously. i act a bit mature for my age but that's because i haven't gotten to live a "real" childhood. i'm pretty sure everyone think i'm always lying or that i'm just a little kid in a teenager's body and i just hate it so much. how do i get my friends, bf, and family to stop thinking of me like this?...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryPregnant with the possibility he wants out
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 23 2021 at 11:57 by JaneD0E RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Bluebird11 LAST POST: Feb 1 2021 at 06:59

Dear Readers, Thank you for clicking on this thread, I hope everyone is staying safe. My boyfriend (28 yrs) and I (27 yrs) have known each other over 5 years, but been in a relationship for 15 months only. We've been a bit rocky, where trust issues has made us fight even broke up one time during the 15 months. Nobody ever cheated though, as far as I know. During the time we got bac...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum category19 Years - Time to Leave?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 23 2021 at 02:53 by randyguy216 RESPONDENTS: Aka / Bluebird11 / susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 23 2021 at 12:00

My wife and I have been married for 19 years. I am 46, and she is 40. We have two kids, a 16 year old son and a 13 year old daughter. Our son is graduating high school this year and has already completed 2 years of college completed. He will go to college next year away from home. Daughter will start high school next year. Wife had an affair 13 years ago, and we worked things out...but we never...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryGirlfriend wants space but not broken up
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 21 2021 at 17:44 by Cbass RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 21 2021 at 20:22

My girlfriend deals with anxiety and now recent depression because of stresses in her life. She got overwhelmed with stress in life and from affection from me and asked for space and to go slow and pull back from the relationship. She sees us as still dating and not talking to anyone else. We spent the holidays together and went through having COVID together so we spent a lot of time and only been...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryNeed advice about valentines gift
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 21 2021 at 07:01 by estelle41 RESPONDENTS: Brunettegirl / barnettnce LAST POST: Jan 25 2021 at 04:41

Actually, I met a girl for about 6 months now. All I can say is we both realized that we love each other. I’m looking for some ideas of gifts I can buy on the online store that can be shipped to her on Valentine’s day. Do you guys have any ideas of shops or gifts for this occasion?...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryTeacher-student feelings
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 20 2021 at 19:02 by Raju RESPONDENTS: Aka / susiedqq / 8Twenty8 / JoeBlack LAST POST: Feb 10 2021 at 14:19

I am a college teacher of 45 years of age and am married with two kids. Recently, it came to my notice that a student of mine of age approximately 21 years has developed a feeling about me. In return, I have also developed the same feeling about her. But, my sense does not allow me to go ahead with this as I have a nice family and am a teacher of her. Nowadays, I realize that she i...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIntimacy issues in marriage
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 18 2021 at 10:38 by Frankie99988 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / JoeBlack LAST POST: Feb 10 2021 at 14:27

Me and my husband had a massive argument before Christmas which ended up being a blessing in disguise, for the past 5 years there has been physical affection in our marriage inc sex. We both acknowledged we are more like parents living together. Over Christmas I tried to offer my husband affection, however it was just very awkward for both of us. I think working alternative shifts and having a you...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDistrust in a relationship
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 18 2021 at 05:31 by LiveLoveLaugh RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / manalone LAST POST: Jan 20 2021 at 00:37

Hi there, I am seeking a perspective that might help me to understand my cause of distrust and be free from it. I am in a newish relationship about 6 month. It is going very well, and my partner invests a lot of time and effort into our relationship. He makes an effort with my family, he has been vulnerable and opened up to me about past hurts. Everything is going very well... and then... there i...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIn laws
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 17 2021 at 23:41 by Ivy141 RESPONDENTS: manalone / susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 18 2021 at 18:31

In laws throwing a fit about the idea of my family moving. Was told that I may as well have another kid and leave the other with them because they are not going to allow us to move with their grandchild. Mind you that this is a retirement community and we cannot afford to own a house here. There is nothing here for young families. They don't understand because they dont have to rent and never...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryReally need relationship advice please
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 17 2021 at 03:24 by Cbass RESPONDENTS: Bluebird11 LAST POST: Jan 21 2021 at 17:50

My girlfriend has been trying to communicate for a few weeks of me being overwhelming with affection and not enough random conversations outside of our relationship. At the same time she's going through many other stresses in life but the whole time has wanted me there with her to help, comfort, and hangout. She has brought up all the serious talks for relationship first and has said many tim...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryEarly relationship issues space, affection, and conversation
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 16 2021 at 17:14 by Cbass RESPONDENTS: Aka / susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 17 2021 at 04:27

Hi, Thank you for taking time to help me if you are ready this. Backstory - My girlfriend and I met 7 years ago in college but just started dating 2 months ago and been official for almost a month. We didn't stay in contact over the years hardly even at all just because it happened that way. But we both always had a crush on each other since we met and talked a lot when we met. Now we ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI have feelings for someone else. What am I supposed to do
[9 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 15 2021 at 21:46 by SThomas RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Bluebird11 / HL0010 LAST POST: Jan 24 2021 at 18:06

I’m driving myself crazy. I feel so guilty. I want to be with someone else, but can’t find the courage to admit it. I don’t have enough reason to leave my relationship aside from this. Except for feeling for years like my partner doesn’t really know me and that he’s perfect, but not perfect for me. I feel like it’s too late, I should be happy now. Until a guy came into my life who I fe...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI need help with my relationship
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 15 2021 at 16:38 by Kenzo22 RESPONDENTS: Aka / susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 16 2021 at 13:20

I need some help with my relationship. I’m 22 years old and I have 1 kid and 1 on the way with someone. I would like to think I love this man but I’m not sure I ever have really. He earns well and therefore I am lucky enough to not need to work, but as I haven’t worked for some time I feel as if I would not be capable to provide on my own. From an outside point of view I have everything, nic...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI was a toxic girlfriend
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 14 2021 at 18:27 by yoxkaii RESPONDENTS: Aka / manalone / 8Twenty8 / JoeBlack LAST POST: Feb 10 2021 at 14:27

TW: suicide I was in a relationship with this guy for nearly 2 years. We've been through thick and thin, I've struggled a lot with my mental health, attempted many times, and had 4 psych ward visits as well as being kicked out of my home twice. Despite that, he stayed strong for me and continued to support me. I've always been moody and hard to handle at times, but so loving and ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIn love with a woman who can't choose
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 14 2021 at 02:58 by twaf0809 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Feb 1 2021 at 06:59

Hello all, I hope to get some constructive advice here as I have encountered what has become a frustrating situation. This past year (going back to about May of 2020), I began flirting with a woman I worked with and she was flirting with me as well. We knew each other for about 8 months prior to this. It started out playfully but I quickly became smitten with her and after a couple of mont...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHelp un predictable partner. Who I can't understand well at times.
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 14 2021 at 00:51 by Nam.82 RESPONDENTS: Bluebird11 / susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 14 2021 at 21:08

So we have been together for almost 4 years. The issues I have are that he says he adores me wants to move in with me in the next 2 months and I'm unsure. He keeps leaving in the night with no explanation. Doesn't call and expects me to chase all the time. Uses excuses such as I just come when I'm feeling upset or I just want a good night's sleep. I have fibromyalgia and other ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy girlfriend's friends
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 13 2021 at 00:37 by Pyro Travis RESPONDENTS: Aka / manalone / Nam.82 / susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 14 2021 at 12:32

I think my girlfriend's friends are a bad influence to her that might lead to her cheating on me or being endangered. What can I do to encourage her to get better friends or encourage them to me safer....

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryScared beyond belief
[7 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 12 2021 at 21:31 by 1505 RESPONDENTS: Aka / susiedqq / AJM248 LAST POST: Jan 22 2021 at 22:57

I have recently reconnected with an old schoolfriend via social media after a long period of time, which although is great, it has stirred up some very old emotions. At school I suppose I was 'in love ' with her but never had the courage to do anything about it. It probably sounds ridiculous but after 30+ years, all of the feelings and emotions have returned. I am currently in a ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryVery complicated situation with marriage - need advice
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 11 2021 at 19:50 by Tsa123 RESPONDENTS: Aka / luckbyanonymous / Nam.82 / susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 14 2021 at 12:17

I really need some advice and can’t go to anyone I know in “real life”. I don’t even know where to begin. This is going to be long, I will give as much detail as I can to help anyone understand my situation. I feel like I’m going crazy and need to let this off my chest. It is in regards to my marriage and personal life. To give some background information, I have been with my husband for...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI just keep finding men who use me
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 11 2021 at 19:47 by Just a Kitty RESPONDENTS: manalone / Aka LAST POST: Jan 12 2021 at 23:44

I dated a man 3 years ago and the relationship lasted 1.5 years. He had a breakup a few months before we met and all I heard about the whole time was how this woman used him, how he gave her lots of his time and how she would mistreat him and her heroin addiction. He would keep me at arms distance even though I was trying to get closer and would often leave upset that he didn't cons...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryLong distance relationship breakup
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 10 2021 at 23:35 by GOATENG1106 RESPONDENTS: Aka / manalone / susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 12 2021 at 17:58

My gf had to move to a different city for work. We wanted to end things before they moved because they thought they couldn't handle long distance but once they moved we actually decided to stay together. We've only seen each other twice since they moved due to the pandemic so things have been strained between us and decided to go on a break and just be friends for a while. After seeing e...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryNervous wreck
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 10 2021 at 14:12 by FruityDrink60 RESPONDENTS: Chloests / Aka / susiedqq / 8Twenty8 LAST POST: Jan 11 2021 at 20:53

After 2 months I am finally taking the initiative and going to my get my stuff from my ex. He has been saying he would send it for months and never did. It's a all day across country drive and he has offered for me to stay at his house to save $1000+ in hotel costs which I don't have anyway. We havent talked about the separation there was no big fight or anything. I'm really nervous...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryRelationship advice
[8 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 10 2021 at 09:07 by Mattdowd91 RESPONDENTS: Aka / Chloests / manalone / susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 10 2021 at 19:41

Hi , Me and my girlfriend had a big argument and I would like to sort things out with her.She said she isn't speaking with me until I speak to someone and get help. It's all because I told her I would never lie to her but I have. It wasn't a big lie but still I lied. I was drinking energy drinks and unhealthy fizzy drinks and she said I should stop. Yesterday I promised ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categorySexless newlyweds - HELP
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 9 2021 at 18:54 by Newlywedhelp RESPONDENTS: Aka / bubblegumgirl LAST POST: Jan 10 2021 at 17:26

My husband and I have been together for 3 years and married for 1/2 year. Let me first start off by saying that before my husband and I moved in together we were having sex 4x a week (that went on for about a year and a half). I moved in after a year and a half and sex dwindled significantly. He is VERY type "A" , mid 30s and never lived with anyone before, never had a serious relati...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryInappropriate crush?
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 6 2021 at 05:45 by Moonlit Wolf RESPONDENTS: Aka / manalone LAST POST: Jan 6 2021 at 20:22

I met someone in an online server and developed feelings for them. I even think that they might feel the same way. We talk every day and support each other and they make me happy in ways Ive never felt before. I thought for a while wed make a really nice long distance couple. The problem comes in that sometime after I realized I fell for them I found out theyre only 17. Im 22. I know its only a ye...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryLies, deceit, betrayed, husband is the devil help!!
[1 POST] CREATED: Jan 4 2021 at 09:10 by Love bug RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 4 2021 at 12:10

Iv caught my husband exploring anal masturbation . He won't admit it at all calls me crazy he makes theses really loud moans and acts as if I'm losing my mind.i swear he has a vibrator in his butt cause I hear the buzzing and the vibration while in bed. He does this all the time sitting in the couch watching TV I look over and he's rolling his hips. He blamshiffts very bad while try...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWas friendship the right thing to offer?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 3 2021 at 21:16 by Sunnyclimes RESPONDENTS: manalone / susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 5 2021 at 20:04

Hi there. I'm Sarah, single mum to my two teenage sons one of which has autism, OCD, anxiety and sensory difficulties and who I care for and home educate. I have no respite but my parents visit each week to support where they can although they do find it difficult at times. I'm seeking a listening ear and hopefully another point of view on my situation. I've been seeing a guy w...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum category20 year relationship
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 3 2021 at 00:13 by Tinkyspy RESPONDENTS: manalone / susiedqq / Aka LAST POST: Jan 5 2021 at 22:37

I was married for 20 years, we have been unhappy for the last 5. I made a friendship with a old boyfriend in February. We have always been in touch but only as friends. However we have both separated but we’re still Living with our spouses when we started talking. My situation was my husband didn’t want the divorce and made it so difficult/ he has since been arrested and cannot come near...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryGirlfriend problem
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 2 2021 at 22:12 by niknax71 RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Jan 3 2021 at 16:51

I was with my girlfriend for 3 years,back in may last year and after talking to her ex girlfriend she walked out. 4 weeks later she came back and we were working out our problems. I had issues with nagging and moaning. We were back together for 5 months,still i was trying to work on my issues. I was a lot better than i was but not perfect. My girlfriends dog died and she told her ex because they o...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryCareer choice causing conflict
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Jan 1 2021 at 21:50 by Tony07 RESPONDENTS: manalone / susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 4 2021 at 01:43

Im a 26 year old guy, with no tertiary qualifications, who owns my own transport business in the private sector. I started it at the age of 19, i now employ 3 other people but im still very hands on so it involves me being a driver or mechanic at times. My business gives me an annual salary of R240 000($16000), plus the profits of the business put back in as capital and held in the value of assets...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDoes he care about me like I think he does
[1 POST] CREATED: Jan 1 2021 at 07:42 by Anjie082389 RESPONDENTS: lily31 LAST POST: Jan 1 2021 at 16:31

I’ve known my best friend for almost 20years and I love him. We’ve lived in different continents for about 16 years but have stayed in close contact throughout since I moved away. We’ve never dated. I’d casually told him a few years ago that I liked him and he said “it was complicated”. I wasn’t bothered too much at the time as I don’t really want a long distance relationship myse...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryNo contact / space
[1 POST] CREATED: Dec 31 2020 at 16:57 by V129863 RESPONDENTS: manalone LAST POST: Dec 31 2020 at 22:12

Ive been with someone for 4 months. Weve shared some amazing experiences and I felt we had something very special despite us being very different and being long distance (2 hours but we saw each other twice a week) and having the restrictions of the pandemic to contend with. We had talked about the future and i was going to start spending more time at his home qhich i was happy about. We started t...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow much should I compromise?
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 31 2020 at 09:17 by romanticbigman RESPONDENTS: manalone / susiedqq / Dating Diva / Aka LAST POST: Jan 5 2021 at 22:44

I want to settle in my hometown to be close to my family and friends – I have slept with a few girls a long time ago that are still in circles of friends. They are mainly in my secondary circle of friends in my hometown, although things can change quickly in a small town – my best friend’s brother and another guy in the main circle seem to be in contact with one of the girls. My girlfrien...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryControlling partner
[4 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 29 2020 at 17:33 by Madball RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / manalone LAST POST: Dec 31 2020 at 09:39

Hello, This is my first post on this forums and I am feeling rather ashamed and guilty doing this but I feel I would like an outsiders opinion on the situation I have managed to get myself into. ABOUT ME ******** I am a 38-year-old male, that seems to have a terrible time picking the right partner. I am a typical nice guy that just wants an easy life and tends to give in to my partner'...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryWe both cheated at the same time.. can't get my head straight
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 29 2020 at 13:09 by abacus6264 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / manalone / V129863 / relationship-coach LAST POST: Jan 1 2021 at 09:56

I'm a bit lost.. In short we met some new friends who we spent a lot of time with and we both developed feelings for one another partners which ended up in us all having affairs, concurrently. The affairs lasted for approximately three months, and is your stereotypical 'exciting to meet someone else' affair. My wife developed feelings for him, as I wasn't showing any interes...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryI'm in love with someone I can't have... but I can't get over him
[1 POST] CREATED: Dec 29 2020 at 00:34 by lonelyrose4 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 29 2020 at 13:14

This is a long story so brace yourselves... About a year ago, I began working on a show as Assistant Director (I'm a theatre major). I started to get to know one of the actors more and more; we spent almost every break during rehearsals chatting and I ended up catching some serious feelings for him. I learned soon, though, that he had recently started dating this girl and after my initial ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHusband hates my country and hates to live here
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 26 2020 at 23:05 by Strawberry1984 RESPONDENTS: Aka / susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 28 2020 at 00:02

Hi everyone Firstly, I’m from Scandinavia, so English is not my mother tongue..therefore I apologize for all my mistakes🙃 Husband and I have been together for 6 years. He's 33 y/I and I’m 36. We met in his country as I was on vacation. We visited each other pretty much every month (both students at that time, so it allowed us to live like that/to do so. Anyway, around 1.5 years...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryFeel so lost in this relationship
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 26 2020 at 12:09 by Bluebird23 RESPONDENTS: lily31 / manalone LAST POST: Dec 31 2020 at 13:20

I’m sorry if this seems like a ramble but I feel like I need someone to talk to as I feel I can’t talk to anyone about this . Me and my partner have been together for 2 years but was friends for well over a decade before we got together. Recently it has become very tough to live with him. Everything has to revolve around him and his emotional well-being but yet if my mental health is low...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryHow to resurrect a platonic friendship
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 24 2020 at 17:50 by ravi RESPONDENTS: Aka / manalone / susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 27 2020 at 07:39

Hello I am writing to get your help to resurrect my friendship with a work colleague who works for me. Basically we got to know each other since she had some problems at work and I helped her resolve it. She also had some issues with her present neighbour. Hence she decided to look for a new house. I gave some practical and first-hand advice based on my recent move. We were fine talking in per...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryLost. No real friends and very lonely at the moment
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 22 2020 at 00:04 by Turtle13 RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Jan 11 2021 at 14:16

Hi, Firstly, I’m 21 just graduated from university working a part time job living at home with my parents. Not really sure how else to start this but here goes. For the last year or so, I’ve been really lonely, very few interactions with others outside my small family. Spend near enough most evenings on my own. I have had times with my friends but for the most part we don’t talk outside o...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy boyfriend won’t find a job
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 20 2020 at 17:22 by Sparkle124 RESPONDENTS: manalone / lily31 LAST POST: Dec 22 2020 at 12:40

Hello guys I’m hoping you can help me. I’m 22 and my boyfriend is 27 we have been together for nearly 2 years. I lived on my own before meeting him and he lived with his parents (which is not a problem for me) he then moved in with me and we agreed to go 5050. A couple of months with living with each other he lost his Job. It took him 2/3 months for him to find another job with A lot of pr...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryNeed help making a life changing choice
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 19 2020 at 00:47 by Angelhasfallen RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Dec 19 2020 at 11:40

Need Advice in a difficult choice So I have a decision to make in the next couple of months. I have been in a common law marriage for 9 years. 8 of those nine years my husband was not nice (emotionally abusive) and didn’t give me and my kids what we needed. We have been financially unstable and moved constantly. He has also been arrested numerous times and now has 2 felony charges (drug relat...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryChristmas presents for ex children
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 18 2020 at 23:07 by FruityDrink60 RESPONDENTS: Aka / manalone LAST POST: Dec 20 2020 at 22:20

I brought Christmas presents for my exs children before he broke up with me a month ago. He is no longer talking to me but when he was he said he had Christmas presents for my children too. I haven't sent the presents to him yet because everyone is telling me not to because he broke up with me and it will kinda be like playing mind games trying to get him to talk to me. I still want to send t...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryRegret
[1 POST] CREATED: Dec 18 2020 at 01:24 by Pais19 RESPONDENTS: relationship-coach LAST POST: Dec 18 2020 at 07:34

I am feeling so much regret lately for leaving my ex. I broke up with him around 2 years ago and honestly, that first year I was in a haze. I ran from the issues and did not want to face it. I basically let my emotions end the relationship and my anger continue to stay away from him. I pushed the emotions, the memories, the thought, everything down to the bottom of my head and just ran. That is wh...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I out of love or just patience?
[6 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 18 2020 at 00:05 by Anxiousornot RESPONDENTS: MamaBear / Aka / susiedqq LAST POST: Jan 5 2021 at 20:50

My boyfriend has a habit of sometimes telling me what to do. Example is I’ll start to drink diet ice tea and he’ll say do you know how many chemicals are in that drink and I’ll say yea but I don’t drink too much and he’ll say don’t drink it because it’s really bad for you look at the ingredients. Another recent time as I was getting in the bed he asked did you brush your teeth and wa...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryDoes an affair justify asking for a sexless marriage?
[7 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 16 2020 at 19:49 by hg8 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Aka / relationship-coach / Richard B LAST POST: Dec 18 2020 at 07:39

I discovered my husband had been having an affair 3 years ago. He has always maintained that the reason it happened was because I hadn’t “been a dutiful wife in the bedroom”, although we were still having regular, if predictable, sex. I saw a Counsellor (he didn’t want to) and he worried at each session I might want a divorce. I didn’t. And still don’t. After a lot of counselling,...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMum doesn’t approve of older boyfriend
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 15 2020 at 19:49 by nat8238838392 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq / Aka LAST POST: Dec 16 2020 at 04:30

I am 18 and about a month ago I got into a relationship with someone from work. He is amazing and we love each other however he is much older than me. (almost 20 years...) I have tried to introduce the idea of him to my mum but before even mentioning that he is my boyfriend she said to get the idea of him out of my head as he is too old for me. Will this mean that the relationship will not work? A...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIf you have such boyfriend, will you ok with it?
[1 POST] CREATED: Dec 15 2020 at 18:54 by Confuse RESPONDENTS: Aka LAST POST: Dec 16 2020 at 04:33

I have a boyfriend who hardly ask people how you doing. Whenever he step out of his room to join us dinner, he will talk like a comedian or act like a clown to get everyone's attention. When he talk to you, he will look at you still, blink his eye, pause for a while, give a funny look. It is exactly like I am watching a comedy show. After he sit down he will start tell you things about himse...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryGaslighting
[1 POST] CREATED: Dec 14 2020 at 10:34 by MadamLisa RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 14 2020 at 19:41

If your partner is texting you like normal. And you know you’ve been friendly over text all day sending and initiating texts every couple of hours like norm. (He gets mad when I don’t text him first) And an hour goes past. And he tells you that ‘You’ve been so very very quiet tonight and that he hopes I’m okay because he’s worried and that he’s going to bed. With no goodnight ...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryMy fiance doesn't listen and doesn't retain advice
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 14 2020 at 04:35 by mab77 RESPONDENTS: Aka / susiedqq / luvbirdsoldier LAST POST: Dec 14 2020 at 17:14

My fiance and I have been together for about 3 years, friends for 10 years. When we first started dating I was living on my own in a large city and him back in our home town with his parents. I was 25 he was 27. Throughout our relationship I decided to move home to continue our relationship and then we became engaged. Until I moved back to our hometown I had lived on my own since I was 20. We live...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryAm I sabotaging my relationships before they even begin?
[5 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 13 2020 at 19:09 by MamaBear RESPONDENTS: manalone / Aka / susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 15 2020 at 01:50

First of all - I've (52f) been in intensive therapy for a few years to help process an extremely abusive childhood and traumatic adulthood. It's been a rough go but I'm much happier and I've come a long way in how I deal with relationships of every sort. I haven't yet addressed this particular issue with my therapist and would appreciate some feedback before deciding if it...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryIs her reaction justified?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 13 2020 at 17:48 by Yofese RESPONDENTS: MamaBear / luvbirdsoldier / susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 14 2020 at 13:36

Last week me (24f) and my boyfriend (24m) got engaged. We don't currently live together but he has been 'bubbled' with me and my parents (I live at home with them). On the proposal day he took me for a walk, we did some Christmas shopping and went to a place we hung out when we were kids. We got food to take home and once we'd eaten he popped the question. It was a total su...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryCan’t read this new girlfriends head
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 12 2020 at 20:08 by Nerrad196510 RESPONDENTS: Aka / luvbirdsoldier / susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 14 2020 at 13:14

Hi I have seen this new date 3 times in 1 month , firstly I really like her , she seems sincere genuine kind etc softly spoken , she’s very likeable by friends family . She’s going threw upsetting time with her brother in hospital, so I’m taking a step back but I’m there for her if she needs to chat , she felt down and had two really dreary days so I took her bunch of flowers and chocolate...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryJust need some help
[2 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 12 2020 at 03:51 by Tryingtomakeit RESPONDENTS: Bluebird11 / susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 12 2020 at 13:38

Ok, so from the beginning. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year, it has been a rough year. In the beginning of our relationship, I was also flirting with a couple of other people and went to hang out with one of them. Nothing happened. There were many things I hid from my partner for the first 5 months we were together until he caught me in one lie and then we have been g...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryChoosing who you love more...?
[3 POSTS] CREATED: Dec 9 2020 at 19:28 by LoggedRunner RESPONDENTS: manalone / Aka / susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 10 2020 at 12:38

This is not something I'm proud of, but I need advice and hope to get some on here please. I have been in a 10 year relationship with my fiance. He is a very loving person, wonderful husband material, kind - never had any qualms about our relationship throughout these 10 years and were planning to get married. We get along very well together, but at some point the relationship starting feel...

Relationships advice forum category advice forum categoryRelationship over
[1 POST] CREATED: Dec 8 2020 at 21:28 by Sunset1111 RESPONDENTS: susiedqq LAST POST: Dec 9 2020 at 00:41

I have finished a 8 year relationship, I knew deep down long ago I wasn’t happy, Over the years i tried over and over to talk about my feelings, relationship I’m an open person, he wasn’t, not everyone is, but he literally wouldn’t acknowledge what I had said or say a word literally just be silent. Over the years I thought it will change but it hasn’t so i finished it. We haven’t arg...